In a age where people clamour to get the best of the best in character and virtue??
How does the girls mother look like,her female siblings and co

Women evolve facially and she could turn out to be prettier adn cool looking after few years of polishing and comfort

In as much as i dont support marrying monkeys, I sure wouldnt advise anyone u breakup with thier loving partners on reasons as lil as this

She cant be too ugly beyond repair, try manage her abeg, a decade after, she should be good looking

Hi kajaard

sammymax:
I seriously need advice as I really don't know what the right or best thing to do at this time. Please elders in the house be kind enough to suggest what I could do.

I did not think something like this can still happen in this era but this is what I have to deal with. So my mum flat out told me she does not like the girl I took home because she is not fine. About 3years ago when we went home together she told me this but I just disregarded it like when I'm ready she won't have a choice but to accept her as she is. To be honest she is not fine at all but she gives me peace of mind which I feel is the ultimate.

She was involved in an accident with my dad last year and we lost my dad in the process. During the burial I went home with my babe again and my mum still made her displeasure with the girl show.

The thing now is that I went home again to see how she is doing and she called to speak me again after stating that I had disobeyed her by not breaking up with the girl she said is still not having her and if I insist she is the one I should count her out of the marriage. She can never come visiting or even call her. She will not attend the wedding. Now I am 32 and she is 30

How do I navigate this situation. I plead for good advice. Have you been in a similar situation how did you handle it.

I think both of you will have to plan a trip to visit your mum

Leave her behind with your mom and come back to your base

Let her spend time with your mom for like 2wks ,they have to be bounded for her to understand that in marriage ,what makes a man happy is a woman that will give peace of mind

By the time she spends the holidays with your mum and come back to your base

Give mom time to tell you if truly she has a good character and then she may forget about her not being beautiful

What will you be doing with a beautiful woman that will give you a bad character at home

She done dey hype herself. You fine?
Agwa bu mma nwanyi.

@Op, this is actually a very daisy situation. I can't say, but parental consent is a good ingredient for a happy marriage. I don't know how much you have tried or if your mum is one that can be gotten to change her stance,but that girl has been kept on a spot and it is not a good one. How will she cope losing 3years with hope of getting something out of the relationship and given what you described as her feature, her age and chances of getting someone else?

Jewessgratitud3:
Lol funny but sad.

Your Mom reminds me of my Moms family that are particular about the beauty of a girl or handsomeness of a man you're bringing home. As in.. they will tell you this one you bring dudu nyanya come hope you're not planning to have something with him/her?
I'm talking about my grand aunties those days, which was why they selected a very handsome oyinbo looking husband for my Mom. Others who came were rejected until fine boy Lagos (my dad) now came. .

See she's your Mom and you need her consent and support in your marriage and if she says she doesn't like who you're bringing, let her go abi? This one you're claiming peace of mind, wait until you marry her. Let me tell you some girls can pretend just to enter especially if they know they are not so attractive but after they enter na that your mama she go first slap.

Abeg let her go. Prayerfully look for another girl and stop making it look like we wey fine na pain in the neck.. we too dey give peace of mind but if we do small shakara una go say we no give una peace. If woman no do shakara for her her husband who she go do am for?

Abeg leave her and let mama have her own peace of mind too. No be only you want peace of mind

We4all:
Your mom is shallow. Very shallow. Tell her to get you 'a beauty queen', before you break up with your ugly duckling.

Very very shallow

Your mum should know better, wisdom is definitely not by age. Be assertive as long as you are sure she is the one.

sammymax:
I seriously need advice as I really don't know what the right or best thing to do at this time. Please elders in the house be kind enough to suggest what I could do.

I did not think something like this can still happen in this era but this is what I have to deal with. So my mum flat out told me she does not like the girl I took home because she is not fine. About 3years ago when we went home together she told me this but I just disregarded it like when I'm ready she won't have a choice but to accept her as she is. To be honest she is not fine at all but she gives me peace of mind which I feel is the ultimate.

She was involved in an accident with my dad last year and we lost my dad in the process. During the burial I went home with my babe again and my mum still made her displeasure with the girl show.

The thing now is that I went home again to see how she is doing and she called to speak me again after stating that I had disobeyed her by not breaking up with the girl she said is still not having her and if I insist she is the one I should count her out of the marriage. She can never come visiting or even call her. She will not attend the wedding. Now I am 32 and she is 30

How do I navigate this situation. I plead for good advice. Have you been in a similar situation how did you handle it.

Which stupid peace of mind..
With all this going on with your mum, even if eventually you marry her, you will always be expecting her to lick your feet thinking you've done her a favour.
She's 30yo and not fine,abeg! What kind of attitude do you expect from her?
Don't marry person daughter because of pity. If you truly love each other, please go ahead.
Before you start making babies, let her be taking supplements to correct her deficiencies to avoid one of your children from suffering same faith. If she's too dark,her teeth, her chin, her height, her structure, whatever its as a result of a particular deficiency. The correction won't be for her because she's as attain adulthood but her children will gain from the improved nutrition/Supplements.
She's human and no human being is too ugly not to have his/ her admirer.
You relationship/marriage should be based on what you feel for each other because in marriage, women can become beast.

3 Years of Courtship is Enough To Know If She is A PRETENDER.

MARRY HER If You LOVE Her.


She's Not Ugly.


Your Mother Just Expect More of A FANCY WOMAN For You.


She Has Lived Her Life.


You'll Need To Live Yours.


If You're Not Ashamed of Her, There's No Reason Your Mother Should Be Ashamed of Her.




If You Leave Your Woman Because You Think You Need Your Mother's Blessing in Marriage, Think again.

If you leave her, Her Spiritual Aura Will CURSE You.


You Will Find Favour When You Wife Her.

There's Nothing Like Mother's Blessings In Marriage.

Na wa ooo


The second deadliest thing to do in life after becoming a Tinubu supporter is to date an ugly short girl (I added short, because ugly girls are mostly short).

When you eventually break up with her (Which I know you will soon do after Shining her Kongo like 100 more times and your eyes clear)
You will carry her DNA of Ugliness and start bearing "FORBIDDEN FACE LOOKING CHILDREN LIKE MY NEIGHBORS OWN"
with your next beautiful partner.

Imagine you having children with a face combination of Oshomole, Obaseki, Obasanjo, Tinubu and Portable on one face

Appreciate your Mum and thank her for saving your a*ss.

The only complementing thing an ugly girl have is a Pinkish moisturizing sweet Kpekus, which the most high gave them in place of an ugly face.

FACTOS!

sammymax:
I seriously need advice as I really don't know what the right or best thing to do at this time. Please elders in the house be kind enough to suggest what I could do.

I did not think something like this can still happen in this era but this is what I have to deal with. So my mum flat out told me she does not like the girl I took home because she is not fine. About 3years ago when we went home together she told me this but I just disregarded it like when I'm ready she won't have a choice but to accept her as she is. To be honest she is not fine at all but she gives me peace of mind which I feel is the ultimate.

She was involved in an accident with my dad last year and we lost my dad in the process. During the burial I went home with my babe again and my mum still made her displeasure with the girl show.

The thing now is that I went home again to see how she is doing and she called to speak me again after stating that I had disobeyed her by not breaking up with the girl she said is still not having her and if I insist she is the one I should count her out of the marriage. She can never come visiting or even call her. She will not attend the wedding. Now I am 32 and she is 30

How do I navigate this situation. I plead for good advice. Have you been in a similar situation how did you handle it.

Na wa for you 😂 you go carry someone that looks like Oshomole as wife, I stand with your mother 😂😂😂

CountinBlessins:
Grow up and stop bringing your problems to social media it shows you are a weakling and not fit to be called an adult!! Handle your issues in privacy. Weakling

Yu urself need to grow. Because e just Dey do me make I dash u one tinubulated slap

Oghene86:


Na wa for you 😂 you go carry someone that looks like Oshomole as wife, I stand with your mother 😂😂😂

Wetyn b this. E wan marry aunty ramota

OP, if you truly love the give, damn all the consequences, go ahead and marry her. It's you that knows what you want and saw in the lady. You're not marrying the girl for your mom or anyone, you're marrying her for yourself, but if the girl's name is Holluwhakemmy that we all know on nairaland, please, run o.

IF you choose to seek advice here where the likes of Marino and co agbadorians reside, you will find that advice you are looking for.

If physical attraction is not a dealbreaker to you, make your mum see reasons to embrace the good sides of your fiancee. I am happy it is playing out now. So that your fiancee can choose to enter or not. I don't advise any lady to marry where she isn't wanted. That is the major problem here.

I will put my mums opinion in the trash bin. She is in no position to choose for me as a man. My life, my choice. Thats why a man should man up from a young age so that this will not be ur story down the road

sammymax:
I seriously need advice as I really don't know what the right or best thing to do at this time. Please elders in the house be kind enough to suggest what I could do.

I did not think something like this can still happen in this era but this is what I have to deal with. So my mum flat out told me she does not like the girl I took home because she is not fine. About 3years ago when we went home together she told me this but I just disregarded it like when I'm ready she won't have a choice but to accept her as she is. To be honest she is not fine at all but she gives me peace of mind which I feel is the ultimate.

She was involved in an accident with my dad last year and we lost my dad in the process. During the burial I went home with my babe again and my mum still made her displeasure with the girl show.

The thing now is that I went home again to see how she is doing and she called to speak me again after stating that I had disobeyed her by not breaking up with the girl she said is still not having her and if I insist she is the one I should count her out of the marriage. She can never come visiting or even call her. She will not attend the wedding. Now I am 32 and she is 30

How do I navigate this situation. I plead for good advice. Have you been in a similar situation how did you handle it.

On a more serious note you pray to whatever God you believe in to help change your mums perception

What are you doing with a 30 + ??
No be evening News pa per be dat

That is not a good enough excuse.
Try and read in between the lines if there could be other reasons for her disapproval. Don't feel offended, she's your mum and she wants the best for you.
Never let your bae know what's up.
If your mother may be vague. If your relationship with the lady has been tried and tested, get other successfully married family members to get her to see why you wanna spend the rest of your life with the lady.
Sharing your situation on social media could be a mistake though...but then...💝
Best of luck b.

TheWinterBird:
You didn't mention any issues between you or anything wrong with her character, so leaving her simply because of a superficial reason like this, especially if you've been dating her for over 3-years (or how many years?) would not be nice. You can polish and beautify her on the outside to your taste.

How person wan take beautify aunty ramota

CountinBlessins:
Grow up and stop bringing your problems to social media it shows you are a weakling and not fit to be called an adult!! Handle your issues in privacy. Weakling

hunger and fraustraion dey worry you

Every human is beautiful....don't let go of her if she gives you peace of mind, that is where your wealth lies. Forget your mom, she has lived her life and cannot eat into yours.

sammymax:
I seriously need advice as I really don't know what the right or best thing to do at this time. Please elders in the house be kind enough to suggest what I could do.

I did not think something like this can still happen in this era but this is what I have to deal with. So my mum flat out told me she does not like the girl I took home because she is not fine. About 3years ago when we went home together she told me this but I just disregarded it like when I'm ready she won't have a choice but to accept her as she is. To be honest she is not fine at all but she gives me peace of mind which I feel is the ultimate.

She was involved in an accident with my dad last year and we lost my dad in the process. During the burial I went home with my babe again and my mum still made her displeasure with the girl show.

The thing now is that I went home again to see how she is doing and she called to speak me again after stating that I had disobeyed her by not breaking up with the girl she said is still not having her and if I insist she is the one I should count her out of the marriage. She can never come visiting or even call her. She will not attend the wedding. Now I am 32 and she is 30

How do I navigate this situation. I plead for good advice. Have you been in a similar situation how did you handle it.

even your mama see am, she fear.... I am a guy and I can't still figure out how some of my fellow guys settle for ugly girls. Some girls ugly no be small and I always respect the men that took them for who they are. As for me, a girl must be attractive before I can even consider her because I love beauty, there are many pretty girls who are decent and will give rest of mind, why should I shortchange myself and marry an unattractive one?

Would you feel the same if she were old instead, and not so ugly that even you know she's quite ugly?

Marry her today and begin cheating with the beautiful tomorrow. Very conscientious OP

She wants the best for you.......

Omoawoke:


even your mama see am, she fear.... I am a guy and I can't still figure out how some of my fellow guys settle for ugly girls. Some girls ugly no be small and I always respect the men that took them for who they are. As for me, a girl must be attractive before I can even consider her because I love beauty, there are many pretty girls who are decent and will give rest of mind, why should I shortchange myself and marry an unattractive one?

Don't ugly men get married,no one is ugly,you are not God,you cannot make a human being don't call anyone ugly,this is how some men Mary beautiful devils then start coming to disturb our ears later

Omoawoke:


even your mama see am, she fear.... I am a guy and I can't still figure out how some of my fellow guys settle for ugly girls. Some girls ugly no be small and I always respect the men that took them for who they are. As for me, a girl must be attractive before I can even consider her because I love beauty, there are many pretty girls who are decent and will give rest of mind, why should I shortchange myself and marry an unattractive one?

How do women settle for exceptionally ugly men? It's the same logical process.

Morbeta11:
Every human is beautiful....don't let go of her if she gives you peace of mind, that is where your wealth lies. Forget your mom, she has lived her life and cannot eat into yours.

Not every human is good looking...call a spade a spade, some people are ugly while some are good looking. Some are rich, some are poor, some are intelligent, some are dull.... Na so life be. All humans cannot be rich, beautiful, intelligent, talented, etc...we are not equally yoked.

enemyofprogress:
OP, if you truly love the give, damn all the consequences, go ahead and marry her. It's you that knows what you want and saw in the lady. You're not marrying the girl for your mom or anyone, you're marrying her for yourself, but if the girl's name is Holluwhakemmy that we all know on nairaland, please, run o.

lol I'm 100% wife material you will be the happiest person on earth if you see my type to marry.

sammymax:
I seriously need advice as I really don't know what the right or best thing to do at this time. Please elders in the house be kind enough to suggest what I could do.

I did not think something like this can still happen in this era but this is what I have to deal with. So my mum flat out told me she does not like the girl I took home because she is not fine. About 3years ago when we went home together she told me this but I just disregarded it like when I'm ready she won't have a choice but to accept her as she is. To be honest she is not fine at all but she gives me peace of mind which I feel is the ultimate.

She was involved in an accident with my dad last year and we lost my dad in the process. During the burial I went home with my babe again and my mum still made her displeasure with the girl show.

The thing now is that I went home again to see how she is doing and she called to speak me again after stating that I had disobeyed her by not breaking up with the girl she said is still not having her and if I insist she is the one I should count her out of the marriage. She can never come visiting or even call her. She will not attend the wedding. Now I am 32 and she is 30

How do I navigate this situation. I plead for good advice. Have you been in a similar situation how did you handle it.

Any union wey your parent no accept.. especially your mum, because they can see through there fellow women my brother better run... 99% of the time those that ignore that warning live to regret it....
Girls plenty you will eventually see a good one....
It might not really be about her looks but she's just using that as a soft landing.....

Why you go carry ugly girl go meet your mama in the first place?