freecocoa:

okay dear,I wanted to keep being a bystander but you are making it hard for me,why not leave inky and nj gal to sort out their differences? You stepping in at any slight chance is making it look like you have something against nj gal,I'm more than sure inky can handle herself, if you really wanna address nj gal why not do so directly instead of going through her little disagreement with inky? I don't think inky would want a gang up cos that is what this looks like right now,let them be.

apocalypse:

You ought to know me by now dear I don't take kindly to bullsh*ting , I just see that although she sees inky's point she doesn't want to accept but rather wants to use the excuse of a non existing grudge to justify her point. Let's call a spade a spade , inky wasn't personally attacking her from her initial post and she was the one who steered the the argument towards that. Come to think of it I don't agree with inky on so many issues but in this case I don't see where she has faulted.

I have to stop my ramblings now and take your advice.

Yeah I love 'em lips

Nj girl:

dudes that beat up their gfs should be dumped, there is no excuse for hitting a woman. If u want to show your physical prowess go out and face fellow men.

Beatin?  and?  whats the big deal? 

Mr, Cork:

Beatin?  and?  whats the big deal? 

Nj girl:

corky sweety so u believe theres no big deal in beating women? Be sure to tell that to your sons inlaw and brothers inlaw.
@apocalypse pls dont stop, keep the hating coming, the aim of this thread is to discourage violence against 'women' which is why it is feminist. The more hating u put up, the more the replies, the longer it will stay on d front page, the more the women will read it and then the more women that will dump their abusive bfs and my work here is done.
So dont sit there broda keep hating on me and keep kissing up to inky so togeda we shal eliminate violence against women.

Mr, Cork:

Swerrrry you gots to understand that black women need to ke kept in line sometimes. They talk too much & always talk back. I don’t blame Chris Brown.  White women just NEVER behave like that (noo offfiencese)   

Nj girl:

u re black ryt? So except u adopt white kids your daughters will be black so save that sermon for your sons in law and brothers inlaw. Btw no matter what a woman says it does not make it civilized to beat her.
@ skillz beef is for lunch.

a single slap is accpetable. Punching or flogging a woman with a stick is not acceptable, not here in London though. White women are usually well bahaved

Nj girl:

u re black ryt? So except u adopt white kids your daughters will be black so save that sermon for your sons in law and brothers inlaw. Btw no matter what a woman says it does not make it civilized to beat her.
@ skillz beef is for lunch.

sexkillz:

What's for lunch?

SeSlkillz. Bro your welcome to eat my 17inches if  u want!

@ skillz beef is for lunch.

What kind of beef? Cow meat beef or fight beef? Lemme know which direction to lick my lips towards!

Mr, Cork:

SeSlkillz. Bro your welcome to eat my 17inches if  u want!

Nah! You father is still busy with that!

Mr, Cork:

SeSlkillz. Bro your welcome to eat my 17inches if  u want!

Mynd_44:

Heading for cover before that terrorist Sexkillz starts shooting

Bro SeSkilzz has no issues eatin corkies. just Look at his mouth

Mr, Cork:

Bro SeSkilzz has no issues eatin corkies. just Look at his mouth

Your father has no issues with your 17 inches? Really? Weird!

Beync:

There is no gender discrimination as to what is what is bad. Whether man or woman who bullies his or her partner should prosecuted.

Execute?  what has firing sqad gots to do with relationship? BLACK WOMEN!!!   

Mr, Cork:

Execute? what has firing sqad gots to do with relationship? BLACK WOMEN!!!

sexkillz:

Nah! You father is still busy with that!

Princek12:

I thought that nowadays women say they are equal to men in all capacities. So if a man beats a woman in a relationship, the woman should beat the man back.

exactly. they want equality. they get equality. But dont mess with Mrs Chima. She will beat the livin daylight outter u!

Princek12:

I thought that nowadays women say they are equal to men in all capacities. So if a man beats a woman in a relationship, the woman should beat the man back.

Inked_Nerd:

@Nj girl: Chei, my dear are you well? What is it that is keeping you from comprehending simple information? Are you so desperate to continue trudging with this thread that you insist that there is something I have against you? I hate having to repeat myself so talk notes and please pay EXTRA attention this time because it appears that focusing isn't really your forté. I am not, and I repeat, I am not one of those people who "unleash their real life frustrations on online characters or one of those people who cant make a decent argument without getting all nasty about it". Sorry sweetie but you're not that special for me to actually go out of my way to have an ill feelings about. If I see a topic or discussion that is of interest to me, then I will throw my two cents in. Just because I have chosen to address you specifically doesn't mean I have anything against you or that I am lashing out at you. If you have a problem with the fact that unlike other people here I addressed the flaws within your topic in a more indept manner then that is not my problem. You need to learn and understand that part of being an adult and having an adult conversation is knowing how to discuss topics without always taking a personal offense to it when you don't find the persons response particularly appealing. As for you telling me I could have stated my flaws in a more "ladylike" mannner, that demonstrates the manner which you think since you seem to be under the impression that there is a particular type of way I should speak since I am a woman. The only one downplaying the issue of domestic violence as a whole is you and your tippy toeing ways within your response. Go re-read the intial replies and the reples of others and tell me what is difference is between them. Majority of the people who addressed you in a similar manner as I did are men so please tell me why you didn't sit here and call them out for them replying as a whole? Roland17, sexkillz and 25omega addressed you in a direct yet shorter manner yet I don't see you telling them to "stop acting like men". If I wanted to have a personal "beef" with you, I would have called you out directly and told you straight up. I don't bullshit when it comes to things like that. Had having a beef with you been my my objective, I would have made it very public and you would have known. I'm straight foward when it comes to things like that so don't even use your notion of creating a beef as a means of responding to my comment to you.

You saying that I should do something about genger inequalities if it upsets me just adds onto the fact that you know nothing of what you're saying. The tuth of the matter is, I already work and volunteer for gender based and orientation based organizations that promote help and outreach to both sėxes. Like before, I have stated that on Nairaland in the past. I don't know what it is that you do in your free time but I'm not one of those womanists who complain about things and don't actually do anything about it. I actually do try to make a difference no matter how small it may be. Perhaps if you didn't assume things [again], then you would have known that. If you truly believe or think that you presenting falsified, hypiocritical, and sexist information about domestic violence then I think you may need to rethink using the term 'femnist' and your views on feminism and domestic violence because cleartly you don't know or understand the foundamentals of feminism. Feminism [or womanism if that is a term you'd prefer to go by], is not about getting back at the other side by means of the same treatment. Rather, it is a movement that involves the empowerment, advacement, equality of women in every aspects of life. My objective as a womanist is not to try to bring down "the man", but rather like the feminist movement, it is to work towards anti-domination for the liberation of all humanity, against misogyny, intimate exploitation, violence and aggression, and to raise consciousness and socio-political activism by observing, analysing, debating and challenging dominant and oppressive ideologies pervasive in mainstream society; as well as providing a space to share advice, musings and feelings in a non-therapeutic manner. So unlike the comments [i]you[/i]were making earlier, they don't fit into what it is that you claim to stand for. Like I said before, yes I will agree that there are more male abusers than female but that's not to say that women don't do it either or that its ok for a woman to just take up the notion that equality means throwin' some fits up in the air to make up for past grievences. Me responding to the the thread as a whole has nothing to do with me not liking your thread [or you as a member]. I'm replying to this thread not because I hate, dislike, or have a bone to pick with you and the topic, it is because the topic of femisim, equality, and domestic violence as a whole is something that I am aactually passionate about. Just because you're choosing to bypass the fact that I addressed the fact that I don't dislike your thread doesn't mean it wasn't stated. You can keep claiming that I don't  like your thread but the truth of the matter is that me liking or disliking the thread is irrelivent to the actual content of our conversation. If you or anyone else wants to view me as a "blabing frustrated sister", then you're more than welcome to. I have no control or objection to you thinking that. Ultimately that is up to you.