| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by NoToPile: 5:17am On Sep 04 |
Gerrard59:
I agree that women especially modern day women will not succumb to being the financial provider and offering sex at the same time plus house chores/childcare. So, I'm genuinely curious, apart from money, what do you think should a man offer? After all, women are making the same money as men do. Very basic stuff, a bit of homecare/childcare simple. But we all know an average Nigerian man living in Nigeria sees that as emasculating and there in lies the problem. Their eyes is shining on what she can offer financially making things easier for them definitely not what they can do to make her roles easier for her. I always laugh when I see some posts on this NL, A woman has the burden of bringing the money, takes care of all the home front, has to be ready to look good for oga and satisfy him sexually in the other room, she has absolutely no help (maybe school creche) in a city like Lagos where you have to leave home 5-6am. They come home the same 7pm, Oga will go inside and rest and madam will not rest till 11pm and Oga will want to do the do she says she's tired kasala bursts, she wakes 4am again and everyone is ready by 6am to move out and the cycle continues. One thing will definitely lack and most times it's always the sex and that pains men a lot. Now lots of women will do all, or struggle just in a bid to keep everything together but they will end up breaking down it's just a matter of time. Why do you think some women look older than their husband's even when they are much more younger. The funny part of this is when they get abroad everyone brings in money and anyone does any chore. It's still a mystery to me sha. So for some women it's abeg let everyone do it's role shikena. 'Bring in the money and let me take care of the home front' but then the economic realities of this current Nigeria is saying otherwise, now how many families can be convenient on one income or better still only the man's income? 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by aswani(m): 7:30am On Sep 04 |
Successtube:
We have no kids yet. I have asked her so many times what she uses her money for, but all I get is silence. Get out now before kids enter the equation as they would be used as a pawn against you to make things more difficult and of course they don't deserve to suffer because of your incompatibility with your wife. Don't listen to religious nutcases that quote the bible and start trying to dissuade you from seeking the hapiness you deserve in life away from those that make you unhappy. There's no shame in divorce, correct your mistake and get the smile back on your face and hapiness back in your life. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by blueAgent(m): 1:40pm On Sep 04 |
[quote author=papyjaypaul post=131824125]
But the truth is women like men to dominate them and they respect men with authority. That is what it is. I don't mean injure them or beat them but you have to be manly to be the man of the house. Women don't like a womanly man or a feminine man, they prefer the opposite. That is why when I look at gifting, if the man is responsible, I will give the woman 2/5 and the man 4/5 because only men know what responsibilities they go through. They don't get help and society still blames them if they are down
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True.
Well Said. 1 Like |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by blueAgent(m): 1:41pm On Sep 04 |
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| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by RealityKings: 1:46pm On Sep 04 |
RealityKings:
Rent due... 42,000
Light bill due.... 700
Job.... non
Money..... 179.17kobo
Yet life is short..
The suffer and wahala too much BlueAgent good evening sir I got your mention . I would be grateful if you can assist me sir. I believe in God and I am hoping on him Gtb 0122 242 718 |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by blueAgent(m): 1:54pm On Sep 04 |
RealityKings:
BlueAgent good evening sir I got your mention . I would be grateful if you can assist me sir. I believe in God and I am hoping on him
Hmm. Bro things hard now. I can later, but not now. |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by blueAgent(m): 2:07pm On Sep 04 |
franchasng:
Dear Nigerian men, if you are not rich and very financially successful when you are about to marry, please be a gold digger; go for ladies that can help you financially, there are plenty of them in Nigeria and abroad. Make use of the internet social media for good, there are plenty financially buoyant single ladies in Nigeria and abroad looking for a serious man to settle down with.
Learn to be a gold digger as a single guy. Stop marrying for love, romantic love does not exist.
Marrying for love alone is a mistake in this current world we live in, marry for companionship, compatibility, financial stability and career growth. With stable income, you will never feel miserable in any marriage as a man, but being broke and married to a bad woman is worst than being sentenced to death penalty.
If you are poor or financially average as a guy, don't marry for love, marry for financial stability and compatibility. Funny. God forbid. Even when you are the provider, some women still don't respect their husbands , talkess of when she is the one that elevated you. God 4 bid, Baba God go pick my call and reply my SMS.  2 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by RealityKings: 2:08pm On Sep 04 |
OK God bless blueAgent:
Hmm.
Bro things hard now.
I can later, but not now. 1 Like |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by AlphaNugget(m): 2:16pm On Sep 04 |
Successtube:
I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.
Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush! I actually resonate with the above quoted.....I think every man should try to look into the above with the utmost sincerity, it is worth it. |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Treasure17(m): 4:53pm On Sep 04 |
maasoap:
Lol. More like good luck to them You are funny cause I don't understand you again. You can't take your ex back but wishing others follow your advise? |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by maasoap(m): 4:57pm On Sep 04 |
Treasure17:
You are funny cause I don't understand you again. You can't take your ex back but wishing others follow your advise? Yes, I could and I would. But I'm not the one in the picture. You wishing me good luck is a misdirected well wish. That's my point |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by BALLOSKI: 5:00pm On Sep 04 |
@Successtube
Move on to your ex and quit lamenting. You can see the clear reasons why you should move on from your wife. She a red flag! |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Treasure17(m): 5:32pm On Sep 04 |
maasoap:
Yes, I could and I would. But I'm not the one in the picture. You wishing me good luck is a misdirected well wish. That's my point Alright. Good luck again. |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by NairalandDJ2738: 11:05pm On Sep 04 |
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| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by ABANGWABOI(m): 8:38am On Sep 05 |
2mch:
Lol. Small boy. Na teenagers de advice you for internet. You no know. But you will learn real life eventually. Na your M0thèr be Naive small girl... As for you.. Try and figure out your (miserable) life first... Ekpa.. |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by faithfull18(f): 9:27am On Sep 05 |
Pray for her, she will change.
If the foundation is destroyed, what can the righteous do?? The story sounds made up. |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Hassanmaye(m): 12:58pm On Sep 05 |
Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.
Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.
“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.
But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.
My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.
I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.
The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.
I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.
Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush! Vagina people are like that, they can kill for you when the clock is ticking to marry, once they get what they want you are in trouble. |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by frozen70(f): 6:12pm On Sep 06 |
Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.
Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.
“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.
But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.
My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.
I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.
The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.
I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.
Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush! As it is now, your happiness is in another person's pocket, so follow uoir heart and go wherever it is leading you Marriage is not a child's play If you can't cope leave before it's too late and she too will move on We all must not get it right in marriage with our partner |
| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Lordsugar(f): 6:32pm On Sep 11 |
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| Re: I'm Contemplating Divorce After Two Years by Dilaminu: 8:00am On Oct 08 |
Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.
Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.
“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.
But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.
My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.
I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.
The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.
I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.
Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush! Just pray, and God will bring you help easily. |
