Seriously, why is the whole world trying to make things difficult for the common man, especially in Nigeria as a whole? While I am among those who believe that if you're not invited, don't go, and if not told, don't ask kinda personality, I still find it amusing that more systems and ways are being introduced into our society, Africa culture on a daily basis just to ridicule the common man. Which is not our heritage and no one is really saying anything about it. A man had his daughter wedded in our church a few weeks ago, and it was all by invitation only.. Church..o bros... The pastor who announced it said that without the piece of the envelope that would be shared later after the church service, no one would be allowed into the hall for the reception. And they was also a dress code you must buy and wear on that day for those who wished to be in a better sit at the ceremony with premium treatment I guess....Till today, I didn't receive any. Until I heard that the invites they brought were not up to 100, despite the multitude of the congregations, and they shared them among themselves, people that matters more in the church.. A friend who went came and gisted me about how the hall was filled with multitude well wishers all elites From different clubs, association, brides and grooms, That they that went from the church was just sitting there looking like lukozade with excessive dishes and food different kinds that might later end up in the refuse dump. yet they couldn't allow a common man to come participate freely.
I really feel this is wrong and it's not our culture. its a new thing this event planners are trying to introduce even in burial ceremonies. This really needs to be stopped, because once everyone jumps on this thread it won't be funny at all.

Nlfpmod take me to front page

There is nothing wrong with it.

Not everyone can afford to host the whole world. The number of guests you can feed and the capacity of your venue are some of the valid reasons to use the system of invites only. Imagine budgeting for 50 guests but 150 guests show up and you cannot perform any magic to entertain more than 50 out of the 150.

If you can afford to host everyone in your area, go without the system of invites only.

The system of invites only helps to reduce or prevent the presence of misrepresenters at events. Misrepresenters include notorious guests. With the system of invites only, you can avoid those who will fight or steal cars at your party.

If you don't care about how the happenings at your party can affect your reputation, do without the system of invites only. But if you think that certain misconducts at your party can affect your reputation, you have every right to go with the system of invites only.

No need for long epistle. On your own day, don't invite them.

It's not by force to go for people's parties...

They probably have a budget they plan on spending on their party. So they can't possibly invite all and sundry.

Think of the logistics for that alone to let every Tom, Dick and Harry in.

Every society has a class system... And eventually, each class will also do their events and parties and invite themselves.

How many people can you invite and cater for at a party...?

Some questions are quite basic and unnecessary.

Some things are just common sense!

Born2winnx:
Seriously, why is the whole world trying to make things difficult for the common man, especially in Nigeria as a whole? While I am among those who believe that if you're not invited, don't go, and if not told, don't ask kinda personality, I still find it amusing that more systems and ways are being introduced into our society, Africa culture on a daily basis just to ridicule the common man. Which is not our heritage and no one is really saying anything about it. A man had his daughter wedded in our church a few weeks ago, and it was all by invitation only.. Church..o bros... The pastor who announced it said that without the piece of the envelope that would be shared later after the church service, no one would be allowed into the hall for the reception. And they was also a dress code you must buy and wear on that day for those who wished to be in a better sit at the ceremony with premium treatment I guess..Till today, I didn't receive any. Until I heard that the invites they brought were not up to 100, despite the multitude of the congregations, and they shared them among themselves, the elite.. people that matters more in the church.. A friend who went came and gisted me about how the hall was filled with multitude well wishers all elites From different clubs, association, brides and grooms, That they that went from the church was just looking like lukozade with excessive dishes and food, yet they couldn't allow a common man to come participate freely.
I really feel this is wrong and it's not our culture. its a new thing this event planners are trying to introduce that needs to be stopped, because once everyone jumps on this thread it won't be funny at all.

Nlfpmod take me to front page

Nice write up, it only takes someone with good iq to understand what this is doing africa culture.

Exactly ur very right,,nigeria is turning to YOUR NOT MY TYPE COUNTRY whch itz nt to b so,,datz discrimination,cuz by doing dat,,,d want u to knw dat it must only b d rich,classy,important,well to do,and vips dat r needed d,,my dear,,na y to even go church d tire me,cuz all dis discrimination n one seeing self as very important than another person starts frm d church,am saying out of experience,,,datz y i jst like staying on my own,i no force myslf on anybdy,anythng. i dnt even go to uninvited events sef,i respec my boundry

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Can't believe someone actually created a thread to condemn weddings that are strictly by invitation, people shouldn't do what they want and invite who they want because? In this Nigerian economy? Very funny Op.

Biglittlelois:
Can't believe someone actually created a thread to condemn weddings that are strictly by invitation, people shouldn't do what they want and invite who they want because? In this Nigerian economy? Very funny Op.

I didn't condemn anything. I Just aired an opinion.

Born2winnx:

I didn't condemn anything. I Just aired an opinion.

Really? Your epistle is not condemnation and complaints? Okay

Biglittlelois:



Really? Your epistle is not condemnation and complaints? Okay

Your shallow minded dear. Bye

If you are not invited, stay in your house.
No room for jealousy, Its not a must to go where you are uninvited

Born2winnx:

Your shallow minded dear. Bye

Lol

Born2winnx:
Seriously, why is the whole world trying to make things difficult for the common man, especially in Nigeria as a whole? While I am among those who believe that if you're not invited, don't go, and if not told, don't ask kinda personality, I still find it amusing that more systems and ways are being introduced into our society, Africa culture on a daily basis just to ridicule the common man. Which is not our heritage and no one is really saying anything about it. A man had his daughter wedded in our church a few weeks ago, and it was all by invitation only.. Church..o bros... The pastor who announced it said that without the piece of the envelope that would be shared later after the church service, no one would be allowed into the hall for the reception. And they was also a dress code you must buy and wear on that day for those who wished to be in a better sit at the ceremony with premium treatment I guess....Till today, I didn't receive any. Until I heard that the invites they brought were not up to 100, despite the multitude of the congregations, and they shared them among themselves, people that matters more in the church.. A friend who went came and gisted me about how the hall was filled with multitude well wishers all elites From different clubs, association, brides and grooms, That they that went from the church was just sitting there looking like lukozade with excessive dishes and food different kinds that might later end up in the refuse dump. yet they couldn't allow a common man to come participate freely.
I really feel this is wrong and it's not our culture. its a new thing this event planners are trying to introduce even in burial ceremonies. This really needs to be stopped, because once everyone jumps on this thread it won't be funny at all.

Nlfpmod take me to front page

Eat in your house sir, no one was born to feed you sir.

OkukoIgbo:


Eat in your house sir, no one was born to feed you sir.

I have fed people like you here on nairaland over the years... ask around.

An evidence that rich people manage money better. They know too well never to throw open their invitation, unlike the poor man who wants to impress and make a statement.

If the rich elite family in your church could be wise enough to share only 100 invitations among a large congregation, why should you an averagely struggling bachelor even invite more than 10 people to your wedding?

Think about it.

The fact that you were raised with certain customs and traditions do not make them absolutely right. Many aspects of your culture are plainly useless and senseless. Part of the reasons you went to school is to learn the act of critical reasoning. Don't die pleasing people because of your useless communal owambe culture that has kept many families in perpetual debt and poverty.

Born2winnx:

I have fed people like you here on nairaland over the years... ask around.

OK. You are right.

Born2winnx:

I have fed people like you here on nairaland over the years... ask around.

Don't mind them.

Yet they wonder why wickedness and evil is on the increase.

Finally all the curses that the white people had has fully circulated and destroyed our African life.

Next one is uncaring children and elderly home and people neighbours cutlassing neighbours over parking space.

Nothing wrong with 'strictly by invitation', it's done mostly to restrict the number of people to the number the host can adequately plan for and take care of. Not everyone wants the whole of Nigeria at their event even if they can afford it.

Same humans will come to complain and gossip they went to Mr. A's event and they didn't get food why not invite the number you can feed🤷🏽‍♀️

Humans are insatiable.

The whole purpose and essence of a culture is to serve the people. Nothing more or less.
A culture that is becoming a liability needs to be updated.

OP can invite the whole Nigeria during is wedding.

Someone's hungry

Born2winnx:

Your shallow minded dear. Bye

You’re the shallow minded person here. Longer throat.
Why will you create a thread just to condemn how anyone chooses to throw a party? Especially when there are people like you that would go there just to judge if there was excess food or not. If there were elites or not. Live and let live! When e reach your turn to throw party invite everybody in Nigeria. Ozuor!

Duchexx:


You’re the shallow minded person here. Longer throat.
Why will you create a thread just to condemn how anyone chooses to throw a party? Especially when there are people like you that would go there just to judge if there was excess food or not. If there were elites or not. Live and let live! When e reach your turn to throw party invite everybody in Nigeria. Ozuor!

Bros rest abeg

Born2winnx:

I have fed people like you here on nairaland over the years... ask around.

That's true

Born2winnx:

I have fed people like you here on nairaland over the years... ask around.

President. General among the nation.
President General among the nation.
We salute you. 🫡 🎶

RealityKings:


Bros rest abeg

You this beggar😂🤣 have you finished feeling depressed? Longer throat. Strictly by invitation wedding dey pain you. Hungry goat😂

Much ado about nothing. I don't see the problem here. If you are not invited for an occasion, don't go. It is as simple as that. Every wedding event has maximum number of invites and that's plus food. Just yesterday, I went to a wedding where almost half of the people didn't eat. That's after my wife bought asoebi of 25K and I gave the bride's mother 10k It would have been better if it was strictly on invitation. So, no problem not make it free for all.

copyrites:
An evidence that rich people manage money better. They know too well never to throw open their invitation, unlike the poor man who wants to impress and make a statement.

If the rich elite family in your church could be wise enough to share only 100 invitations among a large congregation, why should you an averagely struggling bachelor even invite more than 10 people to your wedding?

Think about it.

The fact that you were raised with certain customs and traditions do not make them absolutely right. Many aspects of your culture are plainly useless and senseless. Part of the reasons you went to school is to learn the act of critical reasoning. Don't die pleasing people because of your useless communal owambe culture that has kept many families in perpetual debt and poverty.

That is why they are rich in the first place, better decision making and money management skills, for the average poor person, it is all about their emotions like the op. He is butt hurt because he was not invited to partake in a free rice and the next thing is to open a thread to complain about cultures and traditions.

When things don't go their ways, they suddenly become the custodian and advocate of African cultures.