Hello house. This below is me, with a new account. I left with all my things finally yesterday.
I'm starting a new life at 40.
Any suggestions on what to expect, how to surmount this phase and how to succeed?

This is in reference to this my story
https://www.nairaland.com/7508796/sexual-molestation-minor

I stayed away from the family. I went to spend sometime with my mum around December of 2022. I returned from work one day and got my ears full when my mum told me that my daughter talked about the molestation case all day. Mum advised me to take her to my in-laws place for the matter to be resolved, but that I should call hubby to take permission. He granted it.
Only for me to get there and my father in-law was accusing me of cooking up the story in my daughter's mind. I refused to be wrongly accused. My father in-law said after all the girl that molested my daughter isn't a boy and that after all she didn't finger my daughter. Because I defended myself and my daughter, my parents inlaw chased me and my baby out of their house like a common criminal. I cried all the way to my mum's place. Called my husband, he told me he knows the kind of parents he had, and that I should try forget the issue.
I tried forgetting it and stayed away from them. I cut them off totally. That was the only way I could heal. It's not like any of my in-laws ever reached out to me even before and after my daughter was molested, I was always doing all the calling. After this incident, I locked up.
Now my husband threw my load out on January 13th. My offense? His mother sent us food and I failed to call her to say thank you.
That's my offense. I've been squatting with my daughter from one place to another. His father even called to warn their tenant not to allow me spend another night at their house, because me and my daughter spent one night with the only tenant in the compound when I had no place to go. The tenant consist of a father, mother and their daughter, nice people.
Me and hubby live in their family house, although hubby's parents don't live there, only us and one tenant.
I've cried and cried. Elders in my church have begged and begged. He is adamant, with the backing of his father. He even locked up the remaining of my property in the very dusty store close to the gate, including my molested daughter's clothes. I even met my laptop on the floor, he had removed it from his worn-out bag I was using to house the laptop. I was so livid and was shouting that why wasn't he patient enough to give me some days to gather some money at least to rent a room, but he was so adamant that he and his family wanted me out on the street immediately. Because I was shouting out of anger and frustration, he took a wood with nail on it to hit my hand. It took the intervention of these same tenant to avert beating I would have received. This is a man I've sacrificed alot for, 10 years gone, just like that. My daughter and I are out on the street, squatting with a church member, without a dime.
And I have just heard from a neighbour that a new girl is coming to spend time in my own home, even helping him to rearrange it. I'm still in total shock and don't know what to do.
PLEASE I NEED A JOB before I lose my sanity. I live around OTA, but I'm willing to relocate to anywhere in Lagos, preferably closer to anywhere I'm able to secure a job.

Nkan beee !!!!

Hmmm

Wow

Just wow.

Firstly, you should know your husband very well. If he has never acted like this before then just know that there has been a spiritual involvement from his parents side.

If he has acted similarly before like shouting on you or threatening to throw you out before your daughter's incidence then, he has always been the wrong person all this while.It was only a matter of time before it showed fully.He may have been having extramarital affairs without your knowledge cos, for any spiritual involvement to work to make a husband hate his wife, adultery must be involved.

Experiences like yours can always be changed for better if you hold onto God solely. Only God can help you to pass through this and with this experience leading to your elevation.

I am sure this experience will have a happy ending.
Also, in everything you do, pray for your husband. That's the surest way to bring him back to his senses. If you truly love him before you got married. Don't hate him now. He needs you now more than before irrespective of anything that has happened or is happening right now.

Yes I confirmed the adultery part from my next compound neighbour, a very young girl you confessed that he has been trying to date her for years and also told her of his escapades with women over the years. I trusted him all this while.
And this is not the first time he has been wicked to me or thrown my load out, always with the backing of his parents

Sirmwill:
Hmmm

Wow

Just wow.

Firstly, you should know your husband very well. If he has never acted like this before then just know that there has been a spiritual involvement from his parents side.

If he has acted similarly before like shouting on you or threatening to throw you out before your daughter's incidence then, he has always been the wrong person all this while.It was only a matter of time before it showed fully.He may have been having extramarital affairs without your knowledge cos, for any spiritual involvement to work to make a husband hate his wife, adultery must be involved.

Experiences like yours can always be changed for better if you hold onto God solely. Only God can help you to pass through this and with this experience leading to your elevation.

I am sure this experience will have a happy ending.
Also, in everything you do, pray for your husband. That's the surest way to bring him back to his senses. If you truly love him before you got married. Don't hate him now. He needs you now more than before irrespective of anything that has happened or is happening right now.

Yes I confirmed the adultery part from my next compound neighbour, a very young girl you confessed that he has been trying to date her for years and also told her of his escapades with women over the years. I trusted him all this while.
And this is not the first time he has been wicked to me or thrown my load out, always with the backing of his parents.
He even told some elderly people who came to intercede for me that he has got a new wife, they were amazed.
What am I praying for him for? It's done.
I'm all about the future now, holding onto God for strength and willpower.
Thanks for the advice.

AWomanScorned:


Yes I confirmed the adultery part from my next compound neighbour, a very young girl you confessed that he has been trying to date her for years and also told her of his escapades with women over the years. I trusted him all this while.
And this is not the first time he has been wicked to me or thrown my load out, always with the backing of his parents.
He even told some elderly people who came to intercede for me that he has got a new wife, they were amazed.
What am I praying for him for? It's done.
I'm all about the future now, holding onto God for strength and willpower.
Thanks for the advice.

I thought as much


Ma'am
Still pray for him even if you are done with him.

He is still and will always be the father of your daughter
And most importantly, it would attract God's favour and grace.
Don't make things hard for yourself 🙏
Don't give the devil something to hold on to 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Sirmwill:


I thought as much


Ma'am
Still pray for him even if you are done with him.

He is still and will always be the father of your daughter
And most importantly, it would attract God's favour and grace.
Don't make things hard for yourself 🙏
Don't give the devil something to hold on to 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

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Panic Attacks. Suicidal thoughts crossing my mind everyday