vickydevoka:

Believe you in me. You hardly marry a fine or educated women without faking it

what is the point of faking that will definitely cast later? Besides, you can't fake it for all women. Only those naive ones who probably aren't open completely to friends and family

Undisputed147:
The man did what he did because he loves the woman he married. He knew he had nothing and if the woman finds out she will not marry him.He knew the woman was after enjoyment and not supportive but he loves her. Some women are just the cause of their own problem. If your friend sister truly loves her husband outside money and material things then this is the right time to show love, care and support for him instead of thinking of running away or considering divorce. At the end na she go still regret because many cases like this na olosho dem dey end up oo. dat na if she never even start sef 🤐

How do you show love to someone who decieved, cajoled or lied to you into marriage? Besides, you can't love someone without money. It is very important and essential. Although he might not have it in excess but it is very vital no matter how little. Love won't pay your bills

erico2k2:

Blame the woman, when the guy with humbleness came looking, she said she wanted a mansion in Lekki even though her papa nor get.

will you allow your beloved sister marry a man who has nothing to his name because of Humbleness?

stevups:
If you want to marry any woman, just package yourself very well. The most smart among women can be outsmarted with enough packaging.

you lie. You can only outsmart the naive ones. Some women get sense pass some men that i have seen. You can't outsmart women that are open-minded to family and close friends. Even if she's foolish her close associate wouldn't be

SamuelLoch:


Do you know that one of the ways to build wealth is through marriage?
"One can chase a thousand, but two can chase 10 thousand"

The two just gats get sense

Lol

Maybe in developed world but in Nigeria and Africa as a whole, marriage aid in increasing poverty. This would have been fair if it were developed world. In Africa once after marriage, they are expecting you to start having kids. If you're even wise enough not to have kids yet they began to think otherwise. You have one kid they will talk and complain, you don't have at all they will talk, you have two they will talk, you have only girls they will complain. Tell me how would poverty elude such society. It is not possible

UnfairLife7:
what is the point of faking that will definitely cast later? Besides, you can't fake it for all women. Only those naive ones who probably aren't open completely to friends and family

Women love lies and fake life. Tell them what the want to hear and not fact

UnfairLife7:
what is the point of faking that will definitely cast later? Besides, you can't fake it for all women. Only those naive ones who probably aren't open completely to friends and family

Same friends and family has made lot of ladies to be single. The cousin told her not to marry him because he is stingy ( someone that paid over 2 million for bride price and marriage list). She insisted for marriage as soon a the trad is done. He begged her for court marriage and she said she needed all b4 going back to the uk.The guy asked a question based on location, are we splitting bills. The cousin that stayed more in 9ja told her the man is irresponsible. I just de laugh that girl. For this UK only dat man fit love that babe, naso o tell her. Person de cook for you de bring for work, later she say na food I come chop for marriage.

Most girls are single because of advice from family and friends

In those old days way money neva spoil women, my mom got married to my dad not because of money but it was real true love and with true love God blesses them and gave them everything they wanted. But nowadays women are after your pocket. They are only after the money and material things you can offer to them. Nonsense

UnfairLife7:
How do you show love to someone who decieved, cajoled or lied to you into marriage? Besides, you can't love someone without money. It is very important and essential. Although he might not have it in excess but it is very vital no matter how little. Love won't pay your bills

Undisputed147:
In those old days way money neva spoil women, my mom got married to my dad not because of money but it was real true love and with true love God blesses them and gave them everything they wanted. But nowadays women are after your pocket. They are only after the money and material things you can offer to them. Nonsense

poor men are still getting married. I have them in abundance in my community. Those guys getting married in a room or self contain. Are they rich? Your mum married your dad when he has nothing and today they had everything. My mum married my dad too when he has nothing and today they don't have everything. Many are in poverty as a result of marriage. E go better e go better. How many from the over 220 million Nigerians e don better for? I am a guy just like you. Are you even considering marriage when you have nothing just like your dad in today's Nigeria? I don't know about you though. But that same father of mine made me understand i need to be up and doing as a man. Have stable source of income, not necessarily rich though before considering marriage and have less kids. If possible just 1.

If you're comparing our mothers to today's women. They will also compare our fathers to today's men. I'm sure you know our fathers might not have everything in their time but are responsible and very much dedicated in marriage than today's guys. They don't decieve or sweet mouth women in their time. They don't demand for sex before marriage. They are very much modest and committed to marriage unlike today's guys. The same way you complain about girls, they also complain about guys. Yet, one weekend cannot pass without series of wedding in Lagos and other parts of the nation.

Moreover, you can't compare cost of living in our fathers time to present Nigeria. If you're looking for a girl that will accept you and marry you when you're poor in today's Nigeria then you're wicked. I believe you don't even like yourself not to talk of the girl.

vickydevoka:

Same friends and family has made lot of ladies to be single. The cousin told her not to marry him because he is stingy ( someone that paid over 2 million for bride price and marriage list). She insisted for marriage as soon a the trad is done. He begged her for court marriage and she said she needed all b4 going back to the uk.The guy asked a question based on location, are we splitting bills. The cousin that stayed more in 9ja told her the man is irresponsible. I just de laugh that girl. For this UK only dat man fit love that babe, naso o tell her. Person de cook for you de bring for work, later she say na food I come chop for marriage.

Most girls are single because of advice from family and friends

we can't overemphasided the importance of family and true friends in our lives. The fact that you see one family misled their daughter doesn't mean all family are the same

A friend would have been married to a nincompoo if not for her beloved family that talked her out of it. She was blindly in love but her family could see and she was obidience to them. Everyone has one story or the other to tell.

Born2Freak:
As I am writing this, my friend's sister is considering divorce just after 5 months of marriage. She recently learnt that her husband is a serial debtor- a specialist in borrow-posing (borrowing things and acting as if you own them).

The husband in question is from a rich family but he spends money recklessly and borrows recklessly. His family was covering up for him and she thought that the man is responsible.

The point is that the woman (my friend's sister) was fooled by her husband's rich family and big house in Lekki. The family has a house in Lekki while the man rents in Ibeju Lekki.

But can we only blame the man? If my friend's sister was wise enough to do investigation into the man she was marrying, she would not have married him. She saw a rich family and didnt ask questions. The man does not really have a job. He just helps to manage the family's properties. The man also parties like a wild animal. But because he spends on her, she believed that he was a "big boy"

Now, the reality has set- loan apps and police have come looking for the husband at their apartment. The wife is getting different threatening phone calls and the husband quickly ran to the village to chill.

Please, for any woman that is going to get married, please do your proper investigation.
-Is your husband to be financially responsible (does he have a steady job or business?)
-Does your husband to be flirt with other girls or have cheating spirit?
-Is he a wife beater?
-Is he respected in his own family?

Open your eyes. Ask questions and be careful. Marriage is not a joke. My friend's sister is depressed today because she was carried away by greed and didnt look into her husband.

longer throat no go gree dem see front

IconicR:
Family name and reputation matters but make sure you are not getting married to the black sheep. These signs are always there but most ladies overlook them and later regret it. Someone is dating you and he keeps clubbing, partying, drinking, smoking, always at the wrong places and keeping the wrong companies and call it vibes and you sef dy follow am shake head say na vibes only to start crying blood later in marriage lailai no be me. Na nonsense full street but if you are wise, you'll still get the best but also make sure you are deserving of the few best among these nonsense littered everywhere these days.

You said it all.....
One of the most annoying word is hear this days is "VIBES"
I have never seen a more stupid ideology as vibes

Nazgul:

If you didn't recite any vow, you shouldn't interfere in this matter. Cos if you understand the meaning of a vow, you wouldn't be saying this.

Vows are useless, just words that you're not bound with, you don't need anyone to tell you that.
Haven't you seen divorce after 24 hours, one week, one month or one year of marriage despite making vows?
My advice, tell your spouse that both of you don't need any useless vows the day you are joined together.

UnfairLife7:
we can't overemphasided the importance of family and true friends in our lives. The fact that you see one family misled their daughter doesn't mean all family are the same

A friend would have been married to a nincompoo if not for her beloved family that talked her out of it. She was blindly in love but her family could see and she was obidience to them. Everyone has one story or the other to tell.

Family is very good at this same time has destroyed alot of ladies. When my bro wan marry na so de do make e no marry her say she fat, his just 26. Right now with the same lady he has two houses worth over 50 million each. Because he is a guy, u can't deceive him, he knows what he wants. Ladies fish brain has caused them more pain.

A lady got married to a struggling graduate, she keep struggling for years. She advised her younger sister to leave her boyfriend who is a graduate to follow an Igbo man that have shop. Now the lady struggling is flexing and the younger sister is suffering with Igbo man who mixes L and R in English. If you take him to UK, how can he communicate as there is currently an offer to travel

Am looking for this criminal, he stole some money meant for a supply deal and now he’s on the run

vickydevoka:

Family is very good at this same time has destroyed alot of ladies. When my bro wan marry na so de do make e no marry her say she fat, his just 26. Right now with the same lady he has two houses worth over 50 million each. Because he is a guy, u can't deceive him, he knows what he wants. Ladies fish brain has caused them more pain.

A lady got married to a struggling graduate, she keep struggling for years. She advised her younger sister to leave her boyfriend who is a graduate to follow an Igbo man that have shop. Now the lady struggling is flexing and the younger sister is suffering with Igbo man who mixes L and R in English. If you take him to UK, how can he communicate as there is currently an offer to travel

like i said earlier. We all have a story to tell. There are lots of graduates married and still poor till date. Encouraging ladies to marry poor man because he's a graduate is a wrong notion. Being a graduate doesn't mean one has a brighter future, especially in Nigeria. Being a business man without education doesn't mean he will go poor later. My point is the importance of family cannot be overemphasise. I will not throwaway my family and real friends advice towards my life in all ramifications. You will know if you have a good friend and family. You will also know if you have bad ones. It is left for you to listen to them or not. But i will not shut them up.

Even after marriage we need family and good friends around once in a while. We know how Men maltreat their wives because her family doesn't come around. I am a man like you but i speak nothing but the truth.

Even if you came from family of wealth you have to work so that the wealth can turn up not depreciate...what made dangote not relient

Good for your sister friend

Na wetin she knows how to chop killin her, wetin do I know sef

Peace ✌️

Yes I agree with you as a man you need to be hard working. Even my dad was hard working including myself here I'm hardworking and I'm succeeding in life

UnfairLife7:
poor men are still getting married. I have them in abundance in my community. Those guys getting married in a room or self contain. Are they rich? Your mum married your dad when he has nothing and today they had everything. My mum married my dad too when he has nothing and today they don't have everything. Many are in poverty as a result of marriage. E go better e go better. How many from the over 220 million Nigerians e don better for? I am a guy just like you. Are you even considering marriage when you have nothing just like your dad in today's Nigeria? I don't know about you though. But that same father of mine made me understand i need to be up and doing as a man. Have stable source of income, not necessarily rich though before considering marriage and have less kids. If possible just 1.

If you're comparing our mothers to today's women. They will also compare our fathers to today's men. I'm sure you know our fathers might not have everything in their time but are responsible and very much dedicated in marriage than today's guys. They don't decieve or sweet mouth women in their time. They don't demand for sex before marriage. They are very much modest and committed to marriage unlike today's guys. The same way you complain about girls, they also complain about guys. Yet, one weekend cannot pass without series of wedding in Lagos and other parts of the nation.

Moreover, you can't compare cost of living in our fathers time to present Nigeria. If you're looking for a girl that will accept you and marry you when you're poor in today's Nigeria then you're wicked. I believe you don't even like yourself not to talk of the girl.

Undisputed147:
Yes I agree with you as a man you need to be hard working. Even my dad was hard working including myself here I'm hardworking and I'm succeeding in life

congratulations for your success thus far. Greater height ahead.

where is the guy from? its a bit confusing cos this behaviour is typical of yoruba, but its ibo that has a tendency to go to village.
be that as it may its good for the girl for she is likely a golddigger who got fooled by fake show of wealth

UnfairLife7:
like i said earlier. We all have a story to tell. There are lots of graduates married and still poor till date. Encouraging ladies to marry poor man because he's a graduate is a wrong notion. Being a graduate doesn't mean one has a brighter future, especially in Nigeria. Being a business man without education doesn't mean he will go poor later. My point is the importance of family cannot be overemphasise. I will not throwaway my family and real friends advice towards my life in all ramifications. You will know if you have a good friend and family. You will also know if you have bad ones. It is left for you to listen to them or not. But i will not shut them up.

Even after marriage we need family and good friends around once in a while. We know how Men maltreat their wives because her family doesn't come around. I am a man like you but i speak nothing but the truth.

I just de laugh

UnfairLife7:
will you allow your beloved sister marry a man who has nothing to his name because of Humbleness?

If she was Happy yes cos my Mum Married my DAD when he had nothing and 50 years later they still together!and have almost everything, You as a woman don't go and hustle depend on a man's wealth, al can go south, what then?

erico2k2:

If she was Happy yes cos my Mum Married my DAD when he had nothing and 50 years later they still together!and have almost everything, You as a woman don't go and hustle depend on a man's wealth, al can go south, what then?

I am not a woman. Kill that mindset or mentality that every man reason like you or any opinion contrary to yours is from a woman

Back to your response, lots of women married their husband when they had nothing during our mothers time and majority are still poor till this very moment. Also, you wouldn't compare Men of that time to the kind of men we have today. Likewise you wouldn't compare women of that time to the kind of women we have today.

If you as a man is poor and looking for one innocent girl to marry in today Nigeria then you're wicked. Obviously you don't love the girl. No matter how you sugarcoat anything you cannot overemphasise the importance of money in marriage.

My believe, as a man you need to be up and going with stable source of income before even considering marriage. I didn't mean you should be rich but have a stable source of income. Have your own house (rented or owned) and be mentally ready for marriage.

Our mothers didn't marry rich men during their time but not jobless men who couldn't provide for the family. The men were responsible, paid their bride price, not demanding for sex from women unlike today men and very much committed to marriage. Some of our fathers helped their wife to be family in the farm and other chores to show how responsible and committed he was in marrying their daughter.

Besides, you wouldn't compare cost of living then to what we have today in Nigeria.

Don't be decieve bro, MONEY is extremely vital in marriage. You'll lose your dignity and respect as a Man going into marriage without stable source of income. If you're looking for woman to share bills with, will you also carry pregnancy for her throughout 9 months and risk your life in labour?
I am not saying women shouldn't support in marriage provided she has something doing.

These women are getting married every Saturday to men like you and i. Although, what may differ could be finances.

Poor men also are getting married na. I have neighbours living in self contain apartment with less than 100k salary and they're married with kid. There is always someone for you.

UnfairLife7:
I am not a woman. Kill that mindset or mentality that every man reason like you or any opinion contrary to yours is from a woman

Back to your response, lots of women married their husband when they had nothing during our mothers time and majority are still poor till this very moment. Also, you wouldn't compare Men of that time to the kind of men we have today. Likewise you wouldn't compare women of that time to the kind of women we have today.

If you as a man is poor and looking for one innocent girl to marry in today Nigeria then you're wicked. Obviously you don't love the girl. No matter how you sugarcoat anything you cannot overemphasise the importance of money in marriage.

My believe, as a man you need to be up and going with stable source of income before even considering marriage. I didn't mean you should be rich but have a stable source of income. Have your own house (rented or owned) and be mentally ready for marriage.

Our mothers didn't marry rich men during their time but not jobless men who couldn't provide for the family. The men were responsible, paid their bride price, not demanding for sex from women unlike today men and very much committed to marriage. Some of our fathers helped their wife to be family in the farm and other chores to show how responsible and committed he was in marrying their daughter.

Besides, you wouldn't compare cost of living then to what we have today in Nigeria.

Don't be decieve bro, MONEY is extremely vital in marriage. You'll lose your dignity and respect as a Man going into marriage without stable source of income. If you're looking for woman to share bills with, will you also carry pregnancy for her throughout 9 months and risk your life in labour?
I am not saying women shouldn't support in marriage provided she has something doing.

These women are getting married every Saturday to men like you and i. Although, what may differ could be finances.

Poor men also are getting married na. I have neighbours living in self contain apartment with less than 100k salary and they're married with kid. There is always someone for you.

it depends on what you consider as being POOR How much would a man earn to be considered POOR in your BOOK?

Born2Freak:
As I am writing this, my friend's sister is considering divorce just after 5 months of marriage. She recently learnt that her husband is a serial debtor- a specialist in borrow-posing (borrowing things and acting as if you own them).

The husband in question is from a rich family but he spends money recklessly and borrows recklessly. His family was covering up for him and she thought that the man is responsible.

The point is that the woman (my friend's sister) was fooled by her husband's rich family and big house in Lekki. The family has a house in Lekki while the man rents in Ibeju Lekki.

But can we only blame the man? If my friend's sister was wise enough to do investigation into the man she was marrying, she would not have married him. She saw a rich family and didnt ask questions. The man does not really have a job. He just helps to manage the family's properties. The man also parties like a wild animal. But because he spends on her, she believed that he was a "big boy"

Now, the reality has set- loan apps and police have come looking for the husband at their apartment. The wife is getting different threatening phone calls and the husband quickly ran to the village to chill.

Please, for any woman that is going to get married, please do your proper investigation.
-Is your husband to be financially responsible (does he have a steady job or business?)
-Does your husband to be flirt with other girls or have cheating spirit?
-Is he a wife beater?
-Is he respected in his own family?

Open your eyes. Ask questions and be careful. Marriage is not a joke. My friend's sister is depressed today because she was carried away by greed and didnt look into her husband.

Don't blame the man, blame your foolish friend that was blinded by the man's packaging, now she's seeing the real picture.

Although we know majority of Nigerian women are like that, always carried away by material things but will never check the character, family background and plans of the man. Ones the man gives them money he's automatically a good husband.

izonborn098:
Why some women deceive their husband good character' then after marriage show him his true colour.
Why are women after money?
You can't have a lasting marriage when you are after money and not the soul''
Las las everybody go dey okay sha

Tor this one no dey ok o, she don dey shout.

Marrying because of riches is not always the best.

juman:
She saw the signs before marriage but she ignored them out of her greed.

Abi

Born2Freak:
As I am writing this, my friend's sister is considering divorce just after 5 months of marriage. She recently learnt that her husband is a serial debtor- a specialist in borrow-posing (borrowing things and acting as if you own them).

The husband in question is from a rich family but he spends money recklessly and borrows recklessly. His family was covering up for him and she thought that the man is responsible.

The point is that the woman (my friend's sister) was fooled by her husband's rich family and big house in Lekki. The family has a house in Lekki while the man rents in Ibeju Lekki.

But can we only blame the man? If my friend's sister was wise enough to do investigation into the man she was marrying, she would not have married him. She saw a rich family and didnt ask questions. The man does not really have a job. He just helps to manage the family's properties. The man also parties like a wild animal. But because he spends on her, she believed that he was a "big boy"

Now, the reality has set- loan apps and police have come looking for the husband at their apartment. The wife is getting different threatening phone calls and the husband quickly ran to the village to chill.

Please, for any woman that is going to get married, please do your proper investigation.
-Is your husband to be financially responsible (does he have a steady job or business?)
-Does your husband to be flirt with other girls or have cheating spirit?
-Is he a wife beater?
-Is he respected in his own family?

Open your eyes. Ask questions and be careful. Marriage is not a joke. My friend's sister is depressed today because she was carried away by greed and didnt look into her husband.

Most women don't marry for love but financial security.

Funny,smart women,look before they leap, wen it comes to marriage.

Kobojunkie:
I said 83% of the people that are married are struggling in poverty. That in no way means the other 17% became financially comfortable after marriage. Please stop abeg!

Pareto principle at play again!