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Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by AuwalYusuf812(m): 10:31pm On Apr 15 |
Very correct. what else marriage bring those days if not heartbroken, las las DNA go still separate Una. Make ah continue my baby mama thing abeg ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by bishop212(m): 10:38pm On Apr 15 |
Kobojunkie: thats my own observation, not the absolute reason for the failure of marriages today but part of the cause. socially and technologically exposed societies and underdebeloped ones dont always have same reasons for similar priblems ! and save ur "Denial is a sickness ravaging the minds of many a Nigerian, it seems! " talk ok. |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Kobojunkie: 10:40pm On Apr 15 |
bishop212:Seems more like a conclusion drawn from your refusal to accept that the society which is Nigeria ought to be responsible for its many problems and issues. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by donbenie(m): 10:40pm On Apr 15 |
Beverlyjean: This mindset is the reason Africa is a primitive sh1thole.. Whilst others have taken responsibility for their actions and moved forward.. You are here lecturing on how the Devil conduct his evil businesses. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Kobojunkie: 10:51pm On Apr 15 |
bluefilm:... FireUpNow:Of course, marriage is but does that change the fact that marriage is on the decline meaning that the percentage of those venturing into marriage at the end of each day has seen a big drop? No! Is it necessarily a bad thing? No! ![]() |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by VULCAN(m): 10:51pm On Apr 15 |
'I couldn't agree less' means you DON'T AGREE with the OP. What you meant to say was 'I couldn't agree more' TooResilient: 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by bishop212(m): 10:51pm On Apr 15 |
Kobojunkie: that still cannot excuse the place of external influnce on societies ( globally through the media in our current dispensation of tech)whether u are ready to see it or not. |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Kobojunkie: 10:53pm On Apr 15 |
bishop212:Given the fact that as far back as the 1980s, the official divorce rate in parts of Nigeria were equally high, this claim of external influence, particularly the Western media, holds little to no water. You need evidence and facts, to blame the problem on external influence. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by tefishy(m): 10:57pm On Apr 15 |
It is not all about procreation. It is a complex institution that is complicated and unpredictable at times. Behavioural attributes and communication constraints are some of the factors that affect marriage AuwalYusuf812: |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by zinaunreal(m): 11:06pm On Apr 15 |
Marry monster at your own risk |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by FireUpNow(m): 11:11pm On Apr 15 |
Kobojunkie: Blame the economic power of people as times are getting tougher also moral values is eroding drastically. People of today lacks contentment. Could it be that the family unit dying? The society is it a total reflection of the family unit. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by LeyeWrites: 11:15pm On Apr 15 |
Every crap has a piece attached to it. |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by triplechoice(m): 11:22pm On Apr 15 |
Marriage is only irrelevant for those who don't know its relevance. |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Faposky95: 11:44pm On Apr 15 |
Kobojunkie: Ever asked why life is not fair....? You choose Y or N..... No in-betweens |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by triplechoice(m): 11:46pm On Apr 15 |
Kobojunkie: You cannot determine the depth of river by standing at its bank. |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Kobojunkie: 11:49pm On Apr 15 |
triplechoice:No one is attempting to determine here the depth of the river that is marriage. What we are saying is that the river does not seem to benefit many as it used to and it may be time to fill parts of it in so the cost to the individual of crossing it is no longer as great as it used to be. ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Kobojunkie: 11:51pm On Apr 15 |
Faposky95:I have absolutely no reason to want to ask that question at this point. That is because I have to accept that Life itself is unfairness and there is no mistake as to why it is exactly that way. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Kobojunkie: 11:52pm On Apr 15 |
FireUpNow:Aaabegi! ![]() In 1981, the divorce rate in the State of Plateau, Nigeria, was recorded to have been around 81% among newlyweds. in 2012, a report went out that the divorce rate in Northern Nigeria was among the highest in the world. Now, of course, these reports come from the North where divorce is respected and tracked. In much of Southern Nigeria where divorce is traditionally found, official divorce rates have notoriously been maintained at below 0.1%. This does not consider the rate of marriage abandonment, the acceptable form of divorce among southerners, and equally as high as at least 50%. What has the economic power to do with the high divorce rates recorded even in Plateau state back in the 1980s? ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by ITbomb(m): 12:27am On Apr 16 |
The simple truth is that originally, women married young and while yet inexperienced and all they lived for is to understand her husband, groom the children and the other room while the men provide, protect and lead the family Nowadays, women tend to acquire experience before getting married therefore carrying their perception about life into marriage and trying to outsmart their husband in decision making 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Ilekokonit: 12:35am On Apr 16 |
Kobojunkie: In a nutshell, marriage has lost its unique selling point. |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Kobojunkie: 12:37am On Apr 16 |
Ilekokonit:Precisely! The product needs improvement work done on it either through enactment of new laws and benefits for those who would choose it all while protecting them at the same time. And it could also benefit from some rebranding work. ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by triplechoice(m): 1:15am On Apr 16 |
Kobojunkie: You have given a wrong interpretation to the parable. Having a direct experience of something is sometimes the only only way you can judge iif it's actually good or bad and not by listening to the experience of others who had it bad Those ones will so mess up your mind with their own negative experiences to the extent you start imagining that "the river does not seem to benefit many as it used to " The river is there for you to step into and use for your own benefit. How you achieve that is dependent on the effort you, yourself ,put into it. |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Kobojunkie: 1:23am On Apr 16 |
triplechoice:This here discussion has absolutely to do with whether one has experienced it or not. The fact is clear to all, by way of the statistics available, that more and more individuals are opting for alternatives to marriage. So, I am not certain of the place of experience in all of this. ![]() |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by triplechoice(m): 1:47am On Apr 16 |
Kobojunkie: Marriage is not a product you buy from the market. It's something you have to build together with a willing partner you have chosen to love for the rest of your life. If you're not ready for that , then don't go into it. Enactment of laws and protection from government are not the things that would make any marriage successful . |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by triplechoice(m): 1:49am On Apr 16 |
Kobojunkie: Where are you getting the statistics from? From all over the world or a particular region? And what's alternative to marriage and your definition of marriage? |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Kobojunkie: 1:51am On Apr 16 |
triplechoice:Lol.. the moment you sign the agreement papers or you fulfill the traditional marriage requirements, you pretty much bought the product called marriage. What you do with it afterward is between you and your marriage business partner. ![]() 2. Make marriage successful ke? We are talking about making it more enticing than it has currently become. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Kobojunkie: 2:00am On Apr 16 |
triplechoice:Right there in Nigeria. https://punchng.com/marriage-experts-worry-over-rising-divorce-among-young-couples/ ■ Singledom and relationships without marriage commitments are alternatives. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by triplechoice(m): 2:05am On Apr 16 |
Kobojunkie: I'm afraid you have a very distorted view of what marriage is. The signing of the dotted lines are mere formalities. Focusing on that as if that's all that matters will distract from the goal . Random strangers don't just walk into the registry to " buy" the product . Do they? |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by Kobojunkie: 2:15am On Apr 16 |
triplechoice:My view is not in the least bit distorted at all. Those formalities establish what you call a marriage — which means you have obtained the product. And marriage is the goal of those who sign those dotted lines. Whatever they do after that is considered marriage? So? ![]() Yes, even random strangers are not barred by law from doing just that. So, I am not certain what you are going on about here. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by ManOfSon: 2:20am On Apr 16 |
Don't dabble into issues that you lack the capacity to understand on a sophisticated level. Just stay in your shallow silo. This one is above your pay grade. Tranquility2345: |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:59am On Apr 16 |
look around you...and see all the women ready and willing to go UnCloth for clout; all the women who have no respect for men; all the women who believe they are men and forget the essence of marriage.... who are we kidding?! what man in his right mind would want to settle with such fail minded women? all the sistas wanting to be married yet also wanting to continue living like as if they were single. who will marry these ones sef?! sista dressing like a young slut after marriage, who are you trying to impress? sista posting sultry pics on SM (with all your tittays and bootay out), whose attention are you seeking for? sadly, i dont blame men today who decide to not want to get married and instead would rather ride it out with just common GF and babymamas... but then again, many men are dying to marry some of these women out there. TO EACH THEIR OWN i guess! 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Is Gradually Losing Its Relevance by vivaAfrica: 4:24am On Apr 16 |
I don't know the narrative you want drive home, but it will not work people are still getting married happily and enjoying it. In fact that business will boom as people are looking for superior knowledge to make their marriage work better uche87: |
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