Most people I have had opportunity to interact with have experienced heartbreaks in relationship at one time or the other and this experience is usually not funny at all. Some people refers to it as being 'served breakfast' in a relationship.

How people react to heartbreaks in relationships is important to how they will treat every other relationships.

'Heartbreak is a very great sadness and emotional suffering, especially after the end of a love affair or close of a relationship'.

This experience can cause different reactions among people
1) Some would start dreading anything relationships and start having trust issues.
2) Some would develop low self esteem.
3) Some would want to revenge by deliberately breaking other people's heart.
4) Some would fight back; killing themselves and/or other people involved.
5) It triggers mental health issues in some people.
6) It triggers depression and suicidal thoughts for some.

Heartbreak is usually painful when the victim was so committed to that relationship and was not expecting it to happen.

In handling heart breaks you have to understand that it is not the end of life. Your life and happiness will not end simply because somebody exited your life. It has happened to others and if they survived it, you too can survive it. Treat what happened to you as a feedback on how to better manage your emotions, conflicts and people.

Also, quit blaming yourself for the heartbreak. Realise that some people are manipulative such that they would find a way to say that it was your fault, whereas you are not the main reason why they wanted out. People can end a relationship due to many reasons, which cannot be traced to you.

HOW NOT TO HANDLE HEARTBREAKS

1)Stalking your Ex lover. Though the relationship has ended some people still stalk their ex to know who they're currently dating and what they are doing per time. This shows you are still stuck in the past. Accept that it has ended and move on. Some people open anonymous account on social media just to spy on their ex lovers everyday.

2) Alcohol and Substance abuse. Some start taking drugs and alcohol as a way of killing the pains temporarily. This can result into serious health issues or dangerous addictions.

3) Bitterness and Un-forgiveness: Some are still angry and bitter over their exes and so any opportunity they get they'll start cursing and insulting the person.

I usually ask my clients during counselling that,this person you're cursing If they're to come back and apologise,will you still accept them. Many of them would say No. Then I ask them, why are you still given them too much space in your mind when you don't need them again. Can't you see how this is affecting your peace and possibly your current happiness.

If you think they deserve to be punished for how they treated you, kindly leave it to God to avenge you. Even without you cursing them,life would somehow humble them and make them realise how bad they messed up in the past. But even if this doesn't happen, forgive and move on and stop crying over spilt milk.

4) Unnecessary comparison: this happens especially when it was you fault, you find yourself comparing every person you meet to your ex because somehow they had set a very high standard before leaving you. This is why no matter what your partner does to you,you are still not happy because they didn't do it the way the other person use to do.
5) listening to heartbreak songs or watching movies on this theme.
6) Seeing everybody as the same. Believing that all men are the same or that all women are the same. This mindset will sabotage any new relationship you will have as you would find it difficult to trust anybody, because in your mind they will leave you once they get what they want.

HOW TO MANAGE HEARTBREAK

1) Understand that it is not the end of life. It is not worth killing yourself over it. Cry if you have to,but don't stop living. Seek for a professional help or solicit help from someone who is matured enough to help you if you're finding it difficult to move on.

2) Quit blaming yourself: sometimes the reason for which they left you cannot be traced to your own making. People can leave for personal reasons. Don't let them gaslight you that it was all your fault, whereas they cooked up this stories to justify their actions.

2) Get busy. Use this time to explore new hobbies and personal project that you have always wanted to do. When you focus on work your attention will be channelled into what you're doing such that you won't have time to start reminiscing about the past. Travel if you can afford to.

2) Isolation should be avoided. Socialise and mingle with others as this will minimise the number of times you fixate about this person. Focus on making friends rather than seeking for new partners. Hang around positive minded people.

3) If you must listen to songs or watch movies, make sure that the theme is centered on positives things about life;on hope,joy,laughter and compassion.

4) Heal from the trauma before entering another relationship. Most people's reaction to new relationships are based on how they were treated In their past relationships. As a result some would become insecured, hard to love and express emotions,stingy, passive in commitment etc. Some can't even trace their negative responses to the event in the past. So the new partner suffers for the wrong of the one that 'served you breakfast'.

5) Learn from your mistakes. Before entering into a new relationship,make sure you have distilled valuable lessons from the failed relationship. Example;if you ignored your instincts or red flags in making decisions,this time around you need to do better.if you had anger issues then,now it is time to work on yourself.

6) Forgiveness: it is important that you forgive as it is pivotal to you moving on. Put everything behind you and start afresh. what you forgive has no power to break you anymore.

In conclusion, what cannot break you will make you stronger.

This guy nailed it perfectly