chimuanya24:
Back in the day, a lot of married men dey cheat and also engage in extra marital affairs with reckless abandon. Some even do it to the knowledge of their wives. Who see it as a normal thing then.

But it seems married ladies of today aint willing to take any shit from their partners. Once their hubby cheat on them, they disengage from the marriage one time!

The likes of Mabel Makun, Elsie Okpocha, and Sonia Ighalo, represent the new Naija women...

That's why the concept of monogamy is alien to every sane society.
Unlike we Muslims we do not have problems with marrying more women,in fact it is encouraged.

Polygyny is not about men marrying more women,no, but about women having men who can marry and take care of them.
A society that deceives itself and thinks one man one wife can work is only setting itself up for doom.
These women except their hormones are no longer functioning will crave for a man's attention,closeness,warmth,embrace and even guidance.
It's something they can not do without.
Let's not deceive ourselves.

We4all:
The tables have turned. Women of nowadays are giving men a run for their money in the cheating game. May the best player win!

You will lose at the end.
In the game of sex,men always come out on top.
Don't deceive yourselves.

A man can go on to sleep with as many women as he wishes but a woman can not try this without feeling violated or let down one way or the other.
Women are more emotional when it comes to sex than men.
It's known!

Let's stop the comparison.
Women will lose in the long run.

NOTE: I do not condone infidelity of any sort in or outside marriage.
I was just speaking based in real life facts.

Smiles...

Disengage from ur marriage, we dey olosho hunters are waiting for u outside...

Kajaard:


I respect your response without insult which is very unusual for this forum. This shows we can always disagree and have divergent opinions without resorting to insults.

I still maintain my stance, this idea of our Nigerian women going woke and copying everything from the west is not helping women. Let's tell ourselves the truth for once. Cheers

Good to know, now also tell yourself the truth by putting yourself in a woman's shoes, you love and sacrifice for your husband and in appreciation he cheats on you repeatedly, how would you feel mentally and emotionally , women are just tired of dirty excesses of men, in truth is nauseating

Amumaigwe:


On the contrary, those women were the ones that cheated. Men don't talk about their cheating wives for their childrens' sake. Get that.

AuwalYusuf812:
Bros I want to support this Ur post with 2k

Abeg support me. Make I drop aza?

Friend22:


That's why the concept of monogamy is alien to every sane society.
Unlike we Muslims we do not have problems with marrying more women,in fact it is encouraged.

Polygyny is not about men marrying more women,no, but about women having men who can marry and take care of them.
A society that deceives itself and thinks one man one wife can work is only setting itself up for doom.
These women except their hormones are no longer functioning will crave for a man's attention,closeness,warmth,embrace and even guidance.
It's something they can not do without.
Let's not deceive ourselves.

You mean the underage girls you people marry over there right.

Most divorced women do not even want to remarry, they want to focus on their kids and jobs. Why should they be eager to remarry when they have tasted marriage before and know that most men have nothing good to offer? Unless it's the category that have no jobs.

flexyrule:
How many of those she listed remarried?

Friend22:


You will lose at the end.
In the game of sex,men always come out on top.
Don't deceive yourselves.

A man can go on to sleep with as many women as he wishes but a woman can not try this without feeling violated or let down one way or the other.
Women are more emotional when it comes to sex than men.
It's known!

Let's stop the comparison.
Women will lose in the long run.

NOTE: I do not condone infidelity of any sort in or outside marriage.
I was just speaking based in real life facts.

If women are losing, why are men crying over paternity fraud? Is it not cheating that results in paternity fraud?

Ok.

chimuanya24:
Back in the day, a lot of married men dey cheat and also engage in extra marital affairs with reckless abandon. Some even do it to the knowledge of their wives. Who see it as a normal thing then.

But it seems married ladies of today aint willing to take any shit from their partners. Once their hubby cheat on them, they disengage from the marriage one time!

The likes of Mabel Makun, Elsie Okpocha, and Sonia Ighalo, represent the new Naija women...

Amumaigwe:


On the contrary, those women were the ones that cheated. Men don't talk about their cheating wives for their childrens' sake. Get that.

You are absolutely wrong,twas the men who had concubines and other wives openly.
Twas even said that when a woman gives birth,she used hand to get a woman who will be taking care of the husband till she wins the child.

It takes discipline and grace to stay faithful in marriage coz there are temptation everywhere and if you are unable to control it you may fall victim.

A colleague at work said that suitors far better than her husband are now asking her out and if not that she really love her husband she'd have left him

chimuanya24:
Back in the day, a lot of married men dey cheat and also engage in extra marital affairs with reckless abandon. Some even do it to the knowledge of their wives. Who see it as a normal thing then.

But it seems married ladies of today aint willing to take any shit from their partners. Once their hubby cheat on them, they disengage from the marriage one time!

The likes of Mabel Makun, Elsie Okpocha, and Sonia Ighalo, represent the new Naija women...

Who’s the First Lady in brown bag?

wany:

But men do worst, but if you can't sincerely find a wife then go the bobrisky route and rest

Men can't do half of what women do.

Women don't need money to get laid...men labour to get laid. Its just a fact.

You women are the worst cheats but you are quick to point fingers at men

We4all:


If women are losing, why are men crying over paternity fraud? Is it not cheating that results in paternity fraud?

You think a child will forgive his mother after knowing he is a byproduct of infidelity.

The stigma of a bastard son is not easy. I have a friend like that. He hate his mum like poo after getting to know that he actually belong to his friends dad. That's how women loose on the long run ..

He grew up looking exactly like his dad's friend .monstache smile and voice..lolz...that woman is now down to stroke..

No be small matter oo

chimuanya24:
Back in the day, a lot of married men dey cheat and also engage in extra marital affairs with reckless abandon. Some even do it to the knowledge of their wives. Who see it as a normal thing then.

But it seems married ladies of today aint willing to take any shit from their partners. Once their hubby cheat on them, they disengage from the marriage one time!

The likes of Mabel Makun, Elsie Okpocha, and Sonia Ighalo, represent the new Naija women...

You people will learn.

chimuanya24:
Back in the day, a lot of married men dey cheat and also engage in extra marital affairs with reckless abandon. Some even do it to the knowledge of their wives. Who see it as a normal thing then.

But it seems married ladies of today aint willing to take any shit from their partners. Once their hubby cheat on them, they disengage from the marriage one time!

The likes of Mabel Makun, Elsie Okpocha, and Sonia Ighalo, represent the new Naija women...

The list is endless bro
1. Lilian Esoro- Ubi Franklin
2. Sonia Morales-IK Ogbonna
3. Tonto Dike-Olakunle Churchill
4. Uzomaka Ohiri-Chinedu Ani
5. Funke Akindele-JJC Skillz
6. Mercy Aigbe-Lanre Gentry
7. Tiwa Savage-Tunji Balogun
8. Osas Ighodaro-Gbenro Ajibade
9. Maureen Esisi-Blossom Chukwujeku
10. Bunmi Ninalowo-Bolanle Ninalowo
11. May Edochie-Yul Edochie
12. Caroline Ekanem-Musa Danjuma
And many others , but guess what, alot of them are regretting their actions.

wany:

You mean the underage girls you people marry over there right.

Stop being childish!
Who marries "underage" girls?

Let's compare: a girl of 15 years from the South is likely to have been slept with by a bf,but in the north a girl of 15 will gladly marry a man who can take care of her and be responsible at that age.

Fact is,marrying a 15 years old girl is very rare today in the north except for certain religious and moral reasons.

We4all:


If women are losing, why are men crying over paternity fraud? Is it not cheating that results in paternity fraud?

You're missing the point.
I narrowed it down to sex not offsprings.

In the end too,women usually bear the shame of being untrustworthy.

You think any man who knows a lady with such background will be committed to her?
Except a drunkard without brains.

Now compare this to Davido and Wizkid,who despite having several babymamas ladies still flock around them to be with them and even wish to carry their children .

The point is,MEN are the price!

hotwax:


You think a child will forgive his mother after knowing he is a byproduct of infidelity.

The stigma of a bastard son is not easy. I have a friend like that. He hate his mum like poo after getting to know that he actually belong to his friends dad. That's how women loose on the long run ..

He grew up looking exactly like his dad's friend .monstache smile and voice..lolz...that woman is now down to stroke..

No be small matter oo

Some of these ladies think from beneath their feet.

I told her when it comes to sex,men still call the shots.

They do not understand they can't win.

As old as I am,I can still attract ladies of any age(below my age and above),but a lady of the same age will find it extremely difficult.

That's why this comparison is BS.

Women should just learn to maintain and marry men who are faithful and trustworthy.

Friend22:


You're missing the point.
I narrowed it down to sex not offsprings.

In the end too,women usually bear the shame of being untrustworthy.

You think any man who knows a lady with such background will be committed to her?
Except a drunkard without brains.

Now compare this to Davido and Wizkid,who despite having several babymamas ladies still flock around them to be with them and even wish to carry their children .

The point is,MEN are the price!

Do you know how many women have sex daily without you knowing about it? But it is only when they get pregnant that you will get wind of their promiscuity.

The point I'm trying to make is that sex and pregnancy go hand in hand. Men cheating on women means nothing but if a woman cheats on a man, she can go as far as commiting paternity fraud just to deal with a man. So, in the end, who is winning and who is losing between both gender?

Your point about women flocking around the likes of Davido is watery. They reason they do so is because of what they can get. Is it not the same Davido that has been financing the lifestyle of an American porn star?

A woman like that doesn't need commitment but money, so how is she a loser if she is getting what she wants? And how can men be the price if they are spending millions just for one pussy. As long as men are not getting women for free, then the loss is on them.

jaxxy:


Divorcing or leaving ur husband because he cheated once or 2ce doesn't mean ure not taking shit.

Especially when u leave ur husband to be a Bleep buddy or another married man or even single men

u didn't take shit in ur marriage to go and take bigger shit outside ur marriage.

I'm not supporting tolerating cheating in marriage I'm only advocating for women learning how to build their homes and that means even when storms come build ur home.

When you keep saying this 'build your home'. What is it exactly that you are expecting the woman to do, build her home in what sense, please?

Someone goes out of his matrimonial home to cheat and you turn to the recipient of the offense and tell her to build her home. Why aren't the two people who took vows at the altar admonished to build their home?

The misogyny is disgusting!

LagBae:


When you keep saying this 'build your home'. What is it exactly that you are expecting the woman to do, build her home in what sense, please?

Someone goes out of his matrimonial home to cheat and you turn to the recipient of the offense and tell her to build her home. Why aren't the two people who took vows at the altar admonished to build their home?

The misogyny is disgusting!

Build ur home means whenever there's a problem work on it together and try to fix it.


This problem doesn't have to be cheating but can range from cheating to financial issues etc.. And yes it applies to the man too even tho we don't hear that part that much because of the type of role he plays.

Fiscus105:
A married woman who is a graduate, working with her certificate, earnings a good income, knows her rights and supporting husband at home.

There is no way you can subject such wife to the way ,18 century's husbands subjected their wives into.


THIS IS HARD REALITY MODERN DAY's HUSBANDS MUST KNOW AND INCORPORATE INTO THEIR SYSTEMs, IF THEY WANT LASTING AND PEACEFUL MARRIAGES.

Nevertheless, wife must also know that, no civilisation can make husband to play second fiddle in Marriage.

With this, compromise becomes Integra tool that can make Marriage works in 21st century.

Meanwhile, every wife knows that husband likely to cheat, a wise husband would do it discreetly in such a way that, even if wife knows,Marriage would still be intact. But foolish would say do ur worse! Before you know, a once a beautiful family becomes object of ridicule in the society (Yul Edolche)

I can't agree with you more

wagzyl:
Sincerely, this warped mentality (my man cheats, I must cheat too. what a man can do, a woman can do better) is the reason why our society especially Southern Nigeria continues to deteriorate massively in the name of being 'educated', 'woke', 'not taking nonsense'. Whether you like it or not, both genders are wired differently. The success of any marriage depends a lot on the maturity of the man and the patience of the woman. I'm not excusing men but this mentality has one and only one outcome, DESTRUCTION of the marriage. The white folks who brought/facilitated this warped mentality have already run down their own societies. They raise feminine men, high rates of divorce, and many more men shying away from marrying altogether. Their women hoe around in their twenties and are left with regrets in their forties, with many taking solace in their cats, dogs and other pets. Their society cannot sustain its own population and their politicians are facilitating immigration at insane levels. Those who fail to learn from the mistakes of others would definitely taste the same cycle of failure. A divorced woman is a money spinning venture (you can research more into their spending habits and the effect of divorce on the black communities in Baltimore, Chicago, etc.) and the children suffer the most.

What more? You divorce your husband for 'cheating' and end up as a side piece to another man in a relationship, most times married. The joke remains on the woman! Those who praise a woman for leaving a loving man whose only downside is cheating (no diseases, no violence and takes great care of his wife and children) are the same people who would quickly fill up her space. These women wont tell you but the truth is that it is only after about four to five relationships after their marriage, that they realize the enormity of the bad decisions that they've made but it's too late. They would then keep posting pictures online, seeking validation from random people to make it seem as though they're happy. If you disagree, it's fine but Jeff Bezos's ex-wife divorced him, remarried one everyday guy (a music or french teacher or so) and guess what? She divorced him again after 2 years. Is she married again now? Oh, you don't need to be married to be happy? Lol.. keep deceiving yourselves. The joke is on you!

What a wrapped mentality and I know that you must be an Igbo man the region that is well known for oppressing their women. Congrats to you

oluwaseyi0:
Major problem now is that most divorced women will now start following other women husband

There is hardly any single guy that will marry them after 3 kids and years of marriage

Lol you must be an Igbo man. Go to Niger Delta and see things for yourself.
Yul didn't he leave his wife he married brand new to a woman that has children for some men. Dey play nau because things have changed

tunjijones:
These women have money to take care of themselves without the husbands. Many more women are now educated and make money on their own.

I know some women that can't even survive without a man too wld leave her husband cos he cheated.

But do you know the funny thing? These women that left Thier husbands cos he cheated on them wld now start dating married men. They didn't leave the husband cos he cheated, they left thr man cos they want to be free....marriage dey tie them down, dem no fit explore.

But most of my gender dey use you will be a side chick to a married man & no man will marry you to keep women in dark places. But unfortunately for my gender a lot of women now understands that life is too short & cannot be wasted.

Lol
This your lines below hmmmmmm
they left thr man cos they want to be free....marriage dey tie them down, dem no fit explore.

wany:

You are shallow in reasoning go and ask your grandmum if she is still alive, if she was ever happy in her marriage to your granddad then come back and ask your mum.
When a partner cheats it simply means the other partner is not good enough kapish , this is emotionally draining to bear and not everyone wants to go through the drain.

Your father and mother are dump for raising an insolent like you. Go back to them to first teach you manners before you ever quote my post. Animal.

folake4u:


Hahahaha.

Then you lots should marry your mothers then. Life nor suppose hard.

It’s not about you marrying your father or your uncle, but rather about you making some sacrifices for the sake of your children.

Didn’t you know him as a cheat before you married him as a star? So wtf are you saying?

Laple0541:


It’s not about you marrying your father or your uncle, but rather about you making some sacrifices for the sake of your children.

Didn’t you know him as a cheat before you married him as a star? So wtf are you saying?

Sacrifices for the sake of children? So cheating is the supposed "sacrifice" a woman should make because of her kids?

What values do you think she'd instill in the lives of the children. That cheating is normal and you should disrespect yourself by staying? When the marriage bed is desecrated?

Let us not justify rubbish.

Let us flip this table. If your wife cheats on you, will you stay put in the marriage for the sake of your kids?

folake4u:


Sacrifices for the sake of children? So cheating is the supposed "sacrifice" a woman should make because of her kids?

What values do you think she'd instill in the lives of the children. That cheating is normal and you should disrespect yourself by staying? When the marriage bed is desecrated?

Let us not justify rubbish.


Let us flip this table. If your wife cheats on you, will you stay put in the marriage for the sake of your kids?

The question is, did he start cheating overnight? You dated a man for 3years before getting married to him (all because he’s a celebrity or you saw he has the potentials).

After 15years of marriage, you wake up overnight and say you are leaving because he’s a cheat! DIDN’T YOU KNOW HE’S A CHEAT BEFORE GETTING MARRIED TO HIM?

Villa12:
what about men?

No matter how men cheat outside they can never change to the one they love.