Allow your Ex Into your House For Visit. Anything Bad?

naijalodge:

there's absolutely nothing wrong ,
me and my ex still talk and go out
together even though i've got a bf. he also
visits few times, he came two days ago to
my house and we had a nice time together

Like a guy said before on nairaland,if your girl-friend tells you she still sees her Ex,then know that the relationship is in deep waters,if u doubt,look at the highlighted above,she has even started liking his company,


look natasha,am a guy,if your EX is still around you for any reason then know hes comming for a second match cause when a guy breaks up a relationship with his girl-friend,believe u me the guy will have low or no feeling of even friendship except he has an ulterior mOtive, so just be careful with him.

[b]my dear everyone is not the same he has accepted the fact that I'm not with him even though he still has feelings for me. we are not together any more but that won't stop us from being friends, you know why because even before we started dating he was the closest friend I had he knows me from page to page. He's someone that even when i can't tell anyone of what might be happening to me i can always tell him. BTW even the day we went out together I told my bf and he said ''its okay ''. I've always enjoyed his company so its not as if any feelings are reawakening. He's my ex we broke up for a reason right but so what? he can't visit me?. does breaking up with him make him less human or does it brand him a devil or harmful person? My relationship is not in deep waters, I don't have feelings for my ex besides before anyone should start a new relationship its wise that you bury your past feelings , problem arises when people still have feelings for their ex's and I don't so there's nothing to be worried about or careful about, like I said we know our boundaries, He's my ex but we're still friends and we'll always be friends. [/b]

nnw niger:

Natasha, you said you're 17 and your present and ex-boyfriends  I believe are about your age. What  I believe is  going on b/w you3 can be kinda highschoolish. You're at the age where everything about relationship are clouded by lust, of course, I've seen people in their late 20s that reason like you. At 17, I don't know what past experiences you've had with men, but obviously you're too ignorant to know all men seek other women. You have a terrible mind set in handling relationships and I hope no one ever takes advice from you. your boyfriend may just be interested in se x which is almost readily and easily available to him, may just be interested in the milk without buying the cow and that may be what you 've described as not having problem with your ex visitings. I think that boundaries or standards need to be set. With your understanding of what relationship is, of course you're 17, one day this understanding lover boy will bite you in the Bottom and leave you after 2yrs of being treating you like poo. Good luck, I think you'll need it.

nnw niger:

Natasha, you said you're 17 and your present and ex-boyfriends  I believe are about your age. What  I believe is  going on b/w you3 can be kinda highschoolish. You're at the age where everything about relationship are clouded by lust, of course, I've seen people in their late 20s that reason like you. At 17, I don't know what past experiences you've had with men, but obviously you're too ignorant to know all men seek other women. You have a terrible mind set in handling relationships and I hope no one ever takes advice from you. your boyfriend may just be interested in se x which is almost readily and easily available to him, may just be interested in the milk without buying the cow and that may be what you 've described as not having problem with your ex visitings. I think that boundaries or standards need to be set. With your understanding of what relationship is, of course you're 17, one day this understanding lover boy will bite you in the Bottom and leave you after 2yrs of being treating you like poo. Good luck, I think you'll need it.

WhyAWhy:

this view is a little twisted


@nnw niger, it's not about age oh, my first girl friend 5 years ago when i was in my final year in Uni was 17 years old and believe me she was more matured both mentally and emotionally than my 22 year old female friends/colleagues

Natasha,,:

[b]My dear thanks for nothing, I'm not ignorant, for that fact that i see nothing wrong with my ex visiting doesn't make me ignorant, I know the kind of guys I date my ex is a 200 level student of pharmacy and he's matured my bf is 19 and guess what? he doesn't dig sex and so was my ex, we have set boundaries for our selves and he's cool with it its a sexless relationship besides we are very far from each other, I date guys who reason like me guys who don't care about sex I guess i'm just blessed that I always have such guys coming my way. Funny enough how older people come to me for advice I don't think if I have a terrible mindset people higher than me will come to me seeking advice, if all you want from a woman is sex then don't get it twisted not all men are like that, and you must be the one with a terrible mindset to point everything to sex, milk cow or whatever. I don't think if I have a terrible mindset my mum of 43 would come to me to seek advice or that I would be the one to bring a lasting solution when my parents are at loggerheads. [/b]

@nnwniger I never said I had feelings for my ex Btw my bf knows my ex came to see me and he doesn't have any problem with it.

naijalodge:

i almost said it but poor network couldn't allow me,
You just made mention of what i wanted to hear ''its a sexless relationship'' which i will infer to as nonsexual right?,you've said it all,

The plain truth is that they weren't your boy-friends,i mean your Ex and your present as u claimed,they were only your friends,thats why you would never understand what we mean by the word ''EX''.

To me every mature relationship is intimate,its only back then when i was a kid i used to use the word ''i don't want us to Be Intimate,i just want us to be friends'' what a hell is that?,why having a boyfriend when you can't Be Intimate with him,

I guess u'll wait till when your grown and ready to have a mature relationship,you can't call a nonsexual relationship a relationship(lovers)
I guess u guys should just stop decieving yourselves and call it , close friends other than ''Boy friend or Girl friend'' cause what you guys are doing is a mere 7 yrs old kind of relationship

Plz leave comments for the Experience,this is no court of law.

You know coming from you I'm disappointed you sound like you're a 3 years old child ''so because we're not having sex our relationship is immature? and because you're having sex your relationship is mature?'' wow that was so dumb, is sex the reason for having a bf or gf? *smh* my dear you are the one who should stop deceiving yourself you should call your gf your sex mate cos that's what you guys are   When you're grown then you'll know that sex is no criteria for a matured relationship,  roger that

jamace:



Why is your ex, ex, then?

My sister, make I tell truth. The day Okafor's theory go happen, eh. it will be like say dem take juju do you. Watch out.

Natasha,,:

You know coming from you I'm disappointed you sound like you're a 3 years old child ''so because we're not Being Intimate our relationship is immature? and because you're Being Intimate your relationship is mature?'' wow that was so dumb, is sex the reason for having a bf or gf? *smh* my dear you are the one who should stop deceiving yourself you should call your gf your sex mate cos that's what you guys are   When you're grown then you'll know that sex is no criteria for a matured relationship,  roger that

naijalodge:

hahahahahaha Natasha plz grow up and stop craching my ribs.hahahaha
Have you heard of the world ''RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SEX IS AN EMPTY EXPERIENCE''?,Don't worry, i pray u finally gain your admission into school this year,you will definately laugh at your post 2yrs from nw.hahahah,you remind me of when i was 8,plz upload your picture i wanna see what you look like.no offence plz, Buahahahah!!!

Really is this the best you can come up with?  empty experience indeed I DON'T NEED SEX TO EXPERIENCE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP roger that , my dear forget it my mind has been made up since and there's no turning back even four years from now k. Don't worry wait until you see me in reality or the day I'll upload my picture again or berra still you can stare at my younger sis she's in my profile then you can imagine what I look like  and you know what its really dumb that you think you're grown up because of sex phewwwwwwwwww. 

Natasha,,:

Really is this the best you can come up with? empty experience indeed I DON'T NEED SEX TO EXPERIENCE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP roger that , my dear forget it my mind has been made up since last and there's no turning back even four years from now k. Don't worry wait until you see me in reality or the day I'll upload my picture again or berra still you can stare at my younger sis she's in my profile then you can imagine what I look like and you know what its really dumb that you think you're grown up because of sex phewwwwwwwwww.

naijalodge:


Hey Natasha,i hate it when people misquote me,
I didn't mean Being Intimate means maturity but wat i meant was that the relationship u had with your EX as you claim was only a normal friendship and no diffrend from the friendship i had with my female friends back then in secondry school,,

Ok,tell me the diffrence between your friend which u claim as your EX to your present which u said its your boyfriend?,
If u can give me a very good answer,then i would become reserved.

the normal friendship u had with your EX was no diffrend from what your having with him now,thesame friendship and its no diffrent from your present guy which u claimed to be your inomorato

Just have it at the back of your mind that the guy u said was your EX was only your friend and the one u call your present is also your friend too and soon will be your inamorato and u would be his Leman or let me say your crony,but for now he is your FRIEND, Plain truth,

Misquote you? really please go back and read your post so if I was Being Intimate with my bf you'll point that out as a difference right? phewwwww, so sex changes everything from abnormal to normal relationship? okay here we go my bf can kiss and caress me something no other guy has the right to do I bet by your standards this is a difference right? the differences is simple one is my ex and the other is my bf the feelings I have for my bf isn't the same with what I have for any other guy Please go and check the meaning of bf and friend in your dictionary then you'll know the difference between them 

@chichi jackpot shey its my twin brother you'll send? berra call me before I loose my temper and report you to the village elders 

Natasha,,:

Misquote you? really please go back and read your post so if I was Being Intimate with my bf you'll point that out as a difference right? phewwwww, so sex changes everything from abnormal to normal relationship? okay here we go my bf can kiss and caress me something no other guy has the right to do I bet by your standards this is a difference right? the differences is simple one is my ex and the other is my bf the feelings I have for my bf isn't the same with what I have for any other guy Please go and check the meaning of bf and friend in your dictionary then you'll know the difference between them 

@chichi jackpot shey its my twin brother you'll send? berra call me before I loose my temper and report you to the village elders 

Natasha,,:

[b]Misquote you? really please go back and read your post so if I was Being Intimate with my bf you'll point that out as a difference right? phewwwww, so sex changes everything from abnormal to normal relationship? okay here we go my bf can kiss and caress me something no other guy has the right to do I bet by your standards this is a difference right? the differences is simple one is my ex and the other is my bf the feelings I have for my bf isn't the same with what I have for any other guy Please go and check the meaning of bf and friend in your dictionary then you'll know the difference between them 

see Natasha,i think am beginning to go rage with the way u talk and if i continue to reply ur post,it might result in a dispute
,i have a kinda poor immunity in terms of ignoring insults,
If thats how u think then no problem

In here we come,catch fun and then leave,if u feel u have brains to assimilate and u know the meaning of boy friend then u should have read the heading and the first comment under the heading, thought you even knew the meaning of EX but i was wronge

what the poster was trying to say wasn't EX-friendship but EX-lover(sexual) i think,

Imagin u telling me to go look-up the meaning of Bf as if ur vocab is quite better,not ur fault,i wish i could see u in person, when the guys where saying okafor's law at first i never new ur case was diffrent because the funny law according to me contradicts ur situation cause urs was nonsextual

Not that nobody here is a sex freak or something, we're just here to catch fun and while away time,, if it comes to studing,i woun't boast but i would tell u ur far bellow my level,u see me here dosen't mean i have nothing doing,but because i'm through with my exams and like we all know ''all work with no dudding makes jack a Bleep up'' thats why am tryna crack my self up so stay outa my way.
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naijalodge:

see Natasha,i think am beginning to go rage with the way u talk and if i continue to reply your post,it might result in a dispute
,i have a kinda poor immunity in terms of ignoring insults,
If thats how u think then no problem

In here we come,catch fun and then leave,if u feel u have brains to assimilate and u know the meaning of boy friend then u should have read the heading and the first comment under the heading, thought you even knew the meaning of EX but i was wronge

what the poster was trying to say wasn't EX-friendship but EX-lover(intimate) i think,

Imagin u telling me to go look-up the meaning of Bf as if your vocab is quite better,not your fault,i wish i could see u in person, when the guys where saying okafor's law at first i never new your case was diffrent because the funny law according to me contradicts your situation cause urs was nonsextual

Not that nobody here is a sex freak or something, we're just here to catch fun and while away time,, if it comes to studing,i woun't boast but i would tell u your far bellow my level,u see me here dosen't mean i have nothing doing,but because i'm through with my exams and like we all know ''all work with no dudding makes jack a bleep up'' thats why am tryna crack my self up so stay outa my way.

Oh please why are you digressing? when you were talking of being intimate and me giving you differences were you referring to the post of the op?  , the poster said your ''EX''  how do you know the poster meant intimate?  phewwwww btw please spare me the trash of if it comes to study i'm below your level blah blah blah why are you digressing? did i say you have nothing doing? so i asked you to look up the meaning of bf so what? you wanted the differences and I told you exactly where you can find it shikina and lastly if that's how you think then no problem   

BTW we don't got beef k

WhyAWhy:

@Naijalodge even a 17 year old girl still understands what relationship is

I don't know where you got that definition of friendship + sex = matured relationship (definitely you're a boy,  not a man!)

then go find Ashewo now, I don't know why some guys think with their third leg 

He even quoted EX-friendship , mschew (with echoes and extra effects).

It doesn't take rocket science to define what EX is!!!

EX means someone you were in a relationship (either you were intimate or not) with and you broke up

lolz why are you vexed? okay me too i'm vexed since everyone is

WhyAWhy:

@Naijalodge even a 17 year old girl still understands what relationship is

I don't know where you got that definition of friendship + sex = matured relationship (definitely you're a boy,  not a man!)

then go find Ashewo now, I don't know why some guys think with their third leg 

He even quoted EX-friendship , mschew (with echoes and extra effects).

It doesn't take rocket science to define what EX is!!!

EX means someone you were in a relationship (either you were intimate or not) with and you broke up

naijalodge:

them what does Okafor's law means my teacher,
Look i once dated a gurl then for almost two years,due to the fact that i was a bibliophile then and i always had that devil may care attitude over sex,she eloped and left me with a wounded heart,untill the woman of my dream came into my life and ever since then things have changed,i now know what to do at the right time,no more bleeping up, and guess what, my new strategy has been working just fine, we've been living like one hell of an unmarried couple,so u girls should stop feigning,it is only a virg!n that can accept a nonsexual relationship,believe you me.

Natasha,,:

Misquote you? really please go back and read your post so if I was Being Intimate with my bf you'll point that out as a difference right? phewwwww, so sex changes everything from abnormal to normal relationship? okay here we go my bf can kiss and caress me something no other guy has the right to do I bet by your standards this is a difference right? the differences is simple one is my ex and the other is my bf the feelings I have for my bf isn't the same with what I have for any other guy Please go and check the meaning of bf and friend in your dictionary then you'll know the difference between them 

@chichi jackpot shey its my twin brother you'll send? berra call me before I loose my temper and report you to the village elders