Here in nairaland, people keep saying sleeping with a married woman will distroy a guys destiny and the theory that another man will sleep with your wife but i have never hear the same about ladies that sleep with a married man which is more rampant or mayb it a ladies' world as u may put it, same as rape, when have u see a lady standing trials for rape or will u say ladies don't rape

the problem is not that ladies dont rape, its that men who are raped by women RARELY PRESS CHARGES (often out of shame or disbelief from police etc)!

as for men/women sleeping with married people, these married people gladly allowed them to enjoy their body...so case dismissed!

This one

Don't take to heart, most things you see on the internet. Nigerians love to whine unnecessarily.


For example, see my comment on one of the threads.

Ukafor:
Here in nairaland, people keep saying sleeping with a married woman will distroy a guys destiny and the theory that another man will sleep with your wife but i have never hear the same about ladies that sleep with a married man which is more rampant or mayb it a ladies' world as u may put it, same as rape, when have u see a lady standing trials for rape or will u say ladies don't rape

Baba. All those ones na stupid theories concocted by deluded and unsecure men.

They can sleep with different girls, but they can't sleep with their own wives. As long as it is consensual. Nwanne, nothing goes you.

FRANCISTOWN:


Baba. All those ones na stupid theories concocted by deluded and unsecure men.

They can sleep with different girls, but they can't sleep with their own wives. As long as it is consensual. Nwanne, nothing goes you.

Them dey fear make others no sleep with their wives. Wives wey dey collect prick taya.

Watin work for Paul fit nor work for Peter

Ukafor:
Here in nairaland, people keep saying sleeping with a married woman will distroy a guys destiny and the theory that another man will sleep with your wife but i have never hear the same about ladies that sleep with a married man which is more rampant or mayb it a ladies' world as u may put it, same as rape, when have u see a lady standing trials for rape or will u say ladies don't rape

This is why I always think that any wife who fights her husband from hanging out with side chicks all the time,was once a side chick,directly or indirectly..What goes around,op does what? Lakaka!

On a more serious note.. You don’t need to sleep with someone’s partner,before they sleep with yours these days.. The world no get conscience again.. All thanks to the western world and social media.. TikTok(bad advice from finished people) ,Facebook (for connection and secret relationships) and WhatsApp (private chats that will be can always be deleted after 24hrs) These three sites en.. Lakaka

Ukafor:
Here in nairaland, people keep saying sleeping with a married woman will distroy a guys destiny and the theory that another man will sleep with your wife but i have never hear the same about ladies that sleep with a married man which is more rampant or mayb it a ladies' world as u may put it, same as rape, when have u see a lady standing trials for rape or will u say ladies don't rape

It's actually happening.

That is why you see most of those ladies that have been sleeping with people's husbands and fathers, their husbands eventually sleep with young girls here and there.

BigYash:
This is why I always think that any wife who fights her husband from hanging out with side chicks all the time,was once a side chick,directly or indirectly..What goes around,op does what? Lakaka!

On a more serious note.. You don’t need to sleep with someone’s partner,before they sleep with yours these days.. The world no get conscience again.. All thanks to the western world and social media.. TikTok(bad advice from finished people) ,Facebook (for connection and secret relationships) and WhatsApp (private chats that will be can always be deleted after 24hrs) These three sites en.. Lakaka

The fact that you didn't sleep with someone's spouse doesn't mean they won't sleep with yours.

copyrites:


The fact that you didn't sleep with someone's spouse doesn't mean they won't sleep with yours.

Indirectly, you are saying there may not be anything called Karma?

spencekat:
Indirectly, you are saying there may not be anything called Karma?

Bad things happen to good people.

copyrites:


Bad things happen to good people.

Sometimes.

Any woman to rape me

Baronthecelebri:
Any woman to rape me

rubbishhh

Ukafor:
Here in nairaland, people keep saying sleeping with a married woman will distroy a guys destiny and the theory that another man will sleep with your wife but i have never hear the same about ladies that sleep with a married man which is more rampant or mayb it a ladies' world as u may put it, same as rape, when have u see a lady standing trials for rape or will u say ladies don't rape

In Africa, Nigeria to be specific, sleeping with a married woman comes with negative consequences simply because of the tradition and culture involved in marriage process in Nigeria.


The man paid her bride price. Some traditional stuffs were done and mind you, some of those traditional rights were rooted in ancient culture of spiritual things based on the man's community's culture/tradition, so it's like marking boundary spiritually and when you cross that boundary by sleeping with the married woman who has been marked or bound by her husband's community tradition, the gods of that land will come after you.


Life is spiritual.

If you say you don't believe in their fetish tradition because you are a Christian, bear in mind that you have committed sin and God's coverage will not protect you in this aspect because you committed a grave sin.


So sleeping with a married woman in Nigeria carries a different consequence from sleeping with a married woman in America or Europe. So the spiritual consequences of sleeping with a married woman depends largly on the tradition and culture of the woman's husband's community.


This is why it is dangerous to sleep with a married woman but not as dangerous for ladies to sleep with a married man because no bride price paid on the man's head neither was any traditional stuffs made on the man's head also.


As for rape, men don't report or see a woman forcing herself on them sexually as rape, hence why society don't treat male rape with seriousness.

franchasofficia:
In Africa, Nigeria to be specific, sleeping with a married woman comes with negative consequences simply because of the tradition and culture involved in marriage process in Nigeria.


The man paid her bride price. Some traditional stuffs were done and mind you, some of those traditional rights were rooted in ancient culture of spiritual things based on the man's community's culture/tradition, so it's like marking boundary spiritually and when you cross that boundary by sleeping with the married woman who has been marked or bound by her husband's community tradition, the gods of that land will come after you.


Life is spiritual.

If you say you don't believe in their fetish tradition because you are a Christian, bear in mind that you have committed sin and God's coverage will not protect you in this aspect because you committed a grave sin.


So sleeping with a married woman in Nigeria carries a different consequence from sleeping with a married woman in America or Europe. So the spiritual consequences of sleeping with a married woman depends largly on the tradition and culture of the woman's husband's community.


This is why it is dangerous to sleep with a married woman but not as ds largely wrong!angerous for ladies to sleep with a married man because no bride price paid on the man's head neither was any traditional stuffs made on the man's head also.


As for rape, men don't report or see a woman forcing herself on them sexually as rape, hence why society don't treat male rape with seriousness.

DEY PLAY!
Everything you said is largely wrong! In this Nigeria of today where paternity fraud is the order of the day,na him you still dey believe all these trash??
My brother don't play,or you will learn! And you will learn the hard way!

As a man reporting a rape case make u look less of a man, has nature may have it men are more energytic than women

Femzaremz:
DEY PLAY!
Everything you said is largely wrong! In this Nigeria of today where paternity fraud is the order of the day,na him you still dey believe all these trash??
My brother don't play,or you will learn! And you will learn the hard way!

Leave am make him dey cap nonsense. Which traditional rites them dey do?
If you know the way bosses, colleagues and managers at work dey take sleep with people wives them ehn.

Their lives supposed don spoil

FRANCISTOWN:


Leave am make him dey cap nonsense. Which traditional rites them dey do?
If you know the way bosses, colleagues and managers at work dey take sleep with people wives them ehn.

Their lives supposed don spoil

Boss abeg no vex, i fit see 1.5k for ur side make i use take chop this morning, hope no dey my side boss. Thanks in advance, pls sir no vex!

Nothing will happen if you sleep with a married man except maybe you got caught that moment or later. However, it's morally wrong to sleep with people's spouse, be it male or female.

franchasofficia:
In Africa, Nigeria to be specific, sleeping with a married woman comes with negative consequences simply because of the tradition and culture involved in marriage process in Nigeria.


The man paid her bride price. Some traditional stuffs were done and mind you, some of those traditional rights were rooted in ancient culture of spiritual things based on the man's community's culture/tradition, so it's like marking boundary spiritually and when you cross that boundary by sleeping with the married woman who has been marked or bound by her husband's community tradition, the gods of that land will come after you.


Life is spiritual.

If you say you don't believe in their fetish tradition because you are a Christian, bear in mind that you have committed sin and God's coverage will not protect you in this aspect because you committed a grave sin.


So sleeping with a married woman in Nigeria carries a different consequence from sleeping with a married woman in America or Europe. So the spiritual consequences of sleeping with a married woman depends largly on the tradition and culture of the woman's husband's community.


This is why it is dangerous to sleep with a married woman but not as dangerous for ladies to sleep with a married man because no bride price paid on the man's head neither was any traditional stuffs made on the man's head also.


As for rape, men don't report or see a woman forcing herself on them sexually as rape, hence why society don't treat male rape with seriousness.

You are onto something deep here, and I have bolded all the relevant points.
Bottom-line is that we are bound by whatever agreement we enter into, be it personal or communal.
That is why it is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT for a person to properly identify ALL traditions (spiritual ones specifically) concerning any "engagement" he or she wants to undertake.
I speculate that one should limit himself or herself to entering as few agreements as possible, whether personally or communally.
The lesser agreement you enter into, the better for you, because less things would be binding on you.
That explains why a single white colonial officer somewhere in Rivers state of old (some place called Ogbakiri) single-handedly burnt down an old shrine of a local deity that had about 2000 human heads.
The man simply used kerosene, doused the place, and lighted some matches.
The place burned down, and the white colonial officer jejely walked away. Nothing happened to him!
But if it were someone from the ancestral lineage from there, the consequences would have been totally different, which is why the shrine had been there for hundreds of years before the coming of the colonialists.
Traditions are local agreements which binds every resident of each locality.
Someone from outside who doesn't subject himself to those local rules, and doesn't bind himself to it personally, can do whatever he wants, and I argue that nothing would happen.
However, he has to also be ready to accept the same thing happening to him.
In this instance, as long as he is willing to accept the same thing happening to him (someone sleeping with his wife) then all is good.
But we know that most people only see one side of the picture (where they sleep with other men's wives) but not the other side (where other men sleep with their wives). That is the evil in man.
"For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged."