Marriage is a beautiful thing, especially when you are blessed with an understanding partner.
Intending couples, especially the male partner go extra mile to ensure they have a smooth wedding by devising all possible means to gather money for the marriage ceremony.
For the reason above, many men and even some women create groups(WhatsApp, Telegram etc.) to bring friends in quote together for the purpose of fundraising which is disguised under the name Best men/men in suit.
In one of those instances, out of curiosity I decided to count the number of participants in the group(both male and female), and I saw like 150 people. When I did calculation with the amount everyone was to pay, the result shocked me.
Literally, we are the ones to shoulder the larger percentage of the whole thing.
So, I ask myself this question. Why do people inconvenience others during marriage preparation when they know that they are not really ready for the financial implications that comes with marriage preparation?

the issue with all these wedding shenanigans is that, the people want to impress who don't care about them... I've never seen anything logical in expensive weddings... in fact, it's one of the reasons most marriages end in divorce because when you do all that and you realise the person you married isn't worth all the stress you went for the purpose of the wedding, then problem arises...

most people are foolish, instead of investing on the marriage, they inconvenient themselves and invest on the wedding... they go into debt because they want to pepper people... no one cares if you guys divorce tomorrow... the more expensive the wedding, the more likely it will lead to divorce...

some will even list unreasonable amount of list for the intending groom like they are exchanging their daughter for piles of yam, flour and the likes... even religion didn't teach this nonsense people have imposed on themselves... marriage is meant to be simple, after the introduction between families and dowry which is a unique gift of the bride, the rest which includes wedding is totally unnecessary and also makes no sense... a private setup within the families is the best... Inviting people everywhere who don't care and offer fake love to you is a recipe for disaster... but since most people are foolish, they want to impress their village people and when problem comes, they look for solution where solution is not...

Reminderz:
the issue is with all these wedding shenanigans is that, the people want to impress who don't care about them... I've never seen anything logical in expensive weddings... in fact, it's one of the reasons most marriages end in divorce because when you do all that and you realise the person you married isn't worth all the stress you went for the purpose of the wedding, then problem arises...

most people are foolish, instead of investing on the marriage, they inconvenient themselves and invest on the wedding... they go into debt because they want to pepper people... no one cares if you guys divorce tomorrow... the more expensive the wedding, the more likely it will lead to divorce...

some will even list unreasonable amount of list for the intending groom like they are exchanging their daughter for piles of yam, flour and the likes... even region didn't teach this nonsense people have imposed on themselves... marriage is meant to be simple, after the introduction between families and dowry which is a unique gift of the bride, the rest which includes wedding is totally unnecessary and also makes no sense... a private setup within the families is the best... Inviting people everywhere who don't care and offer fake love to you is a recipe for disaster... but since most people are foolish, they want to impress their village people and when problem comes, they look for solution where solution is not...

You be senior man

Everybody has different mindset... But i don't think i will need any contribution to wed the woman i'm only one to house...
People don't want to cut their coats according to their size they want to impress and shock society, their friends and relatives..
Your wife is a part of you and u don't need people's money to create problem for urself, when u don't know from where they are bringing those their cash from..

The moment you add me to a group,looking for support for marriage.Na 2k I go give u.But if you invite me,without taking me for any thing.i can give you 50k if I have it that moment.

Badfinga:
Marriage is a beautiful thing, especially when you are blessed with an understanding partner.
Intending couples, especially the male partner go extra mile to ensure they have a smooth wedding by devising all possible means to gather money for the marriage ceremony.
For the reason above, many men and even some women create groups(WhatsApp, Telegram etc.) to bring friends in quote together for the purpose of fundraising which is disguised under the name Best men/men in suit.
In one of those instances, out of curiosity I decided to count the number of participants in the group(both male and female), and I saw like 150 people. When I did calculation with the amount everyone was to pay, the result shocked me.
Literally, we are the ones to shoulder the larger percentage of the whole thing.
So, I ask myself this question. Why do people inconvenience others during marriage preparation when they know that they are not really ready for the financial implications that comes with marriage preparation?

I swear.

One idiot has been beefing me because I didn't contribute for his wedding.

The fool was asking me for contribution when I had to deal with helping my Mum out of an issue worth hundreds of thousands, I was desperately sourcing for money at the same period while he was preparing for his wedding and the idiot kept pressuring me to send him money, na so I ghost am oo.

If you know you aren't financially ready for a wedding, then don't even start it at all if you will be depending on funds from people's contribution.
It's annoying sincerely.

It's just poverty mindset. Why not do what u can conveniently on ur own rather than depending on contributions from others before u can marry ur wife. That's how they invite the spirit of poverty into their homes

Contribution for a wedding, like seriously?
If you ain't ready you hold on
Humans can complicate life for themselves ehn

Reminderz:
the issue with all these wedding shenanigans is that, the people want to impress who don't care about them... I've never seen anything logical in expensive weddings... in fact, it's one of the reasons most marriages end in divorce because when you do all that and you realise the person you married isn't worth all the stress you went for the purpose of the wedding, then problem arises...

most people are foolish, instead of investing on the marriage, they inconvenient themselves and invest on the wedding... they go into debt because they want to pepper people... no one cares if you guys divorce tomorrow... the more expensive the wedding, the more likely it will lead to divorce...

some will even list unreasonable amount of list for the intending groom like they are exchanging their daughter for piles of yam, flour and the likes... even religion didn't teach this nonsense people have imposed on themselves... marriage is meant to be simple, after the introduction between families and dowry which is a unique gift of the bride, the rest which includes wedding is totally unnecessary and also makes no sense... a private setup within the families is the best... Inviting people everywhere who don't care and offer fake love to you is a recipe for disaster... but since most people are foolish, they want to impress their village people and when problem comes, they look for solution where solution is not...

Well said bro. When you allow the society to dictate what happens to your life, then there is a big problem.

talented321:
Everybody has different mindset... But i don't think i will need any contribution to wed the woman i'm only one to house...
People don't want to cut their coats according to their size they want to impress and shock society, their friends and relatives..

The moment you cut your coat accordingly, you don't need to cajole people into making contributions for you. When you have reasonable friends, they will contribute for you even without asking.

Flows001:


I swear.

One idiot has been beefing me because I didn't contribute for his wedding.

The fool was asking me for contribution when I had to deal with helping my Mum out of an issue worth hundreds of thousands, I was desperately sourcing for money at the same period while he was preparing for his wedding and the idiot kept pressuring me to send him money, na so I ghost am oo.

If you know you aren't financially ready for a wedding, then don't even start it at all if you will be depending on funds from people's contribution.
It's annoying sincerely.

its so annoying mehn

Aaaaarghmed:
The moment you add me to a group,looking for support for marriage.Na 2k I go give u.But if you invite me,without taking me for any thing.i can give you 50k if I have it that moment.

in fact I have made a promise to myself not to contribute a dime whenever an intending groom choses that path. I prefer to make my own contribution willingly.

My own na be say any form of discussion wey involve unnecessary billing,count me out totally...

Na men own dey baffle me pass...... Especially when I hear say a man took loan from Lapo just for the sake of marriage . Stupid men..

Flows001:


I swear.

One idiot has been beefing me because I didn't contribute for his wedding.

The fool was asking me for contribution when I had to deal with helping my Mum out of an issue worth hundreds of thousands, I was desperately sourcing for money at the same period while he was preparing for his wedding and the idiot kept pressuring me to send him money, na so I ghost am oo.

If you know you aren't financially ready for a wedding, then don't even start it at all if you will be depending on funds from people's contribution.
It's annoying sincerely.

Lack of proper preparation causes all that nonsense. They feel you owe them that contribution.

dkidd:
It's just poverty mindset. Why not do what u can conveniently on ur own rather than depending on contributions from others before u can marry ur wife. That's how they invite the spirit of poverty into their homes

I don't know if these things happen in the south as well. Because all I have experienced happened both in the rural and urban north.

Badfinga:
I don't know if these things happen in the south as well. Because all I have experienced happened both in the rural and urban north.

It happens everywhere bro... Some people mentality just dey somehow. Some even have ordinary birthday parties and create avenues for collection like say na Sunday offering for church. So many people are abnormal in this country

Sonnobax15:

My own na be say any form of discussion wey involve unnecessary billing,count me out totally...

Na men own dey baffle me pass...... Especially when I hear say a man took loan from Lapo just for the sake of marriage . Stupid men..

Starting a family on a faulty foundation is very bad. Why borrow just for a wedding as if you starting a venture that will yield interest in no distant time. Some men sha

dkidd:

It happens everywhere bro... Some people mentality just dey somehow. Some even have ordinary birthday parties and create avenues for collection like say na Sunday offering for church. So many people are abnormal in this country

That's serious.

An old time friend was always worrying me to marry.i told him even though I am Capable.i don't wana end up with yeye woman.shishi this guy no get because e see say e don dey near 35,he marry one girl.he messaged me some says back say e dey hungry. I tell am say I no get, take note,i have sent him.money more than 5 times since he married because he writes me sometimes that he is broke.why stressing me,na me send u to marry

Aaaaarghmed:
An old time friend was always worrying me to marry.i told him even though I am Capable.i don't wana end up with yeye woman.shishi this guy no get because e see say e don dey near 35,he marry one girl.he messaged me some says back say e dey hungry. I tell am say I no get, take note,i have sent him.money more than 5 times since he married because he writes me sometimes that he is broke.why stressing me,na me send u to marry

One of the biggest problems we face in this country is allowing the society to decide for us. Some people allow pressure from the society to force them into union they aren't financially capable to navigate.

Like in my Church it’s their trademark I hate it so much , I have contributed over time for others , but during my time I did what my power can carry, I didn’t bother myself setting up a committee , one was calling us during his committee for us to pay up like do you depend on us to get married…..

Badfinga:
Marriage is a beautiful thing, especially when you are blessed with an understanding partner.
Intending couples, especially the male partner go extra mile to ensure they have a smooth wedding by devising all possible means to gather money for the marriage ceremony.
For the reason above, many men and even some women create groups(WhatsApp, Telegram etc.) to bring friends in quote together for the purpose of fundraising which is disguised under the name Best men/men in suit.
In one of those instances, out of curiosity I decided to count the number of participants in the group(both male and female), and I saw like 150 people. When I did calculation with the amount everyone was to pay, the result shocked me.
Literally, we are the ones to shoulder the larger percentage of the whole thing.
So, I ask myself this question. Why do people inconvenience others during marriage preparation when they know that they are not really ready for the financial implications that comes with marriage preparation?

That is usually seen among people who depend on others for everything.

Eboski:
Like in my Church it’s their trademark I hate it so much , I have contributed over time for others , but during my time I did what my power can carry, I didn’t bother myself setting up a committee , one was calling us during his committee for us to pay up like do you depend on us to get married…..

These days people join association just for the benefit of getting contributions. True friendship is gradually fading away.

Nice2023:




That is usually seen among people who depend on others for everything.

Not in all cases sha. Because I knew someone who his family can comfortably sponsor his wedding without complaining. But because he has contributed for others in the past, he felt it was his turn to collect contribution.

If I agree to Marry a Nigerian.na just parlour wedding.families and like 4 friends each,from bride and me.i dont need all those exorbitant nonsense.max 30pple.

I hate this idea of telling people to contribute a certain amount for you, all in the name of a committee.

Aaaaarghmed:
If I agree to Marry a Nigerian.na just parlour wedding.families and like 4 friends each,from bride and me.i dont need all those exorbitant nonsense.max 30pple.

I concur.

spencekat:
I hate this idea of telling people to contribute a certain amount for you, all in the name of a committee.

It's very annoying to say the least.

In addition to seeking financial support, some couples may also inconvenience others by expecting specific and often expensive wedding gifts. This can further strain their guests, as they feel obligated to provide costly presents in addition to contributing to the wedding funds. Couples should be mindful of their guests' financial situations and opt for more reasonable gift expectations.

Shameless people do it.