A Nigerian lady in the diaspora, @mmariaammx, has revealed she was fired from her care attendant job in Canada for saying sorry too often.

In what came as culture shock, the young lady said sorry is a default word in Nigeria but that is not the case in Canada.

In a TikTok video, she advised people to be ready to unlearn and relearn when emigrating to foreign countries, saying she has learnt her lesson.

She explained that she got a care attendant job as a side hustle as she already had a 9-5 work in Canada. On the first day of work, she noticed her employer had a health challenge that put her in pain daily and tried to be empathetic by always apologising.

@mmariaammx's employer called her to order, noting that the constant 'sorry' gets on her nerves. She refused to listen and this got her sacked days later.

Watch the video below:

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZM6729N8t/

PEOPLE REACT TO HER CANADIAN CULTURE SHOCK

Amee_braiding said: "I also do say sorry to my employer, but she doesn’t respond and I will be like when I go understand these people."

blackjezebel said: "So they gave you instructions regarding your client and you completely disregarded it."

Solexbrown said: "Hope u no finally tell her sorry ma , well am sorry about what happened to you ,, hope you are ok now."

Horlarwumi-Braids said: "She is right o...am learning how to stop saying sorry too...because they complain each time you say sorry."

anonymous said: "You are very right…I once told a resident “it’s okay” she said No it’s not okay, don’t Telme it’s okay.I was like Naso dem Dey do for here?"

Nwakaibeya said: "In Canada when you say sorry they tell you it’s not your fault or why are you saying sorry."

Raw & Regal said: "As a Canadian Social Worker that works with vulnerable ppl you always have to choose your words carefully clients and coworkers will come for your head!"

https://www.legit.ng/people/1574884-i-fired-job-nigerian-lady-moved-canada-opens-up/#:~:text=A%20Nigerian%20lady%20in%20the,not%20the%20case%20in%20Canada.

Its a slave and master thing, you say sorry you are guilty, it puts the business at a law case situation, to one its all about being polite to the other its an admittance to guilt

Many Nigerians are used to saying SORRY instead of EXCUSE ME and that can lead to a whole lot of unwarranted "SORRY" especially in an office with high verbal communication rate.

SORRY, where is the door
EXCUSE ME where is the door.

the most ANNOYING is the way people say WELLDONE in place of good morning or any other proper greeting. very off putting. Welldone say wetin I do?

She's not yet ready to say why they really fired her.

Wahala for who no go oyibo school

9ja English Vs Canada oyibo

Make we dey chop our agbado peacefully

That is why we don't value the word like they do... We use sorry just as we use Abeg... Which is the typical programing of the African mind.

But I believe in my life time Africa will be Great!!! Technology will see to it.

All these only shows we are different, Africans we need to go back to our civilization. Leave these alien hybrid humans lifestyle. It's in their dna to not see us as same.

RUbbish story, them sack you but no be because of sorry.
Nigerians and showoff.

Take your L and keep to yourself.
No moral lesson here.

Every rascal now want to advise people

How dis one use pass communication test for English?

Naija majic done choke am

E dey go claim English

thesicilian:
She's not yet ready to say why they really fired her.

As a business, saying "Sorry" has legal implications.

Sorry is not politeness, it is viewed as an apology.
Apology is an admittance of fault.

You don't say sorry, if you're not the cause.
There are other ways to show empathy.

Na them get English, na them go teach you the real use.

anonymous said: "You are very right…I once told a resident “it’s okay” she said No it’s not okay, don’t Telme it’s okay.I was like Naso dem Dey do for here?"

I fell into this trap twice telling a client "it's okay" which by my own reasoning meant "I have heard you, there isn't any problem. We should stop discussing it" but the client flared "It's not okay". It was a bit of a culture shock, me thinking I finally understand how to relate with the white folks. This days, I listen more and talk less. That way, I am quickly able to process what they're saying before stringing up a response.

Eeyah

Sorry

MyExpression:


As a business, saying "Sorry" has legal implications.

Sorry is not politeness, it is viewed as an apology.
Apology is an admittance of fault.

You don't say sorry, if you're not the cause.
There are other ways to show empathy.

Na them get English, na them go teach you the real use.

First they're not the owners of English, English is owned by people from England, not Canadians or Americans.
Second being too apologetic is never grounds for dismissal from work, no matter how callous the employer might be. So I maintain that she's not telling the whole truth.

superCleanworks:
Many Nigerians are used to saying SORRY instead of EXCUSE ME and that can lead to a whole lot of unwarranted "SORRY" especially in an office with high verbal communication rate.

SORRY, where is the door
EXCUSE ME where is the door.

somebody dey sick, na 'excuse me' u go tell am abi na 'sorry'?

How can you sit in Nigeria and know what the truth is in Canada

thesicilian:

First they're not the owners of English, English is owned by people from England, not Canadians or Americans.
Second being too apologetic is never grounds for dismissal from work, no matter how callous the employer might be. So I maintain that she's not telling the whole truth.

Kingzjayzee:
somebody dey sick, na 'excuse me' u go tell am abi na 'sorry'?

Get well soon.

And if you no sabi when and where to apply SORRY and EXCUSE ME and PARDON ME, no be me go teach you unless you are ready to pay HEAVILY for adult education.

superCleanworks:


Get well soon.

And if you no sabi when and where to apply SORRY and EXCUSE ME and PARDON ME, no be me go teach you unless you are ready to pay HEAVILY for adult education.

Like play like play una don dey render the word 'sorry' derogatory. Issorite.

thesicilian:

First they're not the owners of English, English is owned by people from England, not Canadians or Americans.
Second being too apologetic is never grounds for dismissal from work, no matter how callous the employer might be. So I maintain that she's not telling the whole truth.

Some Carers gets sacked for less sef

I used to be like that. My girlfriend made me stop this habit. Kudos to you Lovelyn.

Kingzjayzee:
Like play like play una don dey render the word 'sorry' derogatory. Issorite.

it is not derogatory. it is still a very vital word but we still don't have to abuse the usability.

But if asking you to use a word appropriately makes it derogatory, then there is nothing I can do about that.

Sorry madam😂

Reminds me of the rhyme 5 magic words.
Please
Excuse me
Sorry
Thank you
Pardon me

Most Nigerians prefer to use the 1st, 3rd and 4th.

Question of the day - What's the difference between pardon me, excuse me and sorry?

richiemcgold:
I used to be like that. My girlfriend made me stop this habit. Kudos to you Lovelyn.

You are dating a white? Which Nationality?

Iyanouwoura:
Same reason I broke up with my babe

What happened?

After bin call to order

Sorry, Abeg, No vex....
Na so we dey add everything for Naija, people no get joy for here.
In Nigeria sorry alone may not even be enough, you gats add the others.
Even to ask for direction you hear someone say,

"Excuse me please, sorry Abeg no vex, I dey go no 8 Hakeem Dickson drive, Abeg you fit show me the place ".....

Para dey body for Naija.
A lady rained insults on me back then, I was driving by around Dowen College, stopped her to buy groundnut, I asked of it was half-cooked, she said "yes", I had taste and it was more cooked than ewa'agoyin, this woman rained insults on me ohh, insulted my innocent mother and my entire Family and generation unborn.
Passers by thought I stole her groundnut, one guy slowed down and said "oga pay her na".
I just drove off, begging her want getting the job done

FEELING remorse comes with ACTING REMORSEFUL not speaking empty words like "im sorry" then you go back and repeat the act that made you say sorry in the first place

waste of speech when you can spend time acting youre remorseful

wrote an underatanding about that here

https://www.nairaland.com/7990162/womens-apology-different-mans-apology

please share to help others understand

She is lying!

Noted.

This is what living in a very parasitic country like Nigeria can do to us and our mental health

How did she get to Canada in d first place.


Is Canada now pure water....

She's just making content

Same way you don't add sir to someone's name.
My lecturer in school told us (Nigerians) to be calling him by his name..

In his word... I have not been ordained by the queen or the king so I don't have that title to my name"