spiralwedge:
That’s too much controlling, not acceptable.
He is either a SE man or a religious hypocrite.

How is he controlling? nothing about religion was said in the post, neither was his tribe. Don't start saying what you don't know.

bukatyne:
I read some posts on NL and I am flabbergasted at the thought process behind it.

I want to believe most of them are catching cruise because....

Na wa!

They are not. That is their thought process.
The anonymity brings out their true nature. Goodluck to Nigerian women!

Testiebobo:
It is true that some elderly couples are more concerned about their partners even than the younger ones.
" I dont want to see you on social media! But why? Dont you know that when you are on social media you get more exposed to the world, and your privacy might be tampered with by the public. But you can only join whatsapp, so that i can get in touch with you whenever i am absent from home." hmm i laugh in spanish!

You laughed in Spanish… At who?

This is your dad protecting his relationship with his wife the best way he can. If it's working for both of them and they have peace, it's fine. I think you should concentrate on your own relationship though

Sonnobax15:

Some will come here and say what the man did was wrong but every sensible man knows that the demerits of a married woman being on social media platforms exceeds it's merits by far...


Abi no be the same social media wey I take disguise just to ask my most trusted banny if she get BF...But to my greatest surprise,the kind heart break wey the NO wey she take reply me give me still get foot prints for my kidney till today..

Or the man could be on social media using it to cheat and he doesn't want his wife to know,the woman is super dumb if she says yes

iykofias:
Good for both of them.
Before she opens OnlyFans

Onlyfans isn't social media

Nwaokunkpara:
What is a married woman looking for on social media platforms

What is a married man looking for on social media?

Samantha124:
Funny enough, I've never dated any guy from my tribe or Xhosa guys.

18 years? You must be a grandfather by now...😂😂😂

Samantha, really? That's interesting... So, where's the dude from originally in SA? Most people tend to gravitate towards their own linguistic and cultural kind when choosing a partner of the opposite sex before looking out to other cultures though.

I know of two successful marriages involving a Nigerian multimillionaire of Yoruba descent by the name of Chief Alex Akinyele who was married to a beautiful South Africa woman for many years till she passed on. She had children for him and lived in Nigeria but traveled regularly to SA. He met and fell in love with her when she came to a Nigerian University during the apartheid years back in the late 1960s to study on scholarship. Many South Africans schooled in Nigeria (including the former SA President Thabo Mbeki) during that era on Nigerian or UN scholarships.

Second, recently too the successful Nigerian architect turned Pastor by the name Pastor Odukoya lost his South-African wife (Nomthi Odukoya) to cancer. He lost his first wife Bimbo to a horrendous plane crash in 2005, but got remarried to Nomthi few years later.

Chief Alex Akinyele and Pastor Odukoya were both Nigerians from the major Yoruba ethnic group. So, yeah real love has NO limits when put to the test in cross-cultural marriages.

Grrrr.... Lol. A grandf.... what? Just cos I've been here for 18 years doesn't make me one yet. It would be surreal when I become one. I know a Diaspora member here who was just 13 in 2007 when she joined NL but is now 29 and still a member as of 2023.

Sonnobax15:

Some will come here and say what the man did was wrong but every sensible man knows that the demerits of a married woman being on social media platforms exceeds it's merits by far...


Abi no be the same social media wey I take disguise just to ask my most trusted banny if she get BF...But to my greatest surprise,the kind heart break wey the NO wey she take reply me give me still get foot prints for my kidney till today..

this one weak me

pocohantas:
They are not. That is their thought process.
The anonymity brings out their true nature. Goodluck to Nigerian women!

You will know some of the men on here are the lowest of the low.

The dregs that only few of their kind will have something to do with.

Why am I not surprised?

This is the reality most of y'all grew up with and come to be projecting it on women here.

Testiebobo:
It is true that some elderly couples are more concerned about their partners even than the younger ones. " I dont want to see you on social media! But why? Dont you know that when you are on social media you get more exposed to the world, and your privacy might be tampered with by the public. But you can only join whatsapp, so that i can get in touch with you whenever i am absent from home." hmm i laugh in spanish!

Concern ke? More like they control their partners by limiting their exposure to the world and wisdom. By keeping her off social-media, he can better ensure she remains close-minded and gullible for as long as possible. I bet that even if a library opened next door to your house, your dad would equally warn her not to read any books that are not first screened by him.

oluwaseyi0:
You will be surprised same man is probably on social media chasing young girls

Na so! Na reason why many religious women believe it is evil for them to visit night clubs and hotels while their husbands are known to frequent customers at many of the joints around. It is all about controlling the woman.

Kimcutie:
He doesn't want her to get exposed to all this small bois

Because she is an imbe-cile who unlike himself can be easily influenced, abi?

Nijagogetsense:
In a saner clime, one should be careful to expose his or her family's (pics) on social media. The street is not smiling and it's cold out there...

Which saner clime una dey talk of? A man dare not even mention such stupid nonsense to his spouse in a sane clime.

Flamemignon1:

Or the man could be on social media using it to cheat and he doesn't want his wife to know,the woman is super dumb if she says yes

These are just excuses based on assumptions, if a man wants to cheat, he will cheat, it doesn't matter if his wife is on social media or not. He gave his reasons why he doesn't want her on social media, obey that and don't give any presuppositions.
Besides if you know the kind of man you married, you go know if he's liable to cheat or not, the signs will be there, except if you choose to ignore.

Magnoliaa:


You will know some of the men on here are the lowest of the low.

The dregs that only few of their kind will have something to do with.

The "good" women who are lucky to be picked by them, knowing the family values they promote can have them. I am not jealous one bit.

He's a Sotho from Free State province, but his father is originally from Lesotho.

He and his family came to Limpopo when he was still a teenager for work purposes... I have no issues with guys from my tribe, I just never got a chance to date one before... Sometimes I wish I did, in that way, I wouldn't have to move too far away from my family because I really can't stay away from them for too long... I get home sick... Even now I'm at home, I traveled yesterday because I really missed my parents and cats.

But I'm sure your first child is an adult now...

Swiftgrp:

Samantha, really? That's interesting... So, where's the dude from originally in SA? Most people tend to gravitate towards their own linguistic and cultural kind when choosing a partner of the opposite sex before looking out to other cultures though.

I know of two successful marriages involving a Nigerian multimillionaire of Yoruba descent by the name of Chief Alex Akinyele who was married to a beautiful South Africa woman for many years till she passed on. She had children for him and lived in Nigeria but traveled regularly to SA. He met and fell in love with her when she came to a Nigerian University during the apartheid years back in the late 1960s to study on scholarship. Many South Africans schooled in Nigeria (including the former SA President Thabo Mbeki) during that era on Nigerian or UN scholarships.

Second, recently too the successful Nigerian architect turned Pastor by the name Pastor Odukoya lost his South-African wife (Nomthi Odukoya) to cancer. He lost his first wife Bimbo to a horrendous plane crash in 2005, but got remarried to Nomthi few years later.

Chief Alex Akinyele and Pastor Odukoya were both Nigerians from the major Yoruba ethnic group. So, yeah real love has NO limits when put to the test in cross-cultural marriages.

Grrrr.... Lol. A grandf.... what? Just cos I've been here for 18 years doesn't make me one yet. It would be a surreal when I become one. I know a Diaspora member here who was just 13 in 2007 when she joined NL but is now 29 and still a member as of 2023.

Samantha124:
How will you catch me?

And am I not supposed to chat with other people?

I'm very smart. It comes naturally.
Not that you can't, but not like constantly that it becomes something. Who will u be chatting with all the time?? Some hollow brain man asking u when he can buy u drinks and telling u its nothing?. Making u laugh?

Smart how when I'll be using a different phone you know nothing about?

So according to you, I should delete my nairaland account right now simply because I've got a man and I shouldn't be chatting with you guys here?

YourGFsnatcher:


I'm very smart. It comes naturally.
Not that you can't, but not like constantly that it becomes something. Who will u be chatting with all the time?? Some hollow brain man asking u when he can buy u drinks and telling u its nothing?. Making u laugh?

bukatyne:
I read some posts on NL and I am flabbergasted at the thought process behind it.

I want to believe most of them are catching cruise because....

Na wa!

Wayward woman. Who gave you permission to post here?i am reporting you to your husband so he can seize your phone. Wasted generation of irresponsible women. No wonder all of your are raising shoulder and divorcing. You are all learning bad thing from social media. Allowing the frustrated evening newspapers to mislead you from the love and guidance of your husbands.

GreatAchiever1:


These are just excuses based on assumptions, if a man wants to cheat, he will cheat, it doesn't matter if his wife is on social media or not. He gave his reasons why he doesn't want her on social media, obey that and don't give any presuppositions.
Besides if you know the kind of man you married, you go know if he's liable to cheat or not, the signs will be there, except if you choose to ignore.

Social media or not,If a woman also wants to cheat,she will cheat so it doesn't make sense for either one of them to keep one on or off the grid, it's just dumbass thinking at this point
Funny you are talking about presuppositions yet you are the one making assumptions she will cheat because she's on social media
Also,you do realize people change right? The person who you thought your spouse was when dating might be completely different when you are married

Samantha124:
Smart how when I'll be using a different phone you know nothing about?

So according to you, I should delete my nairaland account right now simply because I've got a man and I shouldn't be chatting with you guys here?

I'm a tech guy. You can't have another device and account and I won't know.

You won't delete your nairaland account because people do bad things here apart from talking rubbish .

But not real social media where small boys will have the opportunity to make you blush and think of your younger days just because they want to taste you... taste what I'm eating

There are a lot of things women do behind their men's back and they never find out, so don't think for a second that you're smarter than a woman just because you're a tech guy... I will play you with that technology of yours like a puppet... will that technology help you find where the phone is? When it's only a woman who knows all the corners of the house?

But I do receive email requests... So are you saying I should delete nairaland?

YourGFsnatcher:


I'm a tech guy. You can't have another device and account and I won't know.

You won't delete your nairaland account because people do bad things here apart from talking rubbish .

But not real social media where small boys will have the opportunity to make you blush and think of your younger days just because they want to taste you... taste what I'm eating

Flamemignon1:

Social media or not,If a woman also wants to cheat,she will cheat so it doesn't make sense for either one of them to keep one on or off the grid, it's just dumbass thinking at this point
Funny you are talking about presuppositions yet you are the one making assumptions she will cheat because she's on social media
Also,you do realize people change right? The person who you thought your spouse was when dating might be completely different when you are married

I mentioned cheating because you mentioned cheating, cheating was never included in why he wanted her not to join social media, it reasons best known to him, it was never stated. Which means it's you adding to the text.
And for people changing after getting married, the signs will be there, except ignorant due to being engrossed in the emotional feelings.

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Testiebobo:
It is true that some elderly couples are more concerned about their partners even than the younger ones.
" I dont want to see you on social media! But why? Dont you know that when you are on social media you get more exposed to the world, and your privacy might be tampered with by the public. But you can only join whatsapp, so that i can get in touch with you whenever i am absent from home." hmm i laugh in spanish!

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Social media is like a loaded gun in the hands of amateurs.

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MS247:



That's just a man protecting his family the best way he can

There is one foolish Ibo Boy here on Nairaland who copied my Facebook page from my profile, went to search for my mum and started trolling here on Nairaland

Funny enough both my Parents are here on Nairaland and see his foolishness and we all laugh about it


In his foolishness he thinks he can troll a Retired Police Officer in her 70s🤣🤣




.

I know you are not a complete man until you mentioned Igbo. I hope your Dad is not the one that goes by FREESTUFF

It can never be possible. She can use app locker

Samantha124:
There are a lot of things women do behind their men's back and they never find out, so don't think for a second that you're smarter than a woman just because you're a tech guy... I will play you with that technology of yours like a puppet... will that technology help you find where the phone is? When it's only a woman who knows all the corners of the house?

But I do receive email requests... So are you saying I should delete nairaland?

Okay let me go deeper. Yes women are smart, they think they are smart. But as long as we are close and we are in the same space, we get connected. I will feel you emotionally, psychologically and physically. I'm a very sensitive and clever man, when you are doing something wrong I will know. 80% of the girls I broke up with I told them they are doing something wrong before I caught them. I just feel your energy and I'll know when you are doing something wrong.

Nairlanders will always send you email. But nairaland has a very vague profile. When someone sends you am email you can't even browse through their profile and see how they actually look, live, their energy, connections etc... so it's very difficult to be carried away by an email from someone u can't go further in ur investigation. In contrast, if I send you a friend request on fb, u can check my profile, u can see me in a jet, in dubai, u can see the car I drive, u can see the kind of house I live in, you can see my activities, you can see the calibre of weddings I attend, you can see if I'm spiritual or worldly, you can see if I have six packs or if I'm cute cos u ll see many pics of me, you can have a lot of details about me. And if you are impressed by my profile, you will be tempted to proceed and "see where this leads" because you have see things that impress you.

And today, most women are easily carried away by material things and social media. They want to do the things they see on social media, they want to have a spark, fairytale, shuga relationship, they want to ball in daba, they want to buy human hair. There's no morality anymore and how they get these things is no longer important. That's why we have a lot of paternity fraud and extra marital activities? What do u think led to increase in extra marital affairs? Social media. Once small boy can tell you all the sweet things u want to hear because he has access to you and yoi have access to a lot of males... so u see

Suddenly, men now know what women do or can do. Lol

See them running their mouths. A grown woman will now suddenly be 'cheating' on her husband or learning/copying bad behavior, after years of committed marriage. These unmarried boys will not kill us.

When una marry, collect una wife phone. Gen Z people, cunny man die, cunny man bury am. Una dit unasef.

As for the topic, Pops should have done better by guiding her through some potential threats on the social media. Everyone should have an idea of how it runs, no matter how little, than complete abandonment. This one is not what you don't know, can't kill you. What you don't know, can kill you.

As my old mama dey take WhatsApp video call me now, e no good? You guys should take a chill pill because that 100% submission you seek, you will never find it! Each decade widens people's eyes and things will never remain the same.

Three paragraphs on a Saturday evening? Come on comrade, have mercy on me...

Immediately a read the first sentence, I started getting filled with regrets..😂😂😂

It seems like you're spiritually gifted to be feeling your partners emotionally and psychologically, or perhaps they deliberately gave you signs just so you can find out what they're up to and break things off with them.

I'm not easily moved by material things and ever since I heard about some of the things these ladies do in Dubai, I can't help but be disgusted by that name... Now whenever we hear a young and fine looking lady saying she's going to Dubai, we're already suspecting her of doing unimaginable things there.

If I was a millionaire, I don't think I'd visit that city, even if I do, it'd be after some years because right now I'm still traumatized by the things I heard... The way some ladies are willing to do anything for money, it's scary.

YourGFsnatcher:

Okay let me go deeper. Yes women are smart, they think they are smart. But as long as we are close and we are in the same space, we get connected. I will feel you emotionally, psychologically and physically. I'm a very sensitive and clever man, when you are doing something wrong I will know. 80% of the girls I broke up with I told them they are doing something wrong before I caught them. I just feel your energy and I'll know when you are doing something wrong.

Nairlanders will always send you email. But nairaland has a very vague profile. When someone sends you am email you can't even browse through their profile and see how they actually look, live, their energy, connections etc... so it's very difficult to be carried away by an email from someone u can't go further in ur investigation. In contrast, if I send you a friend request on fb, u can check my profile, u can see me in a jet, in dubai, u can see the car I drive, u can see the kind of house I live in, you can see my activities, you can see the calibre of weddings I attend, you can see if I'm spiritual or worldly, you can see if I have six packs or if I'm cute cos u ll see many pics of me, you can have a lot of details about me. And if you are impressed by my profile, you will be tempted to proceed and "see where this leads" because you have see things that impress you.

And today, most women are easily carried away by material things and social media. They want to do the things they see on social media, they want to have a spark, fairytale, shuga relationship, they want to ball in daba, they want to buy human hair. There's no morality anymore and how they get these things is no longer important. That's why we have a lot of paternity fraud and extra marital activities? What do u think led to increase in extra marital affairs? Social media. Once small boy can tell you all the sweet things u want to hear because he has access to you and yoi have access to a lot of males... so u see