I am just curious and wanted to ask this question to guage reactions. Compared to your parents, would you say your marriage is better or worse and, what ever your answer is, do you care to share the reason behind your conclusion?

I will say my parents had a better marriage .

First, their marriage was an arranged one and no prior relationship before the marriage so there was nothing like love from the get go.

My dad's relatives decided to look for a wife for him and someone recommended my mom. Even dad was not around during his own wedding.

At the onset, there were lots if glitches and quarrels mainly because of my paternal grandmother controlling influence on my dad and, we were very small then so, it was stories that were told to me as as I never witnessed them quarrel before.

My mom loved and adored my dad and, at some point, they seemed like bro and sis.

Mom ran the home, made sure everyone was well fed thrice daily, still kept her restaurant business where we always went to eat.

Dad was always away at work and month end, he would take his gas money and some change, would give the rest to my mom to plan and run the home.

There were each other's best friend that mom could not live after my dad passed. Always sitting and chatting together, giving maximum attention to each other.

I would say we grew up in a home where my parents agree on everything and never quarrel. Even though they were not rich and educated. My dad once lost his job and mom was there with him through it all.

Now, compared to mine, I feel people get into marriages for ulterior motives especially the ladies. They want to use marriage as a financial retirement plan.

I cannot say I have all what my parents had in their relationship even though mine was not an arranged marriage.

I conclude that my parents have a better marriage than I currently have.

Shall we say arranged marriages are way better than love marriages?

Is your marriage better than your parents.

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Namaste

It's anonymous and I don't see reasons for lies. We learn from each other.

That's where most of you ppl misses it...
Marriage goes deeper beyond just feelings

In the kingdom prescription, YOU DON'T MARRY WHO YOU LOVE, BUT YOU LOVE WHO YOU MARRY

The guy @Fearyourcreator said he doesn't have a happy home and he's tired of his marriage. He's in his late 40s. He's a known APC stipend collector popularly known as data boy. His job is to defend Tinubu anti people policies. He hates igbo with his last drop of blood and his hatred for OBJ speak volumes.

The description of a 'good marriage' in the Nigerian context is when the home is peaceful. But the home can only be peaceful if the woman decides to play a fool by turning a blind eye to her husband's excesses.

Most Nigerian men are despicable, but still want their wives to tolerate them because they are simply just men!

A very close relative was caught having an affair with his two daughters (don'mind my choice of words because the children were enjoying the gifts he was showering on them) and when the bubble bursted, he beat the living daylights out of his wife.

If she choose to remain quiet, people will assume she has a good marriage. The real question should be: "What is the definition of a good marriage"?.

Nnamdipapa:
I am just curious and wanted to ask this question to guage reactions. Compared to your parents, would you say your marriage is better or worse and, what ever your answer is, do you care to share the reason behind your conclusion?

I will say my parents had a better marriage .

First, their marriage was an arranged one and no prior relationship before the marriage so there was nothing like love from the get go.

My dad's relatives decided to look for a wife for him and someone recommended my mom. Even dad was not around during his own wedding.

At the onset, there were lots if glitches and quarrels mainly because of my paternal grandmother controlling influence on my dad and, we were very small then so, it was stories that were told to me as as I never witnessed them quarrel before.

My mom loved and adored my dad and, at some point, they seemed like bro and sis.

Mom ran the home, made sure everyone was well fed thrice daily, still kept her restaurant business where we always went to eat.

Dad was always away at work and month end, he would take his gas money and some change, would give the rest to my mom to plan and run the home.

There were each other's best friend that mom could not live after my dad passed. Always sitting and chatting together, giving maximum attention to each other.

I would say we grew up in a home where my parents agree on everything and never quarrel. Even though they were not rich and educated. My dad once lost his job and mom was there with him through it all.

Now, compared to mine, I feel people get into marriages for ulterior motives especially the ladies. They want to use marriage as a financial retirement plan.

I cannot say I have all what my parents had in their relationship even though mine was not an arranged marriage.

I conclude that my parents have a better marriage than I currently have.

Shall we say arranged marriages are way better than love marriages?

Is your marriage better than your parents.

You marry ni? Impossicant!

That is despicable!

He is supposed to be an authority figure in the lives of those girls and even, if he wanted to be useless , he could have at least, done it far away from home where is family would not be affected greatly.

As per beating the wife that is crazy.

A good home for me is where the interests of the husband and wife align in everything and, both are moving towards the same goal.

Not where the wife has a secret agenda with her family and the husband has his.

I will use myself as example, I was totally commited to the marriage, took care of the wife and her family members, I even neglected my own siblings and parents at some point.

I opened a joint account and got her a debit card to spend whatever she wanted. The first 8 years, she never worked and got anything she wanted to buy.

Now, when she started working, I was of the opinion that, hey, let's be joint on your accounts to so we can have same financial goals and she refused because
she wanted to give chunk money to her siblings while controlling mine.

This was a big redflag for me that it was not a healthy relationship.

Also, a good marriage is one where each partner is sensitive to one another's feelings, if I complain about something, it is taken seriously and vice versa. It won't be perfect initially but eventually things will grow from there.

Raping of daughters and beating of wives is a criminal behavior and that man will be in jail the rest of his life on my clime.

We4all:


You marry ni? Impossicant!

I am only 17 and will be getting into Uniben next year. Please pray for me.

Well, some of us are still way too young to be making such conclusions, maybe after 10 years.

In my opinion...

Our parents marriages, or marriages in those days were generally more successful and better than what we have presently for many reasons.

Marriages generally nowadays is a sham.

There has been a fundamental shift for the idea and purpose behind marriage nowadays!

Nnamdipapa:
It's anonymous and I don't see reasons for lies. We learn from each other.

but u said u are 18 years old?

Factcheck0001:
but u said u are 18 years old?

Not correct, 17, Getting admissions into Uniben next year. I am currently in Gambia.

Villa12:
The guy @Fearyourcreator said he doesn't have a happy home and he's tired of his marriage. He's in his late 40s. He's a known APC stipend collector popularly known as data boy. His job is to defend Tinubu anti people policies. He hates igbo with his last drop of blood and his hatred for OBJ speak volumes.

Go warm eba small boy

We4all:
➜The description of a 'good marriage' in the Nigerian context is when the home is peaceful. But the home can only be peaceful if the woman decides to play a fool by turning a blind eye to her husband's excesses.
Most Nigerian men are despicable, but still want their wives to tolerate them because they are simply just men! A very close relative was caught having an affair with his two daughters (don'mind my choice of words because the children were enjoying the gifts he was showering on them) and when the bubble bursted, he beat the living daylights out of his wife. If she choose to remain quiet, people will assume she has a good marriage. The real question should be: "What is the definition of a good marriage"?.

Bingo!