Two things, Ustaz.

1. I have my elderly father to care for and he has a business which I am responsible for. The business fetches a decent income for the family to sustain ourselves and pursue some aspirations.

2. My wife is a medical doctor and for her profession, it's better she practices abroad for way better income for her. She is responsible for her parents and a sibling. We just had a baby.

Now, I'm confused - should I leave Nigeria with her to take care of her and our baby, or I stay back to support my father? Or is there anything else I can do?

Convincing her to stay back has only led to fights with her & her family

Kindly back up suggestions and advice with reference to Quran or hadith

Please consider yourself and your future too

op dey cr.az you post, you come comment at ftc

Women are wired to torment the life of a man


Take care of your dad and business, he will open up on other things to you.

You are already a father, so she's no more a big deal.

Why swear before I can reply ? Anyway My opinion is that you hire someone to take care of your dad , while you japa with your family, From abroad send funds to your Dad regularly

Focus on your father's business in Nigeria and let her go abroad for her career with her child you can always visit. When everything is better, you can get a good person to management your business then you move abroad

You should be the priority my friend. Your wife's future is her future, your father's wealth is for the family and not yours alone. Think of what is best for yourself.

I don't have any Quranic verses to back my suggestion

Stay back to care for your dad and family business

Allow your wife to go abroad to practice

Marry a second wife
Be traveling at intervals to visit your wife abroad while she also come around on holidays

Do you have siblings who understand your dad's business and can care for his well-being? if yes, you can consider relocating for a greener pasture else stay back with your wife support your family, and sustain the business. A bird at hand is more valuable than 100 in the forest.

Ohferanmi:
I don't have any Quranic verses to back my suggestion

Stay back to care for your dad and family business

Allow your wife to go abroad to practice

Marry a second wife
Be traveling at intervals to visit your wife abroad while she also come around on holidays

Coming from a female
If he marries another wife then the wife should get another husband

Dear Friend, follow your dad and his business. You control both by doing that. Because when you send her abroad and she gets little change women attitude comes in and by they are uncontrollably.

Go abroad and enjoy life to the fullest. My 2 cents ! Need assistance with IELTS ? Check my siggy

Stay back and take care of your father and his business pls. Because your Aljanah lies under his feet. Your are the head of the family, so ask your wife to remain in Nigeria and take care of her family with her Nigeria salary.

Ok

Can your dad's business be managed remotely, if it can, consider relocating with your wife, while you manage your dad's business from there, and get someone to look after your dad.

If it's a business that will require a physical management, you can employ someone while the person prepare monthly report for you to oversee.

labake1:



Coming from a female
If he marries another wife then the wife should get another husband

how sure are you the person you're quoting is truly a female?
No be every f you see for nairaland na female o.
Just like the moniker goodlady is not a female but a full grown man with hairy balls

obiekunie01:

Waalekum
even you self no be woman.

you na nairaland female.

man wey sabi.
Tuale boss

You should marry another wife that will care for you and support you with your dad.

It's better to call it quits with her!

Your wife is supposed to summit to you and you ought to submit to your parents except when they call to sins!

Quite frankly and no time to waste!

Ok

Why this nonsense.... So this blog stil do this but Muslim fit comment on xtain post..... Oga o....
Little wonder the blog is full of tribal / religion issh

Back to op
Stay back
They can't coerse u to accept losing what u r building too here at the expense of u to satisfy her

What if she changes when u get there what will be ur faith after u had forfeit everything here to support her own dream

My point
If u don't mind traveling before follow her while u hustle for urself there..... Don't ever think on depending on her for survival
Back stories shows women u fend for their man misbehave
Remember u av kids which means u can't really work for now till he's of age
Bye

BoboKush:
Why this nonsense.... So this blog stil do this but Muslim fit comment on xtain post..... Oga o....
Little wonder the blog is full of tribal / religion issh

Back to op
Stay back
They can't coerse u to accept losing what u r building too here at the expense of u to satisfy her

What if she changes when u get there what will be ur faith after u had forfeit everything here to support her own dream

My point
If u don't mind traveling before follow her while u hustle for urself there..... Don't ever think on depending on her for survival
Back stories shows women u fend for their man misbehave
Remember u av kids which means u can't really work for now till he's of age
Bye

nobody force you to comment, why so pained.. Mooooove..

Please how do I remove the Islamic declaration on my profile?

I'm not interested in contributing to any thread on Islam, it was a mistake and I had no intention of contributing to the topic.

I believe solely in Jesus Christ who died for my sins.

Thanks

frankblinkz:
Women are wired to torment the life of a man


Take care of your dad and business, he will open up on other things to you.

You are already a father, so she's no more a big deal.

Correct, if she get abroad and dump you, you will regret not taking care of your father and his business. Your wife truly must understand that without your father taking care of you when you are powerless she won't have the opportunity to know you, now it is your turn to take care of your own daddy.

I promise you if you can be caring to your father for little time left for him on earth, you will forever be happy and he will also depart from earth happily, when you also grow up, you own children will repeat same gesture to you, your father will always pray for you till he will depart, the Joy will flow through the family,

Meanwhile check my signature for your building materials supplies for your construction.

hslbroker2:


Correct, if she get abroad and dump you, you will regret not taking care of your father and his business. Your wife truly must understand that without your father taking care of you when you are powerless she won't have the opportunity to know you, now it is your turn to take care of your own daddy

very true

labake1:
Focus on your father's business in Nigeria and let her go abroad for her career with her child you can always visit. When everything is better, you can get a good person to management your business then you move abroad

‘When everything is better’😧🙆 as in, when the father passes on. Women 🤦‍♂️

Great.

AntiChristian:
You should marry another wife that will care for you and support you with your dad.

It's better to call it quits with her!

Your wife is supposed to summit to you and you ought to submit to your parents except when they call to sins!

Quite frankly and no time to waste!

you are correct

Never allow a women to control you, later you will live to regret I bet u

labake1:
Focus on your father's business in Nigeria and let her go abroad for her career with her child you can always visit. When everything is better, you can get a good person to management your business then you move abroad

this is a good woman, no sentiment