The first time i met him he asked if i was nigerian, i told him no i am from ivory coast.once i told him that he pratically almost walked away from me and i grab his arm to ask what was wrong with that.he said nothing with a big smile on his face and told me how beautiful i was.later on he asked for my number and our relationship went on from there. The down side is he only talked to me and called me when his family and friends were not around and when he is alone. he is pratically hiding me from them and i think its because i am not nigerian. he also doesnt want me anywhere near his mom or sis. when he is on vacation he ignores me for a whole two month or 4 month ,than come back with an excuse that he was depress when he is really on a vacation with his frds/family as i see on facebook. i have dumped him 5 times ,but he keeps on bagging to come back saying i don't understand him at all and i am ungrateful since he buys me stuff.After he ignores me for months he tells me i own him sex and makes it my fault after his dumb excuses don't work.


so i ask these question

does he not want me near his frds/family because i am not nigerian?

is he using me only for his pleasure, since he can ignore me for four month?

i love him and i think he is funny but he is really killing me inside and i don't think he has the intentions of marrying me. but i wanna know am i overreacting.

u know all dese?
wat u waitin 4?
pls cry n drink all u can
bsyds he doesnt worth ur tears
he s left u wit sm piece
pick em up n mk gd use of it
love wit ur head n nt ur hrt

Dyt:

u know all dese?
wat u waitin 4?
pls cry n drink all u can
bsyds he doesnt worth your tears
he s left u wit sm piece
pick em up n mk gd use of it
love wit your head n nt your hrt

thank you so much,this is my first bf thats why it hurts so much.i don't understand why he likes doing this to mev ,i wasss sooooo kind to him.

well sm men dont deserve us
jst pls let go of him
u sound 2 beautiful 2 b hurt

Dyt:

well sm men dont deserve us
jst pls let go of him
u sound 2 beautiful 2 b hurt

awwwwww thank you, you are very beautiful too.

Poster, good morning, the best way to know is having a sincere conversation with him about his intentions, and ask him if there's any problem if you're a Non Nigerian, then you'll see how to handle the situation

My dear if this guy is not able to see what you are and your knidness then another one will, trust me

Be brave

i so know well he ll lie abt it
men dont talk anymore

Dnt think its because u r ivorean thats why he dosent want you,he might be your ideal man but you might be a nigerian from the west or the north and he from the east or deltat area and still he wont be walking down the aisle with you.You are a vocation 4 him,and no ideal guy will excommunicate som1 he loves for 4 months,comes back with a gift telling you he is sorry,and when you refuse him sex he quickly remind you of what he spends on you and inturn you throw ur legs in d air?? Get a grip gf its nt because u r nt a nigerian its because u are not pricing urself well.

Confront him gently . . . ask him if he hates your nationality . .  . if he denies it, then tell him he needs to be as plain and honest as possible with u . . he needs to explain his behaviour. If however the tears persist, leave him . . move on with your life.

Dyt, I think when you talk "gently" as Creamish said you can have some answers, just a question of courteousy and calm

chuckles
i bet he wldnt say anyth close 2 d truth mayb if he s high he cld

lol Dyt some say the truth believe me

yh dose dat says d truth we call dem beautiful liar

Dyt:

chuckles
i bet he wldnt say anyth close 2 d truth mayb if he s high he cld

i believe if he can ignore me for four month ,he can lie to me for everything.

Sam xiu lee:

Dnt think its because u r ivorean thats why he dosent want you,he might be your ideal man but you might be a nigerian from the west or the north and he from the east or deltat area and still he wont be walking down the aisle with you.You are a vocation 4 him,and no ideal guy will excommunicate som1 he loves for 4 months,comes back with a gift telling you he is sorry,and when you refuse him sex he quickly remind you of what he spends on you and inturn you throw your legs in d air?? Get a grip gf its nt because u r nt a nigerian its because u are not pricing urself well.

i think your right , he never even loved me . four month i cried every day and i only thought about him everyday. thts why i say he hates me

Creamish:

Confront him gently . . . ask him if he hates your nationality . .  . if he denies it, then tell him he needs to be as plain and honest as possible with u . . he needs to explain his behaviour. If however the tears persist, leave him . . move on with your life.

i try to confront him but he ignores me than blames me for his problems. or yells at me.



ohhhhhhhhhh he is going to kill me

Babe,truth is,you are just a SPORT for this guy.trust me,your nationality isnt the ish.
Run as fast as your legs can carry you now b4 it becomes worse.

hegokillme:

i believe if he can ignore me for four month ,he can lie to me for everything.
i think your right , he never even loved me . four month i cried every day and i only thought about him everyday. thts why i say he hates me

i try to confront him but he ignores me than blames me for his problems. or yells at me.



ohhhhhhhhhh he is going to kill me

so y exactly r u still with him?

Hegokillme, my dear I told you you might love him very much but the thing is he seems not be receptive to this attention, so try to take time you want to see other people and maybe the right one, don't focus to something that will be hurting you  

Creamish:

so y exactly r u still with him?  

right now i am breaking up with him , and i needed to make sure 100% i was doing something right, now anytime he beggs for me to come back, i will come back to this thread to keep my mind strict.
i will be nice no more to him.

Nayah:

Hegokillme, my dear I told you you might love him very much but the thing is he seems not be receptive to this attention, so try to take time you want to see other people and maybe the right one, don't focus to something that will be hurting you  

i am very shy,but i will try my best to see other people. thank you

i know u must rili b bad ryt now
dont worry its well
trust me

hegokillme:


right now i am breaking up with him , and i needed to make sure 100% i was doing something right, now anytime he beggs for me to come back, i will come back to this thread to keep my mind strict.
i will be nice no more to him.

. . aattaa girl! . . datz more like it! . . Uv got more reasonz to b alive dan dead.

Hegokillme I'm a bit like you and can't really talk to men like this but let's try to force the destiny, by hanging out with some girlfriends who might know some other people, but right now take your time you seem to be sad about this story leave you a bit time ok?

iice:

Huh?
He hates you but he's your boyfriend.
He ignores you and he's still your boyfriend. Odikwa dense.

Odi ezigbo dense my sister.

OP, you know the truth but you are just living in denial. It is what it is; live him and find someone else that will appreciate you. NO time!

OP

You appears to be desperate and you deserve better than that. If he doesn't appreciate you for you then you do not need him. There are other men out there that are looking for wives or girlfriends just take it easy and know that settling for any man to have "a man" isn't the way to live.

OP, i'd advice u do not listen to all this craps some people are postin here about u leaving your man, I suggest you sit him down first and find out what exactly the problem is before u come into your own conclusion, cos i have noticed that responses on this thread comes mostly from ladies and some of this chicks respondin have gone tru series of heart breaks and their hearts have been damaged beyond repair, so they all hate men and i am sure some don't even have a man of their. Hold what u have ok, all relationships are not always rosy, there's always thorns somewhere anyhow, but it definitely will get better. You never can tell all that a guy does, he might be gone for some biz trip and wouldn't want you to know or anythin else, and that doesn't mean he doesn't care and that explains why he wouldn't want to leave u. Take ur time before u jump into hasty conclusions that u might regret,cos u never can tell how worse the next guy could be and besides, u dont need anyones opinion here to live ur life. Stay with ur man and it definitely will get better someday, but if U know its not just workin at all, then u alone reserve the right to call it quit, and i trust he's not hatin you because of ur nationality. Cheers cutie

leave his azz.

Ms op, try keeping your legs closed until he steps up to the plate with respect for you.

If he won't take you home to meet his family then he is only using you for one thing.

Something I dont understand.

Your active boyfriend hates you

you've dumped him 5ive times and he's begged you 5ive times

am I missing something?

if he hates you that much and still begs you around, there must be something he's getting from you . . maybe

From what you have said, Me thinks he's still struggling with your nationality. You need to sit him down and talk it over.

I see no reason why you should be in a relationship in which you are not proud of your partner.

But pretty please, stop abusing the word HATE.

The guy is married, and the wife is in Nigeria, So when he is with the wife, all communication route is closed until later. And you don't need to cry. A lady once told me that any guy that makes you to cry is not worth the tears and the one that worth the tears will not make you cry

10 SIGNS HE WANTS TO BE MORE THAN JUST FRIENDS



http://madamenoire.com/78313/10-signs-he-wants-to-be-more-than-just-friends/7/

your NIGERIAN+ BOYFRIEND HATES YOU COS YOU ARE NT NIGERIAN? DID YOU FORCE YOURSELF ON HIM? WHY WOULD SOMEBODY BE A BOYFRIEND TO SOMEBODY HE DOESNT LOVE? ARE YOU SURE HE IS YOUR BOYFRIEND? IF YOU CAN ANSWER THESE QUESTION, then you can help yourself.