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Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by scoobyblogspot(m): 2:12pm On Jan 02 |
Well it does alot of times ooo. My coligs wife earns more than him. She has a car and he doesn't. She even lied that her salary is just 80k which is same as the husband but she will always book flight when she wants to travel to other states and will place the bill on the man to pay. You can imagine, the wife requesting for house help and the husband has to be the one to pay 55k monthly from his salary. Is this not madness |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by ExudeLoveToAll: 2:12pm On Jan 02 |
Tajbol4splend: Hahaha How do you remain a king while you are struggling? It's quite complex, people don't do financial scenario testing for their would be partners while dating, they now find out the rate of hypergamy of their partners is above the roof. There are women who will participate in family building without anyone hearing of it no matter how much they put in. The problem is that most women are hypergamous, wether you struggle to provide and do what you have been doing the hypergamous instinct will make them look up by then you are no where to be found.. The solution to this is to always be with a spouse who is supportive, who doesn't see spending for the family as only the responsibility of the man. In so doing you are able to avert possible conflict issues if you are in a situation where the woman begins to earn more than you. Life is beautiful and making it complex to me isn't worth the stress. If everyone can do to others what he or she wants others to do to him or her the world will be a better place. Greed, entitlement mentality, selfishness are some of the reasons most ladies would not share resources with their partners if they find themselves in a position to. The job of men is to weed out greedy and selfish women while looking for their life partners. 3 Likes |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by Renman: 2:12pm On Jan 02 |
IamDora:Are you a Harlot ![]() |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by Itiskdg121(m): 2:12pm On Jan 02 |
It's dicey |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by Pelaiye2703(m): 2:14pm On Jan 02 |
I dey come |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by ThunderFireAgba: 2:15pm On Jan 02 |
AmazingELixir:Give her, buy her gifts also. That's your responsibility as the man of the house. You didn't marry her because of money, you married her because you love her. Show her the love. That's what makes you the Head. Even if she earns more than you, she will still be submissive(if she really loves you, not because of the money o) 1 Like |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by Akexstinger(m): 2:16pm On Jan 02 |
If you two are real partners and you guys have humility, there is nothing to worry about. Situations can change anytime. When I and my wife were dating, I was earning like 5 times her own earnings and there was no problem about it. When we got married, after 3 months her new job she was processing clicked. The new job is in the US and she traveled in the month of October 2023. When I saw the first payslip that she sent to me, her salary was 8 times my salary. And mind you, I earn in dollars too in Naija. And we are still fine, I play my part and she plays her part. Nothing like pride and allowing the money to get into her head. 1 Like |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by themanderon: 2:17pm On Jan 02 |
It shouldn't affect the marriage if a wise woman is involved. Money tends to corrupt today's woman making it hard for her to be submissive to the husband. At the end of the day understanding is what matters. A woman must not disrespect her husband because she is richer, neither should a man be jealous when the wife earns more. Love conquers all if both parties are wise. |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by Bimpe29: 2:18pm On Jan 02 |
It does where ego prevails. |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by saasala(m): 2:20pm On Jan 02 |
loswhite: E no go better for Chess and the person wey invent am. We are talking real life you are talking chess. In real life, does the Queen protect the king or the guards? Get out! 3 Likes |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by 12345baba(m): 2:20pm On Jan 02 |
Notfogotten:hope ur married? If not leave marriage matter for the married! |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by epainos: 2:22pm On Jan 02 |
Notfogotten:If the man is ready to learn how to make wealth, no wahala. He will leverage the financial stability of his wife and make his wealth. But if he is lazy and wants his wife to keep carrying the major burden, he will have challenges. The other factor is that if the wife's wealth is from her parents and the parents don't like the guy...then, the guy needs to be sure that he is on the same page with the girl. The issue here is that the man should tap into what works. If he fails, he will have challenges. This is just the truth. And it is the same vice versa in advanced countries. It is only in Africa ladies think men should do it all...and it is why they are used and disrespected. A woman (not a gold digger) abroad does not care about the man's wealth because she can do it too. But here...most girls see the man as the burden carrier. They will even justify it with the fact that they carry a pregnancy and do house chores. Na person wey no get money dey do house chores na. Lol 1 Like |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by loswhite(m): 2:23pm On Jan 02 |
CaveAdullam:The problem I have with all this commen from Nigerian men is that most of you have women as your bosses in your place of work....lol. if in your place of work you have not resigned because a woman is your boss I don't see how your wife earning more than you is a problem. A poor wife can insult likewise a rich wife. A poor wife not insulting you is because of slave Master relationship and not because she respect you. If she insult you ....lol you will foolish tell her you will not eat today and there is nothing she can do so she begs you so she can eat....How is this respect? Most Nigerian men cannot earn respect without money. They lack value system hence all the time you hear them talk is just make money you can get any girl...lol some of them think the reason to get money and be rich is to get women....useless species |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by dominique(f): 2:23pm On Jan 02 |
A lot of men disrespect and mistreat their financially dependent wives because they know they can't survive without them but their fellow men will never see nothing wrong with it. A woman dare not cough that she bought salt for the family, this bunch of hypocrites and will start shouting that she's being proud and insulting her husband. One nincompoop in the first page said women of yesteryears stayed in their marriages because their husbands provided. Did it ever occur to you that most of them stayed because they will starve to death if they moved an inch from the marriage? The longevity of the marriage is what they emphasize on, they will never look at the quality of the marriage. Were those marriages mutually beneficial? Let's be honest with ourselves for once 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by 12345baba(m): 2:23pm On Jan 02 |
saasala:in real life if ur wife no protect u , through prayers, support or any form ur a dead man. We men naturally leave carelessly a good wife pays attention to details. 1 Like |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by gigabyte13: 2:25pm On Jan 02 |
Depends on the personality of the person you married and your attitude towards her earnings. My wife earned much more than me but l foot the bills and do all that is expected of me as the man of the house. I don't Force her to help out with her money, just that when she makes l demand and l don't have, l expressively so without asking her to take from her money. But sincerely, she helps out most time financially without me asking. Na lazy and greedy man wey no Sabi him responsibilities go dey look the wife purse to act responsibly. Some men sef go dey jealous their wife ontop her money Mtchewwwwwwwwww Create a healthy underau on finance in the family 1 Like |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by saasala(m): 2:26pm On Jan 02 |
12345baba: You are going out of topic. We are talking about finances here. Firstly I dont believe in prayers, so thats bullshit. But if you believe in it, fine. She can support you with prayers and any other forms of support, its all good as long has she is not the one paying the bills. 1 Like |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by Maandy: 2:26pm On Jan 02 |
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Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by loswhite(m): 2:26pm On Jan 02 |
saasala:In real life go and watch and understand the politics of how to protect. The person that invented that game get sense pass you sha so show some respect. In Niger who plotted the coup? Is it not the guard? |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by 12345baba(m): 2:27pm On Jan 02 |
saasala:finances na form of protection too. Read what I wrote well |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by saasala(m): 2:28pm On Jan 02 |
loswhite: It is people like you that use games and motivational books to direct your life. Wake up from your slumber and face the real world. Chess ![]() |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by saasala(m): 2:29pm On Jan 02 |
12345baba: If you have your own money, you dont need your wife's money for protection. Buy your protection with your money. We dey teach you about life you still dey argue. Continue. 1 Like |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by loswhite(m): 2:30pm On Jan 02 |
saasala:In real life a guard plotted the coup to over throw the president of Niger. The president is still prison locked up by his own guard. I don give you real life example...lol |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by Enskynelson(m): 2:30pm On Jan 02 |
It depends on the man and the woman in the marriage. |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by OChimex: 2:32pm On Jan 02 |
BlaqFaze: Are you talking from experience? Anyways, I think it all depends on the woman and also the husband. There are so many women who make more than their husband or fend for the family and still respect their husband. Also husbands make it easier for those women by loving her, respecting her, and appreciating her. |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by Nwanna2588: 2:32pm On Jan 02 |
I know this family where the lady makes more money than the guy, both being cops. Here's the twist – she's cool with it, but he's all about this joint account thing. And guess what? He's the boss of that joint account, even though she outranks him. They're both non-commissioned officers, but she's higher up. Life goes on, and it's like nobody notices. |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by AmazingELixir: 2:32pm On Jan 02 |
ThunderFireAgba: Noooh!...She can take care of that herself, I want to driven 2011 venza this year, I'm saving towards that. Please understand with me. |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by saasala(m): 2:33pm On Jan 02 |
loswhite: It has nothing to do with a woman. The president should have hired his wife then. Whatever happened in Niger is just life. Life is cruel and anyone can stab you at the back. There are about 200 countries in the world with presidents and their guards and security have not betrayed them. Niger is just one country out of many so you have no point here. |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by AmazingELixir: 2:33pm On Jan 02 |
ThunderFireAgba: Noooh!...She can take care of that herself, I want to driven 2011 venza this year, I'm saving towards that. Please understand with me, I'm sure when that car arrives she will monopolies it....but let me get it first. |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by 10thTenthMan: 2:34pm On Jan 02 |
saasala: This Man! ![]() ![]() ![]() Anyway some of the facts you have mentioned are hard to swallow. Remember I said Facts. Not Truth. Facts. Other opinions you shared like you cheat and beg and she accepts but she cheats and she goes home to her father’s house is also a major fact of the modus operandi in a home where the man is the Main Bread Winner. Simple rule he can cheat and get caught. She dares NOT!!! But the way you come put the thing, e go shock and annoy women. ![]() ![]() A woman is typically not used to being powerful. By training. Culture. Tradition. She is typically raised, develop and trained to be led by a man. Many societies are this way. Even societies where the men are lazy and the women go to the farm, they are still raised to be led by a Man! However it is now being known that many women were not contented and married these men to survive or avoid socio-cultural pressures. It is now clear that if such women had money in the first place MANY WOULD NOT HAVE EVEN ALLOWED THEIR NOW SO CALLED HUSBANDS COURT THEM NOT TO TALK OF TOUCHING THEM or Opening their legs for such men. It is the same phenomenon that has led to marital issues in the Japa Situation as well. Many of those women were suffering in silence in Nigeria and the men were meal tickets. Getting overseas and seeing the freedoms and working to earn their own money, they realize they won’t take such “bullshit”. Even when the bullshi t no plenty o. 😃 So the moment the woman finds herself in such a financially strong role, her true nature and how much regards, loyalty, submissiveness that she truly has for the man comes out. It takes a woman who is humble, understands that life has its ups and downs and also a Man who isn’t lazy but also tries his best for this equation to work. Because a woman can earn more, and she may not leave her husband, but she will belittle him, sleep around outside, treat him like trash, etc. Talking about cheating and marital challenges. Now the funny thing is a woman will be accepting of these things in her household, but when she sees a friend, relative or any other close woman around her experiencing the same thing she is going through she will brag about how “I cannot accept that nonsense”. How she will never be such a woman to accept such nonsense. How she would have packed out immediately. WOMEN can be hypocritically almost “evil” to themselves. For me sha, I usually say if it will hurt you when she does it, why don’t you think it hurts her when you do it. Thinking too I equally ask myself, Are women designed to accept that their Men can mate multiple women? I am not talking of these so called Modern Women on Social Media. I mean the original women who survived and evolved. Were these women designed to be more accepting of it? Religion like Christianity popularized monogamy. A few cultures and animals are monogamous, but it became popular through the Church. And the debate as to why it became popular exists with various theories and paradigms including the “Betta Male” and “Simp” theories. Did Societies with human kind evolve with the men having the authority, energy, resources and BRUTE STRENGTH to have multiple mates? By implication perhaps only women whose brain allowed polygamy could procreate with men. Such mindset then was a survival tactics.If you couldn’t allow a man do what he wants with other women you starve with your child and get eaten by a Sabre Tooth Tiger. Additionally, women evolved such that once pregnant, they were “locked down” for nine to ten months while the man was biologically free to do whatever the hell he wants. Anyway this is me being a philosopher and an uncertified evolutionary psychologist in my parlour with groundnuts, suyaa, desperado and red wine set on a side stool and trying to select a movie on Netflix. 2 Likes |
Re: Does A Woman Earning More Than The Husband Affect The Marriage? by loswhite(m): 2:35pm On Jan 02 |
saasala:You and your wife have a shared responsibility. What bills are you paying that you beating hand on your chest that she cannot pay? Okonjo iweala na person wife...lol Is there a bill that you can pay that she cannot pay? |
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