folake4u:
Future date question: Does your family have letterhead paper?

Wetin dey letterhead?
I can even design a personal coat of arms
Nonsense

Abagworo:
Because her father is not rich. If it was Donald Duke's daughter they would have been first to announce it. Most rich people want their kids to marry from their fellow rich.

That's normal... Economically and futuristically, it makes a lot of sense too.

However, times are changing.

Men and women from humble backgrounds are breaking into old money families now.

Eventually, the family shield cracks, especially if the rich one is the lady and she got pregnant.

This instance might be harder because the man is the one with the old money...!

Same thing that played out with Prince Harry.

NothingDoMe:
And the death of the Psquare brand. Was it worth it?

Yes!

Did the brand die because of Lola or because of the greed of Jude, the elder brother?!!

Paul that married whom the family accepted, how far did it go?!! Is he still happily married??!

Just asking.

Can't be my family. They just want me to bring someone, even if its Mia Khalifa

dominique:


To them she's a nobody.

@tallesty1

I assure you that family can readily allow their son marry an unemployed girl. Men don't carry money for head the way women do. After all, even if she has money, not like she will give the guy shishi...so why bother?

The girl is doing well for herself, so it's not a poor girl, rich girl thing.

The only scenario I see is that d boy's father has probably payed private investigators to run a thorough check on the girl.

Does her earnings correspond with her asset? Did she pay for those designers bags out of pocket or was it a gift?

This huge transfer into her account, where did it come from? Where does she lodge when she travels? In whose name is the hotel booked? Did she stay in a $100 per night hotel or a $700 per night room abroad?

Trust me, these info is quite easy to target for those big men.

Add this to the age gap, n the fact d boy doesn't look street smart, then u can understand why d family sense some manipulation.

I wouldn't date u if your family doesn't accept me let alone marry.

The amount of young feminist who would have listened to this girl's preaching about how u can do it all without a man, but 40 starts knocking, desperation enter.

Angelfrost:


Lol... You can be so needlessly emotional! It's amusing.

It is the family's right or perogative to accept or reject their son's union.

However, it is not in their place to permit or allow a grown man marry whomever he chooses.

That's my point, Sir.

The letter should have been worded more intellectually.

Ogbeni, my Point is Respect the Family and Don't ask questions like 'Why should a Grown Man be barred from Marrying his Choice'?

Some 30yrs old no get SENSE!

As a Parent, Never assume that your Child has become too Sensible.

ONNYX:


One of the best posts here.

In times past it was very difficult to make a lot of money. Those who succeeded were so conducted themselves in a particular way and came very easily to shame. They also tried to ensure that nobody close to them soiled their reputation.

The Patriarch of that family had to strong willed in order to keep his proteges in line including not limited to wielding the big stick when necessary.

What this man would have done is to buy time and get one or two people who are lieutenants/confidants to the Patriarch over to his side and then seek a middle course of action that can lead to a somewhat amicable solution. It doesn't have to be a battle always.

He has too much to lose. In medieval Europe that family will destroy the girls business and the young man will be emasculated.

The girl is pregnant hence the desperation. The family took that drastic step because they don't trust her intentions. She is older and thus manipulative. It's also about the background. Some people have dirt poor backgrounds that no matter the amount of wealth they acquire, their past sticks out like a sore thumb. For example, how do you clean up an illiterate mother or father that can't communicate in English? If ones siblings have been unfortunate not to go to school and not cleaned up too, you can't hide them forever. It's just you, the shining light out of the dunghill, nah! They will classify you as part of the dunghill no matter how much you cleanup.

SAMBARRY:
lazy,weak, effeminate men's favorite bible quote na wetin go kill una dey always hungry Una.

Una no see the one for bible wet say a man that cannot feed his household is worse than an infidel

Don't mind them...!

The same Bible they love to cut and join also clearly stated that "He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord".

O pari.

RodgersAkpafu:
all I'll say is

I hope this woman is worth alienating your family over

Nobody is what alienating your family over. If her family no want me, na me gangan go end d relationship.

You have no idea what family r willing to do even for a bad child, let alone a good one

folake4u:


Hahahaha you're not serious.

Old money people and their wahala.😂😂😂

Old money don't want poor gold diggers, that Wifi abi wetin be her name is a very shameless and loud hoe and that boy is foolishly in love, I just hope he won't regret his foolish decision later in the future.

Angelfrost:


When an adult son or daughter has taken a decision despite being advised otherwise by his or her family, it's best they let them be.

He or she is an adult, not a child!

Every man reserves the right to be foolish by choice... He should be allowed to learn the easy or hard way.

Dear Nigerians, know your limits... Life no suppose hard.

You are very correct here. But if you have a child and have bonded with him enough and are willing to protect him as much as you can then you will understand that parents do not have anything against any particular girl or boy introduced into the family.

They do however have a checklist that they use to scale the new entrant. There is a minimum score that must be met before consideration.

I have seen many marriages contracted against the parents involvement and non of it ended well.

The least you can do is to listen to your parents advice and appraise it objectively. They are most likely speaking/advising based on experience and finally what they see sitting down (with clear eyes) is what you will never see atop a mast (especially with love tainted glasses).

VinnyBaba:


Ogbeni, my Point is Respect the Family and Don't ask questions like 'Why should a Grown Man be barred from Marrying his Choice'?

Some 30yrs old no get SENSE!

As a Parent, Never assume that your Child has become too Sensible.

Brother, I respect you, but let's stay within the bounds of reason, logic and constitution.

There is a reason certain ages are regarded as Age of Consent.

Whether he get sense or he no get sense, the highest a father, mother and family can do is advise, counsel and outrightly reject his choice.

They have no right or authority to bar or prevent him from marrying anyone he has decided to marry.

We don't need to make this simple life more complicated than it already is.

As a parent, my stance regarding such issues would be clear from the birth of my kids, and they will grow up knowing this.

If they decide to choose their paths as adults, I won't get into conflict with them.

Proserpina:


I tell you! Marrying into such family isn't easy especially if the person is not of their social circle. They see everyone outside their circle as "social climber " no matter how "comfortable or well to do" the person is. If you don't have a name, you can't come in.

I wish Wofia luck. May God give her enough Panadol for her existing and yet to come headache.

For real oh. Any family that does not accept me, no matter how much I love the person, I don run comot. I nor like stress.
Infact, they should give me $100m and I'd leave their son alone.

I wish her luck as well. That's how folks said Dakore's marriage was. That the family didn't approve and she had to write kini kan undertaking or so.

This ENP don hook this SIMP. The SIMP is about to betray his family because of woman

Noise over nothing.


He is the one that want to live with her not the family.



Yoruba men are destined to marry from the East, nothing can stop them, not their fada or mama



Or are we Easterners not beautiful?



We fine!

Tallesty1:
Well they are the reason the whole Nigeria and many parts of the whole are talking about it.

For real oh.

If not for their letterhead paper, who know the family before outside Lagos Island and environs?

Mtchewww.

greypencils:
The girl is pregnant hence the desperation. The family took that drastic step because they don't trust her intentions. She is older and thus manipulative. It's also about the background. Some people have dirt poor backgrounds that no matter the amount of wealth they acquire, their past sticks out like a sore thumb. For example, how do you clean up an illiterate mother or father that can't communicate in English? If ones siblings have been unfortunate not to go to school and not cleaned up too, you can't hide them forever. It's just you, the shining light out of the dunghill, nah! They will classify you as part of the dunghill no matter how much you cleanup.

Great thinking here expressed in words.


Your reasoning is so apt.

They should look on the brighter side, he married a babe.


Total babe!

ONNYX:


You are very correct here. But if you have a child and have bonded with him enough and are willing to protect him as much as you can then you will understand that parents do not have anything against any particular girl or boy introduced into the family.

They do however have a checklist that they use to scale the new entrant. There is a minimum score that must be met before consideration.

I have seen many marriages contracted against the parents involvement and non of it ended well.

The least you can do is to listen to your parents advice and appraise it objectively. They are most likely speaking/advising based on experience and finally what they see sitting down (with clear eyes) is what you will never see atop a mast (especially with love tainted glasses).

My good friend, you have spoken well and I agree totally with you.

Permit me to correct that part in bold above...

Not all of such well contracted and family-accepted marriages end well.

Matter of fact, plenty of them end badly... The examples abound all around us.

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he won't depart from it.

If an adult chooses to deviate from a family's sacred tradition, the family should be smart enough to call him to order in love... Where entreaties fail, he should be allowed to learn from experience as an adult.


I don't even know why many commenters here are so upset with such a simple common sense reality. Lol!

That girl no get sense. You want to marry into a family like that without their blessings and you think it last. They value that name like gold

Goodlady:
Wait
Lemme leave crusade

Makes no sense.

Proserpina:
This gaslighting tactics is obsolete try another.

A woman has the right to reject whoever she wants to reject. She has the right to want the best and choose the best. If you fall in the post of the rejects , work on yourself and hope someone find you worthy.

Keep this tale by moonlight to yourself but you may choose to use it to scare your own female kids into marrying the wrong persons if you like.

Everything na gaslighting to una. E say rejects thank God for faceless forum wey dey give some of una voice. If you are raising your own daughters already I wish u all the best on that, if you are looking to get married I still wish u all the best.

Checkwell:


Makes no sense.

Receive sense!

Zonefree:

When an Adult son is in love, it's best he listen to his family. They see things he can't see cos a Man in love is a foolish man.

Forget that thing. Parents are overbearing sometimes; they lived their lives and should allow their children to live theirs too. A full grown adult should be old enough to know what's good for him, if things go south, he bears the brunts. We are no longer in stone age.

cococandy:
They want him to marry someone they handpicked for him so that he’ll be miserable.

Then while married he’ll be running games on the side because his heart is not in the marriage. People will really wish misery on you just so that you can fit into a box they designed for you.

The whole public statement is disgusting in and off itself

The worst, and I dare say annoying, part is that he wouldn't be the only miserable one in the marriage.

The lady foisted on him will end up being miserable and deprived of true love, intimacy, and family connection.

The family will end up making two people and kids unborn miserable.

Angelfrost:


Now, this is the right question...!

I believe he has already answered that for himself by proceeding with the controversial union.

I don't think they have started the exam yet because if the exam start .he will change his body language

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https://www.nairaland.com/4615376/wofai-fada-tired-using-vibrator/1#129795001

I don't blame the Cole family
Look at the shameless hoe their son wants to marry
Your past can haunt and hunt you

baralatie:

I don't think they have started the exam yet because if the exam start .he will change his body language

Chisos!!!

aAK1:
That girl no get sense. You want to marry into a family like that without their blessings and you think it last. They value that name like gold

Well.sue should have at least no allow.it.degenerate to this point

dominique:


They're aware of his intentions to marry the lady, they just weren't in support. Old money or new money, they need to realise that there's a level of control they can exert on an adult, a male for that matter. This action taken by them could make the son further distance himself away from them. Look at how things went with Psquare's family. Their rejection of the Lola led to estrangement between Peter and his siblings till date. The British Royal family is another example.

So in essence, she has come to destroy the family bond?