what happens down the line if you or her catch feelings for another person? Also this brother sister talk is while you guys are still getting down regularly?
lets see what happens when the baby is born and the dynamics of the relationship changes

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

No respect without love. Don't decieve yourself.

silvoclaira:


Peace be upon you and your new family. With time you and your baby mama to be will be fine.

Just treat eachother kindly and with trust.

Lest I forget, SMA baby food is now 14k Naira plus.

pap is cheap

Respect before love.

With time the love will set In, you see reason why I advice people to read and know who their partner is texting , some people here will be in a relationship not knowing their partner is in another relationship.

Most girls after dating multiple guys and having multiple abortions then they will look for the MR nice guy who will settle with them and love her for who she is and forgetting her past.

Omo! Me I go judge you with your past oooo.
You can't have multiple body counts and then expect to settle with an innocent man like me.. taah it can never be me. Walai.

Men read your partner's messages make she no pin unwanted pregnancy for your head ooo..


Check my number from my signature I'll teach you how to read your patner WhatsApp messages directly on your phone.

Hold your 1k before we start sha....

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

Dejavu.. It looks like you havent learned from previous relationship..ie. Waiting in vain for your love journey/marriage. Good luck waiting

silvoclaira:


Peace be upon you and your new family. With time you and your baby mama to be will be fine.

Just treat eachother kindly and with trust.

Lest I forget, SMA baby food is now 14k Naira plus.

pap is cheap..there is always alternative to everything in life

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

This is the best way to go. Respect before love. With time love will enter

Respect is enough... Love is imaginative but with respect, love shows .

The earlier the better....forget all these respect stuff cos one day respect gonna fail....
If you guys don't love yourselves, then you have no business being together!

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

I do not know how kindly I can put it, but it looks like u have mental issues. You have to really think about yourself.
First sign is that you wifed a whoring partner. Another is that u claim your present partner isn’t expecting anything from u and that you guys are leaving together. You are not yet living in reality. In a few months this your house built on delusion will come crashing down. Then u will realize you have found for yourself another complication. You will know that your life with this your new partner is so intertwined that you can’t go on expecting nothing from each other.
She is carrying a part of you. Your DNA has somehow forever mixed with hers.
I pray Hod help u to find good knowledge for your life

It's just baffling how people just love complications.
Love is not enough in marriage, but it is a necessary ingredient.

Next time, no one will comment, when you return with another epistle of how u think your partner is attached to another person

If she born boy, na that time you go see her true colour

Learn!!

Sometimes when love finally comes to you, you still doubt it, maybe your not seeing the real picture... My brother when there is respect it is love.

how can u have intercourse and a baby with someone and take them as ur younger sister?

u need to define ur relationships properly so u don't confuse urself and ur partner The peace is only temporary she will not play the fool or younger sister babymama forever.

You have the wrong concept of love.

Or you mean you don't fancy her? She's not beautiful or up to your expectations?

The true reality may be the coming child may not be yours. Knowledge of ovulation? A woman can have sex with diff men within hours. So do not jump yet.

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

Are you guys hav sex?
If not... I think you guys needs to talk..
Make a decision that will work for both of you and your baby

CoronaVirusPro:
Divorce!

You're not a bright fellow. Do better.

But if she doesn't love you and vice verca, how did you guys get intimate? Are you sure the lady in question doesn't love you?

WhisperedNoise:
You're not a bright fellow. Do better.

Keep exposing how dull you are!

Na so life be...


..... With time, fondness can develop
into love👍

What kind of heading is this

Even friends respect enemies

CoronaVirusPro:


Keep exposing how dull you are!

Cry very well.

Y Una no love each other?

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

you made a lot of mistake in the past, but I won't dwell on that seeing as past is past. This is what I 💯 would do, if by some bizarre chance I were in your situation.

1. Conduct a DNA test to ascertain I'm the father of the child
2. If the above is a positive result, I will care for her and my baby just as i would if she were a wife, but we absolutely ain't getting married. Bear in mind, the love you say ain't there will grow to be there. Men love respect and peace, and will come to love a woman who can provide those two things. With years of good knacking the love will be there to some extent, both ways. However, marriage is a big deal for me, and I am only getting married once in this lifetime.

You have been put in a family way because you probably thought you have been shooting blanks .... I understand too much peace could be deceptive, especially to men and their imagination..but I would advise you to enjoy the peace ... there's no need looking for trouble when you have peace... Because some people just one trouble would break everything to a point of no turning back... If she respect you, enjoy the respect and have your peace .....Love can fade away in micro seconds with one yeye argument that have no value..

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

With time love will find its way into your hearts , you couldn't love her immediately because of your past experience and the pain in your heart. When i met my wife some 13 years back i actually didn't love her and i made it clear to her that i like her but i don't love her, probably due to my past experience, with time i started loving her, now we have 4 kids and i love her with all my heart, i respect and would marry her again in my next life if i see her. Just pray over it and ease yourself , moreover don't look at the age difference , learn to trust and tolerate her to an extent that is comfortable to you.

I wish you all the best .

CoronaVirusPro:





You both have a problem with English language.

Seems to 'we' you are the one with the problem here

I think you love the lady and hence respects her. But then, you are the one in the relationship.
I am sure of something... You will end up loving her, if for nothing but for the contributions she will be making to your life.
I prefer a woman that respects me to the one that "loves" me, because you can't respect me if you don't love me. I know women love money sha and hence love whoever holds the money

ademola2017:
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.

I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday.
I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.

After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant

Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.

Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.

I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.

It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.

What do you guys think?

You are going down a slippery slope, this arrangement is going to get either or both of you hurt. Once you start to provide for a woman,especially one you have been intimate with, your provision gradually begins to metamorphose into love. You might not love her but she will gradually start loving you. The problem starts when you refuse to reciprocate that love. It's best each party move on with their individual lives and coparent the unborn child.

Patience, persistence, perspiration and Prayer make an unbeatable combination for success. Zero worries everything go prem