By Ebenezer Mabinuola

Many parents while growing up experienced poverty on many levels. Some had no shoes, some others who were more fortunate had bad shoes.
Having to walk long distance to school, wearing rag-like clothes, hawking to support the family, defecating in the bush/ open spaces, having to survive on rationed food and fighting for sleeping space at night....the stories are endless.

Today, these folks have become successful. They would never want their kids to suffer.

"I suffered a lot while growing up, I don't want my kids to suffer." Is a very common statement from these set of people.

They raise the standard for their kids, providing them with access to good food, clothing, shelter, vacation abroad, quality healthcare, good allowance and many other privileges. After all, they are kids of successful people.

As good as this is, if not balanced, could make the parents go extreme in a bid to protecting their kids from poverty that bedeviled them while growing up. These kids then turn out unable to face life as they become overly dependent on their parents.

Here are some areas to consider when trying to help children understand life's harsh reality:

1. Teach them to know God-Many parents grew up under strict environment that showed them the way to follow concerning faith. The strict foundation they had gave them solid leverage to grow in their faith when they encountered challenges in life. Today, parents can be non-challant about passing down faith and teachings that helped them win in life. The responsibility is on them to hand down the pattern that worked for them to their kids.


2. Teach them hardwork- It's not uncommon to see parents employ maids and assistants at home to help out with house chores. While this may be helpful in reducing the stress of the parents, they must raise their kids to take care of the home by instructing them to assist in specific areas as they begin to grow. This hardwork must also be extended to their school as parents must follow up their wards academic performance and ask them areas of difficulty in a bid to help them out.

3. Teach them respect for elders- Children of today can be very disrespectful to elders. Some enter into places and refuse to greet elderly folks. It's visible the way some talk to their parents rudely.
Some parents even frown when an elderly person corrects their children outside for wrong behaviour. Nowadays, you see young folks insulting elderly people on social media. A total show of shame!
Parents need to do better because while many of them were going up, they were held accountable by the community and they had to respect every elderly person they come in contact with.

4. Teach them to love- Love is unconditional. Love doesn't run away in time of challenges. Love is for all seasons, either good or bad. Love is 100% loyalty. Parents must teach their children what love entails by being examples to follow in this regard.

5. Teach them to be kind- Parents must teach their kids to show empathy to the plight of others. They must train them how that not everyone may be as fortunate as they are and how to be kind to others without bringing harm to themselves.

6. Train them to be security conscious- Situational awareness is a very important skill everyone needs.
When you are in dangerous positions, how do you react? Parents must train kids basic security lessons such as knowing how to lock the doors, avoiding show-offs, not leaving their food with strangers, not following strangers, how to identify if someone has intention to harm them etc....

7. Teach them they won't always have their way-
Parents must teach their kids how the world doesn't revolve around them. Imagine a 13 year old boy wanting the latest iPhone gadget and accessories because his classmate has one.
Parents need to deny their children things they know could expose them to 18+ content. That means parents must decide when the children sleep, what type of shows they can watch on TV and correct them in love when they go wrong.
Setting boundaries for the kids is a great way to teach them contentment.

8. Parents must mete out appropriate disciplinary actions: children are always full of energy and have tendency to get their parents angry, doing the wrong things.

It's the responsibility of parents to give take the necessary disciplinary measure against kids behaviour. They owe the society that responsibility so they don't end up raising violent, reckless kids with no self-control.

9. Parents must teach their kids to be responsible- Children who are not trained to be responsible adults end up becoming thieves, kidnappers, drug addicts, prostitutes, fraudsters, rapists, 18+ actors or actresses, gambling addicts, terrorists etc with violent tendencies.


10. Parents must teach their kids to be careful with words - Parents must teach their kids to be careful when uttering words. They must teach them to know that words cannot be retrieved once spoken. They must continuously help their kids edit the words they utter and make corrections where necessary.


Some other areas parents need to train their kids: Teach them Savings and Investment, teach them to be bold, teach them to know what they want, teach them to be Time- conscious, teach them to value relationships, teach them to hygienic...etc...which will be discussed in PART 2.

What stood out for you in this PART 1?
Would love to hear from you...

Photo credit- Telangana Today
Oga RoyalRoy please help move to FP.

BennyDGreat:
By Ebenezer Mabinuola

Many parents while growing up experienced poverty on many levels. Some had no shoes, some others who were more fortunate had bad shoes.
Having to walk long distance to school, wearing rag-like clothes, hawking to support the family, defecating in the bush/ open spaces, having to survive on rationed food and fighting for sleeping space at night....the stories are endless.

Today, these folks have become successful. They would never want their kids to suffer.

"I suffered a lot while growing up, I don't want my kids to suffer." Is a very common statement from these set of people.

They raise the standard for their kids, providing them with access to good food, clothing, shelter, vacation abroad, quality healthcare, good allowance and many other privileges. After all, they are kids of successful people.

As good as this is, if not balanced, could make the parents go extreme in a bid to protecting their kids from poverty that bedeviled them while growing up. These kids then turn out unable to face life as they become overly dependent on their parents.

Here are some areas to consider when trying to help children understand life's harsh reality:

1. Teach them to know God-Many parents grew up under strict environment that showed them the way to follow concerning faith. The strict foundation they had gave them solid leverage to grow in their faith when they encountered challenges in life. Today, parents can be non-challant about passing down faith and teachings that helped them win in life. The responsibility is on them to hand down the pattern that worked for them to their kids.


2. Teach them hardwork- It's not uncommon to see parents employ maids and assistants at home to help out with house chores. While this may be helpful in reducing the stress of the parents, they must raise their kids to take care of the home by instructing them to assist in specific areas as they begin to grow. This hardwork must also be extended to their school as parents must follow up their wards academic performance and ask them areas of difficulty in a bid to help them out.

3. Teach them respect for elders- Children of today can be very disrespectful to elders. Some enter into places and refuse to greet elderly folks. It's visible the way some talk to their parents rudely.
Some parents even frown when an elderly person corrects their children outside for wrong behaviour. Nowadays, you see young folks insulting elderly people on social media. A total show of shame!
Parents need to do better because while many of them were going up, they were held accountable by the community and they had to respect every elderly person they come in contact with.

4. Teach them to love- Love is unconditional. Love doesn't run away in time of challenges. Love is for all seasons, either good or bad. Love is 100% loyalty. Parents must teach their children what love entails by being examples to follow in this regard.

5. Teach them to be kind- Parents must teach their kids to show empathy to the plight of others. They must train them how that not everyone may be as fortunate as they are and how to be kind to others without bringing harm to themselves.

6. Train them to be security conscious- Situational awareness is a very important skill everyone needs.
When you are in dangerous positions, how do you react? Parents must train kids basic security lessons such as knowing how to lock the doors, avoiding show-offs, not leaving their food with strangers, not following strangers, how to identify if someone has intention to harm them etc....

7. Teach them they won't always have their way-
Parents must teach their kids how the world doesn't revolve around them. Imagine a 13 year old boy wanting the latest iPhone gadget and accessories because his classmate has one.
Parents need to deny their children things they know could expose them to 18+ content. That means parents must decide when the children sleep, what type of shows they can watch on TV and correct them in love when they go wrong.
Setting boundaries for the kids is a great way to teach them contentment.

8. Parents must mete out appropriate disciplinary actions: children are always full of energy and have tendency to get their parents angry, doing the wrong things.

It's the responsibility of parents to give take the necessary disciplinary measure against kids behaviour. They owe the society that responsibility so they don't end up raising violent, reckless kids with no self-control.

9. Parents must teach their kids to be responsible- Children who are not trained to be responsible adults end up becoming thieves, kidnappers, drug addicts, prostitutes, fraudsters, rapists, 18+ actors or actresses, gambling addicts, terrorists etc with violent tendencies.


10. Parents must teach their kids to be careful with words - Parents must teach their kids to be careful when uttering words. They must teach them to know that words cannot be retrieved once spoken. They must continuously help their kids edit the words they utter and make corrections where necessary.


Some other areas parents need to train their kids: Teach them Savings and Investment, teach them to be bold, teach them to know what they want, teach them to be Time- conscious, teach them to value relationships, teach them to hygiene...etc...which will be discussed in PART 2.

What stood out for you in this PART 1?
Would love to hear from you...

Photo credit- Telangana Today
Oga RoyalRoy please help move to FP.

Thanks for sharing

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