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Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Dpharisee: 1:43pm On Feb 26 |
phorget: Mrperfecto:What can you add to your opinion on taking her back to the village after reading his post above from 2022? |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by DaytonaAries(f): 8:13pm On Feb 26 |
Dpharisee: That is the same thing I mentioned. The behaviour the little girl is exhibiting is a cry for help. Imagine calling an 11 year old child a bastard. If the Op sends her back to Nigeria, he is just playing to his wife's hands. How come she behaves when you are around, how come most of the issues she is having is with your wife? Doesn't that sound a little fishy at least. There is a saying" once you have a step mum; you automatically have a step father". By sending your daughter back to Nigeria and neglecting her, your child might not be close to you again. From his previous post, it is obvious the wife has a problem with him having a child. 1 Like |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by wjxavier(m): 12:59am On Feb 27 |
I bet you don’t have any framework for good behavior for her. Do you go to church? Do you practice the Christian walk ![]() No. Don’t force her. Model the life yourself. I recommend Christ Embassy. Lots of youth serving God and loving it. Thats the environment she needs. Plus good parents who are not hypocrites. Mrperfecto: |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Johel(m): 7:41am On Feb 27 |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Johel(m): 7:42am On Feb 27 |
ZeroWorries: Lucy, I'm willing to assist you more than you asked, but I can be selfish too.. are you on WhatsApp? |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Johel(m): 7:43am On Feb 27 |
Mindlog: It'll, to an extent. Or bring her to me, I'll teach her discipline. |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by kot1917(m): 8:33am On Feb 27 |
Mrperfecto: I will recommend nigeria military school in Kaduna She will be properly handled and you will be glad you did sir.... |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Darlingme(f): 9:03am On Feb 27 |
I have been trying hard not to write anything here since I saw this post. I had to take my time to go through all your post. but my mind wouldn't let me. I will say my mind @Op, to be honest with you, your daughter's behavior is a product of you and your wife treatment towards her. You may decided to dispose her, so she wouldn't affect you and your other children, but just know that you did not really care and pay attention to her. She's growing into a rebellious child because she can't find love and protection right under her father's house. How can your wife call her a bastard at age 11, then you lied to her? She discovered the meaning of baster on Goggle. What an intelligent girl. You failed here. You have always broke her trust in you. She didn't see you fight for her. ( I mean defending her) When you heard, you could not man up and rebuke your wife to stop using such word in the house in front of her, so she can feel protected by you. Rather, you cover up and left her with her hurt. You forgot to understand that why trying to be a good husband to your wife, you must as well try to be a good father to your daughter. You and your wife tag her possesed? Why? That's horrible thing to say? Can she call her own child that name no matter how badly behalf there are? If I may ask, where is her mother? Maybe it could be better to let her be with her own mother. It's obvious your wife don't like her and can't forgive her. She abuse her when you're not around and your daughter will no longer tell you, because she knows, you can't defend her. Why wouldn't she have messages from strange boys when noone love her from her home? She's looking for attention, care and love and she may end up making mistake. Your wife already sees her as a daughter born out of your Intimac.y with her rival. That's why she's always accusing you even after several years. Your wife would have been the best person to build her right, but can't forgive her. She's pushing her away. I feel so sad for your daughter. She is the victim here. 1 Like |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by brainycaleb(m): 2:56pm On Feb 27 |
This is a perfect case of "A child raising another child". I don't need to lecture you on the piling negative consequences of sending your Daughter back to Nigeria, that action on your part would be likened to decapitation your very own head (worse, its a girl child). Age 13 is the very first year of teenage hood and your daughter is simply reacting to the rushing emotions and complete imbalance of her entire existence and it is at this point that you need to become much closer to her and help her navigate the hurdles of her experience with physical body changes, emotional, psychological and mental changes. She is trying to put 2+2 together and neither you nor your wife is sensible enough to help her through, you feel because you've finally taken her out of Nigeria for a few years it makes you think you've done her a huge favour! I'm sorry to say that it's stupid of you to think like that. Do you have any remembrance of how your early teenage years felt like? Like being trapped in a body that's not your own? That's pretty much how your daughter feels like right now. I don't have much to say but If you make the mistake of returning her to Nigeria as Punishment, with all these sufferings we're going through right now thinking that a particular set of your stupid family members would have the time and effort to help you do your job of raising your own daughter for you while you send them some small amount of dollars every once in a while for her upkeep(an upkeep which they may carry out as they wish), then understand that you have lost your daughter completely. She may just be angry for a while but once she clocks 25 to 30 years, she will see your mistakes of bad parenting and will hate you for it. Oh Lest I forget, your other kids who aren't 13 right now and haven't began experiencing pubescent changes, what guarantees do you offer that you won't throw them back to Nigeria too when they begin to falter along their development rails? A word is enough for the wise. And I'm sorry if I turned out harsh in the last two paragraph but it's life bro... |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by ZeroWorries: 4:00pm On Feb 27 |
Johel: I live in Cross River state |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by ZeroWorries: 4:01pm On Feb 27 |
Johel: Yes, I can be contacted via WhatsApp |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Johel(m): 9:44pm On Feb 27 |
ZeroWorries: No, I can only assist those within my region (Lagos)...I wish you all the best. |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by ZeroWorries: 11:23pm On Feb 27 |
Johel: Hello sir, please you can still help me. Let it not be about my region please. |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Johnwrite(m): 8:11am On Feb 28 |
13 Years person nor be small person again nau |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by ZeroWorries: 12:28pm On Feb 28 |
Johel: Sir please don't allow region or disitance be a barrier to helping me. |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Chibabe005(f): 6:37pm On Feb 28 |
Inspirer1: |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by alphaNomega: 7:41pm On Feb 28 |
Mrperfecto: In today's America? society loves people like your daughter. Leave her to do what she wants, she will learn very well. |
Re: My 13 Years Old Has Become Terrible! I Want To Send Her Back To Nigeria by Obierika(m): 5:42pm On Mar 07 |
DaytonaAries: OP I hope you considered taking this advise |
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