The simple fact from experience: Virginity is overrated.

There's something much more important. Before i tell you what it is let's zoom in on the problems with "marry only virgins"

Almost every corner of the Internet where men exist seem to champion the false belief that "Virgins make the best wives"

If you're going to place the fate of your relationship on a woman being virgin.... you will be shocked how wrong such an idea is.

Most virgins today are not doing so out of moral principle. But ego. To boast and brag that they kept it. For them it's another way to compete with women. (Since as you probably know, women LOVE competition)

Many men have cuffed virgins only to find out it was quite deceiving (coughs is israel dmw) Things like how she treats you, her relationship with her dad are much more important

But there's one more, that rises above them all

So what is it?

A History Or Track Record Of Cheating

Nothing says a girl is more likely to cheat on you than if she has done so in the past.

You might think that with you it will be different. Heck, she might even convince you that your case is different and that you don't have to worry.

Those last 2 boy friends she cheated on? They were àssholes. But to her, you're different. Months and years down the line, you find out she's getting dug out by your neighbour. And you're wondering why it happened. After all, she was a virgin

The Virginity angle might sound cool in theory. But it is far from practical. It deceives a man into placing undue importance on something that is VERY FAR from a guaranteee.

Let's look at an example:

You have 2 girls. Rita and Jane. Rita is a virgin. Jane has a body count of 4.

Rita while being a virgin has dated 2 guys in the past that she cheated on. With the first guy she made out with another guy and gave him a blòw job. With the second guy, she made out with her friend.


Jane on the other hand has a body count of 4 guys and has been in one relationship. She never cheated on the guy and was loyal?

Who are you choosing Rita the Virgin or Jane the loyal gf with 4 body counts

It will be foòlishness of the greatest degree to choose Rita because she's a virgin. I say foolishness not as an insult but to highlight the appalling nature of someone willing to make mistakes just to have a virgin.


Now, a woman's past is a determinant of her future. But her body count isn't the first thing or 5th you should be looking for.

Any history of cheating from her end is a much better indicator of how she'll treat you.

If you had a business and someone recommended a guy to you then says "this guy is a hardworking, always punctual, friendly etc . However he has a tendency to run people street and steal"

You would most likely not accept that person but rather find someone which much better values

Now this isn't an excuse to knock up a girl with 30 body counts. High body counts like that are a no go as well for various reasons

Anyways, that's it... when vetting a woman for long term potential, try as much as possible to find out her track record of cheating.

This will serve you better. Virginity while can be helpful, is an overrated metric

Stay blessed

Most girls these days claiming to be virgins do so due to the presence of the hymen in their vagína. They have given blowjobs to different guys, they have swallowed countless sperms, they have been fingered and had their breasts sucked, there's nothing they haven't done aside having sex.

So I agree with the op. If you marry such girl on the grounds that she's a virgin, she'll definitely cheat on you cos once you pop her cheery, she'll want to taste other dícks.

A girl's loyalty and morals should be checked before virginity.

Your perception of virginity is adulterated, hence makes your opinion a hogwash.

A virgin is one that has never been involved in any sex, be it oral, anal or vaginal. Therefore it is ridiculous to call a woman who has done 0ral sex a virgin.

A true virgin woman is sexually pure, she has not gotten involved with anyone sexually, she has mastered selfcontrol. And when a true virgin makes a choice to remain a virgin till marriage, then she is a diamond.

Underate selfcontrol at your own peril.

There is nothing like cheating in boy/girlfriend relationship. They are just fornicating with other people same way they were fornicating with themselves.

If you can't avoid fornication while single, adultery will be your next class when married.

jmoore:
Your perception of virginity is adulterated, hence makes your opinion a hogwash.

A virgin is one that has never been involved in any sex, be it oral, anal or vaginal. Therefore it is ridiculous to call a woman who has done 0ral sex a virgin.

A true virgin woman is sexually pure, she has not gotten involved with anyone sexually, she has mastered selfcontrol. And when a true virgin makes a choice to remain a virgin till marriage, then she is a diamond.

Underate selfcontrol at your own peril.

There is nothing like cheating in boy/girlfriend relationship. They are just fornicating with other people same way they were fornicating with themselves.

If you can't avoid fornication while single, adultery will be your next class when married.

We'll put!
I never wouldn't have said it better...

@OP
First of...
Get your definition right ...
What you wrote up there isn't a description of a vir.gin, rather it's the definition of a who.re who has refused to take it in-between her legs ...

Secondly...
This is a very weak attempt to downplay the relevance of a woman who have enough self control to keep herself till marriage, especially in this very corrupt world ...

Thirdly...
No one ever said that virgins make the best wives, but a woman who has enough self control to not fornicate or engage in any form of se.xual related practice is one who has enough self control to not be adulterous ...

And come to think of it, if she's made it a habit of sleeping around in her single years, you think she'll automatically stop because she stood before a bunch of strangers and said "I do?" ...

Dey play ...
Go do your research and you'll see that most men who are victims of paternity fraud never met their wives as virgins ...

I will choose neither Rita nor Jane as they are not the only girls in the world. Even if they were, there’s an option of being single. Rita is a cheat and Jane is very comfortable with fwb situations, because how has she dated one man but has four body counts?

With a gun to my head to pick one, I choose the virgin. Women won’t tell you they’ve cheated in the past, neither will you be given an accurate body count. The only thing you can confirm in this case is the virginity.

I’m not particular about virginity, I’m more of a personality/character guy. If the perfect fit comes in a virgin package, good for me. If not, good for me too. The goal is to find someone whose value aligns with mine. Someone I can easily live with over a very long period of time.

I look at the kind of family that raised you, what are your values, how many male friends do you have, how do you dress, what kind of topics interests you, what do you post on social media, who are your friends Etc. with all these verifiable indices, I can estimate what a woman’s body count is and decide if it’s within my threshold.

Finally, what ever choice I make, I leave room for the possibility of things ending. That is a possible outcome I’m always prepared for even when things are rosy.

😯😯

To marry a virgin doesn't guarantee happiness my cousin sister got married a virgin still yet her husband wasn't even giving her proper care but rather he was trying to get her pregnant each year while he prevented her from association and family planning... because she wanted to continue her education it became a case of you will die so like the op said it's the vision of the lady itself but also the way and the Manner the husband is to his wife be her a virgin or not. The relationship you termed ungodly gives both partners a chance to grow together that's if they are both loyal to each other no be to suffer with woman finish then when you make am you say she's not my type and class,then you marry who never know you because na virgin like say she's too perfect, when your money finish the virgin will tell you you're not an option anymore so loyalty is the best In every relationship.

Jozilinn:
To marry a virgin doesn't guarantee happiness my cousin sister got married a virgin still yet her husband wasn't even giving her proper care but rather he was trying to get her pregnant each year while he prevented her from association and family planning... because she wanted to continue her education it became a case of you will die so like the op said it's the vision of the lady itself but also the way and the Manner the husband is to his wife be her a virgin or not. The relationship you termed ungodly gives both partners a chance to grow together that's if they are both loyal to each other no be to suffer with woman finish then when you make am you say she's not my type and class,then you marry who never know you because na virgin like say she's too perfect, when your money finish the virgin will tell you you're not an option anymore so loyalty is the best In every relationship.

Well said

eazzzy1:
I will choose neither Rita nor Jane as they are not the only girls in the world. Even if they were, there’s an option of being single. Rita is a cheat and Jane is very comfortable with fwb situations, because how has she dated one man but has four body counts?

With a gun to my head to pick one, I choose the virgin. Women won’t tell you they’ve cheated in the past, neither will you be given an accurate body count. The only thing you can confirm in this case is the virginity.

I’m not particular about virginity, I’m more of a personality/character guy. If the perfect fit comes in a virgin package, good for me. If not, good for me too. The goal is to find someone whose value aligns with mine. Someone I can easily live with over a very long period of time.

I look at the kind of family that raised you, what are your values, how many male friends do you have, how do you dress, what kind of topics interests you, what do you post on social media, who are your friends Etc. with all these verifiable indices, I can estimate what a woman’s body count is and decide if it’s within my threshold.

Finally, what ever choice I make, I leave room for the possibility of things ending. That is a possible outcome I’m always prepared for even when things are rosy.

The first and second paragraph is your ego speaking.

The options are the options. If gun to your head, you'd choose someone who has a track record of cheating over someone with a body count of 4... you will make grave mistakes of monumental proportions

jmoore:
Your perception of virginity is adulterated, hence makes your opinion a hogwash.

A virgin is one that has never been involved in any sex, be it oral, anal or vaginal. Therefore it is ridiculous to call a woman who has done 0ral sex a virgin.

A true virgin woman is sexually pure, she has not gotten involved with anyone sexually, she has mastered selfcontrol. And when a true virgin makes a choice to remain a virgin till marriage, then she is a diamond.

Underate selfcontrol at your own peril.

There is nothing like cheating in boy/girlfriend relationship. They are just fornicating with other people same way they were fornicating with themselves.

If you can't avoid fornication while single, adultery will be your next class when married.

I disagree. If a girl has only kissed 2 guys is she a virgin? Yes

Now if those 2 guys are her bf and a guy she cheated on her bf with... her morals & loyalty are in question.

If you think a virgin is a girl who has never even kissed a guy before... you have a better chance of finding a horse that can fly than a girl like that

Don't let your ego delude you into some fantasy.

At the end of day, the point is that loyalty is more important than Virginity.

Even if we threw out MouthAction and left it at kissing... a girl that cheats by kissing is worse than a girl who has never cheated but with a low body count.

We must begin the analysis with virginity. Without virginity, no analysis!

Interesting topic. Many non virgins were just unfortunate to be taken advantage of.
In university, many senior guys prey on freshers every new session. The so called virgin may be fortunate to not be in such situation or she may be disciplined. We may never know.
Even the non virgin was once a virgin and stayed with one guy but ended up with high body count.
There's no assurance the virgin may not want missen adventures or be curious later.
Good character and loyalty is the best trait in a woman. There is guarantee any class of woman would posses them whether they were virgins or not.
The best is to get a loyal virgin that has never done everything else apart from penetrative sex. Those ones would over pass in body count once free of the hymen.