1. Introduction: The phenomenon of rich individuals prioritizing external philanthropy over assisting their relatives

In our society, it is not uncommon to observe wealthy individuals directing their resources and efforts towards helping those outside of their immediate families, rather than assisting their relatives. This prevalent trend raises intriguing questions about the motivations and decision-making processes behind such behavior. This article aims to explore the reasons why rich people often prefer external philanthropy over helping their relatives. By delving into the psychology, societal pressures, economic considerations, and other factors that contribute to this phenomenon, we can gain a deeper understanding of the complexities surrounding this common occurrence in our society.

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The reasons are not far fetched.
1.The man may be an occultic person with a condition attached to his continued wealth not to assist his relatives.
2. Some are naturally stingy, narcissistic and outright wicked.
3. Many rich men have experienced very painful betrayals from relatives, and so they vowed never to allow anything from their barn and pocket get to them.
4.Many rich men refuse to give relatives job opportunities in their companies/ establishments especially in top positions, to avoid misbehaviour due to familiarity which could ruin the company.
They mostly prefer outsiders who they know will put in their best efforts.

Onyiiobi7735:
The reasons are not far fetched.
1.The man may be an occultic person with a condition attached to his continued wealth not to assist his relatives.
2. Some are naturally stingy, narcissistic and outright wicked.
3. Many rich men have experienced very painful betrayals from relatives, and so they vowed never to allow anything from their barn and pocket get to them.
4.Many rich men refuse to give relatives job opportunities in their companies/ establishments especially in top positions, to avoid misbehaviour due to familiarity which could ruin the company.
They mostly prefer outsiders who they know will put in their best efforts.

Exactly

Onyiiobi7735:
The reasons are not far fetched.
1.The man may be an occultic person with a condition attached to his continued wealth not to assist his relatives.
2. Some are naturally stingy, narcissistic and outright wicked.
3. Many rich men have experienced very painful betrayals from relatives, and so they vowed never to allow anything from their barn and pocket get to them.
4.Many rich men refuse to give relatives job opportunities in their companies/ establishments especially in top positions, to avoid misbehaviour due to familiarity which could ruin the company.
They mostly prefer outsiders who they know will put in their best efforts.

3 and 4 apply a lot. A friend of mine lives in Europe, has been sending money home, built a house for his parents, empowered his 2 brothers with 3 hummer buses, sent his only sister 2 university, till masters, but when he sent money home in tens of millions for his house, his family took it, he sent close to 75m. They only bought land of 13 million and dug foundation. As we speak, na me e send close 2 43 million. His mighty and well -finished 6 bedroom duplex is 99% ready. Na interlock outside we dey on. E say make I hold d keys to his house. He imported a glk, through me, and I parked it in the internal car park. No time. Family tell am to keep quiet when he Inquired about what happen to most of d 75m

Creamypie:
3 and 4 apply a lot. A friend of mine lives in Europe, has been sending money home, built a house for his parents, empowered his 2 brothers with 3 hummer buses, sent his only sister 2 university, till masters, but when he sent money home in tens of millions for his house, his family took it, he sent close to 75m. They only bought land of 13 million and dug foundation. As we speak, na me e send close 2 43 million. His mighty and well -finished 6 bedroom duplex is 99% ready. Na interlock outside we dey on. E say make I hold d keys to his house. He imported a glk, through me, and I parked it in the internal car park. No time. Family tell am to keep quiet when he I quired about what happen to most of d 75m

Are you serious? It's really unfortunate.
Painful betrayals from relatives like this are the reason many wealthy men forever turn their backs to the family members.
They would be living in abject poverty and suffering,yet a wealthy man is among them . The man would be aware but completely ignore them and chase them away.

Creamypie:
...but when he sent money home in tens of millions for his house, his family took it, he sent close to 75m. They only bought land of 13 million and dug foundation.
...Family tell am to keep quiet when he I quired about what happen to most of d 75m

what we call poor at times are just skilled thieves who hide to milk others.

Rich people see you as coming to compete with their children or with them so they don't like helping relatives.

There seems to be a higher likelihood of relatives nurturing ill will against their own family even when they offer help. Maybe it's due to the entitlement mentality many people have.
After all, Yorubas have a saying that "kokoro t'on je efo, inu efo l'oun gbe," meaning that the bug that destroys vegetables resides within! (.. so my urhobo friend told me. )

While a lot of rich folks do that, a lot of relatives are entitled. Very entitled.

You'd find relatives with no sustainable commercialisable skills who think it their right to demand money from highly-placed relatives. And they keep coming back. Popular examples are Mikel Obi and Osimhen, and the unpalatable experiences they had with their relatives.

The exception would be a relative who is skilled and of good character.

Plus familiarity breeds contempt. The extended family relationship and connection is a dicey one to navigate. Competition and decade-long grudges you thought had been squashed.

Some years ago, I got to know about a certain Commissioner relative of mine who low-key bears malice because a certain pretty female chose to date my dad over him from decades ago when they were fresh out of high school. Second cousins both are.
He said it casually in passing at an extended family gathering while we all laughed over it, but I could sense a slight resentment in the way he said it. Wealth and position hadn't erased it so if I was ever to be in need of his help and I was ignorant of that grudge, I'd have kept wondering why he rebuffed me.

Thankfully, I never needed to go to him for anything, even when he wants me to draw close.

This plays out in many families.

There are so many reasons why rich folks don't help relatives.

.. probably because the so called "outside" are more supportive, available, responsive, helpful, appreciative, sensible, and exhibit less beggarly and entitled behaviours.