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Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by StillDtruth: 2:37pm On May 30
UcheKingsley1:


Tribal Zombie

Ibo zombie. No be everytime dem call ibo, be tribalism
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by Jamesbiodun(m): 5:26pm On May 30
My own piece of advice is to stop giving your mom all your money if you won’t stop giving her, save some money and rent a room, try and learn one handwork or trade…
Everyone has a story
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by Karleb(m): 9:01pm On May 30
If you die, your mum will continue her life. Leave that woman and never look back.

Some people are terrible and they deserve to die alone.

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Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by Karleb(m): 9:03pm On May 30
Jamesbiodun:
My own piece of advice is to stop giving your mom all your money if you won’t stop giving her, save some money and rent a room, try and learn one handwork or trade…
Everyone has a story

My cousin who started that rubbish with his mum ended up regretting.

Why would you give out of your salary to your mum? Does she does the work with you?
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by realtalk19: 9:57pm On May 30
Hannn:
I'm a lady, almost in my thirties now. I have a mother who is very godly , if not over godly (she claims after God is Jesus christ, then after Jesus christ is her) p.s , shes a pastor.
She believes she does nothing wrong and incapable of offending anyone.

She and my dad used to fight alot when he was alive, to the point that she left the house on various occasions with us to go live somewhere else, later we would come back , when they fight we would leave again and the cycle continued several times affecting I and my siblings education. I used to think my dad was the bad person(that was what she made us believe). She painted all bad pictures of him and his family to us, this has today caused a gap between we and our fathers family since theres no relationship whatsoever .

Even with her own family right now, shes at war with them. My cousin died three weeks ago and I know we're not at speaking terms with them but my mum showed no sign of sadness, all she said was that one of her enemies has died.

Even members of her church dont stay with her ip to a year at least. People are always coming and going, she talks to someone anyhow in church, insinuate things about them and paste it on them. There was lady who just left. She sufferd emotional abuse from my mum a lot. The lady is a gullible type and always succumbs to what my mum says. Worst part of it is that my mum always uses her sin to condemn her each time she feels the lady has offended her. This lady will be crying most of the time and I'll be like she's a fool, already she has a choice, me and my siblings dont. That's how this lady beared and beared saying she want to obey God ( my mum), so her life will be okay until one day she cut all of us off including my mum, she spent want to speak to her again.


Now to my own personal story. I'm the third child , I learnt to live with this character from my mum but as I grow older , it just keeps getting on my nerves. I cant make decisions for my self because I have to obey God (my mum) . I can't have any friends, she said all my friends are possessed that she doesnt want to see them In her house. One of my friends even lost her mother due to stroke, I knew the mum at the time she was sick, so it was something that made me cry, when I told my mum she said she's a witch that it's good that she died. My elder sister doesnt talk to her till date based on how she treated her. My elder brother had to sneak away from the house just to have peace of mind.

She doesnt know how to tolerate people/us or overlook our actions sometimes, everything she must talk. There was a day when she started at me, saying things I have never imagined, justifying it with the fact that shes a pastor who sees all things. I only tried to explain myself, she started beating me which I told her to leave me alone, next thing she injured me on my eyes , blood flowed that moment, I thought I was going to go blind but thank God. Several times she has physically abuse me and mostly it is saying things that can make me commit suicide. She has no iota of respect for her children. This is the woman I give almost half of my salary everything, making me not to take care of myself as i should. When she feels that I have paid, she'll start thinking i dont want to give her money, she'll say I must give her, that shes the one that trained me to read and write( lies! My own education was entirely my dad's doing. And I'm even a sec school cert owner, not like she trained me to university level) . I sha wont have peace for those days. Still yet she wont respect me. She acts like this to all my younger ones but my own case is worse. I've depressed because of her, I got so thin and she was still the one laughing at me again, she said shes ashamed of me that I look so unattractive, and compared me to my younger sister back then. The more I stay with her, the more I become bitter towards her. Now I'm not saying shes overall rude, she has her good times, when she all okay and tries to provide but she makes it important that we must have issue at least once every week and its affecting my mental health.

The one that happened of recent is that in church on sunday, she left what God asked her to preach and started comparing me with one of her member mocking the clothe I put on(this Is something I've been wearing in her eyes, she called me a old woman and all the members were laughing at me openly, then she told them I was going to cry, where I sat I was just boiling, i has to walk out of service that day. If i dress fine she'll complain, if i dont she'll compare, i just wanted to look simple that day. She really offended me that day cos i cant get that laughter off my mind, now shes expecting me to come kneel down and beg her(for what?!) She refused to talk to me since that dsy, she travelled, she calls all my younger ones and they pass the phone to each other but she doesnt want to talk to me, me too I dont want to call her, I dont know how to pretend cos shes the one who offended me. I dont know If I can ever enter her church again cos I'm so ashamed of myself.

I plan to get work on the island and I'll find a friend who I can squat with, so I can leave her house for her for my mental health sake and so I can take care of myself. I would have left since, but because of what society will say about me being a lady not in her parents house. I dont think I care anymore


Sorry for the epistle, if I should go on and on you might read for three days straight. Thanks

I can relate to all the traits here, my advice is for the sake of your mental health leave the house and get somewhere you can chill for a while.no matter how good and nice you are,it will never mean anything.


Only you can make yourself happy
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by anthonyuncle(m): 7:15am On May 31
Register for an apprenticeship somewhere.
Get very immersed in it.
This will help you spend very little time at home.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by ogashman(m): 7:27am On May 31
Op, u better leave that house sooner than later
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by DonroxyII: 8:25am On May 31
DonBenny77:

I think say na only my Mama oh!
When people say they love their mum and celebrate them on social media it's so strange to me because I can't relate.
My mum is a religious Fanatic and Bigot just like yours
She claims to hear directly from holy Spirit, accuses everyone of witchcraft, can't live peacefully with anybody not even one friend.
The woman is just impossible
They are all Suffering from "God-Complex" .... She is Suffering from Mental Issues Narcissism, Pyscopathic Disorder ...!

Anyway, One Harsh Louder Dirty Slap Would Have stabilised Their Instability & Bring Them Back to Earth...

They are Cowards That Feared Injuries & Afflictions So Much ... Don't Threatened Them, Just Perform One Ogbaaa Actions on Them Infact You will be the Most Respected by Them.

They Only Enjoined Charismatic Leadership & They are Also Burning Deep Inside Their Core..

The Only Reason They Continue with That Nonsense is because Most of You are feeding That Energies So You are all "Prey" !!

Such Person needs Some Electrifying Thunderous Events That Would Send Shock Waves Into Their Entire Body-Systems... grin ... They Will Purge Out all their Demonic Energies & Rethink Their Entire Lifestyle & Treating Other Right ✅

Seek for Forgivenesses Later, You Just Defeated Satanic Energies That is Wrecking Your Mother wink
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by StillDtruth: 9:24am On May 31
idahme:


Stop this rubbish ethnic colouration Mr. Bigot.

Why didn't you mention your ethnic group? You are sick

See devil abusing me because we are confirming that we see the the wickednesses you people do in your wicked houses and tribes. All you wcked people will burn in hellfire whenever you die.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by idahme(m): 12:42pm On May 31
StillDtruth:


See devil abusing me because we are confirming that we see the the wickednesses you people do in your wicked houses and tribes. All you wcked people will burn in hellfire whenever you die.

Anyone who says otherwise is IGBO , I am not IGBO neither I am from hausa nor Yoruba. When someone criticize you the next thing you mention is IGBO, IGBOs must be very important to live rent free in your head.

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Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by StillDtruth: 5:14pm On May 31
idahme:


Anyone who says otherwise is IGBO , I am not IGBO neither I am from hausa nor Yoruba. When someone criticize you the next thing you mention is IGBO, IGBOs must be very important to live rent free in your head.

See liar. You are more igboitic that than Rochas okorocha and your head is full of igbo weed else you would have seen i simply responded to someone who pointed out that this wickedness the op raised is seen among ibos. And i even stated all tribes are guilty of it anyway, but ibo racist evil eye would not let you see it.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by idahme(m): 7:55pm On May 31
StillDtruth:


See liar. You are more igboitic that than Rochas okorocha and your head is full of igbo weed else you would have seen i simply responded to someone who pointed out that this wickedness the op raised is seen among ibos. And i even stated all tribes are guilty of it anyway, but ibo racist evil eye would not let you see it.


I am a king from the TREASURE BASE OF THE NATION THE GOOSE THAT LAYS THE GOLDEN EGG OF THE FEDERAL REPUBLIC OF NIGERIA, if I cough your Governors will cough don't try my resolve.

Bigot get away from my presence you little one.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by frozen70(f): 10:01pm On Jun 02
Hannn:


I pray so too
Thanks

Until you move out of there, you will continue to sink into depression

Now you know why your siblings left her to find peace
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by Peacfulmindset: 4:11am On Jun 03
Move very far away from toxic people.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by zumbigbo(m): 11:28pm On Jun 08
There are many women like this in Nigeria. They are incorrigible, hard-headed and bitter asf. No seed of positivity and light emanates from their spirit, just malfeasance.

It is like we have a special factory that batch produces these special cases. With no effective mental health services, many of our extreme cases rock up in the church or mosque to hide their symptoms.

For your own sake , Run and just show face from time to time by making call every fortnight.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by zumbigbo(m): 9:41am On Jun 09
StillDtruth:


Ok. That is another group of wicked people and they behave just like the ibos too..

So, let me herein state that this wickedness is seen in all tribes whether deltan o or yoruba or efik or nupe.

After castigating one group, you just jump like a harlot into every group.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by Ganjafama(m): 10:19am On Jun 09
StillDtruth:


Ok. That is another group of wicked people and they behave just like the ibos too..

So, let me herein state that this wickedness is seen in all tribes whether deltan o or yoruba or efik or nupe.
Wickedness has got nothing to do with tribe. It is a personal thing.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by StillDtruth: 11:15am On Jun 09
Ganjafama:
Wickedness has got nothing to do with tribe. It is a personal thing.

Very correct just that this personal wickedness has spread and grown to house levels, family levels, street levels, area levels, place levels (eg Mbaise, Esan, Orok), tribe levels, state levels, country levels, colour levels.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by StillDtruth: 11:36am On Jun 09
zumbigbo:

After castigating one group, you just jump like a harlot into every group.

See how you are truly speaking like a zombie igbo just because i mentioned that we see and know that you ibos wickedness.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by psalmylee(m): 5:02pm On Jun 09
CarlosTheJackal:
Take that step to leave that home and see better times in your life ahead.

Your mother is sick and hides under religion to cover her mental state.

Don't give in to her theatrics again, stand up to her and walk away
u are absolutely pn point..i am sorry bt her mother is not mentally stable..
A friend of mine went through similar situations with his mum..
He left the house and never went back ..
Your mum is sick..pure and simple
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by psalmylee(m): 5:05pm On Jun 09
DonBenny77:

I think say na only my Mama oh!
When people say they love their mum and celebrate them on social media it's so strange to me because I can't relate.
My mum is a religious Fanatic and Bigot just like yours
She claims to hear directly from holy Spirit, accuses everyone of witchcraft, can't live peacefully with anybody not even one friend.
The woman is just impossible
omo..God abeg oo..
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by AutoChick4U(f): 6:48pm On Jun 09
Hannn:
I'm a lady, almost in my thirties now. I have a mother who is very godly , if not over godly (she claims after God is Jesus christ, then after Jesus christ is her) p.s , shes a pastor.
She believes she does nothing wrong and incapable of offending anyone.

She and my dad used to fight alot when he was alive, to the point that she left the house on various occasions with us to go live somewhere else, later we would come back , when they fight we would leave again and the cycle continued several times affecting I and my siblings education. I used to think my dad was the bad person(that was what she made us believe). She painted all bad pictures of him and his family to us, this has today caused a gap between we and our fathers family since theres no relationship whatsoever .

Even with her own family right now, shes at war with them. My cousin died three weeks ago and I know we're not at speaking terms with them but my mum showed no sign of sadness, all she said was that one of her enemies has died.

Even members of her church dont stay with her ip to a year at least. People are always coming and going, she talks to someone anyhow in church, insinuate things about them and paste it on them. There was lady who just left. She sufferd emotional abuse from my mum a lot. The lady is a gullible type and always succumbs to what my mum says. Worst part of it is that my mum always uses her sin to condemn her each time she feels the lady has offended her. This lady will be crying most of the time and I'll be like she's a fool, already she has a choice, me and my siblings dont. That's how this lady beared and beared saying she want to obey God ( my mum), so her life will be okay until one day she cut all of us off including my mum, she spent want to speak to her again.


Now to my own personal story. I'm the third child , I learnt to live with this character from my mum but as I grow older , it just keeps getting on my nerves. I cant make decisions for my self because I have to obey God (my mum) . I can't have any friends, she said all my friends are possessed that she doesnt want to see them In her house. One of my friends even lost her mother due to stroke, I knew the mum at the time she was sick, so it was something that made me cry, when I told my mum she said she's a witch that it's good that she died. My elder sister doesnt talk to her till date based on how she treated her. My elder brother had to sneak away from the house just to have peace of mind.

She doesnt know how to tolerate people/us or overlook our actions sometimes, everything she must talk. There was a day when she started at me, saying things I have never imagined, justifying it with the fact that shes a pastor who sees all things. I only tried to explain myself, she started beating me which I told her to leave me alone, next thing she injured me on my eyes , blood flowed that moment, I thought I was going to go blind but thank God. Several times she has physically abuse me and mostly it is saying things that can make me commit suicide. She has no iota of respect for her children. This is the woman I give almost half of my salary everything, making me not to take care of myself as i should. When she feels that I have paid, she'll start thinking i dont want to give her money, she'll say I must give her, that shes the one that trained me to read and write( lies! My own education was entirely my dad's doing. And I'm even a sec school cert owner, not like she trained me to university level) . I sha wont have peace for those days. Still yet she wont respect me. She acts like this to all my younger ones but my own case is worse. I've depressed because of her, I got so thin and she was still the one laughing at me again, she said shes ashamed of me that I look so unattractive, and compared me to my younger sister back then. The more I stay with her, the more I become bitter towards her. Now I'm not saying shes overall rude, she has her good times, when she all okay and tries to provide but she makes it important that we must have issue at least once every week and its affecting my mental health.

The one that happened of recent is that in church on sunday, she left what God asked her to preach and started comparing me with one of her member mocking the clothe I put on(this Is something I've been wearing in her eyes, she called me a old woman and all the members were laughing at me openly, then she told them I was going to cry, where I sat I was just boiling, i has to walk out of service that day. If i dress fine she'll complain, if i dont she'll compare, i just wanted to look simple that day. She really offended me that day cos i cant get that laughter off my mind, now shes expecting me to come kneel down and beg her(for what?!) She refused to talk to me since that dsy, she travelled, she calls all my younger ones and they pass the phone to each other but she doesnt want to talk to me, me too I dont want to call her, I dont know how to pretend cos shes the one who offended me. I dont know If I can ever enter her church again cos I'm so ashamed of myself.

I plan to get work on the island and I'll find a friend who I can squat with, so I can leave her house for her for my mental health sake and so I can take care of myself. I would have left since, but because of what society will say about me being a lady not in her parents house. I dont think I care anymore


Sorry for the epistle, if I should go on and on you might read for three days straight. Thanks
Reminds me of my mom sef. The very day I lost it eh, blood flowed and respect was earned. Anyways I'm independent now so I don't deal with bulllshit directly anymore but she can trigger via SMS but I get to block for my mental health. Kindly move out and block her everywhere while u put ur life together.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by Fattprince23: 7:28am On Jun 13
AutoChick4U:
Reminds me of my mom sef. The very day I lost it eh, blood flowed and respect was earned. Anyways I'm independent now so I don't deal with bulllshit directly anymore but she can trigger via SMS but I get to block for my mental health. Kindly move out and block her everywhere while u put ur life together.
Please do you still trade on sport? I'd like you to be giving me odds, give me you telegram ID if you active on there but if not you can chat up on WhatsApp thru my signature.
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by bizza45: 8:02am On Jun 13
U are 30 and Ur mum still treats u like that, U mean U can't make your own decision.. abeg go and reconsider your age, e sure me say U be 12 yes old
Re: My Mum Is Frustrating And Killing My Mental Health by Hollybratt(m): 9:08am On Jun 13
bizza45:
U are 30 and Ur mum still treats u like that, U mean U can't make your own decision.. abeg go and reconsider your age, e sure me say U be 12 yes old
12 keh? that means you be age mate cheesy

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