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Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by twinpapa(m): 8:14pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
kellyaa:All you've written here doesn't sound reasonable. So in your mind a violent man will have a good reason to beat up his wife? So the man is a boy that doesn't know the value of a phone but to smash it? If the lady happened to be your sister or your daughter would you have written all trash you wrote? I'm thinking you are one of the single guys on naira land who has never been married but would be advising the married from head knowledge. If his landlady had been the one who insulted him that night like you insinuate would he have beaten her up. Don't you know how the nonsense people feed their minds in bear parlours? There is no justification for any man to assault his wife. A wife is partner in the marriage not a slave, not a maid, not a daughter, not the man's property. Stop pampering abusive men, such men are nothing but beasts. If he can't a office job let him get out and start selling something, or do odd jobs. Real men don't sit down waiting for jobs to come, they go out to look for one and if they can't get, they create one for themselves and they would be willing to a menial job just to take care of their family and that a sense of responsibility. The wife is the one bringing in the income, doing house chores and the idiot who calls himself a man can't do house chores, he can't even appreciate the woman but it is to accuse her falsely and even if she cheats, beating is what will keep her for him. Nonsense and rubbish. Madam you did the right thing one million times 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Mrbllymer: 8:15pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
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Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by fxexperts: 8:23pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
talented321:Mumu dey your head aswear. and why do you think the idiot will ever make it in life, because the way i see it, he is one lazy broke fellow. 2 Likes |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by twinpapa(m): 8:25pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
fxexperts:Thank you jare, God bless you 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by BRATISLAVA: 8:27pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
Farfalla: Wife material. 36 pages of frothing and preaching at women. O lawd. 2 Likes |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by twinpapa(m): 8:43pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
Thanks Sis, you hit the nail on the head Jovialjune1: 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by twinpapa(m): 8:46pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
Thanks Bro, you are a real man djon78: 2 Likes |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by culf: 8:49pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: Auntie, its not about cooking, read her post very well, marriage is better for worse for some of us. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Kobojunkiee: 8:58pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
culf:Which marriage is for better for worse? If your own sister were being panel beaten every day in marriage, would you also tell her that nonsense? ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by fxexperts: 9:02pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
That is because i am not a woman. you are the one who have reasoning problems, you actually think with your left leg, if not you will not justify and dust off the first act of the idiot husband who first had the audacity to torment his own family by beating his wife, but what can i say you are all birds of the same feather and you will meet your match in a woman someday. As for me i do not support nonsense. whether from a man or a woman. You are pissed because i try to put your close family member in the OP shoes abi. That is because you are selfish and wicked. The woman even tried by releasing him from priso, she should have divorced his sorry ass in jail and ask the policmen to throw away the keys. talented321: |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by kaybams1(m): 9:11pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: You keep sounding like a broken record… All over the place spewing thrash. Life isn’t black or white so when someone gives a side of the story an intelligent mind should read between the lines before jumping into conclusions. It’s easier to cast aspersions over a moment of irrationality and wipe off several other untold sacrifices that man have probably done for his family. Bitter feminists like this are all over infesting young women with bile advice that keeps leading to baby mamas and broken homes. Have you even asked what led to smashing of phones. Is it possible that the man have noticed the woman is always on the phone chatting with her lover while ignoring the man. Cos obviously he’s jobless. Is this to justify his actions no. But even in law there’s what is called “temporary insanity”. We’ve all got our breaking point and it’s a terrible feeling to feel disrespected by a woman you call your wife. All these kids sef. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Kobojunkiee: 9:16pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
kaybams1:Temporary insanity only works when you are not inebriated, not when you are. The man was drunk. Let's stop fishing for excuses abeg! ![]() 2. Indeed we all have our breaking points, but the moment that breaking point results in your inflicting harm on others, you infringe on their rights and so must be made to pay for it. That is why we are carefully trained from childhood to develop self-discipline and self-control, so we learn to respect the social space of others as well as their rights. The world cannot resolve around you and your own issues when we each have our very own to deal with too. ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Jman06(m): 9:26pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
Riscawendy:Why is it frustrating for a woman to win bread for her own family ![]() Honestly, the way you ladies hammer on the man being the provider thing ehn, is suspicious! I find it hard to rationalize that notion in modern marriages. If it were in the stone age, I'll understand. If it's about taking care of the one I love and care about, It'll be a different ball game and I can go all out to care for her out of LOVE, but making it my responsibility I think is unrealistic given the prevailing economic realities where both men and women now have equal access to wealth. If this story was the reverse, I'm sure the man would be blamed for not opening a business for his wife after losing her job or not helping her get another job. Since op is working, what efforts has she made to help her better half back on his feet ![]() 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by kaybams1(m): 9:28pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: Harm in this context is subjective. You lots like to go around and oversimplify issues through prisms of physical aggression while neglecting emotional ones. Men’s emotional side aren’t so developed like women. So when they hit crisis mode, they sometimes go into default mode of showing aggression just to establish dominance. I’ve earlier said I don’t support this behavior but I can’t even have a conversation with anyone that doesn’t understand mitigating circumstances in the first place. It’s a sign of low intelligence. All those “no matter what…” chorus being sung here are mostly done by the naive lots that haven’t seen the paradoxical side of life. If everyone keeps packing out of their marriages cos of this, probably 60% would be raised by single parents. Have we even considered whether we have an adulterer on our hands here? In some climes these types are stoned to death. Yet you can masturbate over half baked stories that aligns with your cognitive bias. The whole story smells funny and I’m not eating it. 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Odekayodenr(m): 9:39pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
I never supported the husband beating her wife, I just said she should have reported him before getting to the stage of beating and destroying her properties, and mind you the marriage could only take the grace of God to survive again.. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Kobojunkiee: 9:39pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
kaybams1:1. Harm is subjective? What the 4ork does that mean? 2. So what? Big whoop! Man, and woman, were not made for marriage. Rather marriage was made for man, and for woman. If the marriage ain't working why cling to it at the cost of your very own life? Would you rather remain in a marriage where your wife could potentially poison you or take your chances instead as a single parent out there somewhere? I hope this isn't rocket science for you! ![]() 3. So, what if she is an adulterer? What law allows you or anyone to lay your hands on a woman on the grounds that she has committed adultery or anything? What law grants you that pass? ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by kaybams1(m): 9:47pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: The light is on but no one is in the room….I won’t be engaging you further. 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Tiopii: 9:47pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
I wonder why women mostly give themselves bad advice esp married women. Talk to your husband and settle, we don't know any one of you, we don't share the same emotions and experiences you both have shared. And whatever action you take, you'd bear the results alone or together, good or bad. Even if you're having issues, I'm sure your husband still loves you more than all of us combined commenting on this |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Kobojunkiee: 9:48pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
kaybams1:🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣See as him take aptly describe him own self abeg! |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Sharpsharp00123: 9:52pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
Verokeena:madam now I have your tim I replied u when I was in shop d other time n my emotions were high Now I am home n I can’t get over what happened in your home, I won’t try to guilt trip u but I will tell u d bitter truth In as much as I condemn domestic violence n I will never ever support it cos it’s all shade of wrong but my sister u went overboard n I hope u know two wrongs don’t make a right So far I agree your husband was wrong simply because he did d unthinkable I will make it clear to u that to every action there’s an equal n opposite reaction That man can’t just come back home n start acting mad, u n I know for sure one thing led to the other thing n u kinda bruise his ego, though some are suggesting u cheated with a better man n that gave u the audacity to treat your man like thrash but one thing I will call your attention to is this Think of the time this jobless man once made u happy What about d time this broke man surprised u when u expected d least Think about when he sacrificed to make u happy At least he was once a good man when he had something doing n u never mentioned he was a deadbeat before marriage U threw all that in d wind n locked him up n later console yourself u took food to him, please how did u sleep at home that night he was sleeping in jail? Like how did u feel? What was running through your mind? Madam u really went overboard, just pray d man does not get on his feet cos if he does u will regret it Those hailing u will lead u to destruction, though d deed has been done n d damage is irreversible but d ball is still in your court Just keep thanking your stars your husband is a nobody with no good family to support, that’s y u never smelt yourself The poor man is even sleeping under d same roof with u I don’t pray it happens to me but if na me b d Man U go don dey plan suicide by now |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by DrFunmisticGlow: 10:05pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
thesicilian:so I am a feminist because I stated the obvious abi? If you like go and beat your wife, Or allow someone's poorly trained son to beat your daughter to stupor because he can't provide for her and be looking like mumu. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by DrFunmisticGlow: 10:17pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
[quote author=Jman06 post=125316586] Why is it frustrating for a woman to win bread for her own family ![]() Honestly, the way you ladies hammer on the man being the provider thing ehn, is suspicious! I find it hard to rationalize that notion in modern marriages. If it were in the stone age, I'll understand. If it's about taking care of the one I love and care about, It'll be a different ball game and I can go all out to care for her out of LOVE, but making it my responsibility I think is unrealistic given the prevailing economic realities where both men and women now have equal access to wealth. If this story was the reverse, I'm sure the man would be blamed for not opening a business for his wife after losing her job or not helping her get another job. Since op is working, what efforts has she made to help her better half back on his feet ![]() [/qmum. She tried getting him a job but he said it was below him. 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by thesicilian: 10:26pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
DrFunmisticGlow: DrFunmisticGlow:Lol. You don't reason like an educated person at all. Probably because you're not. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Oizee(f): 10:58pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
Kemadealadire:hello sis, as at the time I made the comment, op only posted the heading, I didn't even know she has posted the main thing if not that I saw your mention now |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by DrFunmisticGlow: 11:08pm On Aug 23, 2023 |
thesicilian:Neither do you |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Luckysbab: 12:04am On Aug 24, 2023 |
LadyRosa: I agree. Though they both need therapy to navigate the unfamiliar territory they have both found themselves in. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Luckysbab: 12:05am On Aug 24, 2023 |
VTJN: Of course. But that point was about the reality of the contemporary Western society. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by HIPROFILE(m): 12:35am On Aug 24, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: Well bro, I don't know you and I hate being assertive on people i don't know. If you are married and depending on your marital experience, you may or may not understand the reasons those guys are still single. Most guys above 35 to 40 and still single most times feel lonely and need to have companion but often gets discouraged. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by cutesharon(f): 2:26am On Aug 24, 2023 |
Amen. My husband is able to take care of himself cos his mum taught him to cook and all. It is about understanding. The world has gone beyond men just stretching legs and acting Alphalike. God help your future wife too. culf: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Luckysbab: 2:59am On Aug 24, 2023 |
cutesharon: I guess this is an insight to why you were ´unlucky with love’’ back then. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by djon78(m): 6:52am On Aug 24, 2023 |
Sharpsharp00123: The way most Nigerians react to things So this is all you could say That guy in question is fortunate to have this kind of woman and he is still misbehaving A woman that have been supporting him for 2 years of joblessness He came back from drinking to pounce on the wife That's a seriously irresponsible Man we are talking here I am a married man and I know what most Men see in the hands of there wives They keep there money If you dare become jobless She may not stay more than a month in same house with you But this woman has been supporting this jobless man for 2 years and the man is not grateful Instead of going to look for job it's to go about drinking She said she even got a job for Him and he turned it down that it was condescending Imagine the nonsense If that woman leave that Man Him own don be That woman loves that Man if not she couldn't stay that 2 years catering to him But he is ungrateful She felt remorseful still dude is misbehaving If he destroys his marriage na him concern True woman can be unbearable sometimes But they are still women And there is a way to relate with them 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by djon78(m): 7:01am On Aug 24, 2023 |
HIPROFILE: Discouraged based on what? Marriage ain't easy But it's worth it You learn a lot when married You improve and get better You have a Wife to take care of Kids come in too You fight learn adjust and get better Honestly doing life alone is not good They should enter the game Date women and find the best match then get married |
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