The game of love is like boxing.

In boxing the rules include wearing gloves and not hitting below the belt.

But you see these V people? They fight with gloves off and hit below the belt.

If you don't get it forget it.

lyrose:



Be calming down bros, talking stage is for guys who has international airtime to spend,they are well to do, enough credit to throw around,my opinion and experience though

Intentional airtime na mumu man dey spend intentional airtime, so the woman shouldn't do same? It's only right in your head until your son is in the place where you put thise mumu men chasing you, this is why mother in-law and wives don't get along.

What i said is cool, that is if you need fast result. OP was communicating about talking stage and how it can be avoided!

Woman format my brain. Lol.
I invest on myself alot. I spend money on knowledge, information, hardwork, reading for skills, my vision. I attract women, i don't even know wedar they exist!

I just gave OP that reply concerning his question.

idahme:


I no dey spend ooo so e mean say i vroke? Women don format your brain

chatinent:
In Nigeria, this stage is a trap for some girls to render your life koboless. And it's not like you are even going to be the only applicant in the love job.

Imagine someone comparing what you can offer to what another can offer... "Somto dey drive Benz and he's promising me an iPhone and two Brazilian hair, and this one is busy telling him he'll love me with all his heart when he is still struggling to buy me common four sticks of snail of ₦15k. Na love I go chop?"

You sef no fear who fit chop four sticks of snail in one sitting! That's about 16 animals at once!

Now who is Somto? Somto is an internet scammer who picked $5k, bought a car and is spending the rest money finding HIVAIDs with his penis.

It is also a stage where you CAN be taken for a fool! I mean, yes. You can be kept as an option. Bisola will always say: "you can't keep all your eggs in one basket."

"We have sex so she can't be using me!" You can still be wiping and be used by her! Whoever told you sex is an indication of love! Just console yourself already!

That's not even to tell you the bitterest truth that a Nigerian girl can still love you very much and still many who is ready. Now you see the definition of "who is ready" must have money attached. Even the ones that add love, there's always money bending in one corner. Note, I don't really mean that you may be poor but who knows? What money cannot do, more money can do it.

Want another truth? You fit still dey struggle with talking stage make Bayo dey snub her messages after "collecting what he wants." It's the same Bayo who professed "Nkiru, I have many girls in my life and they don't really give me the vibes you give me. I will be Bayoside in everything." This is the same Nkiru heartbroken by spare parts expert Chinonso who she served as a sales girl for three years, before graduating to an understanding girlfriend. I mean, three years of "don't forgot to buy postinor. I don't want ploblems o."

Let me not even forget the fact that it seems like every time you meet a Nigerian lady, e bi like she's just coming out from a relationship like some popular customer who patronises a local airport. Very busy airport indeed!


My drunkard uncle will always advise that if you have a spec complex of wanting to marry a virgin. There's every tendency you will marry a lie. I mean, someone who will outsmart you until you join your ancestors yonder. So while having a spec is good, be cautious you fit too!

I hope I’m not still being a total buzzkill for you. If you're diving into the talking stage, just remember to set some boundaries—it's like putting up a friendly fence around your heart! Most guys tend to notice a woman's physical features right off the bat. You never even know her name, but you are already planning a memorable bedtime. And that's when you end up overlooking everything else that really matters. Let the talking stage just be the talking stage.

Smell nice, but don't push it. It's not an audition...it is a get-to-know. The first question that really matters is "what is your genotype" before "what would you like to eat." AVOID stupid pickup lines online...it makes you sound dumb. Go straight to the point that you want both of you to work things out and give a relationship a start. You and I know you are not romantic so stop the nonsense "Like Romeo and Juliet, I think God made you for me" gibberish. Just say what you want before ordering even meatpie.

Who says the talking stage has to happen at Chicken Republic with two charred chickens on the table, legs akimbo, and cutlery ready for battle? Not me! Not you too! Talking stage can happen in a zoo or recreation place where you folks can walk too!

But una guys like to monetise everything! And the girls don't disappoint to not be hungry! "Give me Amarula!" See your forehead like Amarula. Drink water abeg.


Stop monetizing what your mouth can deliver! Well, you know how it goes—during those early chats, a lot of guys seem to think that flashing their cash is the way to win a lady's heart. And many ladies use this opportunity to eat brunch, lunch, crunch, sunch, dunch, munch, and save in their reservoir.
Then I think it really shouldn't be called a talking stage, right? It ought to be a financial analysis naw.

Me I am a local man and na advice I dey give.

I will advise that if you are ready for marriage, leave the wooing and let the friendship work on its own. Yeah, I understand you'll say how but it can also work if you know your onions.. Focus and invest only on marriage-driven relations in Nigeria...every other thing is a waste of time.

Goodluck on your journey.

For the lawyers and judges of public opinion, before you attack me, ask for my account details and send your attack as a narration.

Thanks for your understanding.



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Nice write up filled with wisdom . Just quoting to save this page.

It's ok, as long as no one is billing no one.

meobizy:
Everybody does what works for them. Don’t let people pressure you into a custom which you find pointless. Some men don’t toast, women fall for them. Some men toast for months on end before they catch a female. Some lay their cards on the table — telling the woman they want a good time and nothing else. Some gather many female friends, knowing fully well the one they want will profess her feelings. All different strategies, all with their degrees of success.

You are so right, there is no fixed rule about how it will happen.

we draw our style and pattern of doing things Frm the way we were brought up in a nuclear family and the environment we grew up.

The qtn is this, the ladies we have outside now, do they even know how to communicate? A large number of them wil just be giving you one liner response.
....fine.
....okay
...... nothing
.....brb
........lols ( lols when dem no know the full meaning)

If you talk about career, they immediately switch off .
If you try to talk about politics, you wil end up talking back to yourself.

Not all though but most we have outside healthy conversation bore them. Na money for hand back for ground kind of talk thrills them.
The present naija economy self no dey give those girls joy to hear you do long talk.

Ideally, a proper talking stage should come in front before dating sm1. talking stage where you declare your manifesto but majority of the ladies we have outside no send you with your solomonic love lines.

A boy growing up to a gentleman with strong chivalry ,etiquette and well cultured wil like to be courteous to do the talking stage of a thing.

But if you see the style dos raw guys in the trenches ask women out, you go dey amuse as a gentleman.

Guy: babe, how far now?
gal: I dey
Guy: but babe.....you set die. see wetin you carry for back
Gal: shey you fit handle am
Guy: no try me oh. I carry somtin for under. Infact, I gather.
Guy: how e go be now? I like your parole. we suppose see oh
Gal: serious! No wahala. anytime you ready
Guy: make I get your number. I go hala you

most of their convo goes in a freestyling pattern and you wil be surprised dt that gal may end up in dt guys place few days after dt encounter. dt same gal would have collected rounds of nacking Frm dt guy.

While you that you are trying to follow the talking stage protocol would have to talk....talk more...talk again...convince her...prove your worth...and the thing keeps going on like a job Interview.

The talking stage appears to be old school pattern Dou but dts how it ought to be but the direct and blunt guys are the ones taking the babes while you talking wil be there still talking.

the thing is just be flexible and do the one that wil give you result.

we draw our style and pattern of doing things Frm the way we were brought up in a nuclear family and the environment we grew up.

The qtn is this, the ladies we have outside now, do they even know how to communicate? A large number of them wil just be giving you one liner response.
....fine.
....okay
...... nothing
.....brb
........lols ( lols when dem no know the full meaning)

If you talk about career, they immediately switch off .
If you try to talk about politics, you wil end up talking back to yourself.

Not all though but most we have outside healthy conversation bore them. Na money for hand back for ground kind of talk thrills them.
The present naija economy self no dey give those girls joy to hear you do long talk.

Ideally, a proper talking stage should come in front before dating sm1. talking stage where you declare your manifesto but majority of the ladies we have outside no send you with your solomonic love lines.

A boy growing up to a gentleman with strong chivalry ,etiquette and well cultured wil like to be courteous to do the talking stage of a thing.

But if you see the style dos raw guys in the trenches ask women out, you go dey amuse as a gentleman.

Guy: babe, how far now?
gal: I dey
Guy: but babe.....you set die. see wetin you carry for back
Gal: shey you fit handle am
Guy: no try me oh. I carry somtin for under. Infact, I gather.
Guy: how e go be now? I like your parole. we suppose see oh
Gal: serious! No wahala. anytime you ready
Guy: make I get your number. I go hala you

most of their convo goes in a freestyling pattern and you wil be surprised dt that gal may end up in dt guys place few days after dt encounter. dt same gal would have collected rounds of nacking Frm dt guy.

While you that you are trying to follow the talking stage protocol would have to talk....talk more...talk again...convince her...prove your worth...and the thing keeps going on like a job Interview.

The talking stage appears to be old school pattern Dou but dts how it ought to be but the direct and blunt guys are the ones taking the babes while you talking wil be there still talking.

the thing is just be flexible and do the one that wil give you result.

If I truly have feelings for the girl, talking stage can go up to a month maximum without dropping any of my penny for her. I don't entice any girl with money. NO.
KOLEWERK

The new introduction of the word " talking stage" into relationships in modern day is absurd and unnecessary.

Formerly, it was friendship, courtship marriage.During friendship there is no emotional attachment at all but just a period to observe and interview one another to understand background differences and personality peculiarity.

The way poverty has revamped many ladies neural framework.Its a time to explore the various restaurants, boutiques, yatch spree and all exotic places in town and this can happen with more than 6 guys.This our economy has bastardize many ladies mental capacity to know that it's just a period to understand eachother.


The way this world is moving ehnnn God will soon call Angel Micheal to end this race because the institutionalised of the abnormality is very sad

PeterObi4Presid:
A man with low self esteem will prolong his talking stage and disgrace his manhood by buying things to gain attention
I just need a 30mins date with a lady to know if she's even worth my calling her to say hi the next day.
Even if she passes my first date evaluation test, she dare not showcase any form of entitlement to my money or financial responsibility...If she shows that? That's another red flag that will prematurely end the talking stage
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Now if she passes these two tests....and we get along, investment in the relationship must be two way, if she dare tries to play hanky-panky pranks and games of I'm too valuable, beautiful or too important to return my good will, or calls or conversation....I tell you, that relationship/ talking will die a sudden death......I will never be at a mercy of any small girl for attention or relationship. Never. Not at this age.
I rather stay single than compromise my time, resources and self worth for one lady who is being pummeled free of charge somewhere or who is being prostituted with 15k.....Make we respect ourselves
.

You are a real Gee

Who even made the rule that there must be talking stage? Why can't we just get started already?

The "talking stage" can definitely make sense, especially in today's dating scene where communication is key. It gives both individuals a chance to understand each other's intentions, interests, and compatibility before fully committing to a relationship. However, it can sometimes lead to confusion if both parties aren't on the same page about what they want from it.For those navigating the talking stage or any other part of dating, it's essential to keep communication open and honest. If you're looking for more tips on how to improve communication and make the most out of your relationships, check out https://atmosphereswitch.com/ for some insightful advice and guidance.

lyrose:



Be calming down bros, talking stage is for guys who has international airtime to spend,they are well to do, enough credit to throw around,my opinion and experience though

You are not making any sense , if you can read well to be able to comprehend a simple English, this your mention is what I said about Nigerian girls mentality, your mention is inconsequential, it's same thing I said , Nigerian girls which you are one of them don't know what talking stage in relationships is going by your mentality you display here you don't know it .

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