I heard this on the radio, this was actually a song from the late 70s called "The Pina Colada Song".

Waaaaaaaaaaaaay before anyone had a personal computer, and they had to post personal ads the newpaper, the dude in the song posted a personal ad looking for a lady. He was sick of his "old lady".

The lady responded that she was looking for a new man. They wrote back and forth, and they agreed to meet at a bar and drink Pina Coladas, take a walk on the beach, etc.

They met at the bar, and realised they had been with each other.

In the song, they rediscovered each other, and fell in love all over again. It's a shame this couple called it quits.

Now, in the song, the guy was looking for commonality, and spice. He said "Me and my old lady had the same routine".

This is very dangerous, but real for married couples.  I think part of the problem is that people stop discovering each other. Or maybe one person grows and the other person is stagnant. Or for lots of reasons, the romance dies.

I think all couples can come to a place where they resent each other, because the romance wears off, and they see the "warts and all". Bottom line, we MUST work hard to keep those fires burning, and be the person our mate fell in love with, or reinvent ourselves, or keep ourselves interesting to keep our mates on their toes.

  Boredom is the DEATH of any romantic relationship. 

ETA: The way to be interesting to other people is to have interest of our own. You can't look to another person like husband, wife, kids, social status, work to define you. You have to have your own interest, passions, hobbies, etc, so you can be proud of yourself, and be fun and interesting. Then you'll draw people to you if you're single, and you'll keep your partner attracted to you if you're in a relationship.

very hilarious.

2 of dem dey crazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Walahi 2 of dem dey crase.
There is nothing hidden under the sun

What i gather from the story is that the relationship was so bad between both of them and neither was ready to be responsible and somehow someway they 'incidentally' met online and both became 'unfaithful' and they later found out to mark the end of the marriage.

What a story!

I personally think they're both finding the easiest way out of the relationship and no one should tell me it's an absolute coincidence for both of them to be chatmates. Atleast one of them hooked the whole thing up

What a story!

If the couple has ever been in love, this is a very good opportunity to make up whatever is lost in their marriage. It was not just a coincidence, it was fate. Their encounter on net should expose them to what each other was yearning for. Both of them were lacking something that pushed them to find solace in chatting online. So since they can unconciously fall in love again on net, it means something attracted them to each other. Therefore they should pick up from their, apologise to each and their marriage will blossom again.

A divorce will be stupid.

There is a missing link between them and that is simply, communication. They should learn how to talk more with each other. Simple.

This is absolutely HILARIOUS!!

@Vigasimple: You said it all!!

The couple are just not willing to work hard at their marriage! Period!

OMG, that shows they've got the key 2 their problems

They weren’t truthful with each other from day one that’s why they were unable to make something out of that relationship.

When you go into a relationship with skeletons in your cupboard, then that relationship won’t work. Just be truthful and honest and both of you would enjoy it.

they actually love each other. it is just that they have not tried it.

I mean they should come out of theri fake life and live a real and natural life. and things will work for them.

hmmmmmmmmmmm

Curled from Olanajim

If it is true they are having marrital problems. Wouldn't it been better to make the positive use of their findings on internet to strengthen their dilapidating home? If the woman had never said any good words to the husband at home, but said it on internet, what stop them from building their home on that positive observation. Both of them hate one another with intensed passion. I think they have attitude problem. Unless they change that attitude, they have a remote chance of being happy elsewhere. Nobody willingly enter into relationship with an individual filled with unforgiving spirit.

They had better seperate if they can't be persuaded.



You are 99.99% correct. There marriage is like sympathy marriage and not on love and trust. May God help us.

acidrop:

hmmmmmmmmmmm

Real hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!

@Topic!

Big deal! If it is not working get the hell out! Whether it is online or offline relationships, those that are doomed are doomed. No hard and fast rule to that one. What will be will be. I have two of my co-workers who met drunk in a bar as one night standers and they are still married after almost 10 years together---he he he he he he! Who knows how it will end? But for now, they still have a lot in common! Pastors no dey divorce! Rubbish!

LMAO

Maybe u are rite. If after falling in love twice , they are still feeling some kind of discontent then maybe it is time to really re evaluate thier situation.

Uche2nna:

LMAO

Maybe u are rite. If after falling in love twice , they are still feeling some kind of discontent then maybe it is time to really re evaluate their situation.

Haba! Some people will never learn! Move and quickly too if it is not working! This life is too short for unnecessary wahala oh! And she fell in love 2ice too? Na wa for some people oh!

They say once beaten twice shy.

I say twice beaten, head for the courts

They were both wrong - so they should just live past it.
They should just sort out their differences and get back together.

adeboo:

They were both wrong - so they should just live past it.
They should just[b] sort out their differences [/b] and get back together.

Thank you!  If not>>>>>>>>

Uche2nna:

[b]They say once beaten twice shy. [/b]I say twice beaten, head for the courts

Sorry oh!

Head to the courts!   Just keep a lot of money for divorce lawyers because it is not going to be your last trip there!


_{Gone are the days when men were men and won by women who deserved them!-----It is good to be able to take care of your shit!---The grass in NEVER greener on the outside----NEVER!!!!!} )

As far as both of you would not quarell over who gets the old dog or the sagging couch or even who is more emotionally attached to the wedding pics then divorce would not be that pricey

Uche2nna:


As far as both of you would not quarell over who gets the old dog or the sagging couch or even who is more emotionally attached to the wedding pics then divorce would not be that pricey

Divorce is never pretty! Never!!! It is always messy! Not even worth getting into. My take on the issue: don't jump into divorce so quickly. Instead look for legal separation. You are still married under the law but the law allows you to live your life like you are not married. Besides, no hurry jumping into the next relationship when you have failed the first exam. BTW--Ladies, ALWAYS KEEP YOUR OWN LAST NAMES!

If you are married to a "typical" Nigerian dude who thinks you have been paid for and must answer his almighty last name--- compromise by hyphenating!HILARY-RODHAM-CLINTON! MRS KURORIJI-ULOBI, OKONJO-IWEALA If the "shit" hits the bloody fan--just shave off the last part!

Na God catch them,lol!

The way I see it, this should have strengthened their marriage. It should have reconciled them.

looooooooooooool, idiots

Lmao, old but hilarious.

Odd coincidence.

its now obvious that there problem was lack of communication which is the main cause of divorce

if only they could be as honest & open as they were to each other on the net, things would have been alot better

The hatefullness in thier marriage I bet is a direct result of one partner punishing another partner and in turn the punished partner wanting to punish back.

This is why i said on the other thread about not starting a cycle that wont end. I bet they cant even remember the event that started the whole thing to sprial out of control.

two things

pride and lack of communication

is the root cause of this

if both parties in the dark, could grope for

find and hold on to each other

what difference does introduction of light make?

bottom line. . .someone bleeped up the other party refused to forgive

thus animosity grew on both sides

pride stopped either party from admitting and a break in communication esued

fate played a lovely trick on them

if i was the presiding judge would other them

to 1 year's compulsory living together with all chores and thoughts shared amongst eachother

the defaulter would get to pay alimony

if after a year , . .they still wanna divorce then so be it

height of lack of trust

did they also make love online ?
nothing lost and nothing gained