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Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by yme1(f): 2:59pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
jamace:I so dont agree to that law tho in this case its right |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Nobody: 3:13pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
@ OP Interesting story, but the denouement was rather anti-climactic. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by MrChuks1(m): 3:14pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
WOW! Lots of comments. To tell you the truth, I’m here on NL trying to pass away time and let go of the grief in my heart. To the poster that thinks this is a script, you are very wrong though life is a stage and we all are actors on that stage. She returned after three hours and immediately started packing up her things. I didn’t say a word. When she was done, she told me she was leaving and would be staying with her childhood friend for a while. I kept mute, walked her to the door, wished her the best and that was it. Deep down in my heart, I know she will return but my accepting her back would depend on my state of mind at that time, any commitment I might have made to another person and if she has really changed. Well, DEUCES to her for now. I finally had to talk to two close friends of mine and they have said same with majority of the posters here- MOVE ON. I am a gentleman (God bless my mother who raised me up and taught me how to live right) and I choose to remain this way despite the society in which I find myself. One of my favourite quotes by Sir Winston Churchill is “The only guide to man is his conscience; the only shield to his memory is the rectitude and sincerity of his actions. It is very imprudent to walk through life without this shield, because we are so often mocked by the failure of our hopes and the upsetting of our calculations; but with this shield, however the fates may play, we march always in the ranks of honour” Thank you all for your time and advice. It really helped. For now, I need to keep myself busy to flush out memories of the past four years. God bless you. 2 Likes |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Acidosis(m): 3:15pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Let me wait for the next dunce that will tell me its bad for lovers to share their facebook passwords. Privacy my foot |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Ascony(m): 3:33pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Do you understand English? where have I said he shouldn't forgive her?. Forgive her and move on without her. I am a woman and no sane woman will mess up a 4 year relationship just like that without infidelity involved, she is loved by his family and she decided to mess up? only a stoopid woman will make that mistake. What do you know about women or tears? Undecided I can see another mugu 1 in the making Tongue if crying and begging isnt a sign of repentance/remorse, what else do u expect someone to do to show she is sorry?? how else can she show that she regrets her actions?? i just dnt understand u girls, someone made a mistake and now she is begging for forgiveness and u still think its fake, wat else do u expect the poor girl to do to show her remorse? anyway we can all argue here forever, we still dont know the reality and we are not in the girl's mind, maybe she is faking, maybe she is real, we didnt see it happen in order to discern the truth of the matter @OP, am baffled by her recent action of packing up her bags immediately, maybe its an advice from that her childhood friend, i expected her to continue begging at least to prove her deep remorse, but who knows, the story is not yet over, just keep us posted on any new development, Goodluck nwanne |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by 195(f): 3:36pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Mr. Chuks: So indeed she really came back and packed her tins My God - what is happening to our girls 4YEARS - Lord have mercy Let me see any body that would hush me from not SWEARING AT INSOLENT HOME BASED NIGERIANS GIRLS like this This is what im always complaining of, NIGERIAN Girls esp below 25 are not serious, they are not ready they are NOT RIPE I think i mite as well get married to a lady of 45 if it would give me rest of mind, OP take heart - i sincerely dont know what that guy has done or given her Talk to her family bout it too, maybe they mite try getting her back No wrong choice, dont talk to them - drink, cry, carry ashawo, do anything to make u forget Stay close to your family this moment - you'gon need them now more than ever Good lord!! May such not be my portion (although my case is almost similar to yours - but we tenk God) I moved on and found my princess (profile pic) and today we 11months old with no issues so far |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Idowuogbo(f): 3:40pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Poster like I sed u a gentleman indeed , ur friends aren't crazy telling you to let go.U are luved and some1 out dere values you.She came back to pack you say!!! without bringing an elderly person to convince u she meant d tears in d office, dats says a lot dear. I hope you find d strength to move on , judging from your posts u seem calm and collective dats d spirit u need now soldier |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Odunnu: 3:48pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Pheew! That was close mahn! You almost got married to another man's wife. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by chines4(m): 3:54pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Odunnu: Don't say that, she is undecided, yet |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Johnnymoh: 3:58pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Just back out, nothing can cause her to change her mind at this time cos for her to have rejected you (intimacy and kisses) it means she had really adapted to her new guy. Move on and start the process of looking for your wife. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by sicily4u: 4:00pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
@poster are you for real ? 8months with out job, and finally u got one and resign to work in ur fathers company, why not work in ur fathers company earlier, tell this story to kids 1 Like |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by coogar: 4:03pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Mr. Chuks: i am not even surprised about this story. most naija babes going for nysc are sheisty snakes. . . .and snakes should be put to sleep! let her go, she's slept with the other dude! |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by MrChuks1(m): 4:04pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
@ sicily, well its your choice to believe or not to believe but that doesn't change the fact that I did. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Vickivicki(m): 4:17pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
sicily4u: i tire for you o some dudes are like that they want to try and be their own man,nothing more. @Mr. Chuks Forgive her and forget her,10/10 shikena. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by expert555: 4:22pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Please leave her alone. Don't bother with her let her move on. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Nobody: 4:25pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
poster can decide to listen to his dykk or his head. You can take her back honey, but prepare yourself with the fact that she might make you pay for all of these not now but after marriage. A girl that is truly remorseful will camp outside your house until you forgive her. When I offend my husband with my big mouth, I sms him or go look for hhim@ work and apologise, and if we are home, I really apologise. Truth is, she's more concerned as to whether she made the right decision by cheating on you and wanting to be with the other guy, shes more concerned for her future. I dont know how you will even want a girl that told you she has no feelings for you, are you so desperate? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Maximip(m): 4:29pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
coogar: As in, that is exactly what happened. jennykadry: Left to me, it won't even get to this level. Would have called it off like 6 months earlier. She'll be wondering why not knowing I have seen the future already. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by coogar: 4:29pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
jennykadry: don't mind them. some naija men are pussi[i]e[/i]s. . . . in the next 5 yrs, this same guy would come with another story that he has just discovered his 5 children belong to another man! a snake is a snake. if she apologises now, she is capable of doing worse later. 1 Like |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by AfroBlue(m): 4:34pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Keep waiting sucker. She done hired a new joystick. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by gentlegg(m): 4:34pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
All this 4, 6, 8, even 15yrs relationships? Even when still in school? Am yet to fathom that. And most of them will jump ship when they grow up to realities of life. If you are not yet READY for marriage, why all these years of relationships and fiance(e)? I can only support relationship when you are READY to marry and searching, and it definitely does not need years. @Poster Broken relationship is better than broken marriage, so go give God thanksgiving. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by kaydkay(m): 4:45pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
@Poster, Correct decision, When my Ex decided it was over, I had enuff courage not to beg or plead. She was a bit baffled cos she didnt expect me just give up on her like that without a fight (read my earlier post). This happened like 3yrs ago. She is gone, dont call, delete her number from ur phone, move on with ur life. Trust me there is a girl out dr waiting for u. Trust me, it works, I have bin married ova a yr now with a lovely baby to add to it and I kip thanking God that she broke up with me every time I luk at my wife and baby. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by godman01(m): 4:59pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
That's painful, but its better you leave her now than when already married. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Skii(m): 5:15pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Gaddamn (panting) I missed out on all the action fa, Amazing how fast you have to read through to catch up Well poster even though the drama is over and though I almost overwhelmingly agree that you should move on, one tiny bit stll says that you should demonstrate maturity for the girl(assuming you are older). what she has with the other guy are just emotions. Feelings that can die with time. Love is different. It embraces forgiveness and keeps no record of wrong doing. If she was unfaithful and you were faithful, big deal. Most of us cheat on Jesus! (assuming you are a christian). Do what you must though. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by coogar: 5:19pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Skii: in his shoes, you would take the back the girl? |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by 195(f): 5:20pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Skii: [size=18pt]BUYAKA!!- THANK YOU [/size] |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Skii(m): 5:25pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
coogar: YES!! |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by coogar: 5:26pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Skii: very good! now i know why girls continue to be immoral in nigeria. men like you aid and abet their shameful acts. 1 Like |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by pendo89(f): 5:27pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
you v received a lot of responses and I believe you can work with that. I would like to encourage you however with this. Some things happen in our lives for a purpose.Dont mind the 4 years. look at what God spared you from by her action. Years of unfaithfulness, deceit and turmoil. The pain of betrayal you feel now is just a phase .With time you will heal.Sorround yourselves with positive friends,family,keep busy in career,hobbies and soon you will meet new friends. You say she could come again? Tell her you need to be left alone and ask her not to bother you till you are sure you have healed. change you locks if shes got spare keys to ur apartment.You just never know with some girls. Girls play psychological games.Allowing her back now is risky. 1. she could come revenging or 2. She could melt you again with her tears. Be tough cz this is your life and its u to build it. Dont say you wasted 4 years. You have learnt a lot in the process and now you are wiser than before. The 4 years was a period of learning. Always look at the bright side of life 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by BigMeat2: 5:28pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
Mr.Chuks, I really admire your calmness and sense of maturity in dealing with this episode in your life. I pray not to find myself in similar situation. You have shown that there are still some guys with good morals in our fast decaying society. Sincerely wishing you all the best in your life. Now your watchword should be 'looking after number one' which is you, anything else can follow in due time. Chin up dude. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by Skii(m): 5:29pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
coogar: And men like aid and abet their immoral acts |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by itoldu: 5:30pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
do you want your father to cry all because you made a mugu of yourself? you can't even understand this if you don't even know it's already over. let's look at 1st case senario especially: she would come back begging that she still wants in. Mr charming prince would take her back because he lacks foresight. he does everything to please and keep her not knowing that FACEBOOK LOVE is enjoying more than he bargained for. You go ahead with the wedding and after she gains access to your funds (because of the mugu you are proving to be, no offence), a lot of anonymous spending starts and yet you believe she is your wife and would never do such. remmber that papa is paying your salary and he'd surely be giving you bonuses My advice is that you set sail to another shore and don't start your new r/ship with this story because you might not just tell if the next would do the same seeing your weak point. Remove the feelinggs from the equation and see the whole r/ship from a new point of view. So many are married and are not happy because they saw some of these traits and thought it right to go with the flow. i still relate with my exs'. No feelings attached but as for you, stay out of sight till you get your head together. |
Re: Caught Cheating A Day To Marriage Proposal by BiafranFirstSon(m): 5:48pm On Nov 15, 2011 |
You are a good man mr chucks. I have been good like u a long time ago and she toiled not only with my heart but with my soul. Prayer saved me. Mine was seven wasted years. Don't let urs get that far like mine, Mugu like me. I wanted to be a good guy so i waited till 4 years before sex, according to her command, i was thinking it was love, Till her feelings starts to depreciate like ur woman said. Run for your life, she must surely cheat on u. I swear she will f*** that man and other men again and again. She will never be content with u. Chei! Life is a complex of reflexes and reflexion! |
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