There are 85 works of the flesh in scripture which are all the workings of sin in the flesh.
one of them is called "Without Natural affection!
When we go into the meaning of affection we discover that affection is a "disposition or state of mind or body" commonly linked to a feeling or type of love!
We also note that love is God and God is love and God's love is the only perfect love that exists as all others are not totally perfect.
Love is forgiveness in action!.
Therefore to have an affection unnaturally would mean to be fond of someone for ulterior motives other than the well-being of that person.
such motives may be that of an imperfect type of love which is passion, romance, infatuations, obsessions, lusts ,perversion or selfishness!
Being without natural affection is also a cyclical exploitation of the one to whom affection is shown to.

A lot of people who do not have the love of God in them or whose love is not yet perfect may experience this kind of affection at one stage of their lives.

They may also be a victim or a perpetrator of such wrongful affections so as to understand the negative side of it all.

Good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people for a reason.
in all, one thing that is important is for one to repent of such wrongful affections if one was the victim or the perpetrators!
1) Love and hate type of affection-There are many people who love you in the morning and hate you at evening!
such an affection is not natural but full of stealth and deceit.
These people may have you for their use and later dump you!
Examples of such
a)Amnon and Tamar- in this case Amnon was the perpetrator and Tamar was the victim of such unaturaly affection.
Amnon's love towards Tamar wasn't perfect.
it was full of pretense, and imposition with bad influence and counsel from a bad friend.
Amnon never considered Tamar's condition but became selfish to an extent that he disregarded the tribe culture and tradition regarding matters of marriage even when Tamar pleaded with him to be reasonable for she had agreed already to marry him if only he asked the King
2 Samuel 13:12 And she answered him, Nay, my brother, do not force me; for no such thing ought to be done in Israel: do not thou this folly.
13:13 And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go? and as for thee, thou shalt be as one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, I pray thee, speak unto the king; for he will not withhold me from thee.
It was a relationship that blossomed into an inappropriate one.
After Amnon had forced her and violated her through RAPE, he hated her than the love he had for her.
This type of affection was not natural at all.
it started with imperfect love, impatience, force and then ended in rape.
shame and reproach became what Tamar had to bear while Amnon enjoyed few minutes of folly and pleasure that made him hate the one he loved forever!!!
One of the attributes of love is that it doesn't behave unseemly!
2 Samuel 13:14 Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice: but, being stronger than she, forced her, and lay with her.
13:15 Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone.
we can say that in today's modern expression , Amnon had obsessive love disorder!
He may have become aggressive with the person he claimed to love and this must have scared Tamar also for her to say don't force me!
Many perpetrators of such acts were also once victims and many victims were also once perpetrators in a cycle of which one rule is common to all.
what this means is that whatsoever a man sows that will be reap
This also means that just as bad things happen to Good people, good things happen to bad people depending on their own definition of good and evil.
However , before God, what is evil, some.
men call it good and vice versa .
This brings damnation on some men.
what happened to Amnon later?
Amnon died by the hands of his own brother!
2 Samuel 13:28 Now Absalom had commanded his servants, saying, Mark ye now when Amnon's heart is merry with wine, and when I say unto you, Smite Amnon; then kill him, fear not: have not I commanded you? be courageous, and be valiant.
13:29 And the servants of Absalom did unto Amnon as Absalom had commanded. Then all the king's sons arose, and every man gat him up upon his mule, and fled.

it is pertinent to note that Tamar became desolate for the remaining part of her life as no one married her because of the culture and tradition .
but Amnon also never ended well.
2 Samuel 13:19 And Tamar put ashes on her head, and rent her garment of divers colours that was on her, and laid her hand on her head, and went on crying.
Love doesn't behave unseemly!
1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Amnon became obsessive and behaved unseemly by pretending to be sick when he was not!
2 Samuel 13:3 But Amnon had a friend, whose name was Jonadab, the son of Shimeah David's brother: and Jonadab was a very subtil man.
13:4 And he said unto him, Why art thou, being the king's son, lean from day to day? wilt thou not tell me? And Amnon said unto him, I love Tamar, my brother Absalom's sister.
13:5 And Jonadab said unto him, Lay thee down on thy bed, and make thyself sick: and when thy father cometh to see thee, say unto him, I pray thee, let my sister Tamar come, and give me meat, and dress the meat in my sight, that I may see it, and eat it at her hand.
While Tamar had compassion, she never suspected anything strange .
Amnon also sought his own wellbeing than that of Tamar's.

Amnon became easily provoked and also now thought evil to an extent he cast out Tamar whom he loved!!!

This shows that sex is not love nor love sex and premarital sex is not love nor love sex wether consent or no consent!!!
These therefore are the things , we must take note off!!!
Many people may have a spiritual problem of an inherited curse that permits sexual immoral behaviors which are inappropriate to manifest in their lives .
it is also because of the environment in which they may have grown up in or lastly bad influence.
A spirit, a curse or an influence are what contributes to unnatural affection.
In any case, it's either one becomes a victim or perpetrator.
Wether victim or perpetrator, there is slightly any difference based on experience because of what is involved eg A spirit, a curse or influence.
Many victims of sexual abuse are not innocent either.
it's either they have a certain spirit attracting the perpetrators to them .
This spirits may be inherited from ancestors or given to them unknowingly!
This has nothing to do with the innocence of the victims.
Many victims begin to do things that will have bad consequences and fail to adhere to instructions because they enter the second phase of a curse!
A family whose ancestors killed an innocent person may be placed under a curse by the one sacrificed that none of their daughters will be married to and that they will always be defiled!
That curse now begins to manifest from the 1st generation to the 3rd and their daughters always get sexually abused and defiled one way or the other.
lastly, the influence of a bad environment makes many victims experimental.
It's unfortunate that many of those who show unnatural affection only are imitators of what they have seen or learnt from a bad influence or environment.
However, they become a part of their life when they begin to do such evil things without no good guide or someone who disciplines them.
Jonadab was a bad influence and a bad counselor to Amnon.
Many sisters become bad examples and influence to their junior sisters as they allow them see their weaknesses and vulnerability with the opposite sex.
They teach their sisters pervert things and show them how to experiment with the opposite genders.
such direct influence will become costly to such who are influenced when they are alone.
in other words that influence is direct.

The indirect influence are the media today.
When many youths watch pornography, they suddenly begin to learn unnatural things and ways of sexual intercourse which makes them passionate about it and willing. to experiment.

some of the teens begin to experience the motions of sin in their members and this makes them to do what they wish not to do!
Romans 7:5 For when we were in the flesh, the motions of sins, which were by the law, did work in our members to bring forth fruit unto death.
some begin to act like their role models, those whom they revere .
They fail to see that the consequences are death!
watch what you watch and hear.

spirits also influence certain celebrities today and influence their actions .

it is the reason why we are told, don't follow multitude to commit evil!

in today's modern world, youths become a partaker of any thing when they claim to be a fan or follower!!!!
eg IAM a fan of a famous celebrity, IAM a follower of a certain fashion style or trend.
I love this person etc.

These influences later shape the youths or their lifestyles than the word of God !
it is all a part of youthful exuberance but with the fear of God, one can overcome without natural affection!!!

influence can be personally, then to materially ie the things we now use , financially and physically all directed from a spiritual angle.
it will always manifest and sometimes because of ignorance , men pay a steep price.