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Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Wislet(f): 4:06pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
solomon111:O di mma. Biko, ihe o bula i na-emela, enupukwala Nna gi isi. O nwere ihe o ji gwa gi otu ahu. N'aka nke ozo, emela ngwangwa n'ihe gbasara olulu nwanyi. Were nwanyo, ma lezie anya nke oma ka i gara ibe mmakwara. Luo ezigbo nwanyi nwere agwa oma. Cheta na ibu okpara. Na Ezi na ulo nna gi ga-adi mma echi bukwa ma nwanyi iluru o ga-abu agu ohia ma o bu onye nwere obi oma. Udo diri gi ooo |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Mynd44: 4:23pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
sexkillz:The babe don occupy his heart. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by cynthiafred67(f): 5:53pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
dimbright link=topic=841910.msg9924967#msg9924967. date=1326101527] ^^^ Come on speak English. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by jaybee3(m): 5:59pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
You are an engineer so you are supposed to be able to weight risk appropriately and in turn apply it to make informed decision. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Mynd44: 6:02pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
^^^ I never knew UNILAG was offering degree courses in women engineering |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by coogar: 6:06pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
solomon111: call your father's bluff! i am very certain your daddy did not marry who his parents wanted him to marry in his prime as well. you are independent and yet you cower like a little child because of your father. how old are you? man the f@ck up and marry the woman you feel worthy of you. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by jaybee3(m): 6:10pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
Mynd_44:He has two lingering scenario weighing on his mind so the best thing he can do is weight the risk of whichever action he decides on and offcorse chose the one with the lowest risk. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Mynd44: 6:12pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
I can understand your GF being the deep blue see cos her punny might be deep but that will mean calling your dad a (no be me talk am oooo) |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by pendo89(f): 6:33pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
jay bee: Thats scary considering this is a marriage and he needs to go in with a fully made up mind,not a 20:80 situation. In my view life decisions are a major risk and therefore if we choose to make them we must be ready to bear the full risk not half or quarter. That gives weight/commitment to the decision. Am just wondering which is worse.Going against parents wishes or denying yourself the freedom of choice as a grown up man. Its good for a man to posess the ability to make a critical decision and bear the consequences or else he becomes a slave to the whistle blower. Its also good to obey ones parents but one good book also warns these parents not to provoke their kids to wrath. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by jaybee3(m): 6:47pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
Using your Pareto's analogy pendo, he still has to determine which ratio will provide him with the best return/satisfaction. Would he as a grown up man continue going to his dad to choose his bride for him or would he rather just follow is heart as most well informed people do. Would he continue dating the girl knowing fully well the family has reservations and potentially can provid them problems in the future? If we all believe the general saying that love conquers all then it's a simple decision for him to go with the girl as long as he ain't doing so because of the guilt he had be dealing with if he didn't. IMO, parents should only be there to give blessings not to be a determinant factor when choosing a bride as they won't be their 24/7 throughout the marriage |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by coogar: 6:51pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
jay bee: the op is a child. i am sure he would still seek his father's advice on the best s[i]e[/i]xual position to get his wife pregnant. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by jaybee3(m): 6:53pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
^^^^^^ For real? |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Mynd44: 7:03pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
coogar:Well his dad does have more experience in tha. He might just as which position created him. Except you can prove that his father's blood does not flow in him |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by pendo89(f): 7:03pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
jay bee: lol at best return.Sounds economic. But do you expect anything less than 100% when choosing a partner? Weaknesses aside,we expect the best.100% commitment,love with no room for doubts. If we are seeking a biz contract that would be okay coz it can be reviewed,but this is a supposedly life contract But I like and agree with what u say. Nobody wants disrepect their parents but I just cant understand why some parents seem trapped in old mentality. Here is a smart son of theirs ready to conquer the world.Instead of letting him explore what is good for himself they cave him instead making him feel guilty. I have discovered that a good no academically smart people have trouble making relationship decisions.I think much is expected out of them and they want to obtain Masters and PHDs in relationships as well. Its just not fair. Wish he had a sober uncle to make the parents change their minds cz its true if u let parents choose the bride/groom,chances are they will run ur marriage as well and u cant blame them. How old are u op by the way. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by jaybee3(m): 7:11pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
Life commitment needs even greater scrutiny hence the birth of prenup et al |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by pendo89(f): 7:24pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
yep. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Wislet(f): 8:26pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
@ solomon, make the right decision. Do not listen to any bad advice- from here or anywhere. Use the wisdom God has given you. No one else will live ur future, but you. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by solomon111(m): 9:07pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
@jaybee I am 25 actually.My dad has been over-protective of me right from my boyhood days.I think it is due to the fact that i'm the only male child he has. I have told him countless times that I can make my own decisions,but he would end up telling me that he knows what is best for me. He is a very disciplined man and he expects his children to respect him.That was the way we were brought up. I think I know what to do. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by forkadict(m): 9:12pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
Una dey here dey blog for romance section when naija dey on fire? Una serious so? |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by OK2NV: 9:14pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
ARE YOU NOT A MAN? IF ABRAHAM HAD CONSULTED WITH EVERYONE INCLUDING HIS WIFE SARAH ABOUT GOD'S DEMAND FOR HIM TO SACRIFICE HIS ONLY SON, U THINK SAY SALLAH FOR DEY? MARRY HER. TRIBE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING RELATING TO LOVE. KEYWORD: BE YOUR OWN MAN |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Wislet(f): 9:17pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
^ ^ yea. AND THE SAME ABRAHAM GOT A WIFE FOR HIS SON FROM AMONG HIS OWN KINSMEN. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Wislet(f): 9:25pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
@ OP, I repeat, do not make any rash decision. What if this woman is not meant for you? Hope u have done de test I gave. U know what? Why dont u leave everything about relationship for now. Just have an Alone time. No girls/distractions. Clear ur mind of any worry. Go out more with ur male friends. Dont pick calls from her if that will becloud your clear thinking. with time, you will find out if she is indeed top priority for u/you can do without her. Do not play sentimentality in this. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by OK2NV: 9:29pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
Wislet:get back to the kitchen |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Mynd44: 9:39pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
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Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Wislet(f): 9:41pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
OK2NV:hehehehe, honey ![]() ![]() |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by solomon111(m): 9:59pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
Thanks wislet! I have actually dedicated a week to carry out the test you recommended. I am confident of making a headway in this situation. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Wislet(f): 10:14pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
good. And pls Daddy has a very good reason why he wants u to do it 'inside'. Hopefully u will make de right decision after ur one week. Got some other things u shd know dat'll help u, but I think this is enough for u to make a sound decision(if u're wise). |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Nobody: 10:18pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
Wislet: What decision? it's not that simple o |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by Wislet(f): 10:21pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
Wigato:It is. If he removes every form of sentiment, and does de test with all sincerity. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by tpia5: 10:31pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
in relationship matters: family disapproves of partner ![]() boyfriend is flipflopping and saying its his father whereas he himself is the one not really convinced ![]() i have to agree with wislet's advice when all is said and done. Dont know if the girlfriend will "wo gau" if this relationship continues. just my opinion, not set in stone. |
Re: Torn Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea:what Do I Do? by dayokanu(m): 7:01pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
Wait you are travelling out, Do you plan to take the girl with you or you just want to be abroad husband? If you are not taking her with you just leave her for Boys in lagos and dont commit her , cos Toto subsidy don make the thing scarce small. Ask your dad if his parents chose your mom for him or gave him rules regarding whom to marry and if he followed the rules But you are an engineer? You should solve this easily, Use Runge Kutta method of numerical analysis |
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