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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by airsaylongcome: 9:33am On May 27
xin5:
walai
A frnd told me I would be asked to cook oghwo and also palmwine and with this country like this. Small thing when de acct I de use hold myself.

Stop telling nonsense lies. In Urhobo culture, it's the girl's family that cooks the ogwoevwri. And there's no palmwine in Urhobo weddings. Gogoro, yes not palmwine.

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by AmericanIdiot(m): 9:34am On May 27
Hollybratt:
Hey chap cheesy Well that is for you. As for me, when i wanted to marry my yoruba woman, i paid N1.5million as bride price not that i have the money but because of the love i have for my wife. but when we broke up, i fought with her parents and they refunded the money. They even added N500k interest with it making it N2m.


IRMC


Mumu
U paid 1.5m for Yoruba
Omo dem don cheat u ooo😂😂😂

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Foreverjen002: 9:34am On May 27
Things are costly now. They'll bill you.
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by id4sho(m): 9:34am On May 27
sylve11:



She's an Urhobo girl and she's right 100%. cool

No box, no rappers, yams, alcohol for elders, livestock
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by marksonrick: 9:34am On May 27
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

Like when my father's sister got married, her bride price 1000 or 10000 can't really remember. Although, my dad was not really informed as many were saying that that amount would have translated into 100000 as of the year of doing the marriage.

But remember, you'll still have to pay for mother and father, compound people, buying of goat and all.

You'll still need to spend considerable amount of money so, not totally cheap.
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by udeh3(m): 9:34am On May 27
What is this for God's sake!
This is culture na... Culture is the way of a people. So, why suspect her culture just with this flimsy reason

I'm from Delta State, Isoko speaking tribe and the bride price in my family is twenty-five Naira Only (N25). It hasn't changed

This is where your education comes to play, do background check. Check for the family history, illness and things that matters. If her brother decides not to marry, that shouldn't even be your worries. Focus on your journey to family hood.

If you like her, then marry her, if not, let her go... No need to be with a lady you don't see a future with. By so doing, you're also delaying your time to settle down

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Brandosky: 9:35am On May 27
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
A poor man cannot be scammed

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Centerpolefarms: 9:35am On May 27
Next time, try and do findings. Not everything you bring to social media because some of them will come back for you.

That is the exact amount my sister's husband paid and we gave him 20 back. That is the amount the Urhobo in delta state charge for there bride pride. Urhobo Marriage is the cheapest in Nigeria.
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by GVTAsiwaju(m): 9:36am On May 27
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

I experienced a traditional engagement where they requested for N100 as bride price... However, they billed my guy for other things for the elder and family in the ladies community... Same thing that they can later do a big wedding if they desire later.

She's from Abia and the friend is Yoruba. I was there live
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Kanixt(m): 9:36am On May 27
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

you need learn in the hardy way!
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by philipomoraka: 9:36am On May 27
She’s most likely correct, bride price in most part of the south is always around that amount, but before they will accept that money from you, both families will have to fix a date and time, and before they will do that, you will have to go see her father and mother people to tell them of your intentions and invite them, and as you or may not know, dem nor dey carry empty hand go invite elders, secondly, the father or senior man in the family will give you a list of things to be done before that said “#120” will be accepted and I presume you have an idea of what goes on that list. So that’s a summary of what to expect.

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by BrutusOj(m): 9:37am On May 27
PrinceofSarcasm:


Thank you for proving my point. I mean you are at the gutter level in life . You can't even speak proper English and yet you are talking about marriage?

Seems you want to raise more street urchins and fatherless touts who will grow up to add to the massive number of armed robbers everywhere?

Didn't you learn from your own terrible childhood?

You have no business talking about marriage.

Your write up, your history on this forum and everything shows you are a very low value man ,hence it makes me wonder what sort of street waif agreed to take.on such a worthless surname.

She must have been about to commit suicide and sees marriage to you are a lady resort. Because I can bodly tell you that no woman of substance or self worth will marry your type.
grin
You are wasting your energy on the guy. He is addicted to prostitutes and probably has decided to marry one of them who wants to retire fro olosho work.

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by victorVIC1(m): 9:37am On May 27
Well it like that in some states. It's similar culture in my home town and I remember my parents returned the money back to the men that married my elder sisters
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by airsaylongcome: 9:37am On May 27
xin5:
you mean the big party? But she said that's our choice.
Is it a must?

So you really want to go and marry someone's daughter with only ₦120 in your hand? Like really?

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Melonsmasher: 9:38am On May 27
Ole.. See this OP na, u wan marry with N120 for this Tinubu era.

When last did you use a brain?
think about the other items in the marriage list first grin

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Menclothing1: 9:38am On May 27
Pay 10m now
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by ambale(m): 9:38am On May 27
What sort of men are we breeding these days sef?

You wan marry woman, no be to tell your family your intention and let them go find out themselves if it's what you can go ahead with you do and if otherwise you do another one

And FYI bride price is not same as marriage list, bride price is a small portion of the list

And tbh, marriage is not for kids, you need to still grow first before thinking of marriage

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by GUNITGuy: 9:40am On May 27
PrinceofSarcasm:
Just imagine this malformed semi ape of an OP.
This type should be on his knees praising his mongoloid ancestors that any woman has a low enough self esteem to marry him.

Just imagine this thing that is best collecting monies from buses at obalende motor park claiming he is being scammed into marriage?

Truly Nigerian women have lost a lot of value otherwise things like this are not meant to be married or procreate.

The universe is better off without allowing this type to have any offspring, they will only pollute the environment.
Anyways I blame the extreme poverty such a lady was raised with that has eroded her self esteem too the extent she considering marrying this epitome of life failure.

A tragedy indeed .

If anyone is being scammed she is. Because she thinks she is marrying a semi retardéd with some braincells ,but unfortunately she doesn't know she is getting a full rétard with zero brain cells .
His ancestors are negroid not Mongoloids he's not Chinese

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by NewNigeria2: 9:40am On May 27
PrinceofSarcasm:


Thank you for proving my point. I mean you are at the gutter level in life . You can't even speak proper English and yet you are talking about marriage?

Seems you want to raise more street urchins and fatherless touts who will grow up to add to the massive number of armed robbers everywhere?

Didn't you learn from your own terrible childhood?

You have no business talking about marriage.

Your write up, your history on this forum and everything shows you are a very low value man ,hence it makes me wonder what sort of street waif agreed to take.on such a worthless surname.

She must have been about to commit suicide and sees marriage to you are a lady resort. Because I can bodly tell you that no woman of substance or self worth will marry your type.
grin
This one has been brainwashed by white. What's the correlation between marriage and English language? Are you aware that the president of China does not speak English? So English language has now become the yardstick to measure everything?

You need a paradigm shift in your mindset.

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by victorVIC1(m): 9:41am On May 27
Creamypie:
Oga me be uroboh. Our bride price no pass 10 thousand for dowry. The rest money u get na for party or entertainment. Simple. Leave her brother. Maybe e never get person yet. It has nothing 2 do with bride price, if na uroboh woman e wan marry

Exactly
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Goalnaldo(m): 9:41am On May 27
Then budget #1m. If after spending the #120k and they make more demands you can deliver. Provided it doesn't exceed the 1m. My brother spent 2m marrying an Anambra girl, the girls family gifted him 1m back

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by sammyscholar(m): 9:41am On May 27
Many toddlers on this nairaland, who don't have the ability to make proper decisions on their own until they bring it online.

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Procashtips(m): 9:41am On May 27
xin5:

I wouldn't want a case after going on, one kind huge list will be handed to me to fufill that's why I am asking.

Simple, if you know where she's from, put your question into google including her state, you'll find answers to your questions.
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by dododawa1: 9:42am On May 27
You are not scammed

But




You fall for


Sweet

___________
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Thabothabo101: 9:43am On May 27
PrinceofSarcasm:


I sincerely feel sorry for any lady who marries you. This thread betrays your level of reasoning and shows how insecure, immature , unreasonable and unstable you are.

Your choice of wording and structure shows you lack any integrity of character, hence see the low level your mind went to.

You even don't have respect for her or her family hence you had to drag her elder brother into your nonsense.

I feel you are a danger to that young lady and her family.

You are uncouth and have no sense of boundaries or decorum. I suspect you are affiliated with street thugs or hooligans
As she would do well to avoid getting married to you at all costs or she may be a future murder victim.

Anyways for her to agree to even date talkless of marrying someone like you says a lot about her , she is probably a low level woman.

I would hazard a guess that she is either s treat hawker or a road side food vendor.
Likely she is an illiterate too?

You hit the nail on the fucking head. Felt the same way about the asshole OP

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by TOPCRUISE(m): 9:43am On May 27
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.
You are not yet ready

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by TOPCRUISE(m): 9:44am On May 27
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
You are not yet ready
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Juliusable007(m): 9:44am On May 27
It's not a scam Bro But that maybe for the dowry, you might be required to provide other little items to complete the full bride price payment which in total may not be much. There is bitter cola, there is bottle of wine and other items, Just go and do underground work
to know
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Dennisochampa: 9:44am On May 27
Happy children's day...
She was talking about the bride price but as a child, you won't understand these things..
In some parts of Nigeria, it's N24 naira... E no mean say na N24 you go pay.... U go buy some things like yams, palm wine... Etc but again... As a child, I don't expect you to understand these things....
Make that girl no go marry man body wen get small pikin mind

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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by emmanuelbrown26: 9:44am On May 27
Creamypie:
I mean for anything them ask you to provide. My sister own bride price na 10kg salt, of not up to #4500, which the man buys by himself, then 2k to appease the males for not marrying her.everything was #6,500.
U mean no list was being giving to d man? No list at all??
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by ziragoldd(m): 9:44am On May 27
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
lolz
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by BarrElChapo(m): 9:45am On May 27
Look at the useless topics that the OP has created and the incompetent mods pushed it to FP 😑

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