EruditeSupport:


Balderdash!

You failed woefully if this were to be an examination.

You respond according to what you find in the narrative and not according to what you think.

You're thinking that he 'probably' landed suddenly, and that's your lame excuse for your position.

It's absolutely unacceptable to arrive at such conclusions. All things being equal, we hold the view that the OP arrived in his brothers house following due process except he states otherwise. If the elder brother had informed him earlier that he wouldn't be responsible for his feeding, the OP wouldn't have seen any need to complain.

Gajagojo:

Nothing wrong in a person helping another person whether brother or not
If you Can
If you cannot there is nothing you can do.
It is HELP
Help is different from responsibility
Your children are your responsibility not your brother
Yes help them if you can but it is NOT their right or entitlement

MS247:


I am saying you are not a disable or an imbecileee so work for your own food

Give others and don't have entitled mentality to recieve like a beggar

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

Gajagojo:


You lack wisdom
If you did you would realise there are two sides to every story.
Hearing one side and passing judgment is not wise.
A person who is old enough to marry is living like a bachelor cooking noodles and you think the best thing for him is to become father to one brother.
So he won't marry and arrange his life?
The OP is an adult he can and should wake up. If that brother dies won't he live?

MS247:


This kind of entitlement mentality is very very wrong

JoshTim:


From what the young man said, the brother can help him. Why cook, eat, wash plates and do like you never ate. Chai, posterity will judge such brother.

Gajagojo:


Hi brother is helping him
He is not paying rent
You are making Assumptions
What work does his brother do?
How much is his salary
Does he have plans to marry does he send money to parents or others?
Did he arrive at his brothers house yesterday?
How did they start in the beginning
Did they have any conversation about how they will be living together?

JoshTim:


Shakes my head for you mr wisdom. Maturity demands that the elder brother sits his younger one down and explain situation of things to him. I don't know which homes some of you are from. So wicked. Please, get out.

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

Gajagojo:

There are two sides to every story.
Maturity requires that fundamental understanding and ability to see gaps in any emotional story.

Gajagojo:

Many Nigerians grow up on the street
Many families in Nigeria are not happy homes
It is not because they are bad people
That is how Nigeria happens to them
Those from happy hopes or growing up in Mansions are not better people
That is no basis for insults or condescension
Nigeria is a very hard place.
When times are good people can be generous and when times are hard mothers sell their babies
If you have a good life be grateful and humble you are not better or more deserving than those that don't

JoshTim:


Shakes my head for you mr wisdom. Maturity demands that the elder brother sits his younger one down and explain situation of things to him. I don't know which homes some of you are from. So wicked. Please, get out.

Mayeldah:


You are just a wicked person, stop defending thrash. Someone like you, you won't help even when you have enough
what is food that someone will deny his brother?

JoshTim:
....

...i dont keep people who reason like you close to me....lest people start thinking you are the one feeding me when you are not.

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

ChemicalReaction:


You go too wicked sha... And person wey get you as sibling no get anybody.

Nasri100:
My friend STFU!!

My friend, the world has passed all these - No matter how you guilt trip or use emotions to handle this, fact remains HE IS NOT ENTITLED TO ANYTHING FROM HIS ELDER BROTHER.

OP is entitled to care from his dad and mom. Since the duo have failed in their primary responsibility which should be a serious criminal offense in Nigeria (Child support should be a serious deal in this dead country), OP is now left to fend for himself.

Irresponsible parents and breeding are part of the cause of poverty in ya country.

Back to you Openfortruth , your elder brother owes you nothing. Earlier you realize that the better for you.

As someone pointed out in first page, you have to treat him like an OGA to get something from him. Do things that you know will make him happy in the long run.

The state of Nigeria is the problem. If you were in the States you could be flipping burgers in a fastfood and have a side hustle and still pay your bills and get a nice apartment.

I cant imagine the job you could do in Nigeria to give you a good salary considering you dont even have a degree.

So of course Nigeria also failed you. You better go out there and hustle.

Nobody gives a damn about gender M.

CC Agentgoat

Mindlog:


Dropping something for younger ones according to your capacity, is not entitlement mentality. If Nigerian police pick any of them up, no be the other one go run around abi is their parents with them in the city?

Reality is that time flies so fast, 5 years from now the stupidity of this moments will look so infantile.

What really touched me is this "Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me".......your own blood, your younger sibling goes to bed hungry after trekking back from where he is learning a skill, while you have eaten.....Schizoid Personality Disorder no pass this one o.

Cantonese:


Brother, you are still too young.

Listen to this very clear advise:

While you assist your siblings with what you can, ensure that you are growing. While you assist your siblings, ensure that you are ahead on all fronts.

While you are at it, ensuring that your siblings are educated and standing on their feet, ensure that you are educated and standing on your feet too. You’re not Dangote or Elumelu, who are super rich. Do not turn yourself into the family sacrificial lamb.

I want to freely inform you that you may train them and ensure all the need in life and they throw you away when they are in better positions.

While you are training them and they begin to have children, you will be left behind. There is a difference between Uncle and Daddy. Their children will call you uncle, while you do not have one child of your own.

Time waits for no man, as they say.

Please help your siblings as much as you are able to. If you are not there, they will stand on their feet. You cannot arrogate the position of God to yourself in their lives. Responsibility of taking care of children falls on parents, not on first sons and first daughters. Many of them suffer what they never expected many years after ensuring that their siblings stand on their feet.

Gajagojo:


People always mix things up
First you start by telling us your biography
That is not relevant
You were in a position to feed your brother 3square meals

This person that is cooking noodles and washing pot does he sound like he is eating 3 square meals

You are right on your final point about making babies
But the personal comparison is unclear
What is your point
That you have
"Goodness of heart"

the only test of goodness of heart comes when you are poor and cannot feed yourself
Then when you can go hungry for another person to eat we can talk of goodness of heart

Gajagojo:

That is your own business
You can do your life how you like

That is not the reality in Nigeria
If it was their parents won't have had children they cannot train

That is why there are more than 200 million Nigerians
People have babies and don't educate or train them

GodWrites:


Sorry, but I didn't mention you. I know the present economy is hard, but take your frustration somewhere else.

Gajagojo:

Even if you want you cannot get close to me
Don't assume we belong to the same social class because we are on Nairaland

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

Gajagojo:


You didn't mention me butv I mentioned you
so??
That is the nature of the forum. You can leave if you don't like it
The present economy?? In which country?

Say something else that one is childish

AllBlack:


from the onset did your brother invite you to come and stay with him?

when you told him you were coming to join him, did he agree?

be honest.

GO0DHardDick:


Lol why you dey para bro? 😂

I just told you nothing but the plain truth you start to dey para! How can you intend to get married when you cannot comfortably even help or assist your brothers financially until they find their feet?

Dude, if you can't feed your own blood parents comfortable, abeg how do you intend to feed your wife and provide for your in-laws as at when due? Abi you think you won't Take care of the girl and your in-laws to be? Or they didn't tell you when you marry a girl you're getting married to her entire family? Dude you have no business talking about marriage if the above criterias hasn't been considered!

Oga marriage isn't a child's play! If you're not financially stable, stay away from marriage!

AllBlack:


were you there when the elder brother TOLD HIM TO COME? how do you guys jump into conclusions like this?