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Polygyny: An Ideal Life Style And Solutions To So Many Social Problems by TheDaee201: 5:16pm On Dec 23, 2011 |
Here are few except from people who find polygyny as an ideal solution to so many social and spiritual ills. The paradox of polygamy II: Why most women benefit from polygamy and most men benefit from monogamy Would you be the third wife of Matt Damon? http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-scientific-fundamentalist/200802/the-paradox-polygamy-ii-why-most-women-benefit-polygamy-an Quotes from "Highly educated and higly civilised" Non-Muslim Women "Contrary to popular belief, most women benefit from polygynous society, and most men benefit from monogamous society. This is because polygynous society allows some women to share a resourceful man of high status. “Would you rather be the second or third wife of Mel Gibson or the only wife of Willard Scott?”, to which one of the panelists, the conservative commentator and activist Susan Carpenter McMillan, responded, “If it comes to Mel Gibson, I wouldn’t care if I was one, two, or three.” In contrast, most men benefit from monogamous society. Given a 50-50 sex ratio, monogamous society virtually guarantees a wife for every man, even a third-rate one. Under polygyny, some third-rate men may not find a wife at all, or, even if they are lucky enough to find one, their wife will not be as desirable as the one they can secure for themselves under monogamy, because under polygyny more desirable women would have become the second, third, or tenth wife of more desirable men. End of quote Another quote from a Muslimah "Anyway here are the advantages for me MASHAALLAH!!!!!!!: - I get more time for my own endeavours such as studying, hobbies, that kind of thing. I do creative writing which is a solitary pursuit and one where you block out the rest of the world. If my kids are in bed and my husband is with my co-wife then that gives me a lot of alone time to do this (i.e. every other evening), whereas if I was monogamously married my husband would need my attention and I wouldn't get this time. - I get the best of the single life and the married life, I get a husband and I also get a king sized bed to myself to relax with a good book (on alternate nights) - there's no "not tonight darling I have a headache" - women initiate it more often in polygamous marriages and he can't refuse otherwise he shouldn't have taken on two wives, but you can send him to the other wife if you're not in the mood - sharing motherly duties with my co-wife, e.g. breastfeeding each others babies. It makes a huge difference, if one of us has a bad night when the baby won't sleep the other can take the baby for a while in the morning while you takes a nap. Husbands can do this to some extent but a) they can't breastfeed and b) they have to go to work most days. - big family atmosphere at home (we were living in separate accommodation but recently moved into the same apartment which means more husband time for both of us and more family time for us and the kids) - free Arabic lessons (okay this applies just to me, not generally!) My co-wife is teaching me lots of Arabic mashaAllah, I told her to only speak to me in Arabic - another woman to chat with and stuff at home when hubby's not around, which is a lot of time cause he's at work of course." ------------------------------------------------------------------ Learn more advantages of polygyny/plygamy from those who practice and love it. Polygamy in Islam by Dr Philips and Dr Jones http://www.kalamullah.com/Books/Polygamy%20in%20Islam.pdf Polygamy: Wives Rather Than Girlfriends: http://www.kalamullah.com/Books/wivesratherthanmistresses.pdf Polygamy in Islam - Concept and Practice - By Asghar Ali Engineer: http://www.pucl.org/Topics/Gender/2002/polygamy-islam.htm Joy Behar Show - Utah, Lehi polygamist, Kody Brown, star of TLC Sister Wives: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O4qnrmjcwww Interview Dr Dixon on Polygyny: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=geJoIZEIE0I POLYGAMY IN ISLAM : MUSLIMAH PERSPECTIVE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bDgUXGadmvE Women who say polygamy is the answer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wlaucwEn01g Polygamy Family Interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OEaRn3uHsc |
Re: Polygyny: An Ideal Life Style And Solutions To So Many Social Problems by Nobody: 6:05pm On Dec 23, 2011 |
To each his own abi. Polygyny cannot solve my own social problem. Instead it would change me into a raving lunatic, a dangerous one. I will join witchcraft for any man that wanna put me in that situation. ![]() So as you can see, it would cause more problem for me. So let me just do the monogamous thing, that's the one I know. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Polygyny: An Ideal Life Style And Solutions To So Many Social Problems by TheDaee201: 8:47am On Dec 29, 2011 |
@stillwater , you are right my dear. Everyone is entitle to his or her views/lifestyle/spirituality etc. ![]() How would you expect a person (man) who can barely satisfy or take care of himself (financially and spiritually) to start with, suggest that he venture into polygyny? No way! How would you suggest to a man who barely can satisfy his one wife (manly, emotionally, financially and spiritually) to venture into polygyny. No way! And how can you deny those real men who can afford or meet those needs satisfactorily for more than one wife and they mutually made that choice? We may detest taking some pills or medications prescribed for us by a GP (Doctor), but that would be the only cure for our ailment. In this way, we may personally/individually detest polygyny but it is a common good for the larger society -- it at least make men really more responsible people by taking good care of their women and children in a committed and responsible way. This system (polygyny) contrast sharply with those which tend to exploit women and children and at the end leave them vulnerable - especially when you consider the cases of those (men) players having mistresses (uncommitted love/relationship) all over towns/cities making countless babies who are left at best with their unprepared mother to bring them up or at worse abandoned on our street for our Government to take care of with tax payers money. And how can you compare the quality of human beings produced through a mutually committed and an effective polygynous family systems, where children grow up to learn not only from their immediate family but from other members of the family (step moms, half-brother sisters etc) and on a daily basis? |
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