Wedding lasts couple of hours. Marriage lasts longer.

You do not need aso ebi neither do you need 100 step cake to be with the person you love. All you need is primarily the parents blessings from both parties.

But if that was Soo important, orphans wouldn't get married

It's your wedding, not your parent or your uncle's or society. They shouldn't dictate how your wedding should be like because it's Your wedding not theirs. They're externals

If you can't think for yourself and you're easily moved by externals to tailor your wedding the way the externals want, then imagine how your marriage would be like?
You'll need permission from the externals to make love to your spouse.


Parents, Try not to see your children marriage as a Ponzi scheme to get what you couldn't work for and probably don't even need in the long run. And let humans learn to think for themselves in general.

Most of the people thinking for you are dead.