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Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by brain54(m): 11:51am On Jan 17 |
Wait o... You want him to play with boys. That's gay! |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by BarrElChapo(m): 11:52am On Jan 17 |
youngreva: You’re a a twisted mf 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by betshopagent(m): 11:53am On Jan 17 |
allthingsgood:he doesn't have to like football. He is still at the formation stages and at this stage, they can be programmed to like whatever. From getting him a soccerball; he would automatically starts attracting boys in his hood and from their he starts making friends with them unintentionally. So playing soccer or making him love it is not the goal but attracting BOYS. 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by Henix(m): 11:53am On Jan 17 |
DivinegiftofGod: And u think boys boarding school wouldn't do him more harm than good? 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by betshopagent(m): 11:54am On Jan 17 |
brain54:that's the right thing to do at 10. Plz stop the shit of gay. He is trying to get a solution 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by allthingsgood: 11:55am On Jan 17 |
betshopagent: But what if the boys he attracts are gay Then what you are trying to avoid is what u will now use your hand to start Leave the poor boy alone pls 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by Tonyfx: 11:56am On Jan 17 |
Cooolme: Personally I think he's just trying to socialize among his peers and unfortunately his peers are females let's not forget that games and computers isn't socializing. I'd suggest you take him out even if it's for ice cream 🍦 let him feel relaxed then have a brotherly conversation with him about it and from there you would know how to advice him better. Just my opinion. 2 Likes |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by allthingsgood: 11:57am On Jan 17 |
DivinegiftofGod: 70% of the boys in all boys school experience homosexuality at different stages. Infact, the fastest way to make a child explore homosexual tendencies is to send him to all boys school. where do u think all their youthful virile sexual energy goes to? Prayer Lol 3 Likes |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by lolu2019: 11:58am On Jan 17 |
chijiokecosmos:u just did. 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by betshopagent(m): 11:59am On Jan 17 |
allthingsgood:at this age you hardly see boys whom are gay. It's rare so we work with mostly what is attainable. It's also what most of us experienced.And also, his making friends with boys would balance the equation. It would not completely void his relationship with girls. 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by Bullfallo(m): 12:00pm On Jan 17 |
Guy follow your mind and instincts. Its very important. Just follow as your mind is telling you. When i was young I wasn’t comfortable playing with girls. Those of my friends who always play with girls turn out to be woman wrapper. Like gossiping and trait behavior that is not common among men. 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by lolu2019: 12:01pm On Jan 17 |
betshopagent:good advice.better,he enroll him in a football club.boarding school won't change him from behaving like a girl.if he is gay,he will meet people like him at the hostel. 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by Bluffly: 12:01pm On Jan 17 |
Cooolme:He needs people like him to interact with you said you bought game consoles. Are those games human being |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by CalmElder(m): 12:02pm On Jan 17 |
I will be worried too. Growing up in the midst of women with a female neighbor as playmate is not the ideal childhood for a boy. How is he going to experience male aggression, boy talk, hunting, male sporting activities, learning to stand up for himself if he remains with your mom? Whatever your heart is telling you to do, listen to it. 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by tishbite43: 12:03pm On Jan 17 |
Cooolme:The boarding school might be worse o Picture him being gay I can only advise you to train him yourself. Let him attend a mix school. And when you are free, take to where he can play football with kids. Boarding school is very dicey. One, he might be sexually bullied or he'll lose confidence around women. 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by Kaido: 12:03pm On Jan 17 |
Cooolme:I understand you. He is a modern kid. I have a 13 years old nephew that behaves same. Plays with lil girls of 7-11, watches Nickoledeon and Disney shit. I don vex tire but modern kids are wired differently. When I was 13, I have started listening to Hip-hop, watching Channel O, MTV, playing Sega Mega Drive and cartoon network was awesome then. I rolled with lil homies my age, we stomped orchards to pluck orange & mangoes. At about the same age, we went out to hunt for honey after reading "The Adventure of Souza" our faces were swollen up from bees sting. I fvcking miss my childhood. 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by ObalendeCMS: 12:06pm On Jan 17 |
Your lil bro might easily be emasculated later in future if you do not do something about this soon. Or he may end up being a baby father in the near future. |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by brain54(m): 12:08pm On Jan 17 |
betshopagent:OK then seriously... When you were 10 did you not enjoy playing with females? (assuming you are a guy) Except he is molesting or showing other signs of "female tendencies" I see nothing wrong with playing with the opposite sex at his age or any other age for that matter. People worry about unnecessary issues these days! |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by kendological(m): 12:08pm On Jan 17 |
Cooolme:Don't project your insecurities on an innocent boy. |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by betshopagent(m): 12:11pm On Jan 17 |
lolu2019:well said but I will not advocate for football club because to me that's EXTREME. Because, it would be like joapardizing his career. He should only be sent to football club or academy if he has the talent or if he has gr8 passion for it. I would only recommend the OP gets him a ⚽ ball and he should be allowed to play with those boys when comes around to play with him. 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by betshopagent(m): 12:12pm On Jan 17 |
brain54:at that age I had lots of female friends and boys too. It was well balanced. 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by lolu2019: 12:14pm On Jan 17 |
betshopagent:ok,I just used football as an example.it can be any other sports or music. 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by nathpope(m): 12:14pm On Jan 17 |
And you think taking him to a boarding school would be a good idea? I cld sense you are trying to prevent the situation whereby your brother turns a (fe)male or starts doing female stuffs. Boarding school is the haven of such practices you are trying to avoid. Be wary.. Cooolme: 1 Like |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by dreamwords: 12:15pm On Jan 17 |
Cooolme:you forgot to tell us your age as well after telling us the age of every one in your story, we are wating |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by betshopagent(m): 12:15pm On Jan 17 |
lolu2019:ok |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by Theweekend: 12:15pm On Jan 17 |
yomi007k:u and mixing eh |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by The1960writer: 12:16pm On Jan 17 |
I see no problems here, he's been human - in trying to interact with those he finds relatable in his environment - you do not expect him to search for grannies in the area to relate with. If there were boys around for him to play with, I bet he would go out to play with them. Allow him some freedom, do not stifle that child's cognitive development. The question that comes to mind is, why does this make you uncomfortable? What are your childhood issues that has formed that mindset in you? Deal with them and you will see, that that boy has no problem. I've watched a boy grow among females, his dad was abroad. Even in church, he was among female ministers. Today, he is a preacher and I have never seen an alpha male like that guy. What you become in life is your choice. Regarding your boarding school plan, have you considered if it's best for him or what you want is what is most important? From my experience in a boarding school decades ago, life there has its pros and cons. You won't be there to watch him, will you? You won't be there for him when he's been bullied to the point that he hates school. You won't be there when a senior boy with homosexual tendencies tries to lure or browbeat him into becoming his 'babe'. |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by Edusouls(m): 12:16pm On Jan 17 |
Kai Kai take him to boarding school to mingle with fellow boyz and become like a boy he is, small time the terrible spirit of women would possess him and he would start doing bad things and he may turn into something else in future, act fast |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by brain54(m): 12:16pm On Jan 17 |
betshopagent:OP didn't state that he avoids males... It's just what is available for him to interact and play with in that neighborhood. I enjoyed playing with female kids growing up... Even though I was a bit shy around them. Boys will always be boys... Except he starts showing other signs then nothing to worry about! |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by Lightorder: 12:19pm On Jan 17 |
immortalcrown:no mind am .Na to bite am for head dey hungry me |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by allthingsgood: 12:20pm On Jan 17 |
betshopagent: clearly you dont know what you are talking about. Most gay men will tell you they knew they were gay from childhood. The truth is that, if that boy is gay, nothing you do in this world will change it. You cant "correct" nature. But that said, playing with girls does not mean he is gay or will even act girly. Remember that all foetuses start out as girls. i see no reason why children cant innocently play as they like, without you adults foisted your poisoned intentions on them. 2 Likes |
Re: My Lil Bro Plays With Girls, How Do I Stop It? by Lightorder: 12:23pm On Jan 17 |
Cooolme:Oga, he asked a very wise question. Sexual molestation is the only fear that could prompt that your question |
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