SouthSouth1914:


This isn’t about what she said, but what you said. Stop
Shifting grounds and learn to take responsibility.

Nyascobar1414:


if it happens in Nigeria then single mothers wont be suffering under the sun to make money..
Go to any market and see for yourself..

Infact,there is a Professor I know that doesnt care about his wife,the wife one day stormed the university to complain,still the man didnt give a fvk,the institution did not do anything sef.


Its only in the western world that penalties are placed if a man cant pay his wife's/kids bills, not in Africa or Naija

UnfairLife7:
can you read at all? A man giving his wife and kid 5k monthly. What does that tell you please? Like 5 freaking K?

Jewessgratitud3:


You and your generation will beg for shelter. See this one, who are you and where did all that happen?

Don't mention me again, please.

Brandiebird:


You could fool some people sometimes but… be humble sis! I don’t play in the mud but you know what it is because it’s your reality and no amount of flexing online will ever change your reality offline. 😂😂😂

Jewessgratitud3:
Good morning everyone, please I need help before I will run mad. I have been married for two years now and for this two years I have been the one taking care of my self, my husband is an air force personal with the rank of a corporal but every month he cry's that he doesn't have money that his salary is not much mind you before we got married I asked him how much he earns but he refused to tell me, I asked for the second time he said I should not bother about it I told my mom about it she said I should forget about it provided he's going to take care of me. My people this man gives me 5k every month for up keep for me and our son in this hard economy 😭😭 I am the one shouldering everything at this point I am tired. Please who knows how much air force personals with the rank of a corporal earns including their allowances all together how much please 👏👏 I want to know, I'm a business woman but currently my business is going backwards due to too much load. Please please make una help me 👏😭😭. I'm sorry for the long post👏 thanks everyone.

Gamesmart:


The bolded is fine.

You too have to bring to the marriage what a man wants and keep offering it while the money is there.

Just don't try and trap an achieving man in a marriage where you don't look hot and you are exciting in bed.

You need to be fine in the first place (i.e. 8 out of 10 and above) and maintain this for about 20 years, at least. You must have breast, ass, face, good shape, dress to outshine other women and can work a room of men with your sexual mannerism for 20 years. If you don't have all these in abundance and/or proportion for at least 20 years, no open your mouth to demand a "wealthy man".

When you are having sex, make sure you are not like most Nigerian women that just lie there with a hole between their legs, and just making suffocated moans all the way through. You better know how to contour your body, spread legs wide, beg for the D to hit you badly, talk dirty while he is pounding and utilise cumm when it arrives.

Don't you dare, I mean effing dare, have one kid and then, like most Nigerian women, lose shape forever and be fat. You need to snap back into figure 8 and dress size 4-6 (US) within 7 months of each birth.

If you cannot meet all these to the T for 20 years, you can be slightly forgiven if you are willing to get help from a younger woman as side chic to provide what you cannot provide, while you take care of the kids and home.

frozen70:


Let me be frank with you because I understand all you are complaining about

Bear this in mind that, uniform personnels are not well paid, but they use the influence of their uniform to manuover things

You weren't prepared for marriage as at the time you were going into the marriage, you were hoping on him to finance virtually every thing but you became shocked that his salary can barely carry him talk more of his family

There are no other better ways for him to explain to you that his salary is less than 80k that you will understand

You are more interested in in his take home and not really about love or maybe you have just little love and hoping that his spending on you will spark the relationship

As it is now, face the reality and support him by carrying the family through your own financial assistance and support

If you think it's impossible for you to do so, then you have to find a way out to deal with it

But mind you, if you leave him because of poor salary another woman will accept him and support him to raise a family

Men are finding things difficult this time around and they will appreciate any assistance from a good wife / woman

Kobojunkie:
$5 a month.

UnfairLife7:
■ I think Buhari failure and this Tinubu hardship is really affecting some Nigerians to think like human. You can imagine some people defending the man earning 80k but dropping 5k for his wife and kid. You see why we truly deserve the leaders we have? I don't blame them anyway, I blame OP for bringing her affair to nairaland allowing foolish people sprewing trash

Homeboiy:
Mercychen

Your twin sister had been married for 7 years and you are still single waiting for a wealthy man to marry, ordinary primary school teacher like you.

At 36 years. You will reach 40 single.

UnfairLife7:
I think Buhari failure and this Tinubu hardship is really affecting some Nigerians to think like human. You can imagine some people defending the man earning 80k but dropping 5k for his wife and kid. You see why we truly deserve the leaders we have?

I don't blame them anyway, I blame OP for bringing her affair to nairaland allowing foolish people sprewing trash

UnfairLife7:
can you read at all? A man giving his wife and kid 5k monthly. What does that tell you please? Like 5 freaking K?

Jewessgratitud3:
I don't know when some women will have sense. You asked a man who's seeking your hands in marriage how much he's earning, he didn't tell you and you didn't do your findings then before going ahead to marry him. It's now you're trying to find out how much a corporal is earning. After you don enter fire

I don kukuma talk my own, if as a man you're not stinkingly wealthy ( especially in this present economy) don't come near me.

marriage is not a prison with years of hard labor, why are you men now trapping innocent girls in poverty in the name of marriage? If you're not financially capable yet, you no go sit down your own? Abi which one come be enter finish com dey cry no money no money?? Hm!

Madam, you go ask tire. Question wey you supposed ask before you enter.

Jewessgratitud3:
I don't know when some women will have sense. You asked a man who's seeking your hands in marriage how much he's earning, he didn't tell you and you didn't do your findings then before going ahead to marry him. It's now you're trying to find out how much a corporal is earning. After you don enter fire

I don kukuma talk my own, if as a man you're not stinkingly wealthy ( especially in this present economy) don't come near me.

marriage is not a prison with years of hard labor, why are you men now trapping innocent girls in poverty in the name of marriage? If you're not financially capable yet, you no go sit down your own? Abi which one come be enter finish com dey cry no money no money?? Hm!

Madam, you go ask tire. Question wey you supposed ask before you enter.