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Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by Villa12(m): 4:08pm On Apr 12 |
FRANCISTOWN:I'm not saying it happen in your family. I just want you to understand say you first me come life no mean say you know wotsup pass me. They no dey do am by age o 1 Like |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by AutoChick4U(f): 4:26pm On Apr 12 |
Rowllland:Look your hands are functional ryt? What stopped you from boiling d water and making d eba yourself? You better humble 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by Lightieness: 4:52pm On Apr 12 |
hitting the girl was a wrong move, your parents are not helping matters, move away and give them space 2 Likes |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by FRANCISTOWN: 7:01pm On Apr 12 |
Villa12:I go like meet person like you for real life o. I dey like wicked people. |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by obinna58(m): 8:21pm On Apr 12 |
Rowllland:Na why my sister sent me out of her house at night be this. she’s 21 and not a kid you can control anymore Me wey be 27 sef my older sister ask me carry a bucket of water to the bathroom for her to bath, i told her I’m not her houseboy Na so I get my ass out in the street If she’s the one cooking in the house, I go just laugh at you E sure me die say you didn’t ask nicely, you probably asked like it’s her duty to boil you water, I can confirm this by the double slap you dished out to her, actually she was probably expecting retaliation 2 Likes |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by elmagnifico411(m): 8:33pm On Apr 12 |
Rowllland:let me encourage u with this long story of mine; we are 6. 5 boys and a girl. The girl is the last born, while I am the third; this means i have 2 boys Infront of me, and 2 behind. U see those 2 behind, especially the one that comes immediately after me, they lack respect. Sometimes ago, one of my elder bros was staying Abuja, the other one got a job with Vmobile, got an apartment, nad asked me to move in with him which I did, around 2007/08. By 2010 when Vmobile turned to ZAIN, he was moved to Abuja and as then I wasn't stable financial cos I just got myself settled with all the wahala I faced trying to graduate, so I had to move back to my parents house as i could not keep up with the rent. At my parents house I saw hell. Younger brothers were preferred cos they were bring in more money then.. Omo, it wasn't easy for me but I tried my best in keeping cool and looking for a way to better my life, thanks to my elder brothers cos then they tried for me, they understood my situation better.. 2012 my immediate younger bruv got married. In my parents eyes, he became the eldest son in Lagos, I was relegated cos they saw him as being responsible. In all of this, I kept going on managing my life and hoping things would turn my way someday. Lemme also add that when he was getting married I did everything in my power to support him, not minding what people, especially family people would say.. on the wedding night, he brought his wife and the both thanked me for everything and all the supports. All I could utter then was,"I'll do anything for family" no matter what. 2016 God answered me! Got my own place, got married and life became bearable.. my parents, especially my mother that was always on my neck, that relegated, that wouldnt see anything good i did no matter hard i tried, now became my number one supporter... As I write, she's here at my place with my kids. She would stay 2 weeks without coming down. She reports my two younger brothers to me now and always come to me for solutions whenever they're in one sheet or the other.. I am not proud, just thankful. The rejected stone is now the chief of the corner.. not that I get money oh, but I am not poor and God has helped my life with wisdom to navigate life.. my elder brothers in Abuja are like my best friend, them no dey joke with me. All na God shaaaa... So my bruv, your time will come. Things would begin to take shape for you very soon and you'd wonder how God did it. Just keep calm, be prayerful, always ask for wisdom, and don't let your condition get the best of you. I could go on and on, story yapa!. I go dey continue the gist later. Peace. 4 Likes |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by obinna58(m): 8:43pm On Apr 12 |
FRANCISTOWN: You probably knows how to talk and reciprocate respect which is why you’re getting all the respect, my junior bro respect me die and I Dey respect am back, he Dey do anything I ask am fast even though he knows I’ll have no grudges with him if he says no Cases are different some just want to be bossing you around, if you try to boss them you’ll see their rebellious nature 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by Villa12(m): 9:15pm On Apr 12 |
FRANCISTOWN:empty barrel. |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by FRANCISTOWN: 6:02am On Apr 13 |
Villa12:Your father, your grandfather, your great grandfather. Oponu omo irankiran. Mention any of my post again and die a tragic death. |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by Villa12(m): 6:05am On Apr 13 |
FRANCISTOWN:empty drum. We know your type |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by FRANCISTOWN: 6:08am On Apr 13 |
obinna58: Ehn ehn. You get sense jare. I dey package myself die that time wey I go use some weeks for my parents house. I no dey pass my boundaries. We no dey gather sit down gist. I dey dey my room 24/7 , like twice every week I dey give my younger ones bar make them use am guide. I no dey ask them make them do anything for me but if them see me carry anything them don rush come collect am. And normal normal, them know say I no dey take nonsense. My body dey quick boil. |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by MOG6670(m): 7:07am On Apr 13 |
Jennyclay:you are the one supposed to be ashamed for typing this gibbresh. This man here was/is not lazy, she supposed to understand that her brother is going through some kind of depression "even though he has'nt mention it) she supposed to be kind enough to show him even love if she cant respect him |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by MOG6670(m): 7:14am On Apr 13 |
TheWinterBird:but do u know how painful it is to care and endlessly love ur sibling when things are good, but unforturnitly disregard and look down on u when thing gone south? |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by MOG6670(m): 7:22am On Apr 13 |
dahmie2013:pls can you put down what u've faced and how you've got to overcome it? My guy is going through thesame phase and pity him, i want him to read it maybe he will be encouraged |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by harmony940(m): 7:23am On Apr 13 |
suckmedownthere: Wow this coming from a lady... I really do respect your thinking ability madam,it shows you are very mature. Until you are into people's pain,you know how it feels. 3 Likes |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by MOG6670(m): 7:37am On Apr 13 |
[quote author=elmagnifico411 post=129406258] let me encourage u with this long story of mine; we are 6. 5 boys and a girl. The girl is the last born, while I am the third; this means i have 2 boys Infront of me, and 2 behind. U see those 2 behind, especially the one that comes immediately after me, they lack respect. Sometimes ago, one of my elder bros was staying Abuja, the other one got a job with Vmobile, got an apartment, nad asked me to move in with him which I did, around 2007/08. By 2010 when Vmobile turned to ZAIN, he was moved to Abuja and as then I wasn't stable financial cos I just got myself settled with all the wahala I faced trying to graduate, so I had to move back to my parents house as i could not keep up with the rent. At my parents house I saw hell. Younger brothers were preferred cos they were bring in more money then.. Omo, it wasn't easy for me but I tried my best in keeping cool and looking for a way to better my life, thanks to my el for me, they underst we are waiting for the gist |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by Villa12(m): 8:09am On Apr 13 |
MOG6670:we all know that the only thing OP is going through is finance nothing more. He's not going through any health related cases nor police case. I understand what makes you a man is Money. Nonetheless, that isn't an excuse or yardstick to slap his sister. Imagine what would have happened if their father or mother was there when he slapped her. He should thank his star he's still single. This is a phase lots of single guys had passed through. Lots of married Men with responsibility in Nigeria today are going through worse than what OP is currently going through. Does that mean their wives/ children/ friends/ neighbors don't get them pissed off at some point? So you expect them to be slapping them up and down? We should learn to tame our temperament biko. If it was his younger brother would he also slap him? I'm sure he wouldn't attempt to slap him because that might lead to serious fight in the house which at the end OP will be blame. Truth be told no one is his slave in that house. The fact that our younger brother or sister prepare food or run errands for the house daily doesn't make them slaves or responsible for our daily upkeep. Anybody can cook. Everyone should learn how to cook. It's not solely meant for any gender. Heaven will not fall if OP walks into the kitchen and boil the water he wants to use. If OP is living on his own or living with his friend, does he expect his friend or his friend wife to do that for him? Op your mission in that house is to lay low pending when you will leave. It'd be absurd neighbors coming to settle or seperate fight between you and your siblings. This is the period you should drop that ego of senior or I'm a man. You should be friendly with your siblings but let there be boundary. You should support them in any house chores you know you can do. Maybe helping your dad do his laundry and ironing once in a while. I don't think it's fair sitting idle while your siblings do everything. It's a matter of time. Obviously you'd leave. If you're in your own house with your wife and kids and God forbid something similar happened. I'm sure you wouldn't abandoned all the house chores to your wife. You will definitely assist whenever you're around. @suckmedownthere was right. Most African parents see their children as their retirement plan. Expecially the male child. Once the last born has money he automatically become the first born and even father of the house. This had actually pushed the youths into crime. An average Nigerian youths (guys) are into cyber fraud popularly known as Yahoo Yahoo just to live up to expectation and take up responsibility in the house. Go to most average homes in Nigeria, you'd be surprised the children are the bread winner. If you're a male child and you don't have money in Nigeria, their parents will not rate them including their siblings. I know it's not all family but it happens in most average Nigerian family. I understand our government also had a role in this. The government had improvished the masses to the level that ordinary food had become luxury to an average Nigerians. No job, no light, no capital to Kickstart businesses et al. May God have mercy on us. 1 Like |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by MOG6670(m): 8:16am On Apr 13 |
[quote author=Villa12 post=129411225]we all know that the only thing OP is going through is finance nothing more. He's not going through any health related cases nor police case. I understand what makes you a man is Money. Nonetheless, that isn't an excuse or yardstick to slap his sister. Imagine what would have happened if their father or mother was there when he slapped her. He should thank his star he's still single. This is a phase lots of single guys had passed through. Lots of married Men with responsibility in Nigeria today are going through worse than what OP is currently going through. Does that mean their wives/ children/ friends/ neighbors don't get them pissed off at some point? So you expect them to be slapping them up and down? We should learn to tame our temperament biko. If it was his younger brother would he also slap him? You have said it all kudos |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by obinna58(m): 1:36pm On Apr 13 |
FRANCISTOWN:Baba forget it, with your style you go even get big influence join and if money come Dey, dem go begin worship you You’re giving value and collecting less, e sure me sef you go even understand and respect the psychological side of people |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by Truvelisback(m): 2:56pm On Apr 13 |
Rowllland:You shouldn't have slapped her, you could have done it yourself. Just get a job, get an apartment of your own and you will be respected by her and your mum. At the moment, leave the place but if you can control your anger and do certains by yourself without asking for help, stay. |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by budaatum: 4:43pm On Apr 14 |
Gbadugbakun: No she wouldn't. And even if she were his daughter he'd pay for the beatings later in life. |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by 1Sharon(f): 4:47pm On Apr 21 |
You'll do it again |
Re: I Get Lots Of Disrespect From My Younger Sister. I Need Your Advice by NoToPile: 6:02pm On Apr 21 |
She should have boiled with water na, it's disrespect. Where I come from whether you have money or not the elder is the elder, the younger is the younger whether you are male or female on either side it doesn't matter but then family dynamics are different, it depends on what is obtainable in your family. The matter can never degenerate to slapping in some families but then these days that money is equivalent to respect in lots of communities I can't really say much. I just find it disheartening that most advices are of get a job, make money etc. It is well. 1 Like |
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