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His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by babanne(m): 11:35am On Feb 09, 2012 |
He is ready for marriage but wants your opinion because his fiancee is on NYSC and shall finish October.She serves in Imo state in the East while he lives in Ogun. Advice him on what to do.The lady told him she cant cope with separation after marriage.That she want to always be with him after marriage. Please advice this friend. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by mutter(f): 12:10pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
The girl is buying some time to see if she gets a better option. Other option she is still harvesting in other fields. Does this man need to be told!! Is marriage in Nigeria done in a day. Someone getting married in October can start now with the formal introductions, registry wedding, traditional etc. So even if he want to get married now, before every arrangement is made some months might have elapsed |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by Nobody: 12:18pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
mutter:This is a totally unfair statement. How many months is service? Her explanation makes sense, it is hard being married and your spouse lives elsewhere, her reason is simple and good. What in all this makes you come up with the fact that she is buying time to get a better option? Na wa oh. Poster let the man be patient, service is just a year, when she is done she will be more settled, have proper time to plan and settle properly into a married life. 1 Like |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by babanne(m): 12:41pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
@mutter he said he was sure she love him and trusts her she can't date another person.that she is faithful because of her very strong christian background. so there is no question of harvesting in other fields. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by MissyB3(f): 1:11pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
debrief08:You beat me to the punch, albeit you put it in a nice way. These kibitzers on NL ehn! Read and indite the first indiscreet idea that crosses the mind. Tufiakwa! ![]() Topic: From my point of view, her reason is valid enough. If you/he waited this long, you/he can wait till October. . .There's really no need to rush things. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by Nobody: 2:18pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
I think u should wait,it is just a year. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by mutter(f): 2:24pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
she said - anyone can say anything. You asked for advise I have given my own opinion, it may or may not be right - only the devil knows the intent of a man or woman. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by pinkymami(f): 2:37pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
You can wait for her if you trust her,I mean seems like she knows what she wants,it isn't a good idea to be separated after marriage after all. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by mutter(f): 2:44pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
We are talking of a seperation of about half a year and they both live in Nigeria. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by Nobody: 2:55pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
Mutter, please shut up @poster I will do the same If I was in your girls position. Let her finish her Nysc, there isno way she can plan all of these when she is far away from you, a couple should be able to plan their wedding together and not one in the north and the other in the east. You both need to sit down and plan your wedding together and in the same location. She is doing her Nysc rit now and the last thing she needs is distraction, she wants her wedding to be a good one and she needs time to plan it, when she's done with her Nysc she will have the whole time in the world to do it. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by ronkebp(f): 3:08pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
She wants to wait till after her NYSC!!!!! and that is a problem for you ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by maclatunji: 3:27pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
babanne: On the face of it the girl is right. However, knowing the things women do in NYSC especially camp. I would advise your friend to keep his eyes open with the girl. It hurts me that I have to say this but it is what I have witnessed that I am talking about. He should wait whilst hoping and praying real hard that the girl will not break his heart. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by mutter(f): 4:29pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
Ifyalways I will shut up and shut down ![]() Is she the first corper to get married? |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by maclatunji: 4:31pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
mutter: There is no Ifyalways on this thread. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by mutter(f): 9:23pm On Feb 09, 2012 |
Sorry padon Jenny. Did I not just read recently that people get both names confused ![]() Must be my homones getting things mixed up today. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by Wislet(f): 8:53am On Feb 10, 2012 |
jennykadry:I like. @OP, if she's trustworthy, ur friend needs to give her that respect. She must have told him her reasons for wanting it that way. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by Nobody: 8:37pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
The girl has a valid reason for not wanting to get married yet. The real question is, why is the guy in such a hurry? Certainly 1yr is NOT too much to wait for someone you will spend the rest of your life with. Na wah! |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by Nobody: 9:16pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
Although d gal has valid points I still cnt see why she they can't get married during her NYSC. I am sure this is not a sudden discussion between them. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by Exponental(m): 8:49pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
Marriage during NYSC is nt a crime. Two of my colleagues wedded durin service. Betterstill try a redeployment afta marriage. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by chyseth(m): 8:56pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
anyway gals re unpredictable, u cant rule out totally the fact that she is not buying time to explore other options available to her. when it come to relationship and marriage i don't usually trust that a woman is 100% saint. though she might be right as to distance, but she should equally consider that marriage processes takes some time such that she can allow you to at least see her parents after which other things can follow. that gives you the assurance that she is for you. this is because, a :os we talk now,[b] there is no commitmen[/b]t oo and any thing can happen |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by freecocoa(f): 9:05pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
OP what are you whining about?duh! |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by Phrankin(m): 9:23pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
Seriously, I smell fish here. I think the lady wants to keep her options open for a little longer. If i was the man, i'll insist on marriage now and see her reaction. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by Nobody: 9:27pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
Though the lady might have valid points, mutter might not be far from the truth as it swings both ways. Depending on what they have discussed prior to this point we are all just taking wild guesses |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by Nobody: 9:30pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
@ freecocoa Nice picture and pose |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by CarlosVent(m): 9:44pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
Allow her to finish NYSC and then request for the marriage stuff again then see what will come out from her. then you can leave her or cling unto her. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by MeGaStReEt: 10:03pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
E get one bros wey dey burst her speaker and she don't want to let go, not at this moment. Don't worry, she'll be all yours after the speaker don start to dey bring Bass instead of soprano. |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by SilentScream(f): 10:05pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
Your girl's reason is very ok, dat shows dat she loves you-trust me! But,make sure you occupy her torts evryday by keeping in touch. If U̶̲̥̅̊ are scared then put a ring on dat finger ml I bet you she won't take it off! Turn on ur xtra caring mode now cos d competition will be on whether she gives any guy attention or not! |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by najib14(m): 10:13pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
Just carry ur ghana must go and go to imo ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by horny4u(f): 10:16pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
october is just on the floor there---translate to yoruba. if october is too far to bear, find someone else, not sure its enough reason to find someone else but you choose |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by here: 10:32pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
I think in all fairness why we cannot advice here is we do not know much about this relationship,I for one am always of the opinion that each needs much communication and flexibility. The preparation can start now and the date fixed for month of the pop bcz what if she has an uncle who secures her a job in Abuja right after service,will she not also have reasons? I just dnt get why people do not make it in long distance relationship when ladies leave anambra and most eastern states to delta and ph every week for "runs" as well as come from Enugu and Kano to Abuja and still graduate for the undergrads. Lets say with my level of exposure I expect life to be about living and not fighting,if she doesnt want it now,relax though her reason is no reason(a friend was transfered same day of his white to northen Nigeria) and see her through by providing the fund or encourage her develop through personal trainings while on service. If for any reason ur not ok with her reasons,move on but it shows for one,you both are actualy not in a relationship as you cannot workout anything without involving people |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by 76Naira(m): 11:04pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
MeGaStReEt: Naija na wa!!! Kai! |
Re: His Fiancee Insists On Marriage After NYSC - Advice Him by dasparrow: 11:05pm On Feb 11, 2012 |
What is so hard in allowing her finish NYSC? Why are most Nigerians so impatient? or does he want to knock her up first while she serves? ![]() |
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