Assumption they say is the lowest form of Knowledge. Some people live in the bubble of their imagination believing everything will be fine when they have not made effort to prove their assumption.

Because he always invites you over to his house and you spend weekends performing wife duties for him does not mean he will marry you. Some how you understand what I am saying but you want to keep assuming and fooling yourself that he will do the needful when the time comes.

Have you had that discussion with him? If you have,does his action prove that he's serious with what he said to you? If the answer is No, why are you still glued to that relationship as if he's the only eligible bachelor in town?

To avoid time wasters you have to be intentional from the start. This applies both to the guys and the ladies, because I see a lot of guys spending a lot on a lady that is not even interested in them, and eventually the guy will be disappointed.

A friend told me how he met a lady on a Christian dating App,immediately he reached out to her, she asked him a question that made him to chicken out. He asked him 'if he was ready for marriage and when he would want to start the marriage plans because she doesn't have time for long dating'.

My friend ran away, calling her a desperado. I really like her courage, because she knows what she wanted and was not ready to back down, though I wish she had that courage when she was still in her twenties and was loyal to the wrong person.

I usually ask guys during relationship seminars if they were single, some would say No. Then I probe them further by asking when are they planning to get married. Some would say they don't know, others would make excuses based on their financial capacity.

Now the ones who said they don't know when they'll get married,yet they have girlfriends are usually the ones that would waste your time the most. Whoever they are dating is somewhere planning a wedding in their heads whereas the guy is not aware, and is not even ready for committment.

A serious guy would have a vision of where his relationship with you is heading to and if it not heading into marriage he would tell you on time. As a lady,if you discover that there's no direction or vision in your relationship,it is time to have that discussion with him and if nothing changes then I advise you to move on,on time. Stop assuming he would do the needful.

Ladies learn to think like a guy even though you are a lady; define what you want and tell him in plain language. Stop speaking in coded languages or assuming things in your head and believing that he'll understand the signals you're transmitting to him.

It is better to be called a desperate lady for wanting what you want,than to be called an evening newspaper for dying in silence after a wasted years with him.

Many guys would not like what I am saying,but imagine if this lady is your sister or your daughter that is in this situation,what will you tell her.

My point is that,if it not working stop wasting your time and move on. His actions are the clues you need to know how serious he is,not his sweet talks. A serious guy doesn't need 4 years of dating to confirm if you're a good wife material. But if you refuse to be wise and smart,you will be the one crying when we he's taking his bride to the altar. To you you are being loyal, to him you're an instrument of pleasure.

Guys,if the lady is not serious by her actions, please call it quit immediately. Stop saying I love her and I can't live without her. It is that weakness of yours that is making her to misbehave, because she knows that you will accept whatever nonsense she's ditching at you.

See, if you don't act with wisdom you will be an example of a fool, though people will sympathise with you but they'll swear never to be like you. I know some cases are more complicated,but this is where it starts.

I am sorry for sounding harsh this morning,just that I am handling a similar case of a lady who has dated a particular guy for 6 years and now the guy has just printed his wedding card to wed another lady. She saw the signs earlier but ignored, hoping that he would change and later marry her.