emperor4love:
leaving the kids to de witch is another problem look at how she will brainwashed them,in future ur bro is on long tin

She can't; bro is still responsible for the kids' feeding, school fees, and others. In fact, she is already begging to come back, she feels so remorseful now

Jux ordinary 4yrs
Lolxx

As a married man, I understand this cry for help. Social media however can't give you the solutions you need. There's nothing you feel right now that's strange. You just need a good community that can guide you on how to navigate these emotions and come out stronger. Men die when they remain silent, or they take drastic decisions that don't make sense to anyone else but themselves. Just know that the way out of how you feel is not necessarily out of the marriage...You really need guidance

Learn how to drink if you don't, also learn how to look away most times.

Also, always try to argue less . Works for me though.

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

funkmrflexx:

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue.

Waitt are u begging her to stay?? Cos I don't get why she's threatening you with leaving??


See man......let anybody tension you.....if u are with a woman who makes u feel she's managing you or doing you a favour by being with you....nigga be the first pull the plug..

...package what I like to call pseudo-divorce .two things will happen....

She will realize she's about to lose you, decide to adjust and work on the marriage with you.

Or.....She will walk away ..which means she doesn't give a fvck about u or the marriage....

Either way...it's a win win....

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

Women these days are a joke. Knowledge and wokeness for women is like drug and alcohol. Many so called loyal wife's of those days did that because they had no voice and little money. That why they act loyal even as 4th wife's to billionaires.
A dog well taken care of, will remember the good you did forever, but assist a woman today and tomorrow she will call you a useless man, and ask what did you do? Happy are you if she ups and leave, never stop her from leaving your home.

Hold on to the Lord, play your role as a husband and a father, find ways to be happy. Never pay back fire for fire, never pay evil for evil. Make sure in all your spending you plan for retirement. Pray without ceasing, hold on to the true living God.

No phase lasts forever. Every wickedness people show will be judged, somethings here but most severe is in the age to come.

PonziHater

calabaman:
Hmm man.

What did I just read, how can aunty threaten divorce and you mellowed down.

As for me, I would have left the marriage first and sent her back to her father's house.

Mind you I'm married. Mine once tried that.

I told her absolutely let's get a divorce and even started browsing on my smart TV how to get a divorce in Nigeria

She left the parlour and later begged me that night.

Don't EVER LET A WOMAN DO THAT YOU, abi you marry am free?

As commenters have advised, take some time off for yourself...I have a guest house close to my house were I go chill atimes in the guise of a journey were I can have some peace and quiet.

Chai. It's well o

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

it appears the financial expectations is way too much for you to bear alone. Doesn’t she work? What’s her quota to expenditures in the home? Or she’s a full house wife? How a man meets his woman in the first place really matters and again the level of impressions he gave her like all is well and was going to be well on the long run. Some men are like politicians who make promises that can’t be fulfilled due to unexpected outcomes on the long run maybe! Try your best and adjust yourself properly. Coordinate your home, readjust, be calm, let your woman be more understanding, because if she isn’t, nothing can work. The female folks matters a lot, they are a great influence on the new borns into the family. She can even use the kids to frustrate you more. Just as the women are like children also, what you can not provide for her on the long run, just don’t start it. Like buying chocolates and shawarma on steady basis, now economy now resulted in opting for soup without protein. E no go work.

Omeife2:
As a married man, I understand this cry for help. Social media however can't give you the solutions you need. There's nothing you feel right now that's strange. You just need a good community that can guide you on how to navigate these emotions and come out stronger. Men die when they remain silent, or they take drastic decisions that don't make sense to anyone else but themselves. Just know that the way out of how you feel is not necessarily out of the marriage...You really need guidance

👍👍

Welcome

You married the wrong woman... Simple! There are two things a woman can do ... It's either she helps and support building you(as a team mate) or she recks you down.

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

Make she leave the marriage. Problem solved

Serial liar on the beat.
Another fake story to get online attention.

I doubt if you are even old enough to get married.

Lols, marriage is not actually the suites and wedding gown with the congratulations that follow up and the honey moon .....

Oga, brace up and face your marriage as a man but before you do, have you come close to God who should make even your enemies to be at peace with you?

There is stress of money, emotions, mental sacrifices etc, do them ....
Have good friends that are married not single guys that don't understand marriage..

Have you ever prayed to God that he should make you the husband to your wife and the father to your children

Have you accepted you can't do anything without God and the holy Spirit

Do you think you can do it alone?.....know it too that your wife who you think loves you or loved you can disappoint you... 😂

She is saying when will pull out of the marriage because even you have given up, so why not her

What values, inputs apart from money are you putting in the marriage??

Do you take corrections or you form Alpha male , stubborn etc??

Oga, humble yourself before God, this is marriage, respect God that joined you two together and do his will concerning your marriage...

Saying you are fed up is a good means for Devil to finish you up...

In your tongue lies life and death.....whatever you say even in your mind is what happens to you...

Remain firm comrade....remain firm....

Cowbell521:
Tell her to leave. Problem solved

amah4game:
You married the wrong woman... Simple! There are two things a woman can do ... It's either she helps and support building you(as a team mate) or she recks you down.

You guys fall for cheap fictions.
He is not married. He just like coming up with various marriage scenario to get reactions.

His post history is filled with contradictory stories about his marriage/non-marriage.
Almost every possible thing in marriage has happened to him.

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

No you're not someone who's able to handle stress , maybe some kind of stress but not all kind. Stop deceiving yourself

So cuz marriage didn't work for this one now, some people will think in the same direction. Funny

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

I feel your pain sir, but can we do, I'm tired already, l left my house since Last week, I told them I traveled, I need to rest. I only send money for keep up

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

I presume that your father is late. He would certainly have told you that marriage is not a bed of roses.
And with the wrong spouse, it could get worse.

Like all stages of life, you cannot transition into it easily. It takes time and effort.

However I think that you need to keep working on yourself; physically (hit the gym or make one), mentally (read) and financially (ALWAYS keep looking for legitimate ways to make more money)
You have to be lacking in some of these for your lady wife to be threatening to quit the marriage.

This does not imply that her action is tolerable. Personally if my wife threatens to leave the marriage I will throw her out myself. Nevertheless you have a duty to make yourself desirable.

Don't lose hope, keep at it. That's a man's reality for you. If you chicken out, you lost.

This one she is threatening to leave, are sure another guy is not already servicing her

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

Just calm down you will be fine. Every successful marriage you see pass through this phase. Just learn the mechanism to handle it.

You are not yet ready to be on marriage. Were you forces into marriage? Oga sit down there and face your marriage abeg.

calabaman:
Hmm man.

What did I just read, how can aunty threaten divorce and you mellowed down.

As for me, I would have left the marriage first and sent her back to her father's house.

Mind you I'm married. Mine once tried that.

I told her absolutely let's get a divorce and even started browsing on my smart TV how to get a divorce in Nigeria

She left the parlour and later begged me that night.

Don't EVER LET A WOMAN DO THAT YOU, abi you marry am free?

As commenters have advised, take some time off for yourself...I have a guest house close to my house were I go chill atimes in the guise of a journey were I can have some peace and quiet.

Wow

tobore4u:
marry ur frnd una no dey hear

Did he say he married his enemy?

Even if you marry your sister, she can mess you up.

No where in the holy books was it ever written that you should marry your best friend. It is always "love who you marry".

My parents are 40yrs in marriage and they didn't date much before they married.

She was not my dad's friend and vice versa.

"Lack of kindness and see finish are the root causes of broken marriages. And it is that "best friend's " over familiarity that often leads to that "see finish"

No man should marry his best friend or something like that.

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

Marriage is not the issue but either you or your choice of wife. Seat your wife down and renew your vow. Both of you can make it work if you so desire.

Sapeleboy911:
It's understandable; my cousin had some marital issues in October. Although he has thrown in the towel. He has been a faithful and very open husband to his wife for over 9 years. Then suddenly the wife started developing that ego attitude. From buying properties without the husband's consent to attending evening parties without informing her husband. Her business is booming, but still, she will disturb him for virtually everything. At any slight misunderstanding, she threatens to quit the marriage. She even had the guts to rent an apartment and left her marital home, leaving behind her husband and 2 kids. We attended one family meeting to another, just to make peace. Still, this woman wouldn't let peace rain. At the last meeting I attended, I told them that nobody should ever call me for any meeting again and that I was fed up. My bro told everyone present that he was no longer interested in such a problematic, and stress filled marriage.

He took the kids to the woman and warned her never to come near his house again. A month down the line bro has added weight now looking like a fresh agege bread. What's the secret I asked. The response was peace of mind. He can eat once a day, and he doesn't feel hungry. He sleeps when he likes and wakes up when he likes. I was even told that the ex-wife was making some reconciliatory efforts. Although she dare not call me.

These women are very stupid, as men we should prioritize our peace, if not for procreation what do we need woman for? They can't allow peace to reign?

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

(1) Why did you get married in the first instance?


(2) You have not actually said the issues that is now making you to discontinue the relationship with your wife?



(3) I wonder what will make a man to want to abandon his children with their mother?



(4) I am suspecting you're an over zealous play boy with wrongly placed intentions.

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

You've been complaining about your wife since at least last year. Is it not high time you both separated for your sanity?

funkmrflexx:
I've been married close to 4 years now with a 2 year old boy, but marriage isn't what I envisioned it to be.

Like the said, if marriage was renewable every 5 years, I wouldn't even bother. I feel like I'm losing myself to this thing called marriage, aside from the responsibilities that comes with providing, the mental and psychological stress.

I've never been this stressed in my life and I'm someone who's usually able to handle a lot of stress, I just feel like I need time alone from everything and everyone, no calls, no text. Nothing.

And my wife even makes it worse with threats of leaving the marriage over any small issue. I think the biggest mistake of my life is getting married and I know a lot go men go through this to but they can't talk.

And that's why a lot of men die young these days.

Wrong man don settle down with wrong woman

Bobodee09:


Big lie.

I doubt if you are married.

Haha why do you say so? Do really have big 🐍

It seems neither of you is happy in this marriage. Your wife's threat to leave the marriage shows she's experiencing as much emotional stress as you are in this relationship.

I advise you seek professional help.

This does not mean you cannot separate but it will help you ascertain whether separation is the right way to deal with this issue or it's better to find a way to resolve it.

See, sometimes couples assume that separation is the solution to their issues but I tell you, it may not settle it.

When you separate from one person, you may just be transferring the issues to the next marriage.

So, I repeat, seek professional help.

You need it to make the right decision.

SmellingAnus:
sorry bro... You are suffering from symptoms of see finish.... Anytime there is see finish, the woman begins to threaten to leave even for minor misunderstanding.... You are probably contemplating leaving her but the truth is she might leave you before you even leave her and you will end up with a broken heart..

And if you check well, he married his so called best friend . I can't marry a girl that is not scared of me. If I'm not at least ten years older, I can't date you. I should be able to have complete control of her. Manipulate her to do my biddings.

No man should marry his best friend. Your wife should never be your friend. She should have access to you but she shouldn't be your friend for any reason
Some men sha.