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Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Mikel99(m): 3:04pm On Jan 17
I don't know. Whenever I make eye contact with girls or want to ask something from them, they seem to frown or kind of give me facial impression that they don't want to talk to me. This happens to me a lot at school or with random strangers. I have even noticed that I am the only one who is treated that way. In fact, girls don't sit beside me for long but you will see same girls sitting with other guys for hours. I asked my friend if it's because I am ugly. They said nothing is wrong with me that I am good looking. Trust me, I am the most cheerful guy you will ever meet and it's not as if I frown everytime or something. I sometimes think that it's because I am good looking, but what baffles me is that girls act cheerfully around guys that I can say are more handsome than me. I dress well so I don't know what is wrong.
Is there anyone here going through the same situation as me?

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by papiSNEH(m): 3:18pm On Jan 17
Make we fes see your picture grin

Most men way Dey reason like this una matter Dey tire me. If person no send you, you self no send am back no need of pleasing any MF please yourself. Focus na the hustle when secured na dem go rush you

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Mikel99(m): 3:32pm On Jan 17
papiSNEH:
Make we fes see your picture grin

Most men way Dey reason like this una matter Dey tire me. If person no send you, you self no send am back no need of pleasing any MF please yourself. Focus na the hustle when secured na dem go rush you
Check my profile to see it
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by bukitt: 3:59pm On Jan 17
Nothing is wrong with you. Just be yourself and don’t overdo when they’re around you.

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by WhiteIverson: 5:10pm On Jan 17
This is 2025 bro, leave women and focus on yourself.

One thing I've realised is when you're focused on achieving a goal and you no send women, that's when they start pestering you up and down, left, right, center.

Nature has an uncanny way of bringing distractions your way.

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by NonsenseRubbish: 7:02pm On Jan 17
Get a really nice cologne and watch your story change. Girls/people can’t resist a nice smelling man.
NB: Pls don’t buy those 1-2k cologne and think you have gotten something oo
I’ll recommend axe deodorant and aqua 121 cologne for a start.

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by verminnel(f): 7:08pm On Jan 17
Are you overly excited around females ?

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by ElasmoBranchii(m): 9:39pm On Jan 17
Mikel99:
I don't know. Whenever I make eye contact with girls or want to ask something from them, they seem to frown or kind of give me facial impression that they don't want to talk to me. This happens to me a lot at school or with random strangers. I have even noticed that I am the only one who is treated that way. In fact, girls don't sit beside me for long but you will see same girls sitting with other guys for hours. I asked my friend if it's because I am ugly. They said nothing is wrong with me that I am good looking. Trust me, I am the most cheerful guy you will ever meet and it's not as if I frown everytime or something. I sometimes think that it's because I am good looking, but what baffles me is that girls act cheerfully around guys that I can say are more handsome than me. I dress well so I don't know what is wrong.
Is there anyone here going through the same situation as me?

Have you checked to see if you are giving off any offensive odor. It's not something that people will have the confidence to tell you and you might not even be aware of it. Once you are sure you smell nice all the time then next thing to do is...

You should be aware not everyone is comfortable with strangers (it might be because they are shy, not in the mood to talk, or they are trying not to say something messed-up e.t.c). If you want to stand out, it's up to you to make them comfortable talking to you.

Have a smile on your face and be aware of the tone of your voice (you want a playful tone) when you are talking to them and learn how to make fun of them to amuse yourself. I call this "Playful Banter". Sometimes when I make eye contact with girls I give them a wink. The key is just be playful. You said you are usually cheerful. I don't know what that means to you but I suggest you switch it out for being playful.

Your body language is also something you should keep in mind.

If none of these tips work then it's just better you accept things as they are. Meaning as far as your smell nice, worrying about how to get people to like you is outside your control and you should better turn your focus on things you can control.

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Silentgroper(m): 9:45pm On Jan 17
NonsenseRubbish:
Get a really nice cologne and watch your story change. Girls/people can’t resist a nice smelling man.
NB: Pls don’t buy those 1-2k cologne and think you have gotten something oo
I’ll recommend axe deodorant and aqua 121 cologne for a start.
if e no work nko??
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by imagrg(m): 2:53am On Jan 18
Village people have worked on you. grin
Mikel99:
I don't know. Whenever I make eye contact with girls or want to ask something from them, they seem to frown or kind of give me facial impression that they don't want to talk to me. This happens to me a lot at school or with random strangers. I have even noticed that I am the only one who is treated that way. In fact, girls don't sit beside me for long but you will see same girls sitting with other guys for hours. I asked my friend if it's because I am ugly. They said nothing is wrong with me that I am good looking. Trust me, I am the most cheerful guy you will ever meet and it's not as if I frown everytime or something. I sometimes think that it's because I am good looking, but what baffles me is that girls act cheerfully around guys that I can say are more handsome than me. I dress well so I don't know what is wrong.
Is there anyone here going through the same situation as me?
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Fiscus105(m): 3:56am On Jan 18
Mikel99:
I don't know. Whenever I make eye contact with girls or want to ask something from them, they seem to frown or kind of give me facial impression that they don't want to talk to me. This happens to me a lot at school or with random strangers. I have even noticed that I am the only one who is treated that way. In fact, girls don't sit beside me for long but you will see same girls sitting with other guys for hours. I asked my friend if it's because I am ugly. They said nothing is wrong with me that I am good looking. Trust me, I am the most cheerful guy you will ever meet and it's not as if I frown everytime or something. I sometimes think that it's because I am good looking, but what baffles me is that girls act cheerfully around guys that I can say are more handsome than me. I dress well so I don't know what is wrong.
Is there anyone here going through the same situation as me?

Ur facial expressions not friendly, to complicate it, you aren't a jovial person, so, it would take great effort to make women ur girlfriends
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by SenecaTheYonger: 4:59am On Jan 18
Mikel99:
I don't know. Whenever I make eye contact with girls or want to ask something from them, they seem to frown or kind of give me facial impression that they don't want to talk to me. This happens to me a lot at school or with random strangers. I have even noticed that I am the only one who is treated that way. In fact, girls don't sit beside me for long but you will see same girls sitting with other guys for hours. I asked my friend if it's because I am ugly. They said nothing is wrong with me that I am good looking. Trust me, I am the most cheerful guy you will ever meet and it's not as if I frown everytime or something. I sometimes think that it's because I am good looking, but what baffles me is that girls act cheerfully around guys that I can say are more handsome than me. I dress well so I don't know what is wrong.
Is there anyone here going through the same situation as me?

They don’t like your face. And it’s not something they do consciously, it’s just subconsciously they frown.

It might just be your skin is rough or looks dirty. Take care of it.

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by helinues: 5:37am On Jan 18
Start using cologne. No disrespecting
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Mikel99(m): 6:09am On Jan 18
ElasmoBranchii:


Have you checked to see if you aren't giving off any offensive odor. It's not something that people will have the confidence to tell you and you might not even be aware of it. Once you are sure you smell nice all the time then next thing to do is...

You should be aware not everyone is comfortable with strangers (it might be because they are shy, not in the mood to talk, or they are trying not to say something messed-up e.t.c). If you want to stand out, it's up to you to make them comfortable talking to you.

Have a smile on your face and be aware of the tone of your voice (you want a playful tone) when you are talking to them and learn how to make fun of them to amuse yourself. I call this "Playful Banter". Sometimes when I make eye contact with girls I give them a wink. The key is just be playful. You said you are usually cheerful. I don't know what that means to you but I suggest you switch it out for being playful.

Your body language is also something you should keep in mind.

If none of these tips work then it's just better you accept things as they are. Meaning as far as your smell nice, worrying about how to get people to like you is outside your control and you should better turn your focus on things you can control.
No, I don't Smell at all. I am very hygienic
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Mikel99(m): 6:16am On Jan 18
SenecaTheYonger:


They don’t like your face. And it’s not something they do consciously, it’s just subconsciously they frown.

It might just be your skin is rough or looks dirty. Take care of it.
Trust me , I have a good skin. I bath everyday and the skin care i use is Nivea. If you want to see for yourself, you can check my profile. In fact, girls prefer to talk to dirty looking people than to talk to me. Somebody said maybe I frown that's why. No, I don't. I am a type of guy that keeps a cool or smily face everyday.
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by timmydrogba(m): 7:37am On Jan 18
ElasmoBranchii:


Have you checked to see if you aren't giving off any offensive odor. It's not something that people will have the confidence to tell you and you might not even be aware of it. Once you are sure you smell nice all the time then next thing to do is...

You should be aware not everyone is comfortable with strangers (it might be because they are shy, not in the mood to talk, or they are trying not to say something messed-up e.t.c). If you want to stand out, it's up to you to make them comfortable talking to you.

Have a smile on your face and be aware of the tone of your voice (you want a playful tone) when you are talking to them and learn how to make fun of them to amuse yourself. I call this "Playful Banter". Sometimes when I make eye contact with girls I give them a wink. The key is just be playful. You said you are usually cheerful. I don't know what that means to you but I suggest you switch it out for being playful.

Your body language is also something you should keep in mind.

If none of these tips work then it's just better you accept things as they are. Meaning as far as your smell nice, worrying about how to get people to like you is outside your control and you should better turn your focus on things you can control.

Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by elmagnifico411(m): 7:45am On Jan 18
Mikel99:
I don't know. Whenever I make eye contact with girls or want to ask something from them, they seem to frown or kind of give me facial impression that they don't want to talk to me. This happens to me a lot at school or with random strangers. I have even noticed that I am the only one who is treated that way. In fact, girls don't sit beside me for long but you will see same girls sitting with other guys for hours. I asked my friend if it's because I am ugly. They said nothing is wrong with me that I am good looking. Trust me, I am the most cheerful guy you will ever meet and it's not as if I frown everytime or something. I sometimes think that it's because I am good looking, but what baffles me is that girls act cheerfully around guys that I can say are more handsome than me. I dress well so I don't know what is wrong.
Is there anyone here going through the same situation as me?
“introverted and geeky” that na one of the reasons u dey experience wetin u dey experience..

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Exceed15: 8:13am On Jan 18
Spend time with only people that values you
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Mikel99(m): 9:40am On Jan 18
You can check my profile pic to see if there's anything wrong with my face
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by ElasmoBranchii(m): 10:08am On Jan 18
Mikel99:

No, I don't Smell at all. I am very hygienic

When I say smell I think you know I mean the two kind. BO and MO. Some people brush twice a day but still have MO. So you might have to go a step further.

Do you floss daily?
Do you use mouthwash?
Do you use tongue scraper?

If you are very sure you don't smell at all then your problem most likely lies in your body language and your conversational skill.

Also one thing you can note is that people usually like to spend time with people who make them feel good about themselves but that doesn't mean you should start giving out compliments anyhow (because that will create the opposite effect). Like I said the key is being playful. Make fun of things about them that they won't take personal.

For example just yesterday I was on a queue and there was a tall fine girl that was one person in front of me (she was the same height as me). Without thinking I just said "Fine girl, you are very tall o" with a playful tone then she turned, looked at me and smiled... then I kept poking fun at her height and she was very open to talk.

Another thing is you should know how to poke fun at yourself. Don't take things and yourself seriously. If you have fun spending time with yourself, people will also have fun spending time with you.
Once you have this mindset your body language will naturally take note and you will be more relaxed.

Another thing is you should focus more on things that are in your control and pay less attention to people's reaction. You will also need this mindset if you really want to be playful. Hope this helps.

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by SenecaTheYonger: 11:27am On Jan 18
Mikel99:

Trust me , I have a good skin. I bath everyday and the skin care i use is Nivea. If you want to see for yourself, you can check my profile. In fact, girls prefer to talk to dirty looking people than to talk to me. Somebody said maybe I frown that's why. No, I don't. I am a type of guy that keeps a cool or smily face everyday.

It’s your skin bro trust me. You have that glossy type of black. Nigerian girls don’t like it at all. Find a face scrub brush and exfoliate your skin. (I hope I’m not sounding harsh)
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Mikel99(m): 11:45am On Jan 18
SenecaTheYonger:


It’s your skin bro trust me. You have that glossy type of black. Nigerian girls don’t like it at all. Find a face scrub brush and exfoliate your skin. (I hope I’m not sounding harsh)

Ok, maybe it's because of the skin care product I am using. I am presently using Nivea men deep impact. Can you recommend a better alternative for me?
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by SenecaTheYonger: 11:51am On Jan 18
Mikel99:

Ok, maybe it's because of the skin care product I am using. I am presently using Nivea men deep impact. Can you recommend a better alternative for me?

Listen bro, your cream is fine. It’s just that sometimes dead skin can stay on the face making it look blacker than it should. That’s why I suggested exfoliating. Plus you’re a man, that’s all you need.

It’s just like a scrub but for the face alone. I bought one from Temu. It brightened my face a lot cause I don’t scrub my face from birth. I always thought I had a dark face skin but I didn’t.

Don’t use your bathing sponge or your skin will look sand paper rough

Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by obinna58(m): 12:08pm On Jan 18
Every man on their own problem, the least of your worries becomes the biggest problem of another
Chase success dude and stop thinking girls matter, soon now when they start coming na you go still reject and play them
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by MichaelSokoto(m): 2:12pm On Jan 18
Mikel99:

Check my profile to see it
ur eye dey fear my fear!

sad
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Mikel99(m): 2:25pm On Jan 18
MichaelSokoto:

ur eye dey fear my fear!

sad
What do you mean?
I don't get
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by otipoju(m): 2:33pm On Jan 18
Mikel99:

Trust me , I have a good skin. I bath everyday and the skin care i use is Nivea. If you want to see for yourself, you can check my profile. In fact, girls prefer to talk to dirty looking people than to talk to me. Somebody said maybe I frown that's why. No, I don't. I am a type of guy that keeps a cool or smily face everyday.

You just dey hype yourself unnecessarily.

From your picture, you need to iron your clothes as they are crumpled.

Also your shirt is faded. I'll never be caught wearing faded clothes. Na social taboo.

The way your sleeves are rolled up gives the impression that you are not organized.

I can also see at least six "larger than life" pimples on your face and jaw.

Even for a guy, your display picture is a turn off for me.

You have plenty of work to do on your appearance. The first impression it portrays gives you a very low rating and I can understand why the girls are frowning at you.


You don't have to buy expensive clothes but learn masculine colours and how to combine them.

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Mikel99(m): 2:36pm On Jan 18
otipoju:


You just dey hype yourself unnecessarily.

From your picture, you need to iron your clothes as they are crumpled.

I can also see at least four "larger than life" pimples on your face and jaw.

Thanks, But I don't think it's about that. On a normal day, I don't wear crumpled clothes and about the pimples, they are gone now.
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by otipoju(m): 2:46pm On Jan 18
Mikel99:

Thanks, But I don't think it's about that. On a normal day, I don't wear crumpled clothes and about the pimples, they are gone now.

No wahala.

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Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Anabosee(m): 2:53pm On Jan 18
You get low self esteem.
Try to focus on school or hustle and better your life.
And nor de reason anybody, as dem nor de reason you.
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by Mikel99(m): 2:58pm On Jan 18
otipoju:


No wahala.
I have changed my profile pic now. You can check again
Re: Does It occur To You Guys Or Is It Just Me? by 9japride(m): 2:58pm On Jan 18
Mikel99:
I don't know. Whenever I make eye contact with girls or want to ask something from them, they seem to frown or kind of give me facial impression that they don't want to talk to me. This happens to me a lot at school or with random strangers. I have even noticed that I am the only one who is treated that way. In fact, girls don't sit beside me for long but you will see same girls sitting with other guys for hours. I asked my friend if it's because I am ugly. They said nothing is wrong with me that I am good looking. Trust me, I am the most cheerful guy you will ever meet and it's not as if I frown everytime or something. I sometimes think that it's because I am good looking, but what baffles me is that girls act cheerfully around guys that I can say are more handsome than me. I dress well so I don't know what is wrong.
Is there anyone here going through the same situation as me?
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Try to live a life of I don't give a fuvk. Girls don't like timid guys.
They should be privilege to sit with you. Lastly, hustle hard and gain more personal growth.

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