We are about to get married and when I try to communicate something to him that needs to change, he gets very angry and loses it. No matter how calm I try to be. I told him he needs work on his anger, he became mad to a crazy point and involved everyone in our hotel. Then it made me upset because he wouldnt not stop. I found many deleted messages from every person he knows including family telling them many bad things about me that are not true or twists the story. Everytime he becomes angry he does this.. but never apologizes to them or correct them that he was out of line. Never says anything nice to anyone about me and hides my profile picture of us from many people on Whatsapp.. it never stops.. I tell him to stop but he never does. He calls everyone he knows when there is a issue and blames and belittles me.. i cannot change this man because he does not want to be changed. He see no wrong in his actions..

Is this a Nigerian thing? His friend told me that most Nigerian men are a lot harsher then him and would even beat me.. is this true? Are there any safe Nigerian men who treat their wives very well?

I am considering leaving him because I have tried for a long time to help him change, but he no change.. he cannot control his anger. He is 32 and still not married or have lived with a woman besides me.. he complain to people that I make him pay rent when I pay for all rent, all food, all bills myself. I understand a job in Nigeria is not good for income.. but at least he could try and make me happy for everything I do for him. I even leave my whole country for him after 2 years of dating online and visits. Now we live together he is acting somehow strange and tells everyone he is in misery ... But I cook, clean, and give him sex every day. I try my best so why this treatment and disrespect to me? Is this normal in Nigeria for men to say awful things about their wives/partners when angry or lie? I need advice please

Please no rude comments, I have no one to talk to in Nigeria and these things are to much in my head I need to vent. Please understand me.

Peacefulplace:
Is this normal in Nigeria for men to say awful things about their wives/partners when angry or lie? I need advice please
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No that is not how we behave
You are living with a baby boy. That marriage if done will not last if he doesn't change. Give him space first that boy is not ready for marriage.

no ooooo make one agent of anger no tarnish our image ooooooo