ebonyvibe:

She feels utterly betrayed she didnt bagain for this.

She is not in Nigeria by th eway she lives in London where it is more or less the norm to live and have kids with you partners and then get married.

Now she wished she never had the baby; she was in tears when she told me she is even finding it difficult to love the child now

jay bee:

I'm afraid ain't nothing she can do about it now. The simple advice for her is to tighten her belt and work on being a good mother/father to the child that never asked to be brought into the world.
If she wants financial support from the man then she can obviously get that through the court system

ebonyvibe:

My friend has just realised that she just had a baby for a married man!

They have been in a relationship for 18months not knowing that his wife was seconded on a job placement in America; now she is back he doesnt even see her anymore or come to see the son what should she do?

Sweeery. Is your friend called Ebonyvibe by any chance?

ebonyvibe:

She feels utterly betrayed she didnt bagain for this.

She is not in Nigeria by th eway she lives in London where it is more or less the norm to live and have kids with you partners and then get married.

Now she wished she never had the baby; she was in tears when she told me she is even finding it difficult to love the child now

Mrs, Chima:

That's why I advocate KNOW WHO YOU ARE bleeping AND WRAP UP.  

Condoms are cheap.  

jay bee:

Mrs, Chima:

Free me jor! Condoms are affordable and there aren't any excuses why people don't use them!

kokoye:

condom use no sweet.

you wont be alive today if someone used a condom in 1965

skin to skin.

dats wat ma daddi did and dats wat imma do

Mrs, Chima:

You can also achieve heavenly feeling with a condom. They have a condom called Skin to Skin and you won't feel a thing according to the patients. You can buy it at a drug store.

Inked_Nerd:



Just wondering, since you're talking about her like she's property if this situation involved a single father would you still be sitting here saying that the person is now "devalued"?

Mrs, Chima:

Question: Is it okay for a wife to ask her husband to wear condoms all the time?

kokoye:


Inked, Thank you for your response.

Sista Chima, hope you got that . . or do I need to spell it out?  

Inked_Nerd:


Well if neither of them are looking to have kids or want to have surgical procedures to prevent them from producing children then they'd better put a cap on it. And sadly, people can be very unfaithful these days so its not a bad idea to keep wearing condoms. I read somewhere on an African website of a woman wanting to ask her husband to wear a condom since she had prior knowledge of his infidelity [even though the husband didn't know she knew]. When she asked him, the husband beat the woman senseless even though he was the one who was tainting the marriage with his affairs. In the end, the woman said that she had no choice but to continue Being Intimate with her husband even though she knew there was a strong chance of her getting an STD or and STI.