Nice2023:
Any man who marries a woman without handwork,no business or employment must have dug his grave.

There fore,birth ur children based on ur financial affordability and not on God alone as African always belief.

Don't say that to northern Nigerians.
Breeding children in mass is means for them to get more states and local government areas from Nigeria for bigger shares in oil revenues.

Worse, Nigerians, especially those from the south, don't understand that population or land mass is not considered when creating states in a country formed by different regions. That's how northern military dictators sewed states and local government areas like seeds in the northern region but left fewer states and local government areas for the two southern regions.

lastkingsman:



Kwakwakwa

Programming on top child birth? Omo

Any "else if" ?

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Even when the economy was good, I maintained my stance on two children. Nowadays, I don't mind having just a child. Raising children is expensive. I am not a fan of it. I did not come into this world to raise children.

TheWinterBird:
In a developed country like this there're no issues with the economy, at least not to the point where I've to worry about how many kids to have. There're even financial perks from the gov't when you've kids. That said, I only want one or two kids.

Developed countries actually have lower birth rates than developing ones. In fact, South Korea has spent more than $200BN within the past decade to increase her terribly low TFR rate of 0.78, yet it has not worked. Wealth begets fewer children. The more you earn, the less number of children you wish to have.

maasoap:
Two is okay for intending couple who are not superbly rich. And probably on monthly fixed salary. Nigeria has never remain the same since after year 2020 covid-19.

This Buharist and Tinubist, what exactly do you have with the Nigerian economy?

P.S. Rich people have fewer children. It is the poor that birth plenty children. So, for the bold, it is better they have just one.

Dancebreaker:

I had female friend who said many years ago that she would have minimum 4 kids. She had no steady bf. Although she claimed no bf but you know ladies are not honest in such matters.
I advised that she should wait and agree that with her future hubby. She insisted it must be minimum 4 kids by fire by force. I just siddon look. She married some years later.She knack one pikin fiam! Like another 18 months, another pikin fiam! Nor do nor do, a third pikin fiam! Well, the hubby insisted on not having a third child but she did everything to have it. I only found out when the hubby began to avoid coming home until very late at night and marital problems started.She is a single mother now.

Are you implying the marriage collapsed because of the husband's refusal to have another child? So which of them is in charge of the children's custody and well-being? Why did the man not do vasectomy? How is she coping now as a single mother of three children?

Sorry for my too many questions, I just find the tale interesting.

Gerrard59:


Are you implying the marriage collapsed because of the husband's refusal to have another child? So which of them is in charge of the children's custody and well-being? Why did the man not do vasectomy? How is she coping now as a single mother of three children?

Sorry for my too many questions, I just find the tale interesting.

I don't believe the man needed vasectomy. Sure. he has part responsibility but remember the lady already decided before marriage. The lady tried to paint the hubby bad but knowing how hot she was about having many kids, I did not believe her. I even advised her after the second child to take it easy. I didn't know her hubby was saying same thing. She was still insisting on 4 kids minimum. She is not a single child as she has brothers and sisters.

She has just an average job and her hubby even had no job when she was preggy with first child. He got an average job later.

As for how she's coping, I have stopped asking o. She has custody. It was all very messy at the end. I can't waste my time on people who cannot heed a simple advice.

Couples should learn to be flexible and reach a consensus on many aspects in marriage: number of kids, taste, lifestyle, investment, etc.

Dancebreaker:

I don't believe the man needed vasectomy. Sure. he has part responsibility but remember the lady already decided before marriage. The lady tried to paint the hubby bad but knowing how hot she was about having many kids, I did not believe her. I even advised her after the second child to take it easy. I didn't know her hubby was saying same thing. She was still insisting on 4 kids minimum. She is not a single child a people who cannot heed a simple advice.

Couples should learn to be flexible and reach a consensus on many aspects in marriage: number of kids, taste, lifestyle, investment, etc.

If the man did not want more children, he had the option of doing a vasectomy. What do you have against vasectomy? If I were the one, I would undergo a vasectomy and wait to see where she will get sperm to fertilise her eggs. If she eventually gets pregnant, I will present my vasectomy result and demand a DNA test for further confirmation.

If as a man, you get married to a woman who wants plenty of children, it is in your best interest to make decisions to prevent such from happening. Just because a woman wants five children does not mean you as the man must fulfil that wish. This also applies to women who want fewer children.

If there is one aspect of my life I would say "it cannot never be me", this issue of procreation is one. It can NEVER be me. Never would such happen.

drimzsmoke:


1 child, preferably a girl, then we lockup and throw the key inside ocean!!!

But most people that only have one child always complain that their child has no companion. Im thinking two at least could be better as long as you're able to take care of them. I only have two - a boy and a girl and they're each other's best friends.

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My wives will be 30 and my children will be uncountable. "Go thee and fill the earth"😎

Nice2023:
Any man who marries a woman without handwork,no business or employment must have dug his grave.

There fore,birth ur children based on ur financial affordability and not on God alone as African always belief.

Marriage is more than this my guy. Loyalty respect commitment and tolerance are much more better parameters to look at before the aforementioned factors above. Marry a woman wey get work no de respect you nko? Shine your eyes nigga!!!!!

Jewessgratitud3:
Considering the harsh economic conditions, if you happen to marry today, how many children will you have knowing the current administration is still going to last for the another four years. Will you plan the number of children you're having around the tenure or are you going to just have them as they come with hope for a better economy in the future?

This also applies to the newly married who just had one. How far? Una wan go for second one in this regime? Why?

Im not talking now based on your current financial status. Just looking at the economy, which would you go for A or B?

Share your sincere thoughts on this.


Let me set the ball rolling.
If I happen to marry today, hubby and I will have to reach a solid agreement to have only one child for now then wait and see what happens after four years to decide if we are having more or closing shop. . This is my honest opinion.

I don't think I'll exceed 4

Jewessgratitud3:

I join my faith with yours and say amen.

It is well.

You don't need children

Things have always been bad economically since 1914 in Nigeria.

Those who were born in different generations have always had one complain or the other about the economy. Yet that doesn't stop people from birthing lots of children.

Don't allow the economy to determine the number of children that you want.

Find a way to earn in dollars and all your worries about having few or many children will subside .

Na person wey dey earn for naira dey complain

2 or at most 3 is Ideal.

12 or 15 is okay, I pray almighty Allah bless our children. 🙏

It's better not to bring in babies you would not have means to cater for.
Look at your means, check your investment, calculate your steps very well and consider the economy before any decision to father a child.

Jewessgratitud3:
Don't shy away from this topic because marriage can happen anytime and this is going to serve as reminder and planning guide in your marriage if and when it happens this period.

Who told you marriage can happen anytime. Most women prefer to be baby mamas that settling down.

Back to the topic, What if the kid you have is a female and hubby wanted a male, what would you do?

100!

Mek dem sef enter Nigeria com c all d wubbich goin on... so dey can take d testimony back to God & ask him, "God why? Why u born me 4 Nigeria? especially under dis bulaba regime... Ppl wey u send go Switzerland, Denmark, Netherlands, Maldives, Germany.. na 2 heads dem carry?"

I would have been like king Solomon in the bible, marry 1000 but only a child

jamesversion:


I just need 1 child, preferably a son and I'm OK. All the small small girls around me are fantasising about having 4 & 5 kids. I no blame dem sha, especially as they demand for something, I give ASAP.

typical Nigeria man smh so a girl is not a child.

I have 2 (boys) and wife presently carrying the 3rd, I have no issues taking care of my kids, we discussed about having a 3rd child and my wife was the one that pushed for it and i agreed, now she's pregnant. It is wonderful. God blesses his children and if we look up to Him for everything, we won't suffer.
For the singles out there, feel free to have as many or little as you want but know this... It isn't all about you...!!! You have a duty to birth and train the next generation.

Dancebreaker:

I had female friend who said many years ago that she would have minimum 4 kids. She had no steady bf. Although she claimed no bf but you know ladies are not honest in such matters.
I advised that she should wait and agree that with her future hubby. She insisted it must be minimum 4 kids by fire by force. I just siddon look.

She married some years later.
She knack one pikin fiam! Like another 18 months, another pikin fiam!

Nor do nor do, a third pikin fiam!

Well, the hubby insisted on not having a third child but she did everything to have it. I only found out when the hubby began to avoid coming home until very late at night and marital problems started.

She is a single mother now.

This hits close to home except with a little twist. My dad wanted two kids but my mum insisted on four. So, four it was. Man knew his capability and faced reality (he was only a level 3 staff of FMWH at the time of this event). Mom on the other hand was a full-time housewive who was riding full throttle on emotion and stupid religious beliefs. My dad who is now in his early seventies is very frustrated and pained as this singular decision derailed his life, effectively ensuring he had little or no savings/investments for his retirement. That is why thread like this makes me laugh. Except the woman who is going to carry the baby is with you on your plans, you are simply deceiving yourself as a man. Some might say the man should take responsibility by exploring options like vasectomy. Well, vasectomy currently is not practical for most men in Africa. For one, the inherent risk of not being able to reverse it. But more importantly is the prohibitive cost (to get it done or to reverse it).

One is enough

Gerrard59:


This Buharist and Tinubist, what exactly do you have with the Nigerian economy?

P.S. Rich people have fewer children. It is the poor that birth plenty children. So, for the bold, it is better they have just one.

That's my opinion and contribution. You don't like it, I can give you a rope, you will find the rest in your room

maasoap:

That's my opinion and contribution. You don't like it, I can give you a rope, you will find the rest in your room

Typical Buharist.

Buhari will handle sehkurity, while Osinbajo will handle the heconomy.

MemoriesAndMe:

But most people that only have one child always complain that their child has no companion. I thinkaling it two could be better as long as you're able to take care of them. I only have two - a boy and a girl and they're each others best friends.

Lolz, 2 kids won't work for me, I can't love 2 kids the same way, I will always love one more than the other. So what's the point. No child deserves to go through that. And please don't tell me about hiding it, I'm a PDA person. My sister has 3, my brother has 2. If my daughter wants companion, I let her visit them. Problem solved, I've planned this since I was in secondary school🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Secondly, when you daughter gets older(i.e puberty/secondary school), she won't be her brother's best friend any more

cucumbar:
After Covid 19 or after May 29, 2023 when one slowpoke said subsidy is gone?
Goat….

That supposed to be your father's name, right?

Say the truth for once.

I'm a businessman, that's my observation