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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by complexstuffs(m): 7:16pm On Aug 20, 2023
Jman06:
From my understanding, OSU or OHU or whatever is just a term coined by conmen of yesteryears to take advantage of their fellow humans whose only crime was that they migrated to a land later than others.

The practice is a clear reflection of how selfish and inhuman the black men of those days were.
In those days, people were migrating from one area to another until they found a liveable land to occupy. Once they settled on a land, any other person coming after them is termed an "OSU". Imagine a situation where aboriginal Americans describe immigrants as outcasts!

In some places, especially in Enugu state, the situation is even such that kinsmen who migrated from one place to another also segregated their kinsmen coming behind them and describe them as OSU or Ohu or whatever that is why they bear the same surname. That is why if you trace the origin of some people who are seen as OHUs in one village, you'll discover that same people belong to the so called AMADUs in another village. It is just the greediness and selfishness of humans at play, it has nothing to do with worship of any gods like some people claim.


Lies..... Even though I'm not Igbo, I know OSU is deeper than that

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by complexstuffs(m): 7:20pm On Aug 20, 2023
falcon01:

If I'm been honest, That's some load If bullshit from your momma and he relatives. It's Aftican Nonsense with their biased and prejudiced lifestyle. Anyway if you are on of them and believe in those prehistoric Mumbo Jumbo then listen to your momma.


Dey play

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Nobody: 7:26pm On Aug 20, 2023
First of all, what's OSU?
Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you

Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by MichaelSokoto(m): 8:54pm On Aug 20, 2023
u neva ready to marry!
if u ready, u nor go com write balablu bulaba here!
cool

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by MichaelSokoto(m): 8:58pm On Aug 20, 2023
Persephone1:
Let me wait for the Igbos to help Op.

We Yorubas have no issues, nah person we see we follow go grin grin
grin

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Blaze14k: 9:02pm On Aug 20, 2023
MichaelSokoto:
u neva ready to marry!
if u ready, u nor go com write balablu bulaba here!
cool

What do you suggest.. should I ignore them and marry her. Who will attend the wedding and how do you I will cope with my family after that? I refuse to accept what they are saying cos it doesn't make sense to me.
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Jman06(m): 9:13pm On Aug 20, 2023
complexstuffs:



Lies..... Even though I'm not Igbo, I know OSU is deeper than that
Different parts of Igboland have their different interpretation of what their own "osu" or whatever entails. What I described is what basically applies to Enugu.

I think those who think they can take advantage of that practice politically are the ones roping everyone as "OSU". They forget that politics doesn't work that way in a democracy as there's no permanent enemy nor friend in politics but permanent interests, and that if the interests align, people will play politics together regardless of the caste system.

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by MichaelSokoto(m): 9:13pm On Aug 20, 2023
Blaze14k:


What do you suggest.. should I ignore them and marry her. Who will attend the wedding and how do you I will cope with my family after that? I refuse to accept what they are saying cos it doesn't make sense to me.
if u truly luv her, u go ahead & marry her, everybody will fall in line in due time....
Jez hold God closer to ur heart dazall!
cool

I have snapped wedding pix of a couple and only 2 witness in a registry marriage... no guests no nothing!
Marriage is union between 2 ppl & at least a witness, shikena!

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Ikennaford: 9:16pm On Aug 20, 2023
spencekat:
There is no way everybody from those mentioned LGAs will be outcasts.
Anything ARO in igbo land is osu,,, my grandad was chief, he told me everything about tradition, bur I don forget some, I only visited my my villa few times before he's passing
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by spencekat(m): 9:20pm On Aug 20, 2023
Ikennaford:

Anything ARO in igbo land is osu,,, my grandad was chief, he told me everything about tradition, bur I don forget some, I only visited my my villa few times before he's passing
Ohafia is out of it

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by spencekat(m): 9:22pm On Aug 20, 2023
There is nothing like Osu.Some of Igbo ancestors goofed on the outcast issue.

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Ikennaford: 9:23pm On Aug 20, 2023
spencekat:
Ohafia is out of it
I don't know about those areas, but arochukwu is osu, carry me go anywhere, na osu dem be

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by spencekat(m): 9:23pm On Aug 20, 2023
Ikennaford:

I don't know about those areas, but arochukwu is osu, carry me go anywhere, na osu dem be
Just like some places have and some don't have,that is the way Ohafia is.Thank God that some Igbos are getting sense.In some Igbo villages,this osu stuff has been abolished.
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Ikennaford: 9:26pm On Aug 20, 2023
spencekat:
Just like some places have and some don't have,that is the way Ohafia is
OK I gat you now,, arochukwu as a village or local government, na osu all of them be, op take note, no be now you regretamna wen your children wan marry, that's why in igbo land if you want to marry, your parents will be doing onyokomita

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Bennysam: 9:33pm On Aug 20, 2023
Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you

Listen to your mum because women know themselves and she is not the only one that reject the girl almost every member of your family rejected her ; bro think twice

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Bennysam: 9:35pm On Aug 20, 2023
dawnomike:
It is quite a serious matter... The reasons there giving is not strong enough for me.

If you think your lady is worth the stress and war, stand your ground!!!

If she's not worth the wahala, please, he'd to your elders
Really OSU is not strong reason enough? Are you sure you're from igbo land?

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Bennysam: 9:36pm On Aug 20, 2023
Blaze14k:



I know about osu but no one ever told me these places are forbidden but is this true?
Think about what your kids will go through in the future
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Bennysam: 9:38pm On Aug 20, 2023
Persephone1:
While this looks very pleasing to read, I won't advice a lady to get married into a family she's not wanted. Except of course the husband wants to cut ties and she won't have to deal with inlaws ever (which is very unrealistic and unreasonable).

Too much stress for nothing.
Still it's not advisable because the war will never end

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Dshocker(m): 9:43pm On Aug 20, 2023
Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you


Ohafia women are known to make a terrible wife, they like to dominate and cage their husband & they also cheat in marriage.

But your girl might be different, who knows.

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Wickedfacts: 10:52pm On Aug 20, 2023
Persephone1:
But dialect is language, tribe is the people nah? 🤷🤷

Are you saying his mom picked fight with 3 languages? grin grin

His Mom is actually that stupid

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Wickedfacts: 10:54pm On Aug 20, 2023
Samantha124:
First of all, what's OSU?

It is a shameful practice of Igbos discriminating against other Igbos.
Most of those Igbos insulting others on Nairaland are Osu Igbos.

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by frozen70(f): 11:20pm On Aug 20, 2023
Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you


You have done well with the little investigations you have done to be sure that she is not an Osu

Even non Osu from their place don't marry Osu, I don't want to know their reasons

But since you are very sure of your stand

I think you will be ready to sponsor anyone that will go for secret investigations from your family to her family

Is called Iju Ajuju Nwanyi

When the investigator goes and come back, the whole family will listen to his findings at a seating, including your woman

So advice your family to nominate an uncle that will do that

He may have to Lodge incase it's night depending on when he took of

If you really love her let this be one of the sacrifices you are making for her

Meanwhile she must not be aware of the findings

But will be aware of the family result announcement

Good luck

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Taich(m): 1:55am On Aug 21, 2023
If you love this girl as you claim, hold on, let time sort your family out. Pretend to your people that you are no longer interested in getting married, enjoy your life and watch your family's reaction after 6 months. This is a problem you should handle with tact, because if your mother and wife are at war, you will be the battle ground. This is your 1st test, I will wish a straight A on this course.

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by SocialJustice: 7:59am On Aug 21, 2023
talented321:
Your mama and the elders see more than u see'' you are in love why they are not'' you want to please ur girl why they are not''
Don't play with it whenever ur parents bring up issues like this'' many of them are talking from experience''
What experience? Please enlighten me on the dangers of this tribal discrimination. What happens if a non osu marries an osu.

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by chinwezdasilva: 8:09am On Aug 21, 2023
azraeljaheel:
Before I write anything ... Can anyone help me with the meaning of OSU
Outcast
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by chinwezdasilva: 8:20am On Aug 21, 2023
Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you


Firstly my question is where are you from ?
Which part of ohafia ?

Bro I’m not from ohafia but my mom is from ohafia , on a normal my dad is not supposed to marry my mom reason been that they are worlds apart in culture, my dad is also from abia too the ngwa part but less of culture, ohafia , arochukwu, abariba, bende , Item etc all are ancient kingdom in Abia state they love to preserve their culture , as for the osu I have bn going to ohafia from 2008 up till now I have nva missed an Xmas there’s nothing like that, forget all this what an elder sees while sitting it doesn’t really apply to every one my uncle for elders eye go enter one chance , if you feel she can make a home bro go nd marry , if you think she’s accommodating bro go and marry
We all want modernize Nigeria but still hold onto things that doesn’t really matter

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Blaze14k: 8:25am On Aug 21, 2023
chinwezdasilva:


Firstly my question is where are you from ?
Which part of ohafia ?

Bro I’m not from ohafia but my mom is from ohafia , on a normal my dad is not supposed to marry my mom reason been that they are worlds apart in culture, my dad is also from abia too the ngwa part but less of culture, ohafia , arochukwu, abariba, bende , Item etc all are ancient kingdom in Abia state they love to preserve their culture , as for the osu I have bn going to ohafia from 2008 up till now I have nva missed an Xmas there’s nothing like that, forget all this what an elder sees while sitting it doesn’t really apply to every one my uncle for elders eye go enter one chance , if you feel she can make a home bro go nd marry , if you think she’s accommodating bro go and marry
We all want modernize Nigeria but still hold onto things that doesn’t really matter

I'm from imo state orlu precisely. What sort of tradition do they hold.. I'm suspecting this is the reason they don't want me to marry her. My mum mentioned they do juju too much

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by MrAgbako: 8:29am On Aug 21, 2023
In these days and age una still dey practices this OSU or no OSU mentality.


Then y'all have no moral ground to blame white man for slave trade undecided

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by chinwezdasilva: 8:38am On Aug 21, 2023
Blaze14k:


I'm from imo state orlu precisely. What sort of tradition do they hold.. I'm suspecting this is the reason they don't want me to marry her. My mum mentioned they do juju too much
Someone from Warri married my cousin , they are happily married with two kids , there’s no juju I wish I can explain better outside here
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by Blaze14k: 8:40am On Aug 21, 2023
chinwezdasilva:

Someone from Warri married my cousin , they are happily married with two kids , there’s no juju I wish I can explain better outside here

Ok I will send u a notification on your email so we can exchange numbers. Just check ur email
Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by ceeceeuwa: 11:37am On Aug 21, 2023
Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you

Please leave that girl alone! No body want to be married into a family they are not wanted. The battle never ends...You will be doing her a favor by just letting her be. It goes beyond just now,but the future of she and her children

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Re: My Mum Is Strongly Rejecting The Girl I Want To Marry by SonOfEl(m): 11:55am On Aug 21, 2023
Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you


Oga please free the lady abeg. You aren't man enough to marry her. Her man will come.

Ndi mmam si.... continue holding your mom's apron.

If you know Aro or Ohafia history, you will feel intimidated. You mom and her relatives feels intimidated by them. I am not from there but I know their history. They are the most prominent igbos as far as I know

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