Hello Nairalanders, I am not predisposed to sharing my private life with the public but I suppose I’ve had enough of this torture to bear it alone. I also don’t like to embellish my write-ups so I’ll hit the nail on the head
I met a lady about 15 months ago when I was doing my youth service. She was my next door neighbor and a teacher in one of the few primary schools. She became my first friend in the strange land I found myself. Our friendship grew so much that my fellow corp members began to think “you know what now”…
Anyways one day I came back from my PPA and as usual dashed to her room after changing only to meet a guy she introduced as her FIANCE. My heart skipped a beat and I felt as if cold water had been poured on my naked body.
Fellow nairalanders, do you know that I fell sick as a result some days later and I’ve not been myself ever since. Funny enough my sweetheart didn’t and still doesn’t have a clue as to what was happening to me. In conclusion, their wedding is a few weeks from now and I will not lie, I STILL DESIRE THIS LADY SO MUCH.
Pls advise me what to do as I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown.

O boy just let her be and go find someone else. She's not worth it. Btw, did she ever give you any reason to believe that she has feelings for you? Did you guys do anything? Just asking.

You have to let this one go

OP did you try to make your future intentions clear to her within this 15months time ?

are u crazy? give it up

Unless you want the torture in your life to advance to a stage where you would never be able to recover from the wounds sustained, I would suggest that you look for someone else and let her be.

bro,it's too late!!
Walk and never look back.

hmmmmmmmm, lusting after someone's wife. i just hope her fiance know's about this. boko haram will not be sufficient to deal with you. bloody dimwit.

So within this 15months period,she did not introduce the guy as her fiance?Very strange

Guys thank you for your comments (including those that are insulting me for no just cause), I've actually tried to get hooked to another lady but I can't deceive myself. I am completely emotionally attached to this lady. She actually still displays overtures of friendship towards me (maybe taking me as a brother, I don't know). I know it's too late to tell her what I really desire from her but I can't resist her altogether

^Try harder.

Another option is to kill the guy and take over.

@OP been there, felt that . What u want 2 do is to get as far away from her as possible so as to try to forget her as quickly as possible u kno, maybe get a new place or sth, Gud luck

@190,
That's quite harsh na oga.He didn't say he wants to take the lady away from her fiance.

@Poster,
My advice is you just let her be,if she's yours the marriage won't hold.However,if it does then it means she's with the person she was meant to be with.I was in this kind of situation before but i didn't let her know anything about my feelings,rather i encouraged her.The interesting thing is things didn't work out between her and her fiance and she ended up being in my life after almost 10 whole years.Another interesting thing is right now she's married and nope,i'm not her husband.Let things run their normal course.

Guy just move on. Run away n neva look back, dont think twice or hesitate.

ebila:

@Poster,
My advice is you just let her be,[b]if she's yours the marriage won't hol[/b]d.However,if it does then it means she's with the person she was meant to be with.I was in this kind of situation before but i didn't let her know anything about my feelings,rather i encouraged her.The interesting thing is things didn't work out between her and her fiance and she ended up being in my life after almost 10 whole years.Another interesting thing is right now she's married and nope,i'm not her husband.Let things run their normal course.

sauer:

Wetin u no understand? Say engagements dey break or say people no dey dey meant for each other?!

OP weneva her torts comes to u again., just begin to assume her husband nakin her akpako badly! Dat will surely make u start seein her frm a dirty angle.

@ OP, ur problem is easy to solve.

Get the wedding IV, on the wedding day, get an explosive and bomb the entire venue, including urself.

Evilperson:

@ OP, your problem is easy to solve.

Get the wedding IV, on the wedding day, get an explosive and bomb the entire venue, including urself.

seconded

Find someone better or more suitable than her.

Why would you want to spend your time pining after someone in this manner.

Its just a phase, imo.

rabalord:

Hello Nairalanders, I am not predisposed to sharing my private life with the public but I suppose I’ve had enough of this torture to bear it alone. I also don’t like to embellish my write-ups so I’ll hit the nail on the head
I met a lady about 15 months ago when I was doing my youth service. She was my next door neighbor and a teacher in one of the few primary schools. She became my first friend in the strange land I found myself. Our friendship grew so much that my fellow corp members began to think “you know what now”…
Anyways one day I came back from my PPA and as usual dashed to her room after changing only to meet a guy she introduced as her FIANCE. My heart skipped a beat and I felt as if cold water had been poured on my Unclad body.
Fellow nairalanders, do you know that I fell sick as a result some days later and I’ve not been myself ever since. Funny enough my sweetheart didn’t and still doesn’t have a clue as to what was happening to me. In conclusion, their wedding is a few weeks from now and I will not lie, I STILL DESIRE THIS LADY SO MUCH.
Pls advise me what to do as I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown.

you are a pu[i]ss[/i]y
cold water poured on your face because a babe you know introduced another man as her fiance.
what the heck is wrong with some nigerian males? did your testicles take a long trip to your brain cavity?

get out of here and go find your own woman.

You see why they've always said that r/ships are not for boy and girl; it is for men and women

@poster, I'm sorry, but what you felt for her was just lust. how can you be dating a woman for 15 whole months and have not
summoned courage to tell her how you feel about her. you just thought she would wait for you to say it or force it out from your mouth.
I don't understand, Well, I think it's time to move on with your life.

Wetin de worry this young man sef, ANOTHER man wife!! If you lust 4low anoda man wife na so sharp guys go lust 4low ur very OWN wife

I think the only way you can make her happy is by being happy with a woman who is suited for you.

ie your own.

It's not LOVE - it's called a CRUSH.  I used to be there some years ago.

Solution:
Relocate from her present location.
Remove all memories of her from you. i.e phone numbers, pictures, FB contacts, etc.
Occupy your time with things that bring you happiness.

Open your mind to other ladies. Your angel will walk into your arms when your emotionally settled.


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@ Poster, since you feel this strongly for her, why don't you tell her how you feel, especially since she does not have an idea of what your feelings are towards her, tell her and MOVE-ON.

^^that reminds me of a friend back in the day who did just that.

we were casual and distant friends, saw each other once in a while, and we were at the same school.

he'd originally started out as a friend of a friend, but before then i'd seen him on and off when i was 13 or so. We met up again later through mutual acquaintances, before the school thingy.

anyway, out of the blue, i was amazed to get a letter from him saying he had feelings, etc etc. He apologized for the letter but said he wanted to get it off his chest and let me know. and he didnt want our friendship to be ruined by his action ie the letter.

ok, i either kept mute or asked him later what he meant and i think he said he wanted me to know how he felt.

turns out everything turned out alright afterwards because i saw him with one stunning lady and he looked happy. I was relieved and i think he did get over the feelings because we kind of drifted apart after that.

so, that was the end of our little tete a tete and now its something for me to remember in my old age while i'm here rinsing my dentures in readiness for eating some corn i just cooked.

lol.

Guy you need to get a life cos this one aint cutting. Find another babe and keep you crazy emotions to yourself