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Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by being(m): 10:53am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Dont give up just yet... You can make it work. You sound like a Christian.. Trust in God... U married as a virgin- smile about that- that was some victory for you, now fight for your marriage, fight to get your husband out of d chokehold of unreasonableness & gambling. Take your matter to counselors in church or in the family... You said he didn't have vices b4 marriage.. was he gambling then? preshpraiz: |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by atobs4real(m): 10:53am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Who virginity help? Well, maybe it helped u get all your needs and long life. Life is more than virginity 2 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by NuCypher: 10:54am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Your first mistake was thinking that marrying as a virgin, etc was an automatic ticket to having a good life. You lived in delulu land for too long. I'm not even sure you have exited delulu just yet 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by lexzycc: 10:54am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Move out, and you will even regret more |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by TruthsFM: 10:55am On Oct 14, 2023 |
preshpraiz:you Better don’t move your belongings to your parents house. That’s the bad approach here. The best thing is for you to schedule a meeting with his family members and ironed some things about his getting job and other finances in the family. Don’t pack out from your husband house. It’s a wrong advice. Stay in that house and find solutions for him. It’s not easy , God Almighty will make difficult things easy. 1 Like |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by DedanKimathi(m): 10:56am On Oct 14, 2023 |
preshpraiz: Hey lady, I don't believe everything you wrote here. I know women and how far they can lie to gain sympathy. You wanna tell me you're single handedly paying all the bills without your hubby contribution? LIES!! Just say you are not happy to be contributing your quota to the family upkeep. You were expecting your hubby to foot 100% of the family bills, and at the same time measure up with his successful peers. Hehehe. Better deal with it and move on Every family have it's own challenges. After all it's the jet age and equality is here to stay Don't threaten us about going back to your family, you can as well do But believe me it's not the best option and you will definitely regret it 4 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Nonexisting1: 10:56am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Nigga this e-begging format done cast, get the fucck out of here. 1 Like
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Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Zooposki(f): 10:57am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by hosemujica: 10:57am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Move out fast , you married a loser. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by BareFacedLies(m): 10:57am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Life has no standard operating manual, what works for another person may not work for you |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by SmartyPants(m): 10:58am On Oct 14, 2023 |
preshpraiz: Separate from that man immediately. 1 Like |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by linconby: 10:58am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Please intensify in your prayers for him. There is nothing God cannot do and at the same time let his family member aware of the situation on ground |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Zooposki(f): 10:59am On Oct 14, 2023 |
preshpraiz: 3 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by yinkeys(m): 11:00am On Oct 14, 2023 |
preshpraiz:This is why fathers should have a say in who their daughters should get married to Dating game is a lucky game for most You cast the die and it rolled on the wrong side For better or worse, better you live with it. No solid man these days would take you serious because you don born Half past 3, except you’re cool with being side piece Even though you got in naive & probably decent You cannot know men as much as men know themselves Nigeria’s economy will cripple relationships & we will see the rise of polygamy People rush into marriages & give birth without understanding basic economics, family planning, finances etc Hard work doesn’t equate to money For people not in the entertainment industry, High Income skills & Political Network does equate to financial freedom Relationships collapse when a man can’t bear financial burden It is men that usually endure most of the burden How many women in Nigeria can pay school fees & rent It’s sad for some women though, their biological childbearing window is short. 18 - 35 Else it could be termed geriatric pregnancy 36+ No advice for you Love is not enough to keep a home Financial provisioning, physical security & the fear of God should have been vital in your mate selection Go work things with your husband A lot of women abandon ship when times get rough Power, money & status orbiters Good luck 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by PhillipPHD(m): 11:00am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Mrs. Virgin Life is not a dichotomy of Good and Evil, it’s a between the Powerful and the Weak. In the Powerful category there are both good and evil people. In the Weak category, there are both good and evil people. Unfortunately, you’re a good person who has fallen into the Weak category, due to your naivety and clueless. Where on earth is virginity the exchange rate for wealth, happiness or success? Virginity is for self preservation, religious beliefs and prevention of stds, hiv and unwanted pregnancy/abortion. It’s not a ticket to the good life, if you fail to play the game of life correctly. This is the problem with religion, they teach you half truths and you’re mesmerized emotionally, thinking you’re on the right track. If only you thought outside the box of your virginity you’d have known how to vet men properly, so as to get best deal. Heck you’d have used it even as a Unique Selling Proposition to get a high value man. But you allow religion to deceive you to believe that when you marry as a Virgin, all other good things shall be added unto you. I’m sorry about your predicament, but keep praying and keep encouraging your Angel, because leaving the marriage with three kids already is a huge burden. You might end up as a prostittute - or you think those into prostitutionn planned it that way? Na condition wey make crayfish bend. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Giftexx: 11:00am On Oct 14, 2023 |
You're a virtuous woman. don't let anything change.. 2 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by adeniyilamlek(m): 11:03am On Oct 14, 2023 |
JOACHINpedro:elder has arrived 4 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by BarrElChapo(m): 11:05am On Oct 14, 2023 |
preshpraiz: After three kids you're still telling us that your married as a Virgin 🤔 and that you married for love, please drop that mentality first cos it's stale. The effects of Covid-19 in terms of people not being motivated is being felt worldwide, it's not as if it's an excuse for your husband but so you know what's he's going through is not isolated. Personally I think you should talk to him, talk not a shouting fit, the rent is due and bills are piling up, what's his plans ? Sometimes separation can be a jolt for some persons, sometimes not but yeah, If you can move to your parents for some time that won't be a bad idea, so as not to resent him and then affect your mental health too. 2 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Styluss: 11:06am On Oct 14, 2023 |
werey ![]() madone: |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Kemadealadire(f): 11:07am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Nwodosis:Undiluted love since 2020, if you were the one in her shoes, I am sure you won't give yourself this advice, talk is cheap. The least the man should have done is get something to earn from while he still continues to apply to the multinationals. He hasn't been earning since 2020 with a family and 3children, women are naturally not providers, they are to assist and care. 8 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by delishpot: 11:08am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Virgin no mean much to an unserious man. Pkele. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by olabrinks(f): 11:08am On Oct 14, 2023 |
lexzycc:sometimes separation is needed. It’s the wake up call that some men need. Doing the same thing and expecting different results is madness. Men react more to actions than nagging. Op please try to separate and go back to your parents. It doesn’t mean you’re divorcing but you need space. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by AnietiePictures: 11:08am On Oct 14, 2023 |
In 2023 at least from sometimes june or let's be more precise, this October, it is technically not possible to register in nairaland same day and start replying post let alone to create a new thread, how you bypass this checks should be a case study on its own. To your post, its difficult to control human, keep persuading and hope for the best. One thing I notice is if someone loses the seal, its difficult to get back on track again, there is always a spirit to everything, wishing you the best. preshpraiz: |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by dododawa1: 11:09am On Oct 14, 2023 |
man....he doesn't drink nor smoke, gentle and soft spoken. Fear them 2 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by bonnyhope: 11:09am On Oct 14, 2023 |
preshpraiz: Assuming this is a true story 1. Kudos for keeping yourself and married as a virgin. It is a treasure that is scarce among many in this generation. 2. Pls don't compare yourself with your social media friends, it is misleading 3. Your hubby needs to stop gambling, it is a bad habit 4. He has to find his feet again in earning money to keep the family going and I pray for him to secure a job soon. 5. Lastly, this is a stage your loyalty will be tested. Be calm, things will surely get better 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by MrSly(m): 11:10am On Oct 14, 2023 |
sonofthunder: The emboldened is very unnecessary. Without being told you should understand the image she was trying to paint, a decent African upbringing which pen ultimately is expected to result in a success but it is now contrary to her expectations. You should always address issues and not attack. 4 Likes |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by TVTM2023: 11:11am On Oct 14, 2023 |
So sorry about it .sorry! The situation everywhere had made things so complicated ,am sure that is why he wants to go for multinationals! But this is no justification for his refusal to get a job . Its three kids for Gods sake and that is not good at all! May God have mercy on us all! Have u found out how much they pay multinationals? He may be looking for a big pay and not settling for less that is why . He wants to get something that will satisfy and take care of your needs . Be patient and pray for him! Don't leave him alone now and don't let your heart change,time will pass and things will change ! What if you leave him now and one day after you leave he gets a big job and he will ne like where were u in his trying times? If this is not the first time that he is out of job then its no problem. But if this is the third time,then just know its time to pray oo. Pour out that frustration on prayer my sister . I am telling you .God will open door for him and deal with him and provide something better for him But if you don't love him again ,it will be sad .love is tested during rough times! |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Trustmea: 11:11am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Mindlog:The above highlights weak me hahaha |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by dododawa1: 11:11am On Oct 14, 2023 |
man....he doesn't drink nor smoke, gentle and soft spoken. Fear them But One side storyline Fear d GENDER (F) most. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by FreeStuffsNG: 11:14am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth:It's a big gamble that may boomerang. She should involve his family and those he respects then give him time to regain his lost self esteem. That's a good man who is learning how life's knocks on the head can wreck you IF you allow it. He can still be redeemed and she'll be happy someday when she gets her angel back. |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by IgOga(m): 11:14am On Oct 14, 2023 |
![]() 1. If by I married a virgin and now see how my life turned out you mean if you had not married a virgin you will not have money problems.....that is an illusion. Be gratfeful for your upbringing and morals....and don't loose your person cos of your husband or anyother person. 2. Sit down with your husband and let him know how you feel. Tell him you are considering moving to your parents for child support. Your husband may have to take up some responsibilities at home....such as cooking, taking care of the children, taking and collection them to/from school, cleaning the house. He would have to make himself useful. 3. The "I can only work with multinational organization" goal is a mask. Ask him what is the real deal? Also ask him how he hopes to fulfil his role as the husband. 4. You may also need to talk about seeking counsel from a couple you both respect. All in all you must communicate your feelings with your husband.....and never compare your life with others.....if you hear what they are going through you will thank God for your life |
Re: Married As A Virgin, Married For Love Yet..... by Watinhapen(m): 11:14am On Oct 14, 2023 |
Madam I see some small small boys in this forum abusing you about your virginity and some even saying you don’t love your husband. Just ignore them. Because this forum is anonymous there are a lot of small boys and girls here that don’t know anything about marriage or life. Now back to your issue. Most men get lazy when they see that their wife is hard working and takes care of most bills in the house. Your first mistake was to show your husband that you’re capable of taking care of the home. Your husband is a typical lazy man that hold on to the ‘no good job’ statement to remain lazy. What you should do now is to leave that house and go to your parent’s house. Leave him alone let him fend for himself. Tell him that when he gets a job you and the kids will return to him. He should be a man and take care of his responsibilities. I wonder how some men comfortably stay idle without doing anything while their wives take care of the home. A man like that shouldn’t be called a man. 7 Likes |
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