I had to also post this on this family section because I need very possible advices


I am 33 years old and I swear, I have failed the brotherhood and I pray I forgive myself and move on for good.

I have been in a messy breakup with my ex girlfriend of 4 years relationship that ended of which I orchestrated. After she demanded I pay part of her pressing need of over 200K, I declined to see how she will react because I suspected she could be rude if I didn't. She ended up doing exactly as I thought and later apologized. But my ego was so her that I still told her it was over between us for being rude to me and especially because in the next 3 days she didn't call me or text or whatever.

She didn't say anything after I told her is over, she then called after 3 days to ask of how I am, I became very rude to her and said silly things to her due to my pumping anger and ego. Ever since I have been the one trying everything on earth to get her back to my life. She moved on with a new guy after 2 weeks of our breakup.

I have knelt, traveled for 10 hours to see her and apologize, I have sent her even some money. Is 6 months but still my heart is still so disturbed and I keep crying.

I have met 5 girls since our breakup but my heart don't wanna love them and I prefer my ex to them. I even met a certified nurse and she's serious and even beautiful but I still see my real connection is to my ex.

Now if I call her she tell me to get out of her phone, that I talk too much, that I am stupid, that I am a horrible person God saved her from, that I am very stupid.

This girl has insulted me to stupor yet I still can't seem to get over her. I feel I am under a spell because really my ex is not even that beautiful physically but is very industrious and intelligent. And I used to feel she was a well mannered girl but since our breakup she has been sooo very bad in attitude. Yet I still long to have her back.

People I need deliverance. I have failed manhood and I am still failing. I had sex and everything with my ex and I don't know if that is what got me tied to her. In fact the whole sex wasn't good because she is too chubby and inexperienced and has bad skills. Yet she's still the woman I long for.

If I call her now she will be telling me how she's on a call with her man/boyfriend and how they discussed about my bad attitudes and how he is soo open to her on everything because he is a pastor of a mega church that he inherited from his late father. That he is even talking of marrying her in just 3 or 5 months of dating and that she is the one trying to make it next year.

I'm so hurt and feel like I lost a part of me. Kindly note I am a very comfortable guy and I owe a lot before you say I am jobless and not busy.

I was going to marry this girl this year because we already dated for 4 years and looking at it now I wasted 4 years of my life.

He’s gone

You have only become so obsessed...

Because you realize she has moved on without you.

It's hard but you have to move on too.

She obviously ain't coming back!

It's OK. You're just a big failure, you didn't kill somebody. Being a useless failure is NOT a crime

NoahHadNoArk:
He’s gone

Who is "he"?

You dated your girlfriend for four years without any commitment of marrying her. Guy move on to the next woman and stop sulking. You cannot use your own and delay her destiny of not getting married.

Move on and stop sulking

Beremx:
You dated your girlfriend for four years without any commitment of marrying her. Guy move on to the next woman and stop sulking. You cannot use your own and delay her destiny of not getting married.

Move on and stop sulking

She was the one that told us to wait till this year. She is 23 this year.

ExDepressed:

She was the one that told us to wait till this year. She is 23 this year.

okay then move on with your life. You'll get someone better. You can't keep killing yourself slowly because of a failed relationship. She has moved on, you should do the same

For this "great tinubulation" wey we dey so, person still dey mumu like this? What kind of this is this??🤔

You deserve to see hell from her bro ... There is a skin you need to shed before you realize that you only want what you believe you can't have ... But if I would advice you I would say .... Ghost her.

Treat her like she is dead ... Use this one opportunity to train your self to know everything in life is only passing .... Realize there was a time she was supposed to be in your life and that time came and went like the sun .... In the day .

Now this is my own analysis and I most likely am very wrong but ... You likely feel you have invested too much to let her go, and I would also guess the guys she is with now are perceived to be better than you in one way or the other and so you feel despite your status and finances, this girl is treating you like shit ? And so your ego takes full control... Mind you this is the early stage of the life of a stalker which metamorphoses into a obsession and the rest is history ... Forget the past before you cast

Franzinni:
You deserve to see hell from her bro ... There is a skin you need to shed before you realize that you only want what you believe you can't have ... But if I would advice you I would say .... Ghost her.

Treat her like she is dead ... Use this one opportunity to train your self to know everything in life is only passing .... Realize there was a time she was supposed to be in your life and that time came and went like the sun .... In the day .

Now this is my own analysis and I most likely am very wrong but ... You likely feel you have invested too much to let her go, and I would also guess the guys she is with now are perceived to be better than you in one way or the other and so you feel despite your status and finances, this girl is treating you like shit ? And so your ego takes full control... Mind you this is the early stage of the life of a stalker which metamorphoses into a obsession and the rest is history ... Forget the past before you cast

I really appreciate chief. I don stalk tire and I am not even happy about it. For months now I have been disinterested in my businesses and my brother is the one taking care if not him, I for really cast.

I know its hard but move on

Sha, I just know that when people struggle to detach from others, it has nothing to do with love as you're capable of loving again, it's just about the sex, the romance and those pleasurable moments u had with her


Bro, there's nothing special about humans, try to open your heart to love again

No worry Op, las las u go dey alright.
But before u kill urself with heart ache, remember say no peppersoup for yonder.

Lol.. It took her just 2weeks to move on and get another guy but you are here crying over nonsense, sorry you hear

That new guyy she is dating has always been there, you just did not know about him

At 33, your mumu don do now !!!! move on that girl can never marry you.

You will be doing the world, yourself and more importantly your mom a huge favor by eating a bullet.

You said you orchestrated the breakup and you're the one crying 6-months later, smh. You said she also called you 3 days after the breakup and if you wanted to patch things up then, you could've because maybe she was still willing to. You didn't but instead chose to insult her (according to you, "I became very rude to her and said silly things to her due to my pumping anger and ego). She then did the right thing for herself by moving on and not looking back since, and hopefully she's now with someone who treats her better and with respect, and now you're crying yeye tears. I blame her for not blocking you because that's what she should've done so that you will stop calling her. She doesn't want you back nor should anyone in their right senses take you back. Leave her alone and move on.

DaddyCoool:
It's OK. You're just a big failure, you didn't kill somebody. Being a useless failure is NOT a crime

This one na encouragement or insult 😂😂

bizbro:


This one na encouragement or insult 😂😂

What do you mean insult? I'm encouraging him! Did he kill anybody?? That he is a totally useless simp of a failure is NOT a crime!

DaddyCoool:


What do you mean insult? I'm encouraging him! Did he kill anybody?? That he is a totally useless simp of a failure is NOT a crime!

😂😂

ExDepressed:

I really appreciate chief. I don stalk tire and I am not even happy about it. For months now I have been disinterested in my businesses and my brother is the one taking care if not him, I for really cast.

Bro I’ve been in your shoes.
My ex girlfriend is even the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met (drop dead beautiful) but I also lost her due to my ego after we dated for over four years.
I was in sorrow for months before we got in contact again and decided to get back together. But it wasn’t like the same, she wouldn’t submit no matter what and we split again. She later opened up to me that she had moved on with another nigga that resides in USA and the guy had sharply travelled down to see her family.
Bruh I just had to let go at that point.
It still hurts and I feel bitter cos I never met anyone like her after then. But I had to just move on with my life. She messaged me about a month ago but I left the messages unattended to. She was probably also looking for closure to clear her guilt.
Bro just focus on yourself

At 33, you cum dey behave like a 20 yr old. Are you even emotionally matured enough for a relationship?

See wetin a 23yr old dey do with your life.

You really failed the brotherhood and I don't see how the brotherhood will forgive you for this.

If you eventually reconcile and marry the girl, your marriage will be hell on earth.

Get a grip on your emotions
and MOVE ON. Stop shaming us man.

ExDepressed:

I really appreciate chief. I don stalk tire and I am not even happy about it. For months now I have been disinterested in my businesses and my brother is the one taking care if not him, I for really cast.

Bro I’ve been in your shoes.
My ex girlfriend is even the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met (drop dead beautiful, innocent soul and has a great body) but I also lost her due to my ego after we dated for over four years.
I was in sorrow for months before we got in contact again and decided to get back together. But it wasn’t like the same, she wouldn’t submit no matter what and we split again. She later opened up to me that she had moved on with another nigga that resides in USA and the guy had sharply travelled down to see her family.
Bruh I just had to let go at that point.
It still hurts and I feel bitter cos I never met anyone like her after then. But I had to just move on with my life. She messaged me about a month ago but I left the messages unattended to. She was probably also looking for closure to clear her guilt.
Your ex probably still loves you and she’s just doing all the drama to convince herself that she made the right choice leaving you. Women in the end follow their heads and not their hearts. A woman who stuck with you for four years loves you and will probably not love any other like she did to you. She just needed to do what was best for her by leaving you.
Bro just focus on yourself, since you said she isn’t that pretty, then you’ll still meet many other ladies that are better.

He’s gone

bizbro:


😂😂

Na you sabi

IceColdVeins:

Bro I’ve been in your shoes.
My ex girlfriend is even the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met (drop dead beautiful) but I also lost her due to my ego after we dated for over four years.
I was in sorrow for months before we got in contact again and decided to get back together. But it wasn’t like the same, she wouldn’t submit no matter what and we split again. She later opened up to me that she had moved on with another nigga that resides in USA and the guy had sharply travelled down to see her family.
Bruh I just had to let go at that point.
It still hurts and I feel bitter cos I never met anyone like her after then. But I had to just move on with my life. She messaged me about a month ago but I left the messages unattended to. She was probably also looking for closure to clear her guilt.
Bro just focus on yourself

She lied to you. She didn't move on anything. I bet you she's calling to know if you've moved on. If so she'll suddenly want you back. Women are like that

ExDepressed:


I'm so hurt and feel like I lost a part of me. Kindly note I am a very comfortable guy and I owe a lot before you say I am jobless and not busy.

Block her on all communication media:

Delete her phone numbers.

If you know it offhand, block her on phone book (for calls and messages) and on WhatsApp.

Block her on Facebook

Block her on any other media through which you guys communicate.

Tell yourself being with her was just a phase which is now over and that you need to discover and focus on the next phase of your life.

1PornHUB:
That new guyy she is dating has always been there, you just did not know about him

Be calming down. You want to shatter Op's already broken heart?

Ouchbabe:

Be calming down. You want to shatter Op's already broken heart?

Op na baby at 33?

Sapasenator:


Op na baby at 33?

Most men are big babies. Forget the muscles and six packs

Ouchbabe:

Most men are big babies. Forget the muscles and six packs

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