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Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by alobright17(m): 6:34pm On Nov 05, 2023
Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

See as you shamelessly mentioned 15k for a whole 30 days for more than 1 person to feed on .even if one person is eating once a day 15k won't be enough .abeg getat
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Ade3131: 6:41pm On Nov 05, 2023
LadyG05:



You must be a wicked man to think that 15k for 2 kids is sufficient a month. Even if you stock the house with foodstuffs, there is no where 50k will be sufficient.


You expect this woman to feed each child with #250 daily ( morning, afternoon and night)

You said one of the children is not yours so her mom should fend for her.


If you continue in this wickedness, Go.d will send help to them but your end will be miserable.

Haba... E never reach the level of that but in ur last sentence... In all of these, nobody has bothered to know how much he earns and what percentage of his earnings would go into footing all those bills and if there's anything left for himself to survive on.

Men's world is nothing but a mirage. Everyone hull blame at him without knowing how he make ends meet. Crazy world we live in.

Btw... What's the woman's contribution to their children's upkeep? Or isn't she supposed to contribute a fraction of the upkeep? He wants to take care of rent, house bills and school fees, and still manage to drop 15k. Yes, it's nowhere near average for a child's weekly upkeep but cut the guy some slags and let's know how much madam would contribute in all of this. Remember, house rent, bills, and school fees are off the plate. Wetin madam wan contribute
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by alphaNomega: 6:49pm On Nov 05, 2023
Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

you see why I say do not marry a poor woman? see how money is causing problem in your house?if your wife had money, would you have come here to complain?
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by tsdarkside(m): 6:51pm On Nov 05, 2023
if you cant afford woman and children,then better you careful were you stick your dicck....

women are not forcin you to fvck them....
or did she hold a gun on your head and forced you to put your dicck in her....??
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by wizod(m): 7:31pm On Nov 05, 2023
Skyview01:


Why would he marry and have kids with no good income?

Can you help me explain?
so one can't marry because he's not rich? Every man should marry no matter your income but plan well when it comes to child bearing
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Chemlite: 7:34pm On Nov 05, 2023
Samcent:
15k for which economy? Abi nobi Nigeria you dey?
You ask am how much be im income?
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by BolaAThubv(m): 7:35pm On Nov 05, 2023
Skyview01:


Who got her pregnant in the first place?
She signed up for it. It wasn't an arbitrary event. It was a partnership
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Osanoghodua1: 8:06pm On Nov 05, 2023
15k? You're a very irresponsible father if you're telling the truth.
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by nanauju(f): 8:57pm On Nov 05, 2023
Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

15k is small for your 2k even if you pay for rent and fees.

Please see how you can increase that amount. Economy maddd gan
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by chronique(m): 9:18pm On Nov 05, 2023
Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

15k for what exactly? Is it for bread, is it for beans, is it for garri? 15k for what exactly? Does she work? If she doesn't, how will she cope? Or you want her to join hookup gang to be able to feed the kids? Tell us what exactly the 15k is for.
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Blackdisciple(m): 9:19pm On Nov 05, 2023
Hmmm wahala everywhere I thought na only Tinubu they give us wahala...

All this marriage wahala go just dey scare we single dudes but God give us wisdom and understand to deal with every situation that comes our way... cry cry cry
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by funkemary(f): 9:36pm On Nov 05, 2023
May God amend and fix your home, may He restore the first love you both had fir one another and give you a happy home.
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Floramie(f): 9:43pm On Nov 05, 2023
Handsomejok:



Yes for 3 children aside from the 15k I will also be paying their rent, school fees for 2 children one is my stepdaughter plus Nepa bills I don't think that 15k is small



On a norm
you're meant to be responsible for the above stated and more.

Now to your 15k meaning #7500 for a child in a whole month. That's not presentable at all
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Olumaeme: 9:53pm On Nov 05, 2023
Edusouls:
thier mother is a human being and an adult so she should do the duty, by the way feminism says that men and women are equal so she should carry on the duty, as I told u the days of men toiling and slaving till death for women and their children are over, times has changed drastically men don try and we done tire for endless women and children wahala on top of only our head

You get it all wrong.

When you give birth, you are taking responsibility of bringing a child to the world, and most importantly, they did not ask to be born.

Also, the mother have responsibility to the child also.

You see, feminine or no feminism does not have anything to do with the child because they do not understand this until they get to the world.

You created them and hence will have to do what you need to do to take care of them.

Look, even when a child grows up, you still have the responsibility to take care of them because, when you give birth, there I a a possibility that they may not be rich, depending on how life later goes, and don't forget they did not ask to be born.
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Ouchbabe(f): 9:56pm On Nov 05, 2023
Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

Let's call a spade a spade. 15k per month?This is just wickedness of the highest order. You are dodging your responsibilities now. Don't worry, karma is waiting for you at old age. This woman and her children will show you shege in the future
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Offpointng: 10:13pm On Nov 05, 2023
kevwemike:
in my family our children don't sleep outside without their father's knowledge , dey will get sick.

Omo lucky you man. how are you then dealing with her threat?
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by kevwemike: 10:30pm On Nov 05, 2023
Offpointng:


Omo lucky you man. how are you then dealing with her threat?
well her kind of person is abusive, she value her pastor than me, her pastor is daddy why me husband is a useless man. How can u be calling the man that is providing all ur needs a useless man? I need to save my life to be able to save the life of my children, Even to my children she is very abusive to them, if I ask my children do u want ur mother to come back to the house they we say no oooooo she should not come here ooo, is as bad as that. To ur question some times I have to stay out late b4 coming in which I wasn't used to but I ask myself how long will I continue to do this, but instead of me to kill someone's daughter I just have to cross my mind to let her go bços she will tell me that she still dey hot and beautiful, but now she is beginning to come back, now she will go and meet my boys in school telling them to pray for her so that daddy can allow her to come back home.
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Offpointng: 10:34pm On Nov 05, 2023
kevwemike:
well her kind of person is abusive, she value her pastor than me, her pastor is daddy why me husband is a useless man. How can u be calling the man that is providing all ur needs a useless man? I need to save my life to be able to save the life of my children, Even to my children she is very abusive to them, if I ask my children do u want ur mother to come back to the house they we say no oooooo she should not come here ooo, is as bad as that.

This is really heartbreaking. King I hope you recover as quickly as you can and may such never come ur way anymore.
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Nobody: 10:36pm On Nov 05, 2023
wizod:
so one can't marry because he's not rich? Every man should marry no matter your income but plan well when it comes to child bearing

Not rich but not broke?
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by kevwemike: 10:41pm On Nov 05, 2023
Offpointng:


This is really heartbreaking. King I hope you recover as quickly as you can and may such never come ur way anymore.
amen and may u never meet a bad woman in ur life bcuz is like a cancer
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Melagros(m): 11:00pm On Nov 05, 2023
ahnie:
What in the hell is wrong with you?why forcing him staying in a marriage he's fed up with?
Divorcing his wife because of DREAM who doesn't have night mare? This writeup/excuse is so daft and ridiculous
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Melagros(m): 11:03pm On Nov 05, 2023
falcon01:
don't mind Nigerians. It's either she is the problem or he is the problem, either way he's fed up of the marriage.
Oga nothing is wrong with Nigerians. Did you understand the point at all...he said because of dreams, for goodness sake, who doesn't have night-mare?
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Melagros(m): 11:04pm On Nov 05, 2023
Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?
You divorced your wife because of night-mare, your topic is damned daft and ridiculous
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Offpointng: 11:08pm On Nov 05, 2023
kevwemike:
amen and may u never meet a bad woman in ur life bcuz is like a cancer

Broo Marriage no dey part of my life's plan like this. but I'll say an Amen incase there'd be a future need

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Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by odinga1of: 11:38pm On Nov 05, 2023
Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

Oga you are the problem, bastard and wizard.

Not your 1year old daughter.
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by MyAmericandream(f): 12:49am On Nov 06, 2023
Handsomejok:



For my children upkeep

15k for what? Is this figure a typo?
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by jaephoenix(m): 12:54am On Nov 06, 2023
Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?
Did you also divorce comma and full stop? angry
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by HIbreed(m): 2:15am On Nov 06, 2023
Handsomejok:



Yes for 3 children aside from the 15k I will also be paying their rent, school fees for 2 children one is my stepdaughter plus Nepa bills I don't think that 15k is small


I don't want to tell you anything, but increase the money by 400 percent first.
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by HIbreed(m): 2:16am On Nov 06, 2023
LadyG05:



You must be a wicked man to think that 15k for 2 kids is sufficient a month. Even if you stock the house with foodstuffs, there is no where 50k will be sufficient.


You expect this woman to feed each child with #250 daily ( morning, afternoon and night)

You said one of the children is not yours so her mom should fend for her.


If you continue in this wickedness, Go.d will send help to them but your end will be miserable.
Supported!
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by frozen70(f): 2:23am On Nov 06, 2023
Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

You did well, but try and make sure you pay the children school fees directly to the school and keep the receipt

But I don't know how long you will intend to keep paying that rent before they will be kicked out

I think you should just let the family know that you are done with their daughter, it's necessary

Pay a year rent for their accommodations and inform her and the landlord that after the one year rent that you will not be able to renew the rent

By this she will start making plans for alternative accommodation if she can't really afford the current one

These days, marriage is no longer what it use to be

If you don't find peace, just walk away peacefully
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by ahnie: 2:39am On Nov 06, 2023
He's delusional,accusing his 1 year old baby as a witch was another stupidity he took to another level.
So it's best if he separate himself from the innocent woman
Melagros:

Divorcing his wife because of DREAM who doesn't have night mare? This writeup/excuse is so daft and ridiculous
Re: I Had Put An End To My Marriage by Obiorahpcfg: 5:08am On Nov 06, 2023
The worst mistake of your life and you will live to regret it. I know of a similar case, where after so many years, a close relation to the husband confessed of manipulatively using an innocent woman's face to attack her husband in the dream. Or don't u know such things happen? Abeg check ur own immediate family members who may not like your wife and leave d poor woman alone.

N15k per month me? In this present economy? You are not serious!!! Shuuum.

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